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Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Duru009(m): 2:07am On May 19, 2015 |
From my observation: lack of understanding between the two parties. Poor communication ego problem, u might ignore this but this is the greatest problem facing most marriages today....... 3 Likes |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Tallesty1(m): 8:16pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
donbenedict:You never still find wife? Lalasticlala someone needs a wife asaply |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Pidggin(f): 8:46pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Chauvinism is another marriage breaker. 7 Likes |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Nobody: 8:46pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Nothing more than FEMINISIM.......couples are meant to complement each other not seen as equals. |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Nobody: 8:48pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Tallesty1:number 2 is the basic REASON!! That's why you will see them (especially WOMEN) CHEATING from one place to another. Why won't marriage look like paper nowadays! Marry today, tomorrow you find out that, that son is not yours, next tomorrow you divorce. Infact! Marriage is nothing nowadays When you can go and have sex outside or anywhere! So what is the value of marriage Don't get me wrong! I'm not a fan of sex before marriage |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Bigcake: 8:49pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Op you never said anything about disrespect and usage of foul languages: those are the basic hidden points that kills love and break marriages faster especially in African setting: 1 Like |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Pidggin(f): 8:53pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Ceeesaw: Nothing like double standard. |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by hensben(m): 8:54pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Ceeesaw:You just Stated the reason he included feminism. |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Nobody: 8:56pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
The quality of yielding is what many marriages lack reason why it implodes.. Imagine a situation where both parties in a marriage are not willing to disagree to agree..no one is willing to say sorry or let go of pride...the cliché "I am the way I am" has actually killed a lot of marriages...what would make an individual think he / she can't make changes to foster peace and solidarity in a marriage if not pride and foolishness.. |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by repogirl(f): 8:57pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Ceeesaw:spot on....just as if you took it from my mouth. Weldone. |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Friday18: 8:59pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Is not about list or anything, every marriage has there manual to follow. What is applied to A may not be the same as B. Either list or no least it's all about individual involved in it. |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Friday18: 9:00pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Is not about list or anything, every marriage has there manual to follow. What is applied to A may not be the same as B. Either list or no least,it's all about individual involved in it. |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by repogirl(f): 9:01pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Tallesty1 abeg cancel that number two because it is baseless. Alot of people are not fortunate enough to marry their first lovers but doesn't mean their marriages have problems because they had other partners before marriage. Also, that one marries one's first love is not a guarantee that they will be in love and attached for the rest of their lives to that one person. Also where is the link to the research you are talking about, lemme read it for myself. 2 Likes |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by repogirl(f): 9:03pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Friday18:thankyou! You get too much sense. Tallesty1, take note! |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Nobody: 9:03pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
***yawns*** |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by JudgementHammer: 9:04pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Ceeesaw:Feminism isn't even the right word. You just described 'societal gender equality' which is advantageous in moderation Feminism or chauvinism is pure selfishness that makes one not want to meet the need of one's spouse which is the exact reason for marrying in the 1st place 2 Likes |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Nobody: 9:05pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Tallesty1:you are indeed a man of wisdom! 2 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Tallesty1(m): 9:06pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
repogirl:My note is full |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by ademipeju(f): 9:07pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
ademipeju: |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Tallesty1(m): 9:11pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
repogirl:Listen. I won't take down No2. Maggi alone does not make a soup sweet but it contributes to the good taste the food will have when it's ready. Same thing with salt and pepper but remove the three at once and you have a pot of crap instead soup. People who had their first sex on their wedding night have greater chance of enjoying successful marriage compared to other bleepers. 1 Like |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by stanley000: 9:13pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
okay |
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Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Tallesty1(m): 9:15pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
sonofananimal:You need to read this. cc: repogirl |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Nobody: 9:18pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Richy4:so let us go back to the stone age ABI Technology has done more good, is just how you use it. So I won't say technology is the problem |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by anukulapo: 9:18pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Traditional view of some issues. . . Marrying someone completely opposite of your personality can also lead to frustration. |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by fe32(m): 9:21pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Friday18: Thanks again to you. Drawing up list to marriage is at most not very useful. Every marriage with their peculiar situation. I have seen people who have committed the number 2 sin but are having a very wonderful married life and those who never did living in total misery. honesty, sincerity , tenderness , trust and as many people have said..respect are the basic needs.... loving like living is; taking chances, you never fully know what you getting into until you do. No matter how sanctimonious it seems. I should stress however that to point 2 and still going ahead to find these qualities i listed above in marriage will breed a more trustworthy relationship . 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Sweetlemon(f): 9:22pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
This sex thing is overrated. I could sleep with a guy and feel nothing whatsoever for him afterwards. In fact, if I sleep with a guy I'm not crazy about, I get bored outta my mind afterwards. I have sex because I love the guy. Not the other way round. 1 Like |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Kusibe77(m): 9:23pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
still waiting for one person comment |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by LaRoyalHighness(f): 9:29pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Plus when a particular gender feels that cheating is their birthright. Then it won't work. 3 Likes |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by raayah(f): 9:37pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
I think we have confused American feminism with Nigerian (much needed) feminism. I cannot believe that people are blaming feminist for rape occurrences. Maybe we should blame all Muslims for 9/11 attacks or all Christains should be blamed for Holocaust or All Africans as scammers but I digress. With a snap of finger, your husband can decide to push you dependant woman and kids outt. You are entitled to zilch in this country.. No alimony no child support. All these men on nairaland will be the same to tell you why are you depending on your husband. Try being a widow in Nigeria. I remember a story a young woman put on nairaland, she was in a dilemma, she earned 100k + health benefits for family monthly, husband earned 40k. She had run out of time for maternity leave. Her husband would never quit his job and if she quit her job, she would not afford rent or health insurance if said baby became sick. She hadn't found a nanny and she was in despair. The sensible thing would have been for her husband to quit his job , but NOT IN NIGERIA, you know men and their egos. We just consoled her in family section and gave little bits of advice. This is why most women in Nigeria have to work! Why are there married women with kids hawking pure water, why didn't they just sit in their husband's house? An insult to career women is an insult to all women who are suffering and saving to raise their kids. What about reproductive rights? Women have zilch in Nigeria.Where can you get condoms, contraceptives pills or cheap birth control for women? Child support nko? If a man impregnates a woman, he can leave and never return. Society will forever shame her for having sex. Forgetting about the men. Sexual harassment nko? Try studying in a Nigerian university as a female, you can be there for extra years just because you refuse to suck a man's dicck? What about rape? A young 12 year old was continuously raped by a 70-something grandpa the other day. Nairaland said the girl was at fault because she collected money from the man. Some even said she seduced him. LOL.!!Even women were supporting. What of domestic violence against women . One thread,a young courageous man stood in front of his abusive father who was hitting his mom and nairaland consensus was that the son should have done nothing because perhaps the woman Was NAGGING. Now imagine if it was reversed, a woman slapped the man. She will definitely regret her actions. What about infidelity and infertility. Try being infertile in Nigeria, you will be laced with insults and called all kinds of names. A woman is told day in and out that she has to stick with her cheating husband but God forbid she cheats. Are we going to talk about women that have been discarded because they don't have male children? Even though Science has proven time after time that men are the determinants of a baby's sex. What about responsibility: An average 12 year old girl in Nigeria is cooking, fetching water. sweeping and washing everyone's clothes by hand giving her little time to study because you better train her for a man instead. The average 12 year old boy is washing cars at most. these man-banies then grow up and demand that women spoon-feed them daily because they have been trained that way. Your average married man cannot cook a pot of soup. Can we stop people from being evil? NO!! But feminism seeks to educate people especially women that we have choices, we are not objects and we need to be treated fairly by men and the society 15 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by Sajio(m): 9:38pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
Very Educating........ A good one bro! |
Re: Things That Bring About Failure In Today's Marriage. by flokii: 9:43pm On Nov 07, 2015 |
@OP are you married or divorced.. which one? |
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