Orimili:


Am I really that much of a loser that I don't deserve to know how and where to improve myself? It's like marginally failing every course you take, and the instructor tells you only that you're not smart enough to pass.

Pidggin:


I tried to help you, but if I don't have an idea of what you say during your dates there's not much I can do.

Orimili:


I mean, its not as if I voice record my dates and phone conversations.

My text messages are all "good morning, how are you, I hope you're doing well." And she would reply likewise, of course, until she stops responding.

Orimili:


That's what makes this so frustrating. I don't say anything to make anyone feel uncomfortable. I'm always a gentleman, and very sincere. If I knew what was wrong, I wouldn't be so upset. It upsets me to even talk about this.

Orimili:


How could I have had one if I can never get past the first of second date?

Pidggin:


Doesn't sound interesting

Orimili:


If I am, I wish someone would tell me than to just disappear, every single time.

It has gotten to the point where I have started to develop an anxiety around meeting new peoole actively avoid it.

Orimili:


I mean, its not as if I voice record my dates and phone conversations.

My text messages are all "good morning, how are you, I hope you're doing well." And she would reply likewise, of course, until she stops responding.

Orimili:


I don't know what would make me interesting

Pidggin:


Study people, find out the thing that interest them, talk about those things, tell them about your interests too, ladies like guys with good sense of humor so loosen up.

Orimili:


I mean, its not as if I voice record my dates and phone conversations.

My text messages are all "good morning, how are you, I hope you're doing well." And she would reply likewise, of course, until she stops responding.

Orimili:
I seem to have this common problem with dating:

After a few weeks of talking, and/or one or two dates, communication ceases without warning. I would send a text message every few days wishing her well. If I call, the phone will just ring to voicemail. If I send any text messages, it will not be returned.

If this had just happened once, I'd quickly get over it. If the girl would simply tell me that she doesn't want to continue, I'd be okay with it. This cessation of communication has been from every single girl that I have talked to, and it has always occured in this fashion.

I don't know what is wrong with me, or what I'm doing wrong. It has gotten to the point where I fear that God doesn't want me to marry, or have a family someday.

Can anyone advise me on what to do?

Orimili:


And how do I "spice up my life" in a fashion that a woman would think I'm not boring?

Orimili:


These are all things I do on a regular basis. She will stop responding eventually, no matter how much she appears to like me. Honestly, I'm not all that interested in dating anymore.

ogawisdom:


Ur problem is simple u act desperate n dt scares them away

Pidggin:


My apologies, did you notice I stopped responding after a while? You whine a lot dearie, I got bored, I guess this is the problem. You need to make yourself interesting. Hope I was able to help, take care.

petiteee:
Bad breath? Body odour? Is it like dat with female frinds? Do u ve any How do u laugh?

Orimili:


Absolutely not. I get a lot of complements about my physical appearance and hygiene.

Orimili:


I don't act desperate at all

Orimili:


Absolutely not. I get a lot of complements about my physical appearance and hygiene.

lastchild:
do you believe in anything like a spiritual problem?

Orimili:
I seem to have this common problem with dating:

After a few weeks of talking, and/or one or two dates, communication ceases without warning. I would send a text message every few days wishing her well. If I call, the phone will just ring to voicemail. If I send any text messages, it will not be returned.

If this had just happened once, I'd quickly get over it. If the girl would simply tell me that she doesn't want to continue, I'd be okay with it. This cessation of communication has been from every single girl that I have talked to, and it has always occured in this fashion.

I don't know what is wrong with me, or what I'm doing wrong. It has gotten to the point where I fear that God doesn't want me to marry, or have a family someday.

Can anyone advise me on what to do?

Orimili:


Yes, but I have absolutely no idea why it would be...

babyme1:
Spirit wife alert . Lastchild your attention is needed here

Orimili:


But you still replied, and your actions prove nothing but to antagonize even further. Sadly, I've been busy and didn't notice your futile stunts. Unfortunately, it doesn't help at all to throw blanket statements like "make yourself more interesting." Thanks anyway.

Ama80:
pitifully hilarious

iebanehita:


@OP, I believe by now you know humans don't reason alike. What your family and friends didn't see in the conversation that transpired between you and your dates can be pinpointed by someone else, of which Pidggin offered to help but you turned it down. You are guilty of hasty generalisation.
From some of your reply, they are actually borne out of frustration.

At this point, you have to unlearn all what you know about dating /relationship and relearn. I suggest you try out some advices given here, but this time, be creative about it.

ogawisdom:


Go out and make more female friends at least 7 female frnds n talk to each once a week. After sometime like 3months down d line u can consider dating one of them.

Act like u have a girlfriend arnd them and only need them for casual friendship.

U give them too much attention and care n dts a turn off for ladies, a consequence of focusing on only one at a time.
If u ve 7 or more u wont notice even if three walks away jst make more female frnds n stop being a looser.
Am sure even bill gate will get turned down by some ladies so b a man n stop crying over nothing, u can't have every girl u want nobody does but u should at least have three out of ten, anything more than three in ten u r a ladies magnet lol. Again sharpen ur yarns if u kw wat I mean, learn scoping skills

Try 7 or more at a time n thank me later.

By d way I hope u ve put ur life together b4 looking for ladies and not some broke ass n never do well kinda dude.

If this fails then those old men in ur village are at work with their African magic, go n see TB Joshua ASAP