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Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by krissy213(f): 8:07am On Nov 05, 2015 |
menix: Makes no sense. If you ask me 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by PresVA: 8:13am On Nov 05, 2015 |
adeoti01:Seems you have been very unlucky with relationships? |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by Nobody: 8:17am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Lols, I was talking to friedplantain on Tuesday night_ he was still at work and I was home. I said it's because he isn't married/with kids...on his part, he felt I closed early because I am a family woman. He also said he has been hearing that a lot. So, it's just normal my brother Though I believe that any married person that goes about asking singles when he/she would get married is functioning on an outdated OS. It's usually those ones who feel marriage is everything that do that sh*t. I have loads of single friends, I don't ask them that question _ even when they try to talk about it, it makes me uncomfortable. Though I ask joseph1832 sha... "When will you marry " 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by jantavanta(m): 8:17am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Some companies have lost billions by funding the stigmatisation of their key personnel 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by menix(m): 8:18am On Nov 05, 2015 |
krissy213: I won't ask u cous I don't forking care if u exist neither do I owe any wowo gal an explanation Well if u wanted me to notice you, I have... |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by maryhaam(f): 8:19am On Nov 05, 2015 |
lestat:Lool at the first paragraph . 2 Likes |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by mubarak001(m): 8:19am On Nov 05, 2015 |
I am just enjoying all whole lot of common and uncommon sense...truth be say, marriage can be scary bt thx God for ppl celebrating 50yrs of marriage(sounds encouraging) 2 Likes |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by yomi007k(m): 8:22am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by maryhaam(f): 8:23am On Nov 05, 2015 |
yomi007k:I dey alrite oooo,how my rivals them |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by lastpage: 8:25am On Nov 05, 2015 |
StarboyMichael: Get a Husband and stop ranting here! Yes, married women deserve a lot of respect and will always be accorded that due respect than on you over-aged "Agadi Nwanyi" that is playing around, jumping from one bed to another, all in the name of civilisation! If you like, go to court and say you are not respected like a married woman. Infact, you are considered not yet responsible, since you are yet to get married. Who are you "responsible towards"? Your wife? Your husband? Your children? Oh, l forgot, you many boyfriends/Girlfriends, right? Who will even put you in sensitive position when they know that you can "bail-out" at anytime since you have no "family responsibilities"? Like l said, if e dey pain you, charge me to court. Married and Proud of it. Just see my "ring finger"! Lastpage! |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by yomi007k(m): 8:26am On Nov 05, 2015 |
maryhaam: I don't knw anything abt ur rivals... U shud tel me abt dem,since u knw dem. |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by shona2487(f): 8:27am On Nov 05, 2015 |
I think it's time Happily married people began to step forward and share the secret. I dnt nid any1 to tell me that ppl in that category are few. A lot of us r idealists but I think this issue nids a realistic approach. Marriage shld be well prepared for, if sum1 thinks having lots of money is how he/she can prepare, who am I to argue? Jeez! I've got my life and u've got urs nau. Marriage is a double edged sword if dnt handle it well it wld slash u to bits instead of protecting u. We r all here to bare our minds, be honest with ourselves and with eachother. Happily married ppl r very few, wen ppl r pressurized into gettn married,hw is d marriage supposed to work? Ppl nid to start talkn more about hw the society can help improve and sustain marriages. As much as we like to force marriage down ppl's throats in naija, we never lift a finger to help out wen it goes sour. Prayer is needed nd we hav to remember dt God didn't put a deadline on marriage. Look @ d sentence "he who finds a wife,finds a good thing nd obtains favour frm d lord" God himself knws u will find ladiesssss b4 u finally find ONE to be called WIFE. Samme goes for ladies, we find men before we find a HUSBAND, God can hlp us but he wnts us to use our discretion along with his back up, nd dts y he didn't say "he who God finds a wife for,finds a good thing"... let's nt forget dt Adam didn't find his own wife, nw we r here in d world of Eve's error. If we love God we shld use his words to slash into eachother but to guide eachother. PS if any1 pester me abt gettn married quick, i'll first slam u with a punch b4 writing u an epistle o. 3 Likes |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by Lilimax(f): 8:29am On Nov 05, 2015 |
eightsin:Because we ladies cannot impose ourselves on a man for marriage. We may not have control over our being single ... It is a man that will ask our hands in marriage and not the other way round 2 Likes |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by Nobody: 8:31am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Marriage wahala |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by eightsin(m): 8:31am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Lilimax: True but given the right attitude. I've seen some ladies talk their men into marriage though. |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by lilmax(m): 8:31am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Lilimax:na there nai winch take catch una,thats why I don't take the initial gra gra seriously |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by Nobody: 8:32am On Nov 05, 2015 |
peppyluv02: this is the most facile hackneyed statement I keep hearing. Which fact? Where did you conduct the survey? If 80% of married people you know are unhappy, then change your circle because something is really wrong somewhere. Marriage is sweet, as at when due to the right person. I don't believe in pressurised marriage, neither do I believe in your statistics. Why won't 80% of marriage be unhappy to you, when you go about looking at unhappy couples, to make yourself feel better and buttress your statistics. If a married person says "singles (especially ladies) are unhappy" some of you would almost have cardiac arrest on top the matter. Argue constructively, albeit with facts. Don't fling preposterous statistics here and there... 6 Likes |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by Xmen149(m): 8:33am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Lol..and someone just said same to me at office this morning,only for me to see this on Nl..people get time i swear..lol.. 1 Like |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by Lilimax(f): 8:34am On Nov 05, 2015 |
eightsin:Really? But body language does not usually do the magic if you understand what I mean |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by maryhaam(f): 8:34am On Nov 05, 2015 |
yomi007k:you r grounded,till further notice. |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by tivta(m): 8:35am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Lol. It is understandable why men are not in a hurry to get married (finances) women on the other hand... Perhaps females can explain, for all those feminist claiming professional working class, just be prepared to marry your job,no man will marry a woman who puts work before family. 3 Likes |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by yomi007k(m): 8:36am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by omoarole: 8:39am On Nov 05, 2015 |
trishapal:ite funny Quite surprising that someone in their right minds in this present day and age will write something as stupid as this. And you're so blind and daft to reason that people can decide how to live their lives. You are the kind of disease that affects the society in the name of saving face, that allows women to be in a loveless marriage that is killing them. You are the cankerworm eating deep into the lives of many people, making them live a life that is untrue to their inner feelings. Ok. So, it is the determination of your own interpretation of "God" that will decide who gets to marry and who does not? How opinionated and long winded your argument is! I cannot but weep for the kind of "children" that you propose to bring into the world, if at this stage of your life, you are as redundant, archaic, parochial and totally patronizing as you portray in this post. And what my achievements to you may be petty, that is your own cup of tea. That is what people who are jealous of my achievements say, because they cannot achieve what I have achieved now in their lifetime. You are actually the one unhappy, praising your status in public but weeping quietly in your closet. All because of your views about how people tend to want to live their lives. Really, you are entitled to your views. I am entitled to mine also. You have no right to ask that your "slave-to-the-society" mentality be "beaten" into me. And to that pastor who said that the married women in his church should not befriend the single women, he is worse than an accursed person, because he is misleading the children of God in his care. You know what Jesus said, He said it is better for a millstone to be tied around his neck and thrown into the river, than for him to mislead the flock of Christ. Some people will get married. Some people will be single. Some people will remain single and childless all their lives BY CHOICE. Some people will die childless BY CHOICE. It is none of your business how others want to run their lives. It is not your life. And the earlier you understand that, the better your interpersonal relationship with single people will be. 3 Likes |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by Nobody: 8:39am On Nov 05, 2015 |
married-single feud. 1 Like |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by Femsyn(m): 8:41am On Nov 05, 2015 |
[author=akeensbussy post=39695794]The Issue of Singles and unmarried is not particular to our society alone. Even abroad, there are benefits that are accrue to you if you are married which singles/unmarried can not benefit from. The reasons people believe you must marry when u are working or when u are of that age. 1. When you are married, the way you take decision before will change. This has absolutey nothing to do with marriage. Yes, your itinerary might change, but most times, what you couldn't change as a single might be difficult to change when married. 2. Responsibility has come.What responsibility? Tell that to a first born who still finances his younger ones and parents. Yes! he's single, but your responsibility as a married person isnt even close. 3. Waste of Resources will stop.This is a personality issue. Marriage wont change it! arrrgh!!! 4. your excesses will be control by someone.OMG! Check 3 5. Your Thinking will change.What foolish thinking? its still down to personality. I have a friend who got married jobless, at first it took me as a surprise, but i kept quiet, because i'm not one of those Nigerian busy-bodies, who dont mind their business; so i wished him well. He currently lives in his in-law's house, the wife fends for the family (they now have a child), she also finances his education, PGD (graduated with a 3rd class). Recently (2years after), he said something to a friend, which made me realise why he got married when he did. He said, "hey bro, when are you getting married, don't you know there's time for marriage?" Then i asked him, "oh! you mean, there's a particular time a man MUST get married?". He said YES! One question, has this friend of mine's thinking gotten better or worse? 6. You will be taking serious because you are now serious. etcWatery point. I may not be able to explain further but I believed those that are married will understand my points. P.S.: WHILE YOU THINK ONLY MARRIED PEEPS WILL UNDERSTAND YOUR "VERY DIFFICULT" POINTS, I'M A MARRIED PERSON WHO BELIEVES IN, "LIVE AND LET LIVE" 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by abidex0z(m): 8:43am On Nov 05, 2015 |
oh I see..tis a free world mocking birds will surely snoop.. |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by tivta(m): 8:47am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Kachisbarbie: Hello Mrs, can I ask a question? What are the benefits of marriage to a man? Especially when he is the only one paying all the bills? Cause I know from my folks that financial responsibility in marriage should be shared according to capacity, what pisses me of is how women of today leave all financial responsibility for the man. Eg, buying boxers for birthday but expecting a car? Please speak to your single friends not to make such mistakes 1 Like |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by jantavanta(m): 8:49am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Henrypraise: Pen Robbery by officialised stealing of your entitlements. Take them to Industrial Court one day. |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by Nobody: 8:50am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Not every lady you counter here is desperate or single. Ok. You don't know my circle so don't tell me about changing it and keep your opinion to yourself. Kachisbarbie: 1 Like |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by omoarole: 8:54am On Nov 05, 2015 |
lastpage: You're married, is your prerogative, not mine. I am single is my prerogative, not yours. And please, don't insult me by saying I am jumping from one bed to another. You could have been doing that when you were single. You could still be doing the same as a "married" person. That does not mean every single person must be lawless and loose like you. And even if they are, how does that concern you? You are married and proud of it, good for you!!! Congratulations!! The crux of the post is that you don't have to be in my face about being single. Live your life, and let me live mine. I did not come to you for advice about how to live my life. I often wonder why people do not get that into their understanding. You cannot judge other people by the way you live your life, or how you "expect" life to be lived. It just doesn't work that way!!!! 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by emzila(m): 8:57am On Nov 05, 2015 |
ALL I KNOW IS THAT ABOUT 80% OF SONGLE, MATURED AND WORKING INDIVIDUALS ARE REALLY NOT OK BEING SINGLE, SO YOU CAN GO ON AND CONSOLE YOURSELF WHILE DECEIVING THE LADIES. |
Re: The Stigmatisation Of Unmarried/single Working Adult Nigerians by repogirl(f): 8:59am On Nov 05, 2015 |
Seriously, its quite annoying how some people take this marriage thing sef. What's the point of geting married if it becomes difficult to stay married. As if marriage is the highest achievement a person can attain. Rubbish! 5 Likes |
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