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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by LuckyLadolce(m): 12:35pm On Nov 13, 2015
JAZAKUM

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by MrOlai: 12:51pm On Nov 13, 2015
fatahtalks:
our daughters r too young for marriage but they r not too young to sleep around.
cry cry cry

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by MrOlai: 12:57pm On Nov 13, 2015
mubarakopeyemi:
Thanks for the Enlightenment. Jazaakallah Khayran.
But unfortunately very few can abide by this that you've explained above.
omusiliyu:
Jazakallahu khaeeran
Geesarki:
Jazakallahu khaira Jazaa
personal59:
Jazakhallahu khairan
Tczar:
Op Jazakallahi khaerran
olaitan9291:
subhanallah!
Jazakunmullah khaer.
May Allah (subhanahu wa ta'la) reward you abundantly,
Increase your knowledge and faith in him.
Salaam aleikum waramatullah wabarakatuh.

Wa iyaakum.

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by MrOlai: 1:02pm On Nov 13, 2015
usmanbaba:
Jaza khun khairan.... Pls I need a Hausa muslim lady for a relationship, my bbm pin 331938FA. Allah's knows d best!
Wa iyyakum.

@bolded... You need a Hausa Muslim lady for a relationship or as WIFE? Pls, purify your intention. May Allah(SWT) grant you your heart desire (Amin).

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by MrOlai: 1:08pm On Nov 13, 2015
olawaleqaasim:



If you don't date or court, the number 1 thing that would spur your interest towards marrying her would be because of her religion and thereafter, the genuineness that you REALLY want to marry her and not just use and dump (no offence meant, just explaining).

Marrying someone without the kind of courtship that we know today goes a long way to tell that this person I'm getting married to has a 60% chance of marrying me for who I am and not possibly an angelic figure.

It isn't a matter of meeting someone in a day and marrying such person that day all in the name of no courtship, no; only that Islam has procedures WHEN YOU ARE READY TO GET MARRIED. A lot of us want to enjoy the companionship of the opposite sex WITHOUT accepting the responsibilities of legal spouses, that is what Islam detests.

The danger in having a longterm companionship is the risk of committing fornication, which is a capital sin as far as Islam is concerned.

To think of it, if courtship is the solution to getting married to the wrong person, why then do we have breakups here and there?

I'm married and i am happily married, nothing brought myself and my wife together other than knowing that she is a muslim and a human being. She has her deficiencies and I have mine. We cope with each other like brother and sister and know how to manage our communication. We got married in August of a year and I met her the December preceding that August. What else could have made us marry like that if not the INTEREST to marry.


Wonderful!

May Allah(SWT) reward you for this wonderful piece. Jazakumullah khaeran.

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by olawaleqaasim(m): 1:11pm On Nov 13, 2015
MrOlai:


Wonderful!

May Allah(SWT) reward you for this wonderful piece. Jazakumullah khaeran.

Wa iyyakum

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by MrOlai: 1:11pm On Nov 13, 2015
LuckyLadolce:
JAZAKUM

Was iyaakum.

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by maryhaam(f): 1:31pm On Nov 13, 2015
personal59:


Brother u don't need to court or date before marriage the prophet says marry for religion sake that's the best for u.


Our great grandfathers nd grandfathers never court mostly na arranged weeding nd they never divorce
really

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by LuckyLadolce(m): 1:35pm On Nov 13, 2015
MrOlai:


Was iyaakum.
I want to put it (ur article) on my blog and make reference to you. i hope am free. salam alaykum

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by MrOlai: 1:41pm On Nov 13, 2015
LuckyLadolce:
I want to put it (ur article) on my blog and make reference to you. i hope am free. salam alaykum

Na'am. It's okay.

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by LuckyLadolce(m): 2:17pm On Nov 13, 2015
MrOlai:


Na'am. It's okay.
Thanks. jazakum

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by MrOlai: 2:25pm On Nov 13, 2015
LuckyLadolce:
Thanks. jazakum

Wa iyyakum.
Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by LuckyLadolce(m): 2:32pm On Nov 13, 2015
MrOlai:


Wa iyyakum.
check my blog yahsalam..com have no time to put articles though. due to the nature of my job(banking). its just a matter of time sha... inn shaa Allah i will develop it to a full site and start posting good islamic stuffs on it .

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by Asquare86(m): 2:36pm On Nov 13, 2015
In Islam Particular I Dont Knw In Other Religious Adultery Is A Great Sin An Attract Punishment If Not Repented. I Know No One Including U Wul Like 2 C Some1 Romancing Or Sexing Ur Blood Sister In D Name Of Friendship. An Islam View It In Such A Way That U As A Man, U Hardly Be Friending Girl Without One Day Been In A Private Place, An U Hardly Fel Not To Touch Each Other An Eventualy Do Love. After She Get Pregnant She Begines 2 Shy Away From It And U As A Brother Wont Like An If She Mistakly Give Birth The Child Wul Not Hav Profer Lov As Ligitimate Child From The Family Even His Parent. But Islam Encourage Friendship If U Ar Ready 4 Marriage
Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by Trustworthiness: 2:43pm On Nov 13, 2015
jamst2:
huh! Op,you see it is the society that is corrupt that makes it look bad with a 'dirty mind' that when a girl & a boy are friend then it is mean to be 'sex relationship'

So,does it mean that the opposite sex should see themselve as enemies? No...we must understand that friendship is what brings people together with good intention.

Good intention is what matters...@op,do not get the message wrong that islam forbid friendship with opposite sex...no,the opposite sex isnt our enemy.just make sure your intention is clean & pure for Allah's sake

Wa Allahu a'lam (Allah knows best)

I think you are misinterpreting what the op said. The op did not say you should take the opposite sex as enemies, but creating that close friendship people do today is wrong and not accepted in Islam.

Allah knows us better than we know ourselves. Allah knows what could go wrong when a boy or man and a girl or woman move too close. There is possibility that you allow shaytan to deceive you into committing what Allah has forbidden.

Why will you what to make a woman an intimate friend? Except if you want shaytan to slip you to committing zina.

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by personal59: 2:55pm On Nov 13, 2015
Mc4larin:



You gotta be kidding me!
So if your dad calls you and tell you "I have arranged a lady for you to marry". What will be the first thing that will come to your mind? You better stop deceiving yourself

Brother forget if its someone I like and also av all the basic knowledge in islam (very knowledgeable islamically) y not mind u provided I like her
There is no force marriage in islam

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by Rilwayne001: 2:56pm On Nov 13, 2015
Well, I have a girlfriend. smiley

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by dragnet: 2:57pm On Nov 13, 2015
they'll date, court & magistrate for 6 years, then a little past the 6th year the guy would 'wake up' and conclude that the lady isn't a wife material...
cheesy

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by personal59: 2:57pm On Nov 13, 2015
maryhaam:
really

Yes moriam really in fact I av so many leaving example someone in a relationship for 5yrs that hit d rock nd someone who marry within a year of meeting and are doing fine may allah uphold dem

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by dragnet: 3:00pm On Nov 13, 2015
Rilwayne001:
Well, I have a girlfriend. smiley
I hope you don't mean this in the real sense?

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by personal59: 3:01pm On Nov 13, 2015
daridex:

that was then.....looking at how things are right now, people are shadows of themselves...many are fair weather.... so its better you know your spouse too well before jumping into hell

Oga mi it takes a life time to know someone all u pray for is taofeek from allah forget all this all u need to know is how groom the person is in the knowledge of islam and the akheeda the person av but claiming to know my brother forget if I really want u nd I also love u I can pretend for u till u marry me bt wen we start leaving together then u knw who I am

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by Rilwayne001: 3:03pm On Nov 13, 2015
dragnet:
I hope you don't mean this in the real sense?

I mean it.

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by daridex(m): 3:10pm On Nov 13, 2015
personal59:


Oga mi it takes a life time to know someone all u pray for is taofeek from allah forget all this all u need to know is how groom the person is in the knowledge of islam and the akheeda the person av but claiming to know my brother forget if I really want u nd I also love u I can pretend for u till u marry me bt wen we start leaving together then u knw who I am
sense in there
Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by Trustworthiness: 3:12pm On Nov 13, 2015
maryhaam:
really

As the brother said you do not need to court before you marry in Islam.

I met my wife through a brother that I discussed with that I need a wife. Then I am ready to get married.
The brother informed me about the sister and I gave him go ahead to investigate more about her. Although, we have earlier discuss of what I want from a sister to be my wife.

Firstly, she has to be a practicing muslim and not a muslim by name as we have, so common in our society now.
Secondly, she has the knowledge of what she is practicing. She need not to have memorise the Quran and hadiths but read them frequently to keep herself abreast of the teachings of Islam. Most Muslims practice islam today without striving to acquire the knowledge of what the are practising, thereby misbehaving.

I met her finally in August of the same year and we got married in February 3rd of the following year.

A week after I met her that I declare my intention, i met her parents as well to informed them of my intention of marrying their daughter. Is the parent that actually delay the marriage till February the following year.

Alhamdulillah, we are happily married and we have been making progress in our marital life.

The funniest thing is that I do not have up to 100k in my account as at the time we got married and she new about it. Today, we own our own house, car and averagely financial okay. Because we plan together and together we seek Allah's blessings and guidance.

Yes, we have our own ups and downs but we resolves issues using the Quran and hadiths of the prophet as commanded by Allah in the Holy Qur’ân.

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by Humblebloke(m): 3:13pm On Nov 13, 2015
olawaleqaasim:


I truly laughed when I saw 'Arabian' religion. The moment it is Arabian it isn't Islam. Islam is worldwide, there is nothing Arabian about it. It is applicable everywhere except where isn't created by Allah.


grin...... I understand your plight,about a year ago.... I was a muslim too.... I still speak arabic,I love the language.


Its not an arabian religionundecided.....originated from arabian land, an arabian man was the main character...... Texts are written in arabic which is the language allah loves the most.... Stories are basically about the arabian way of life...

You bought their culture and neglected your own culture....it's .really pathetic

You should try going through the history books......

The other middle eastern religion.....christianity..... has got more adherents.....its ''worldwide'' tooundecided

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by olayinka63: 3:17pm On Nov 13, 2015
Jazakumullahu khayra

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by olawaleqaasim(m): 3:22pm On Nov 13, 2015
Humblebloke:



grin...... I understand your plight,about a year ago.... I was a muslim too.... I still speak arabic,I love the language.


Its not an arabian religionundecided.....originated from arabian land, an arabian man was the main character...... Texts are written in arabic which is the language allah loves the most.... Stories are basically about the arabian way of life...



You bought their culture and neglected your own culture....it's .really pathetic

You should try going through the history books......

The other middle eastern religion.....christianity..... has got more adherents.....its ''worldwide'' tooundecided


I get your point, but then if religions have certificates then that of Islam is the Qur-aan and of Christianity is the Bible ( I am mentioning Christianity because you referred to its universality). In the texts of the Qur-aan, it is a message sent to the whole of the world, but for the Bible it is a message sent to the Israelites, so that distinguishes them about being universal or not.

As per you happening to being a Muslim in the past, no offence mate, but the truth is at that time you haven't grasped what exactly you were practising.

So, if I may ask, from a brother to another, which do you practise now?

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by Abdulhakeem7(m): 3:25pm On Nov 13, 2015
daridex:
op. if we didnt date or court, how i go marry am

jazakallah khair
dating doesn't determine marriage,u can chose her wen u are ready for marriage,d best way to go abt getting married is going through a murobi (someone in form of ur alfa),tel him u're ready for marriage and u need some1 with so and so qualities or if u already have some1 in mind let ur alfa know. In short u just have to be connected thru a trusted person first b4 d 2 of u can start talking. This is because u wil hav som1 guiding u if something goes wrong. Afta speaking with her and u're both comfortable with each other, start ur istikhara for Allah to guide u and if u are best for each other Allah will make d nikkah come up and I promise u if u obey Allah by keeping His rules u wouldn't regret and u wil hav a fruitful and peaceful marriage.......dating leads to disobedience to Allah. May Allah guide us all and make His deen easier for us all.

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by olawaleqaasim(m): 3:32pm On Nov 13, 2015
Humblebloke:



grin...... I understand your plight,about a year ago.... I was a muslim too.... I still speak arabic,I love the language.


Its not an arabian religionundecided.....originated from arabian land, an arabian man was the main character...... Texts are written in arabic which is the language allah loves the most.... Stories are basically about the arabian way of life...

You bought their culture and neglected your own culture....it's .really pathetic

You should try going through the history books......

The other middle eastern religion.....christianity..... has got more adherents.....its ''worldwide'' tooundecided

As per buying cultures and being pathetic about it, if we go plainly logical, if it isn't pathetic for you to put on shirts and trousers, have haircuts (of celebrities), etc for they are not traceable to being your culture, then it isn't pathetic to adopt an Arabian culture if supremacy is seen in its method and positive outcome.

However, I just described it as Arabian culture not Arabian religion.

There is a big difference between culture and religion.

Religion has a divine touch and have believers from different walks of life

Culture is carved by humans and sectarian in nature. If you aren't of the race, you can't do it.........and beauty is no one is practising 100% his culture today, because they subject those ones they want to delete to civilisation.

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Re: Islam Forbids Boyfriends And Girlfriends by Humblebloke(m): 3:38pm On Nov 13, 2015
Your fellow afterlife believers will disagree with you on that...they think the jewish god was sent to cleanse the sins of mankindgrin......to save every one from ''hell''


If I ask you for some evidence, you will only quote the pages of a book written over a thousand years ago by primitive men
which I will need ''faith'' to buy


Nothing..... I'm faithless

Cc olawaleqasim

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