Toks2008:



You have asked a brilliant question so read careFully.

-A lazy guy is a guy that does absolutely nothing whether job hunting or hustling but blames his joblessness on every other person.

-A struggling guy is a guy that is ready to do anything legitimate to survive irrespective of his level of education while still focusing on his dreams.

-Some gainfully employed guys are lazy but because they are fortunate to get a job, they hide under this euphoria and ladies get carried away but if peradventure they lose that job,their lazy nature will come to fall because they may never have the propensity or initiative do do nada except hope for another job .

-Take away everything from a struggling guy and he is most likely to bounce back even better.

Let me stop here.

Spot On!....Couldn't be explained any better.

udysweet:
@sonofananimal @toks2008 @ddshow @missbronze @neoapocalypse @klassik @sparkles003,brilliant arguement guys! I'm seriolsy thinking of setting up a panel and invite u guys to sit openly and discuss this preferably on air(say radio tv etc) am so enjoying this! @missbronze ur part abt Joseph coming to open a thread on NL is hilarios,lol!
Thread is becoming very exciting,I like this. For me,nothing as good as a lady havin s little of her own money too,wld help come in handy in those days wen things don't go well. That been said,the man shd be able to hold his own dwn,hav a job and be hardworking. Mony may not be much but show uav prospects and evn wen d chips are dwn,dat u won't let it get to u,get ur ass to work and ,hard! And I don't tink me wanting a man who is financially ok,is a bad idea for me sha. Hop am makin some sense here? Over to u d analysts,lol.
Going forward,hope everyone's day went well? Swtdrms!

The sweet udy herself. Hope all is pumping well for your side.?

Toks2008, ddshow, gratefulme40. thanks for your contributions. you guys rock.
All the other silent observers on this thread rocks too.


I love this thread mehn.

klassic:
When I was 14/15,my dad sat me down as a son and said"my son, the sooner you realise the fact that you are a man, the easier life will be for u. One day, you will marry & raise a family. You will have the sole responsibility of providing for your family and giving them the best of what life has to offer. If you do this, your wife will love and cherish you, she will forget your name and still call you honey, darling, sugar pie, daddy, baby, etc, at age 60.But remember, you must strive to make things better cos if you fail, you become"Mr. Man, papa John, she remembers your full names and always ask ; y did I marry you, the juju u used for me has failed and you become a useless, good for nothing man, she starts comparing you with your mates, forgetting the good times so soon. If she is totally heartless, she starts sleeping around with your friends and other men who can take care of her needs. She denies you everything the marriage has to offer and you feel worthless before her as she will turn the kids against you.
So my son work twice as hard as your mates, work while they work and work while they sleep. Remember you have loads of time to rest and sleep when you are dead. Even if you die young, make sure you leave enough to make your family comfortable. For in doing all these, you earn their respect even in death. # Our Fathers advice #no woman loves penniless man. #No money no love. #No money no honey. #in a woman world, it's God first, make money and don't stop, cos the only language they Understand is money.

Bro i am sorry to say this but your dad never envisaged that Nigeria will deteriorate to what we have today.

An average Nigerian guy is super hardworking but the economy situation wil not just give room for opportunities. Shebbi it is when there is work that you can work when your mates are sleeping but today,24/7 people are working for peanuts.

In the states,a menial job employee takes home an average of 7usd an hour so imagine working 10hours a day and multiply by 20days excluding weekends and you will get a whooping 1,400usd a month for a menial job that a graduate will frown at here.

Apparently what your dad told you is applicable anywhere else but not in Nigeria...guys want to work 24/7 but no job..most of those who have jobs are enslaved with salaries just good enough to feed with no SAVINGS and time to develop themselves.

Those who have their businesses in Nigeria are frustrated by change in government and erratic government policies...In short i am scared for the Nigerian youth and i fear we may see a serious revolution very soon because if our guys don't have jobs or earn a living, how can they marry the beautiful ladies who are also at the receiving end of getting jobs with their ass and not what they have upstairs...

My advice to ladies..go learn some good skills like decorations,event planing,catering,bridal make over business and many more so that they can support the homefront while still pursuing their main dream

Rich guys with very good income are very few and the few ones are acting king kong using as many vulnerable ladies as they can get....GOD HELP NIGERIA

udysweet:
@sonofananimal @toks2008 @ddshow @missbronze @neoapocalypse @klassik @sparkles003,brilliant arguement guys! I'm seriolsy thinking of setting up a panel and invite u guys to sit openly and discuss this preferably on air(say radio tv etc) am so enjoying this! @missbronze ur part abt Joseph coming to open a thread on NL is hilarios,lol!
Thread is becoming very exciting,I like this. For me,nothing as good as a lady havin s little of her own money too,wld help come in handy in those days wen things don't go well. That been said,the man shd be able to hold his own dwn,hav a job and be hardworking. Mony may not be much but show uav prospects and evn wen d chips are dwn,dat u won't let it get to u,get ur ass to work and ,hard! And I don't tink me wanting a man who is financially ok,is a bad idea for me sha. Hop am makin some sense here? Over to u d analysts,lol.
Going forward,hope everyone's day went well? Swtdrms!

Lolzzzz! That will be a good ideal, cos will really need to to go back to the drawing board and tackle this problem our generation is facing now particularly the money aspect which we tend to put as the basic ingredient in a relationship.

At the bolded you are right! Nigerian are very hard working but we work hard to earn so little and that will even discourage a man to even dream of settling down.

Udysweet, thanks for checking.

Stay safe and enjoy your night.

missbronze:
Toks2008, ddshow, gratefulme40. thanks for your contributions. you guys rock.
All the other silent observers on this thread rocks too.
I love this thread mehn.

We love you more!

Have a blissful night rest.

Wow.....so much intelligence on this thread...
I've not been able to be here for a couple of days and going by so many things I've read, I can only say..."chai,I've missed".
I'm learning a lot here,a lot to make me a better person and to help me make wise decisions and I must say at a perfect timing too...
Have a lovely friday everyone

God bless you. My postulations is not only posited on premarital issues, but the fact that a guy with low income gets married, at first the wife is understanding and cooperating, the suddenly she wants more. Not only that, she is now Mrs wife, the guy loses his job and the income is gone down, same goes with the love and respect the woman is got for her man. Especially when it takes longer for the husband to bounce back. I was trying to state the fact that a woman/wife's love, respect and continuous loyalty is premised or hinged on the man/husbands continuous ability to provide and upgrade the financial status of the family. Cos when he fails in this aspect, the family love crashes faster than the stock exchange market.
On a final note, a woman will do anything to get her supposed man to change her last name to his. But the crux is what happens after that? The veil of the masked character is lifted and reality sets in. Soon all the honey flies outta the window.
Above all, it's a wake up call to men out there, that there is little or no difference between a boy of 22 who is got mad bread and he is "responsible" and a 45years old man who is bearly getting by.
The lesson my loving dad was trying to pass across, was the fact that don't wait till you are 25 to realize you a man, realize every 10 year old boy is a grown man, husband and father who is got responsibilities.
So the earlier you realize that and start early, the better for you. Cos you only earn your place as the head of the family and the accrued sugar, honey, sweetheart, dad, daddy, baby "even when you are 60years" when you perform averagly well as a man and still earn that respect even in death. If not, you just become what I stated in the first post, the most useless man and a dead bit dad. Guess nobody wants that . I rise.

ddshow:


True tho! Committment alone is greater than money. But in this clime and generation, an average lady wants immediate comfort first even before commitment.

It is only when there are pressures arising as a result of the age factor that most ladies shove aside their premonition about what marriage should be like and then settle for what is obtainable.

I've been a little under the weather these past days and I couldn't send my big long reply, it felt/stil feels like a gigantic tasks, thanks to bros headache.
@Toks2008 , there is no asheju in all you've stated and all you listed isn't that bad.
A delectable lady, pleasing to the eyes, with her little income, plus good cook and finally God fearing is the answer to this long wait.....*my beautiful ladies una dey hear? Someone should do the needful o!

Toks2008:


Ok as regards the bold lettering

No be say i be super man,or i get better money for account sef and law of diminishing return don dey enter my athletic body but then i can't cope with making love to my wife and fantasizing about another woman NEVER.

So my policy is "get the lady that turns you on physically" and i cant stress this enough..i have no business with a lady that will not give me a hard-on just by looking at her even when dressed up so the topmost quality is that my lady must be pleasing to my eyes because what pleases the eyes apparently will be pleasing to the soul and in my world i have zero tolerance for philandering before or after marriage so i really need to carefully go for wettin i want.

Then financial independence is very vital..not that i want a millionaire but even if na 500naira you dey make per day.its a good start and i will know that you are not a liability.

Excellence in the kitchen is non negotiable because i love good foods like kilode....

Then let her pretend to be GOD fearing at least for the duration of our lifetime together...In my opinion these are not too much to look out for o abi guys in the house abi aseju ti wo ni?

fourfunmi:
I've been a little under the weather these past days and I couldn't send my big long reply, it felt/stil feels like a gigantic tasks, thanks to bros headache.
@Toks2008 , there is no asheju in all you've stated and all you listed isn't that bad.
A delectable lady, pleasing to the eyes, with her little income, plus good cook and finally God fearing is the answer to this long wait.....*my beautiful ladies una dey hear? Someone should do the needful o!

My first mention of u,lol! So sorry abt ur illhealth,hope u feel much beta now? Pele again. As for Toks2008,me I don tel am say babes don yapa,mak e do d needful. Dis one no be were he go seek permission b4 e ask any baby frm NL,out. So carry oga mi sir,do d needful*winks*
Goodmorn house,hope ur nite was fun? TGIF to the 9 to 5ers,lol! Have a great day y'all

missbronze:
The sweet udy herself. Hope all is pumping well for your side.?

Hahahaha,she calls me sweet too!lol! Am fine dear,goodmorn. Hope ur also doin great?

bleble14:
@gratefuime40, U are right, its only God dat can direct us to d right partner but he will not come down from heaven to do dat for us, most times we are looking mr and mrs perfect, forgetting dat it is only God dat is perfect.

You made valid points God won't come down meaning ladies and true men MUST be ready to tolerate one another weaknesses ! Modern day ladies are looking for FINANCIL STABLE MAN and good JOB,unfortunately the Nigerian economy has not been favourable to guys .

Toks2008:



You have asked a brilliant question so read careFully.

-A lazy guy is a guy that does absolutely nothing whether job hunting or hustling but blames his joblessness on every other person.

-A struggling guy is a guy that is ready to do anything legitimate to survive irrespective of his level of education while still focusing on his dreams.

-Some gainfully employed guys are lazy but because they are fortunate to get a job, they hide under this euphoria and ladies get carried away but if peradventure they lose that job,their lazy nature will come to fall because they may never have the propensity or initiative do do nada except hope for another job .

-Take away everything from a struggling guy and he is most likely to bounce back even better.

Let me stop here.

Good morning sir, thanks alot for taking time to answer my question.you opened my eyes to the fact that not every guy who is gainfully empolyed is hardworking. I must confess it never crossed my mind. have a great day.

Real talk. Fair morrow fam!

fourfunmi:
I've been a little under the weather these past days and I couldn't send my big long reply, it felt/stil feels like a gigantic tasks, thanks to bros headache.

Hey dear, I have been reading from the sidelines lately and wondered what happened to u. Pele o. Hope u feel much better now?

Morning all! TGIF o. Lord knows I need this weekend badly.
Where is my Bluepearls?

Liciase:
Good morning sir, thanks alot for taking time to answer my question.you opened my eyes to the fact that not every guy who is gainfully empolyed is hardworking. I must confess it never crossed my mind. have a great day.

OK Dearie

fourfunmi:
I've been a little under the weather these past days and I couldn't send my big long reply, it felt/stil feels like a gigantic tasks, thanks to bros headache.
@Toks2008 , there is no asheju in all you've stated and all you listed isn't that bad.
A delectable lady, pleasing to the eyes, with her little income, plus good cook and finally God fearing is the answer to this long wait.....*my beautiful ladies una dey hear? Someone should do the needful o!

Sorry dearie

I had an episode of fatigue but thank GOD im back on my feet....the funniest part is that even if im o so down,i will still find succor in communicating and interacting with people cos of my mad passion for that

klassic:
God bless you. My postulations is not only posited on premarital issues, but the fact that a guy with low income gets married, at first the wife is understanding and cooperating, the suddenly she wants more. Not only that, she is now Mrs wife, the guy loses his job and the income is gone down, same goes with the love and respect the woman is got for her man. Especially when it takes longer for the husband to bounce back. I was trying to state the fact that a woman/wife's love, respect and continuous loyalty is premised or hinged on the man/husbands continuous ability to provide and upgrade the financial status of the family. Cos when he fails in this aspect, the family love crashes faster than the stock exchange market.
On a final note, a woman will do anything to get her supposed man to change her last name to his. But the crux is what happens after that? The veil of the masked character is lifted and reality sets in. Soon all the honey flies outta the window.
Above all, it's a wake up call to men out there, that there is little or no difference between a boy of 22 who is got mad bread and he is "responsible" and a 45years old man who is bearly getting by.
The lesson my loving dad was trying to pass across, was the fact that don't wait till you are 25 to realize you a man, realize every 10 year old boy is a grown man, husband and father who is got responsibilities.
So the earlier you realize that and start early, the better for you. Cos you only earn your place as the head of the family and the accrued sugar, honey, sweetheart, dad, daddy, baby "even when you are 60years" when you perform averagly well as a man and still earn that respect even in death. If not, you just become what I stated in the first post, the most useless man and a dead bit dad. Guess nobody wants that . I rise.

I agree with u to an extent bro. Even the Bible says dat a man dat can't provide for his family is worse dan an infidel. There's no mincing words abt it, the love in a 'broke' home is not as sweet as that in an 'abundant' home. Of cos dis doesn't mean dat money creates love but rather it can enhance it. I'm glad u got the main lesson from wat ur dad said. Every man should strive to better himself financially in so that the love that exists in his home would be adequately enhanced.
The bolded part of ur post however is not entirely correct. It is definitely NOT A FACT and only a selfish woman would 'hinge' her love and respect for her man 'solely' on his ability to bring home the bacon. That kind of woman is still very immature and doesn't understand the issues of life. I rise

klassic:
God bless you. My postulations is not only posited on premarital issues, but the fact that a guy with low income gets married, at first the wife is understanding and cooperating, the suddenly she wants more. Not only that, she is now Mrs wife, the guy loses his job and the income is gone down, same goes with the love and respect the woman is got for her man. Especially when it takes longer for the husband to bounce back. I was trying to state the fact that a woman/wife's love, respect and continuous loyalty is premised or hinged on the man/husbands continuous ability to provide and upgrade the financial status of the family. Cos when he fails in this aspect, the family love crashes faster than the stock exchange market.
On a final note, a woman will do anything to get her supposed man to change her last name to his. But the crux is what happens after that? The veil of the masked character is lifted and reality sets in. Soon all the honey flies outta the window.
Above all, it's a wake up call to men out there, that there is little or no difference between a boy of 22 who is got mad bread and he is "responsible" and a 45years old man who is bearly getting by.
The lesson my loving dad was trying to pass across, was the fact that don't wait till you are 25 to realize you a man, realize every 10 year old boy is a grown man, husband and father who is got responsibilities.
So the earlier you realize that and start early, the better for you. Cos you only earn your place as the head of the family and the accrued sugar, honey, sweetheart, dad, daddy, baby "even when you are 60years" when you perform averagly well as a man and still earn that respect even in death. If not, you just become what I stated in the first post, the most useless man and a dead bit dad. Guess nobody wants that . I rise.

my brother gbosa for you
abeg watsapp me you number make i call you
rashida come help me type my number give uncle klassic.

magneto:

I agree with u to an extent bro. Even the Bible says dat a man dat can't provide for his family is worse dan an infidel. There's no mincing words abt it, the love in a 'broke' home is not as sweet as that in an 'abundant' home. Of cos dis doesn't mean dat money creates love but rather it can enhance it. I'm glad u got the main lesson from wat ur dad said. Every man should strive to better himself financially in so that the love that exists in his home would be adequately enhanced.
The bolded part of ur post however is not entirely correct. It is definitely NOT A FACT and only a selfish woman would 'hinge' her love and respect for her man 'solely' on his ability to bring home the bacon. That kind of woman is still very immature and doesn't understand the issues of life. I rise

all which takes the grace of God.discipline not to be envious her seeing your lack in other men.dedication to you in terms of lifting words of encouragement

magneto:

I agree with u to an extent bro. Even the Bible says dat a man dat can't provide for his family is worse dan an infidel. There's no mincing words abt it, the love in a 'broke' home is not as sweet as that in an 'abundant' home. Of cos dis doesn't mean dat money creates love but rather it can enhance it. I'm glad u got the main lesson from wat ur dad said. Every man should strive to better himself financially in so that the love that exists in his home would be adequately enhanced.
The bolded part of ur post however is not entirely correct. It is definitely NOT A FACT and only a selfish woman would 'hinge' her love and respect for her man 'solely' on his ability to bring home the bacon. That kind of woman is still very immature and doesn't understand the issues of life. I rise

my broda you have said it all...sometimes i just cry in silence for the myopc disposition of our ladies...they keep saying...i want a guy who is financially stable,a guy who is gainfully employed,a guy who is....then i began to wonder if these ladies actually reason rationally.

Nigeria is a perculiar country where the norms in organized part of the world is a fluke here...and come to think of it..it is even easier for ladies to get jobs because of many factors too numerous to highlight.

All a lady needs is a hardworking guy who knows what he wants and dogged enough to pursue his dreams and not necessarily a man who is fortunate to secure a regular take home pay just to get by...there is more to life than just eating and having a regular job that may limit your dreams...

Go round and check the men that are making great success of their lives n you will agree that these are not guys with regular 8 to 5 jobs but guys who follow their dreams and passions.

I am not saying getting a job is not ok but the way ladies hinge their criteria around regular income earners,many guys are losing out on their dreams,many guys are dropping their vision to build another man vision just because an average naija girl will prefer a regular worker in shell rather than a lionel messi in the making...for how long shall we guys continue to lose our identity for the sake of winning the respect of these myopic ladies who look for a financially stable guy for their selfish purpose.

I advice every lady reading this,sit that guy down,ask him about his long term goals as well as short term then decide if you are strong enough to go all the way with him.

For me,my vision is clear and no lady in this world will ever make me drop it...anyman without a vision is a total failure and if im a lady,i will prefer to be with a vision driven man rather than a man who just wants to get a job,retire at old age and depend on pension.

Did i hear someone say...what if the vision does not get fufilled?...well life itself is a risk and those who try and fail are far better than those who do nothing.

Take that risk with him,pray for him and if at the end of it all he fails,hug him and tell him how proud you are to have a man like him.

udysweet:
@sonofananimal @toks2008 @ddshow @missbronze @neoapocalypse @klassik @sparkles003,brilliant arguement guys! I'm seriolsy thinking of setting up a panel and invite u guys to sit openly and discuss this preferably on air(say radio tv etc) am so enjoying this! @missbronze ur part abt Joseph coming to open a thread on NL is hilarios,lol!
Thread is becoming very exciting,I like this. For me,nothing as good as a lady havin s little of her own money too,wld help come in handy in those days wen things don't go well. That been said,the man shd be able to hold his own dwn,hav a job and be hardworking. Mony may not be much but show uav prospects and evn wen d chips are dwn,dat u won't let it get to u,get ur ass to work and ,hard! And I don't tink me wanting a man who is financially ok,is a bad idea for me sha. Hop am makin some sense here? Over to u d analysts,lol.
Going forward,hope everyone's day went well? Swtdrms!

Ayomikun bawo ni , how's life with you ? Have a great day

Toks2008:



I advice every lady reading this,sit that guy down,ask him about his long term goals as well as short term then decide if you are strong enough to go all the way with him.

For me,my vision is clear and no lady in this world will ever make me drop it...anyman without a vision is a total failure and if im a lady,i will prefer to be with a vision driven man rather than a man who just wants to get a job,retire at old age and depend on pension.

Did i hear someone say...what if the vision does not get fufilled?...well life itself is a risk and those who try and fail are far better than those who do nothing.

Take that risk with him,pray for him and if at the end of it all he fails,hug him and tell him how proud you are to have a man like him.

Aptly put bro, especially the bold part. I almost wept for joy at the wisdom in those words. Remain blessed!

Toks2008:


my broda you have said it all...sometimes i just cry in silence for the myopc disposition of our ladies...they keep saying...i want a guy who is financially stable,a guy who is gainfully employed,a guy who is....then i began to wonder if these ladies actually reason rationally.

yes we do.that why oninye differs from udy to seun

Nigeria is a perculiar country where the norms in organized part of the world is a fluke here...and come to think of it..it is even easier for ladies to get jobs because of many factors too numerous to highlight.

wat factors?

All a lady needs is a hardworking guy who knows what he wants and dogged enough to pursue his dreams and not necessarily a man who is fortunate to secure a regular take home pay just to get by...there is more to life than just eating and having a regular job that may limit your dreams...

All men were not born to be employers.
Aside food clothing.reproduction.house which most human need.throw in one or more businesses.vacations
all of which a good regular job can also give to you.
wat more does toks2008 need in life.

Go round and check the men that are making great success of their lives n you will agree that these are not guys with regular 8 to 5 jobs but guys who follow their dreams and passions.

Tunde fowler started from a regular 9-5 job
mr eric oloruwa
udo udoma
fashola
all these were guys with regular 8 to 5 jobs who made a success of their career


I am not saying getting a job is not ok but the way ladies hinge their criteria around regular income earners,many guys are losing out on their dreams,many guys are dropping their vision to build another man vision just because an average naija girl will prefer a regular worker in shell rather than a lionel messi in the making...for how long shall we guys continue to lose our identity for the sake of winning the respect of these myopic ladies who look for a financially stable guy for their selfish purpose.

I advice every lady reading this,sit that guy down,ask him about his long term goals as well as short term then decide if you are strong enough to go all the way with him.

For me,my vision is clear and no lady in this world will ever make me drop it...anyman without a vision is a total failure and if im a lady,i will prefer to be with a vision driven man rather than a man who just wants to get a job,retire at old age and depend on pension.

Did i hear someone say...what if the vision does not get fufilled?...well life itself is a risk and those who try and fail are far better than those who do nothing.

Take that risk with him,pray for him and if at the end of it all he fails,hug him and tell him how proud you are to have a man like him.

Some dont have the heart that comes with taking risk.
Most importantly only always take a decision that will make you happy.
it worked for toks2008 might not work for sparlles003

Sparkles003:

all which takes the grace of God.discipline not to be envious her seeing your lack in other men.dedication to you in terms of lifting words of encouragement

U know, the thing abt the grace of God is that it has already been freely given, and is available to whomever is willing to believe it and receive it. What dat tells me is dat God has already played His own part in my life "tay tay"...and the manifestation of whatever I desire (be it materially, physically, or spiritually) rests on my ability to recognize and play my own part. God did not make us intelligent beings for no reason. It is only other animals and plants dat can and should rely solely on the grace of God with no input of their own.

The power to acquire the discipline not to be envious, and the dedication necessary for uplifting loved ones is in our hands. If we realize this and internalize it appropriately, our love lives would surely improve by leaps and bounds. All of a sudden we begin to understand that those things and issues we care so much about are actually NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT things in life. Not even close self!

Sparkles003:


Some dont have the heart that comes with taking risk.
Most importantly only always take a decision that will make you happy.
it worked for toks2008 might not work for sparlles003

LOL! You no sabi quote at all..see how you changed my original comments lol!

I can see you are not getting it...we have short term and long term plans so getting involved in a regular job could be a short term plan for some of us and some guys are just ok doing this for the rest of their active years and its perfectly ok if that is what gives him fulfillment.

My point is that a typical naija lady would rather prefer her man to stick to a regular job rather than resigning to take up a dream career,business or project.

magneto:


Aptly put bro, especially the bold part. I almost wept for joy at the wisdom in those words. Remain blessed!

Here is a thread i created long ago.

[size=13pt]Why do many ladies prefer a salary earner to an entrepreneur?[/size]]

Do you know that many ladies will be quick to pick the entrepreneur but in actual fact they prefer a man that earns a salary from a paid job rather than a vision driven guy aiming to make success of his career?

Do you know that an average Nigerian lady would rather prefer to marry a man who is an employee of a company rather than to say yes I do to a man who is still struggling to be an employer of labor.

It is amazing how an average Nigerian lady will go all out to kill the zeal of a young and promising entrepreneur simply because of the fear of the unseen,she will advice him to take up a job just because she is more interested in having the assurance that there is a regular in-flow of
cash either for her selfish gains or for the sake of the children.

Ok I guess you will be saying in your mind ”this guy don come again” so do me this favor and lets do this real life testing..

If you are a guy who is still searching for job simply call your lady on the phone and tell her “honey wow! guess what? I have gotten a business idea I want to start” and please observe her response.

Wait for another week and call her again but this time say “Honey you won’t believe I got a job” and also observe her response.

And for those who are already working,simply call your lady and tell her “honey I have decided to quit my job to start my personal business” ..i am almost certain you are in for a long sermon on why you should not.

Some ladies are even kind enough to ask you to get a job first then probably raise the money for the business as though they are so certain that all the money you earn monthly from the hopeful job will be saved for your intending business and unfortunately by the time you start a job
you intend spending just few years,you will wake up after 20years to discover you are still stuck up in same job because the employers we have are pretty smart enough not to allow you space for yourself and you will even have to lie in order to attend an interview for another job offer.

Please don’t get it twisted…as a man,there is absolutely nothing wrong in taking up a job if that is what rocks your boat but I am simply laying emphases on some Nigerian ladies who lack vision,those who are mediocre and those who just believe that getting by is more important in life
than attaining a potential maximum IN YOUR CHOSEN CAREER.

Our ladies must understand that just as we have men who are ok with a paid jobs and depend on the employer to gain promotion and more take home pay,we also have men who are visionary,men who would rather want to be an employer of labor rather than be an employee,men
who will stop at nothing to achieve their dreams and men who will later become the Dangotes and bill gates of today and eventually become a owner of a company many see today as well established and many ladies will even pray and fast for their men to be employed there.

This is my point ladies…the choice remains yours but please do not stress our men who are visionary,determined and result oriented. Allow them pursue their dreams.Get a life for yourself,get financially independent and allow this man space to actualize his dreams.

My candid view.

https://www.nairaland.com/2285232/why-many-ladies-prefer-salary

Hahahahaha! Remember you! Geez,can't believe u still kept dis name for me! Lol! How have u been? Good to see u here too. Have a great day dear

neoapocalypse:


Ayomikun bawo ni , how's life with you ? Have a great day

Toks2008:


my broda you have said it all...sometimes i just cry in silence for the myopc disposition of our ladies...they keep saying...i want a guy who is financially stable,a guy who is gainfully employed,a guy who is....then i began to wonder if these ladies actually reason rationally.

Nigeria is a perculiar country where the norms in organized part of the world is a fluke here...and come to think of it..it is even easier for ladies to get jobs because of many factors too numerous to highlight.

All a lady needs is a hardworking guy who knows what he wants and dogged enough to pursue his dreams and not necessarily a man who is fortunate to secure a regular take home pay just to get by...there is more to life than just eating and having a regular job that may limit your dreams...

Go round and check the men that are making great success of their lives n you will agree that these are not guys with regular 8 to 5 jobs but guys who follow their dreams and passions.

I am not saying getting a job is not ok but the way ladies hinge their criteria around regular income earners,many guys are losing out on their dreams,many guys are dropping their vision to build another man vision just because an average naija girl will prefer a regular worker in shell rather than a lionel messi in the making...for how long shall we guys continue to lose our identity for the sake of winning the respect of these myopic ladies who look for a financially stable guy for their selfish purpose.

I advice every lady reading this,sit that guy down,ask him about his long term goals as well as short term then decide if you are strong enough to go all the way with him.

For me,my vision is clear and no lady in this world will ever make me drop it...anyman without a vision is a total failure and if im a lady,i will prefer to be with a vision driven man rather than a man who just wants to get a job,retire at old age and depend on pension.

Did i hear someone say...what if the vision does not get fufilled?...well life itself is a risk and those who try and fail are far better than those who do nothing.

Take that risk with him,pray for him and if at the end of it all he fails,hug him and tell him how proud you are to have a man like him.

I once have a vision of working in a multinational firm, I worked toward it for years to another year but still no hope. And now I'm on my own business at least RECEIVING a normal income or less.

Can you still classified this guy as a failure?
Since he drop that vision and started doing another thing away from his target!

Toks2008:


LOL! You no sabi quote at all..see how you changed my original comments lol!

I can see you are not getting it...we have short term and long term plans so getting involved in a regular job could be a short term plan for some of us and some guys are just ok doing this for the rest of their active years and its perfectly ok if that is what gives him fulfillment.

My point is that a typical naija lady would rather prefer her man to stick to a regular job rather than resigning to take up a dream career,business or project.

i no sabi the whole quoting thing but atleast u understand

sonofananimal:

I once have a vision of working in a multinational firm, I worked toward it for years to another year but still no hope. And now I'm on my own business at least RECEIVING a normal income or less.

Can you still classified this guy as a failure?
Since he drop that vision and started doing another thing away from his target!

Not at all dear,working in a multinational could be a long term goal which you can either give up if you no longer feel ok with it.

Vision can be modified yet still on same path.

There will always be a short and long term goal.

udysweet:
Hahahahaha! Remember you! Geez,can't believe u still kept dis name for me! Lol! How have u been? Good to see u here too. Have a great day dear

I'm good dear , it's been a rough year but we are surviving. I'll never forget your name , remember I gave that name to you. I'll drop in from time to time as work permits