Thinking about this topic, I’ve been wondering
who the focus of this post should be – girls or
guys or both. In almost every tertiary institution
in Nigeria, you find ‘undergraduate couples’ living
as husbands and wives. You find a lot of these
misguided people in virtually all schools. It’s so
bad that, often times, they are duly recognized
and acknowledged as couples by lodge
neighbours, classmates and even leaders of
various students associations. Little wonder
there is such an award as “The best couple of
the year award” shamelessly and thoughtlessly
received by students.
.
Like I said earlier, I really don’t know the
particular gender to address but let me just keep
typing. The rate at which girls live with their
boyfriends in their various off campus hostels is
painfully alarming. Most times, these young girls
are very beautiful, with bright and promising
future. They cohabit with boys who are their
fellow students as roommates. The lugubrious
part of it is that the silly girl would always
introduce the small boy as her fiancé.
.
Our society is really sick courtesy of those that
live in it. These girls collect either hostel fees or
house rents from unsuspecting (and sometimes,
struggling) parents and end up in the house of a
boy. You struggled possibly for several years to
gain admission. Then you suddenly became a
prayer warrior posting and shouting ‘Amen’ at
the slighted provocation. You fasted. You had
one prayer point filled with promises of your
loyalty and devotion to God if only He would
answer your prayer. Now that He has fulfilled His
part by answering and granting you admission,
don’t you think He is expecting you to fulfill your
own part, to keep whatever promises you made
to Him??
Many of you just got admission and once you
settle down (especially from your second year),
crazy thoughts will begin to creep into your
minds. Yes by then, the heat of the rush would
have been over; If God didn’t capture you
(possibly through the various campus
fellowships), boys would have caught you. Soon,
they would persuade you to move in with them.
Of course, they’d give you one thousand reasons
to make you give in to their proddings.
.
Before you agree to move in and live with a boy
on campus, consider the reason why you are in
school in the first place. What image would you
be creating about yourself? Can this boy marry
you in case you get pregnant for him as is
always the case, or will you resort to series of
abortions like many other girls before you? What
advice will you give your children in future
concerning this kind of things? After school,
what next? Will the relationship really lead you
anywhere?
.
This post is finally addressing the female folks. I
didn’t plan it that way. Maybe it’s because they
are the worst hit by the grave consequences of
illicit sexual relationships. They are the ones that
turn out to be the sore losers in the end. They
call it school life but they don’t realize how
idiotic they have been till it’s too late. You are
not in school to get married. Part of the reasons
why you are in school IS NOT to get the
husband-and-wife experience, to see what it
feels like for the boy to provide the money for
food and for the girl to go to the market for food
stuffs and cook. That’s pure misplacement of
purpose! One guy told me that he was practically
learning how to be a caring and romantic
husband. Such shamelessness! Then you hear
the girl say, “We are not doing anything, we are
just roommates”. Yet she commits countless
abortions before graduation.
.
Yes, your admission has given you unlimited
freedom. Yes, your parents are not there to tell
you what to do or what not to do. There is even
no blood relation around, so there's no fear of
someone reporting you. But what about giving
your womanhood respect and protecting your
dignity? What about living in such a way as to
have a positive story to tell the next generation
(including your children) without your conscience
pricking you? What about guarding and keeping
you virginity till you are married?
.
"Remember now your Creator in the days of your
youth. Fear God and keep His commandments.
For God will bring every work into judgment,
Including every secret thing, Whether good or
evil." - Ecclesiastes 12:1,13,14

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ogunwalea:
Thinking about this topic, I’ve been wondering
who the focus of this post should be – girls or
guys or both. In almost every tertiary institution
in Nigeria, you find ‘undergraduate couples’ living
as husbands and wives. You find a lot of these
misguided people in virtually all schools. It’s so
bad that, often times, they are duly recognized
and acknowledged as couples by lodge
neighbours, classmates and even leaders of
various students associations. Little wonder
there is such an award as “The best couple of
the year award” shamelessly and thoughtlessly
received by students.
.
Like I said earlier, I really don’t know the
particular gender to address but let me just keep
typing. The rate at which girls live with their
boyfriends in their various off campus hostels is
painfully alarming. Most times, these young girls
are very beautiful, with bright and promising
future. They cohabit with boys who are their
fellow students as roommates. The lugubrious
part of it is that the silly girl would always
introduce the small boy as her fiancé.
.
Our society is really sick courtesy of those that
live in it. These girls collect either hostel fees or
house rents from unsuspecting (and sometimes,
struggling) parents and end up in the house of a
boy. You struggled possibly for several years to
gain admission. Then you suddenly became a
prayer warrior posting and shouting ‘Amen’ at
the slighted provocation. You fasted. You had
one prayer point filled with promises of your
loyalty and devotion to God if only He would
answer your prayer. Now that He has fulfilled His
part by answering and granting you admission,
don’t you think He is expecting you to fulfill your
own part, to keep whatever promises you made
to Him??
Many of you just got admission and once you
settle down (especially from your second year),
crazy thoughts will begin to creep into your
minds. Yes by then, the heat of the rush would
have been over; If God didn’t capture you
(possibly through the various campus
fellowships), boys would have caught you. Soon,
they would persuade you to move in with them.
Of course, they’d give you one thousand reasons
to make you give in to their proddings.
.
Before you agree to move in and live with a boy
on campus, consider the reason why you are in
school in the first place. What image would you
be creating about yourself? Can this boy marry
you in case you get pregnant for him as is
always the case, or will you resort to series of
abortions like many other girls before you? What
advice will you give your children in future
concerning this kind of things? After school,
what next? Will the relationship really lead you
anywhere?
.
This post is finally addressing the female folks. I
didn’t plan it that way. Maybe it’s because they
are the worst hit by the grave consequences of
illicit sexual relationships. They are the ones that
turn out to be the sore losers in the end. They
call it school life but they don’t realize how
idiotic they have been till it’s too late. You are
not in school to get married. Part of the reasons
why you are in school IS NOT to get the
husband-and-wife experience, to see what it
feels like for the boy to provide the money for
food and for the girl to go to the market for food
stuffs and cook. That’s pure misplacement of
purpose! One guy told me that he was practically
learning how to be a caring and romantic
husband. Such shamelessness! Then you hear
the girl say, “We are not doing anything, we are
just roommates”. Yet she commits countless
abortions before graduation.
.
Yes, your admission has given you unlimited
freedom. Yes, your parents are not there to tell
you what to do or what not to do. There is even
no blood relation around, so there's no fear of
someone reporting you. But what about giving
your womanhood respect and protecting your
dignity? What about living in such a way as to
have a positive story to tell the next generation
(including your children) without your conscience
pricking you? What about guarding and keeping
you virginity till you are married?
.
"Remember now your Creator in the days of your
youth. Fear God and keep His commandments.
For God will bring every work into judgment,
Including every secret thing, Whether good or
evil." - Ecclesiastes 12:1,13,14

Insightful piece to those who got working ears.