Sincerely speaking, I am between the devil and the dead blue sea in this case. I am an undergraduate of 24yrs,and my girlfrnd is also an undergraduate of 20yrs in d same institution and department. We've been dating for close to 9 months now,my girlfrnd displays some attitude that sometimes keeps me wondering if she can actually make a good wife. Though she's d first girl I dat I hv actually had as a girlfrnd and I luv her wit the whole of my heart. She avoids cooking for me each time she comes around and hence chats wit my frnds each time I do d cooking,she is very stingy and doesn't spend on me,she gets angry easily and so so egocentric. She has been pushing for a serious relationship, despite that I luv her atimes her character puzzles me. Matured mind in the house pls can I hv your views about her, and pls no insults and also "no face your studies thing".

Hi,. OP. This your own na early morning question o. Kukuruku never crow finish self. Oya wait make i go brush my teeth before i respond to ur Q.
Modified: Just dawned on me that there is nothing special about being FTC. Some folks hv been overhyping it sha. To those yet to make it to FTC, don't loose any sleep over it. It will come when you least expect it.
Now back to your dilemma OP.
First i must commend you for your rational reasoning. From your explanation i could deduce that its your 1st relationship. It takes a matured & focused mind to think the way you do-meaning you are really considering taking the relationship to the next level by 'wifey-ing' her. Most youths wouldn't think that way.
First and foremost, remember that when there is Love, there is a Will. Regarding her cooking, its either she doesn't feel she needs to cook for you, [she is being lazy about it] or she unfortunately don't know how to cook. In the case of the later, If you truly love her and your love is mutual, she will be willing to learn, but this will require a lot of patience and understanding on ur part.
Other traits may not be so easy to change albeit not impossible. Regarding her having anger issues, dats a serious one. Anger is a dangerous trait in anyone. A moment of uncontrolled anger can destroy a decades worth of work.
About her spending on you, i would say maybe 9 months is too short a time to expect her to do such. Remember that she may also be assessing you just like you care also assessing her. No lady wants a stingy man fr a hubby. Most Ladies tend to look before they leap in such issues. Moreover you are THE MAN. You are born to provide for them ladies. Her money is hers to dispose of as she deems fit. Don't expect this to change even after getting married,and count your self luckyand appreciate her, if your woman spends on you [though she should also do this occasionally].
About her being egocentric can't say much about it since i don't know her personally and i am not going to take your word for it. ☺
In summary ur dilemma all boils down to my earlier submission- When there is Love, there is Will. If she truly loves you, then all the above issues wouldn't even arise cos love is selfless.
N. B. Make una no mind this my long story jare. I just wan take style enjoy this my FTC status. ***winks***

Is she d only girl in d world? Dump her silly ass mehn!

Concentrate on being a boyfriend.

As soon as you become a husband material, you will get enough wife materials to choose from.

Enjoy your relationship and stop the worries.

Cheers.

your own husband material never reach to sew bow tie you dey find wife material of double wrapper (up & down)

face your book or go read rexkexmilan's signature.

Is she ur chef?.. Why would she be cooking for u.. Abi no be school she come?

Lol...too much complain..what do u expect from 20yr old college girl? And abt stinginess....that's her money,not urs & ur juz dating so she is not obliged to spend for u
OP ur such an ass & u expect ur gf to do everything for u..smh

Does she demand money or other things from you?

any guy that expect a girl to be spending on him is an a$$hole & vise versa

its not her right to cook for u, she can if she choose to

Sommyangel:
Is she ur chef?.. Why would she be cooking for u.. Abi no be school she come?

If na school she come, then wetin she de find for man house? Why she no go read her books?

To the OP, maybe she not just thinking about the widy thing yet. She's just a student and its too early to move along that line.

She's not making you happy and I don't think its healthy to be with someone that doesn't make you happy.
I think you should talk to her concerning her attitude and if you see she doesn't want to change pls get someone new or just remain single till you done with school so u can focus more On ur studies.

@arki,
- the poster above me is also speaking sense.
-you have a good heart and wish to find a wife material partner

-her seriousness about the relationship is not real, it might be only séx on her mind, has she asked you to come meet her parent?

-don't ever think that if you loose her you can't find someone better than her, it's demonic thoughts .

- just finish your studies and get a good job, then u'll get what you want, good things happen to those who wait.

read these links i searched out for you, they are my all time best write up on relationships...

https://www.nairaland.com/1136070/why-should-not-marry-girl

https://www.nairaland.com/1182427/thread-single-ladies/43#14536377

Sommyangel:
Is she ur chef?.. Why would she be cooking for u.. Abi no be school she come?

You're right na school she come, but are u trying to tell me is bad for a girl to cook atleast sometimes for her boyfrnd?

AdeniyiA:
@arki,
- the poster above me is also speaking sense.
-you have a good heart and wish to find a wife material partner

-her seriousness about the relationship is not real, it might be only séx on her mind, has she asked you to come meet her parent?

-don't ever think that if you loose her you can't find someone better than her, it's demonic thoughts .

- just finish your studies and get a good job, then u'll get what you want, good things happen to those who wait.

read these links i searched out for you, they are my all time best write up on relationships...

https://www.nairaland.com/1136070/why-should-not-marry-girl

https://www.nairaland.com/1182427/thread-single-ladies/43#14536377

I must commend on your advice. On meeting her parents issue, her parents live in PH while she schools in Owerri. Tnks alot

eph12:
Does she demand money or other things from you?

She's not a demanding kind of person,but sometimes she does. I dnt always wait until she demands before I do the needful for her. Tnx

Op, face your studies

Sommyangel:
Is she ur chef?.. Why would she be cooking for u.. Abi no be school she come?

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buh she can demand Money from her bf huh, He's her Dad I guess?

KashyBaby:
Lol...too much complain..what do u expect from 20yr old college girl? And abt stinginess....that's her money,not urs & ur juz dating so she is not obliged to spend for u
OP ur such an ass & u expect ur gf to do everything for u..smh

African Mentality
We are very Possessive
It is our DNA

Seek ye first ur graduation with good grades and a good job and all other things shall be added unto you..

I taya.....the statement dah me realise this op isn't ok is "she is stingy,she doesn't spend on me"

U are the stingy one here my dear....the fact she is ur gf doesn't mean she is ur slave or cook,if she wants to cook for yu its her choice.





No guy,I repeat... No guy should quote me.

arki:

She's not a demanding kind of person,but sometimes she does. I dnt always wait until she demands before I do the needful for her. Tnx

you know tell me say you be father Christmas.

A stingy person can't get a kobo from me be it m/f.
I think you still have a long way to go instead of thinking about future wife/ wife material which you can never graduate from if you study the course.

You can't know someone behavior until you start living with the person but I will advice you not be with someone that's not giving u happiness

Harbosede02:
I taya.....the statement dah me realise this op isn't ok is "she is stingy,she doesn't spend on me"
U are the stingy one here my dear....the fact she is ur gf doesn't mean she is ur slave or cook,if she wants to cook for yu its her choice.
No guy,I repeat... No guy should quote me.

you can't trow a challenge statement and expect no guy to quote u

If the guy is spending on him, what stops the lady from giving the guy a helping hand too? Or think say to give girl #100 for university level easy ni?

agarawu23:
you can't trow a challenge statement and expect no guy to quote u

If the guy is spending on him, what stops the lady from giving the guy a helping hand too? Or think say to give girl #100 for university level easy ni?

I dont think the guy mentioned anything like he spends on her na.

Harbosede02:
I dont think the guy mentioned anything like he spends on her na.

arki:

She's not a demanding kind of person,but sometimes she does. I dnt always wait until she demands before I do the needful for her. Tnx

2dice:
African Mentality
We are very Possessive
It is our DNA

Yes no wonder..even Nigerians in Malaysia they do d same thing but still so many Chinese Malay fall for em..seems like when u go black, u don't go back.. LOL!

KashyBaby:



Yes no wonder..even Nigerians in Malaysia they do d same thing but still so many Chinese Malay fall for em..seems like when u go black, u don't go back.. LOL!

U just gat to love us
Yea that is Part of our DNA too
I am even thinkin/Believe father Abraham is Black

arki:
Sincerely speaking, I am between the devil and the dead blue sea in this case. I am an undergraduate of 24yrs,and my girlfrnd is also an undergraduate of 20yrs in d same institution and department. We've been dating for close to 9 months now,my girlfrnd displays some attitude that sometimes keeps me wondering if she can actually make a good wife. Though she's d first girl I dat I hv actually had as a girlfrnd and I luv her wit the whole of my heart. She avoids cooking for me each time she comes around and hence chats wit my frnds each time I do d cooking,she is very stingy and doesn't spend on me,she gets angry easily and so so egocentric. She has been pushing for a serious relationship, despite that I luv her atimes her character puzzles me. Matured mind in the house pls can I hv your views about her, and pls no insults and also "no face your studies thing".

20 Haba she is Still childish she will grow up just talk to her about it thou

2dice:
U just gat to love us
Yea that is Part of our DNA too
I am even thinkin/Believe father Abraham is Black

Hahahhaaahaa...yeaaah it cud be..but the only diff or Abraham from d rest of the blacks is the DNA test..Lol...

@OP..
Every girl/lady/woman is wife material......but depending on the stage/level of their life they are. Whether good or bad ladies, they all get married......it now depends on what you want in a lady, your taste and your ability to get along.
Remember that a 20years old lady could be affected by age. Age is just a number and maturity is a thing of the mind. If you feel she's not a wife material,go out there and get a better material with additional 'yards'.
Also, since you guys have been dating,have you ever sat her down and talk about her attitudes and behaviours? Who knows! She might later be a changed lady,lovely Queen and the goddess you've been waiting for. See her as your younger sister(but at the same time your love) that you can talk to or advice.
After doing all these, you can now make your decision whether to keep her or you let her go.
Cheers bro!

KashyBaby:



Hahahhaaahaa...yeaaah it cud be..but the only diff or Abraham from d rest of the blacks is the DNA test..Lol...

huh.. DNA ?? He his our father indirectly
Blood is thicker than Champagne
So what are u saying