Fellows I need help.

During my early uni days I got carried away by extra activities which pretty much cost me academically and even if I am among the best in my dept my result suffered, as a result my CGPA was embarrassing to say the least.

Upon resuming 300 Level, a good friend of mine did not resume, after a few weeks I was worried as you would expect so I traveled down to his family's house to inquire since his number was not going through and was told about his sad demise. He had an accident which cost him his life. I was saddened by what had happened because he was really good and was most probably the 4 best student in the dept, strong CGPA, a 2.1, he was really good not just academically but he had pure natural talent and the way I see it was the hope of his family.

On my way back so many thoughts were running through my mind....my result is poor and there's absolutely no way I can improve on that and still graduate with a 2.1 or even a 2.2 so I made a resolution.

On getting to the hostel I reflected on the whole thing and decided not to tell anyone but our course adviser. My friend was not the type that socialize, some persons in the dept don't even know him that well. He does all his things low-key, he's a very private person so I made an arrangement with our course adviser where I managed to convince him that it will be a shame if he's hard work is allowed to go to waste and amount to nothing, as usual with financial persuasion he allowed me to write his exams, I wrote both our exams until graduation where I graduated with a 3rd class and him a 2.1.

To cut a long story short, I did a change of name and began using his result; all this without anybody's knowledge but me and our course adviser.

It was very complicated but somehow I managed to use his result and even studied abroad with it, got my masters and other professional certificate before I got a 6 figure job in Lagos and came back home.
Ever since I got back I have been doing really well for myself and I have gone as far as taking good care of his family financially as well as training his siblings in school and presently sponsoring 2 in the university. I rented an apartment and bought his dad a car, I know it will never suffice for what their son may have done but I'm only trying the little I can to compensate for their loss as well as for pretending to be their son without their knowledge.

About 8 months ago I met a girl and we fell in love, we've been dating and 2 months ago I pooped the question and she accepted. We've been making our wedding arrangements but ever since I feel I have been hiding my real self from her and decided to tell her what I did many years ago. Initially there was no reaction but then this week she came to me and said she cannot get married to a fraud and gave me back the ring.
I'm scared and confuse she may ruin everything, she may reveal my secret which obviously will get me fired and most definitely a jail time. I don't know what to do, I have tried to reason with her and have done way too many explanations but she's not bulging. I don't want to go to jail and I don't want to lose my job. I'm really confuse. What can I do to change her mind or make her not to tell on me or get me fired or even worse go to jail?

Please I need help, real help please....you guys should share your wise words. I can't tell any of my friends, I can't tell anyone about my secret, this is the only place I can pour our my heart and seek advice.

I am dying inside. I have gone through a lot living this life of lie and its so hard but I cannot come clean, not now maybe not ever.


Cc: Lalasticlala

Why did you stab yourself, you should have died with that secret. What she doesnt know, wont kill her.

You Killed urself that very moment u told her......You made a very wrong decision at 1st,just pray she's the type that keep secret if not......I see u behinde the Bars..........

If this is true, I am speechless. Or typless rather
OP have committed several offenses!
Against the law
Against God
And against the dead.

I can't advise you on how to deal with your lady amicably,
Just ask God for forgiveness
And surrender yourself to the authority.

No advice here can do you good on THE LONG RUN.

end time foolishness

OP go tell the boy's family what you did and you will be free from this bondage......because an open secret does not hurt anyone ...pray before you go so you would be forgiven...forget it she can't snitch on you

@ Op, this is a very delicate matter that should be handled with wisdom...

Nobody is perfect, to me, what you did wasn't that bad.. You made the decision out of a difficult situation..

First thing you should do is to start making plans on building your own business, so incase the truth later comes out, you will have something to fall back on...

The truth will be out one day, so the best thing I believe you can do is to buy yourself some time to gather enough capital for a nice business..

Forgive yourself and ask God for forgiveness.. Find a subtle way to tell your friend's family what you did, though the problem here is that they may take advantage of the the situation and ask you for too much (if you know what I mean), but still, I believe you owe them that...
As for the lady, she isn't worth spending the rest of your life with.. For goodness sake, a woman that is supposed to spend the rest of her life with you should be able to forgive you of that..
Let her go and pray she doesn't tell anyone that matters, cos I think she will eventually tell someone..
It's a crazy world we live in Bro, don't beat yourself much cos of this.. Stay strong, you will get over this, trust me..

muheewa:
You Killed urself that very moment u told her......You made a very wrong decision at 1st,just pray she's the type that keep secret if not......I see u behinde the Bars..........

women don't keep secrets..

misspicy:
OP go tell the boy's family what you did and you will be free from this bondage......because an open secret does not hurt anyone ...pray before you go so you would be forgiven...forget it she can't snitch on you

chai! op, follow this advice and go to kirikiri..


dude, u don't know all those "he killed our son because of his results" ish?

PureWays:
@ Op, this is a very delicate matter that should be handled with wisdom...

Nobody is perfect, to me, what you did wasn't that bad.. You made the decision out of a difficult situation..

First thing you should do is to start making plans on building your own business, so incase the truth later comes out, you will have something to fall back on...

The truth will be out one day, so the best thing I believe you can do is to buy yourself some time to gather enough capital for a nice business..

Forgive yourself and ask God for forgiveness.. Find a subtle way to tell your friend's family what you did, though the problem here is that they may take advantage of the the situation and ask you for too much (if you know what I mean), but still, I believe you owe them that...
As for the lady, she isn't worth spending the rest of your life with.. For goodness sake, a woman that is supposed to spend the rest of her life with you should be able to forgive you of that..
Let her go and pray she doesn't tell anyone that matters, cos I think she will eventually tell someone..
It's a crazy world we live in Bro, don't beat yourself much cos of this.. Stay strong, you will get over this, trust me..

Am sorry to burst your bubble, she is worth it and she is a very good woman,how many can resist marrying a comfortable man knowing how he made his money,she's very rare bred. Don't give someone a bad name to hang him or her.

Truth be told.....you have to be wise about this whole matter

If the lady can't marry you because of your past it means she can't keep quite about it .she probably tell someone close to her to be free from heart .that persons tells to other person so on and on ......it be publicized already.


Please keep this lady alive ..you seem desperate and you can do anything to shut her up.... note you be the frist person to be called to police station ......don't kill ooooo

Starting from after you change name. ....the beginning of success depended on you and you worked hard to get to were you are now....

Contact your lawyer to know any thing that can be done about it first
Before maybe leave the country and start your life some were else not too expensive





I have spoken

henryhemon:


Am sorry to burst your bubble, she is worth it and she is a very good woman,how many can resist marrying a comfortable man knowing how he made his money,she's very rare bred. Don't give someone a bad name to hang him or her.

Nah Bro.. I sense Pride in her..
She wants a perfect marriage, that kind of woman can't be with you through thick and thin, though I may be wrong but I think it's up to the Op to decide on that. Judging by his write up and story, he should be smart enough to see that if I'm correct..

How many times have you listened to 10 crack commandments by notrious BIG in your lifetime?

3. Never trust nobody

7. keeep your family and business completely separated

How could you make such a fatal blunder in your life?

You coulda just had a small wedding at the registry with the girl let her cry all she wants send am go dubai for shopping she go quiet. Blame the economy for why you dont want a big wedding {at least apc fvck up for favor you} that theres jist going on in the office that staff will be reduced anytime soon and you know youre not making the list but you just need to keep a low profile and as a matter of fact youre looking for another job after the wedding. Automatically you don discharge office people coming to your wedding be dat and you can successfully have your small wedding.

The rest of your career get hostile anytime she attempt visit you for office. Scook up a story to keep her away. Anything dey she shuld call or text. Then those office peeps let them stay were they are - office. No need coming to your house anything, wetin dem dey find? keep your friends from secondary school plenty so if una wan do anything na dem go full ground throway that way she no go feel say you get plenty skeleton inside cupboard.

Shes returned your ring.
Stop wasting your time, shes never coming back. whats love without trust?

Trust is what she believes, you made a lie obvious. babanla fvck up.

Have you not heard that a man who does not lie to his wife does not respect her?

See, find a way to get the babe to just free you, if she go jist one of her friends remember its only a matchstick that it takes to start a bush fire?

This na major fvck up i swear. anybody sugarcoating this is lying to you

[quote author=PureWays post=40172766] Nah Bro.. I sense Pride in her..
She wants a perfect marriage, that kind of woman can't be with you through thick and thin, though I may be wrong but I think it's up to the Op to decide on that. Judging by his write up and story, he should be smart enough to see that if

There are people who have very high morals that's no pride. And it's going be difficult for her to trust him.

TYPELESS........ TYPELESS........... THAT'S HOW YOU MAKE ME FEEL.

if i dare say, BRO YOU ARE ON A VERY LONG THING. buh not to worry, i'll always pray 4 u.

Chimo!!!!!

I am surprised that Nairalanders can even support this Fraudulent Op.

Maybe wen u guys die, someone else will start using ur degrees to work.



No good woman will stick with u if they know the truth.



Your wealth is ill-gotten, it will leave at last.

Deadly confession part 1.
Feturing Kanayo O Kanayo aka the identity thief
Mercy Johnson aka the stubborn girlfriend

Just tryna get her attention and express ur undying love for her and also explain intoto why u opened up to her anyway.... a lot of begging to be done....

but u self, to reveal such secret need someone signing an agreement incase they faulted u can sue

You have to find time to confess to his parents...

If they forgive you, then you safe from jail. If not, you just have to resign and leave the country or just move far away and start fresh with a clear conscience

what about the date of birth, how did you do that?

I am confused So you been using your friend dead identity? Are you sure that not what you planned all along? Since he was close to the best academically at school n you were falling behind you came with this idea of doing his work and yours too?

Na K-leg he had the higher marks n you the lower on score, you then use that to your advantage n made a successful life for yourself. Than you told that girl the truth about who you really are n she linked the pieces up.

If you were going to lie you should have died with the lie. Did you expect it to be roses? Smh.

i can't solve this problem.

usually, the most effective way would be to just kill her and silence her forever, but, i'm thinking that's not what you really want/need to do at this point.

however, the best thing you can hope for is that she doesn't tell anyone. and that if she does tell someone, then the person is inconsequential. i mean, i don't get it. if you studied abroad with his certificate, then it means you got good at what you were pretending to be, right? i mean, it's fraud, but still . . . she should at least understand that, and it's perfectly fine if she doesn't want to live with you any more, but she should at least shut up . . .

come to think of it, why are you asking us for advice? you're literally asking us to help you break the law. we should hack your ip address and find out where you're posting this from so we can personally hand you over to the police.

Lol. Don't worry. She'll come back. She's only being stubborn. You did the right thing by telling her. What she did is just first reaction

Looks like city hunter ( John Lee) story

lekjons:
no woman keep secrets..

Funny You.........there are some that do keep secrets ooooo

Do a change of name and start afresh may God 4giv u

Harbosede02:
Looks like city hunter ( John Lee) story

bae
you know dey sleep?

stupidity:
If this is true, I am speechless. Or typless rather
OP have committed several offenses!
Against the law
Against God
And against the dead.

I can't advise you on how to deal with your lady amicably,
Just ask God for forgiveness
And surrender yourself to the authority.

No advice here can do you good on THE LONG RUN.

Easy to type..

DoroMega:
Why did you stab yourself, you should have died with that secret. What she doesnt know, wont kill her.

No mind them, na all this hollywood/nollywood movies dey cause this nonsense. Is she God why most u tell her.
Now the cat is out of the bag. You should let her be and prepare for the worse.
If I were you I'll start saving and investing just incase you got locked up, you will have something to fall back to when you're out.
Pls don't do something stupid! And never again let a secret like this out not even to your own broda. Again let her be, don't contact her again, don't beg nothing. Just dey pray and ask God for forgiveness He's the only one who can save you from this.

dis story get k-leg o, how were u able to do IT defence, seminar presentatn n project defence using his matric numba n urs with one personality? Do u mean in d whole dept nobody else knew his matric numba? So many questns to answer. All d same forgt dt ur gf. She cant do more dan a dead rat. Even if she tell someone, its inconsequential except she expose ur thru d media/social media. If u happen to find luv again, keep dis secret of urs to ursef. But again wot did ur parents/family/siblings say abt u changing ur identity?

Op, follow the advice of that woman above me, misspicy or werrin she call herself sef. Just call ur late friends family and explain things to them, if they are gud ppl, they'd go the extramile to defend you, cos ur even doing them a favour. And wat if u have allowed the guys education to waste nko?, ur 3rd class is nt a guarantee that u wnt get a gud job.