dovetark:


Lol, no matter how serious a situation is, when humor is thrown at me, I can't help but laugh... which I am doing right now. but at the end of the day bro, the problem won't be solved. So you can share an experience on how you ended a relationship with a girl before and I can learn from it. I haven't formally initiated a break up before and that is why I ask.

Same goes to you @Pennah

anytexy:
very simple just gradually start to CARELESS that settles it. Thank me later alright.

ibietela2:


Tell her it's OVER between you two

kennyman2000:
Hmmmmm... You or your girl should relocate and sieze all contacts with eachother. If that's done for like 5 months. The feelings you've for one another ought to vanish..

KiidaACE:

Just harden your heart,,Gaddammit!!

Icecomrade:
:

Have you guys been banging each other?

Stop!!!!!

If you keep going between her legs, u can't get away.

If you need to jerk off so badly, explore other options. Just stay away from her p**

dovetark:


Done that several times!!!

Harkynkunle:
..... Hmmmmnn... Just call her and tell her: Bae i wouldn't know if u will be able to continue with me..coz i've got a bad news here, (mind u by this time u will be sobering and almost wanna cry) Now tell her: Bae i just tested positive to HIV (now break down in so much tears) and see her reaction.... Thank me Later bro....lol
On a serious note ...every relationship has two sides and most definitely u gonna share of both parts i.e Sweeten part and d sadden part...Baba it's not how far but how well...if u truly love ur bae stick to her and try to make things right... since u guys had once been Love birds certainly u can always be..... Talking from Xperience Man....Ladies are just too flexibke

dovetark:
We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.

We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.

I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.

Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.

ibietela2:


And?

My gf sent me a text that it's over when i was sleeping, maybe you want to try that? Then stop any communication for sometime

dovetark:
We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.

We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.

I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.

Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.

Pennah:
U see! these are some of the problems related with long time relationship


Op pardon my initial obtuse idea

Lasgidy1:
If I were u, I'll commit murder and commit suicide, in that case, no winner, no vanquished!
Anyways, today's my bday. Me and shalewa go f_ck ourselves until there's nothing left of us

olaBanks:
If you feel its not working, just walk away! It that simple. Try to limits physical contacts with her(and every other forms of communication), get very busy with something, be disciplined not to visit your past, but concentrate on building a better self! And lastly, don't think about it often! Just be! Time will take care of the rest!

jomoh:
Give yourselves break. Separate for sometime and don't think of being friends. Just break up greet each other with mutual respect whenever you see each other.

There should be absolutely no communications between the two of you during that time.

You should even try to date other people. If your relationship with her was meant to be, you will find out that you start missing each other.

Nzeh12:
[b]The fact is that you might end this and never find a relationship as good as u guys once were. [/b]As some one said, avoid sex for now, only meet in public places, try doing New things together, Don't see each other often, maybe u two lost value for each other, all these might help regain that. Just try to make it work again cos d possibility of u regretting a breakup in future is high since u guys were once good together and you can still be.

Lasgidy1:
If I were u, I'll commit murder and commit suicide, in that case, no winner, no vanquished!
Anyways, today's my bday. Me and shalewa go f_ck ourselves until there's nothing left of us

acxlers2014:
I know what you as I have gone down that toad before.... " life indeed happens".

I am a proponent of relationship as it is a tough decision to get into one and maintain one. Relationships should be built on the foundation of Love and total loyalty and If you agree with me Sir, that is a tall order especially with so many distractions out there. When the spark begins to diminish it does not mean that you have stopped loving and a break up is not neccesarily next option.

What is pretty obvious from your thesis is that - she won't let you go as she seems to be keen to seeing this through to marriage.

I don't know what happened you guys but this is gonna be a big one for you.

If I may ask? What actually happened? Why do you want to break up?

dovetark:
We've dated officially for over 3 years, I have to admit she's a nice girl when her heart is in it, but certain events have occurred which has left a once blissful relationship sour. Prior to the series of events that have brought us to this point, I used to feel like a superhuman with her in my life (for real I could do anything I set my mind to do and succeed), but all that has changed... Life happened!!! We've both been hit by series of events that have adjusted our perspective on how we view life which has undoubtedly affected us. Since the beginning of this year, we've been on a free fall with our emotions. We've not had intense quarrels neither have we had intense passion being together of late (I admit, they both spice up a relationship) and we have grossly neglected each others feelings. We both played our roles in getting to where we are now, I feel the door closing in fast on us and I can't stand this flip-flop of emotions involved.

We've tried taking a break and that didn't work, I have suggested severally that we just remain friends and end the relationship but I really don't know why she doesn't agree to that. We can't just stand each others bullshit anymore but still a part of us wants it to go back to how it used to be I guess that's the reason we've been hanging on.

I am not here to cry over spilled milk, rather, I am here to seek advice on how I would successful end this relationship without it having profound effects on my psychology and emotions while maintaining optimum productivity as an individual. Please your comments are needed and appreciated. Thank you Nairaland.

Please don't just read, I need your suggestions.

Abbykem:
All you need is open communication. You guys should sit down and and talk about your happiness and what you want. If that does not work, you can limit d way u chat and talk on fone