Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,201,140 members, 7,977,283 topics. Date: Thursday, 17 October 2024 at 02:46 AM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? (2287 Views)
61-Year-Old Woman Gives Birth To Triplets After 40 Years In Marriage. Photos / "I Caught My Wife & Driver Making Love In My House" - Lagos Businessman / My Husband Killed Our Love The Day He Started Cheating On Me (2) (3) (4)
Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by sparkles2015(f): 1:44pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
My dear friends,my husband and i have been married for over four years and we are blessed with two children (a boy and girl). For me, our marriage has been the best so far but nearly a year ago i noticed that the game has not been as usual. This has kept me wondering. Things my hubby would joyfully do for me before has become a thing of the past and i begin to wonder if the love is still intact or has the love faded or worn-out? I'd like to learn from experienced ladies and gents, ways of rejuvenating love in a marriage. |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Highcuerayte: 1:47pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
It's natural dear.... it declines |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by ineedhelpfast: 1:49pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
This often happens in every marriage. I'll advice u look within. Also, google ways of spicing up your marriage. Shalom! 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 1:53pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Update yourself, you've probably become boring to him. |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by sparkles2015(f): 2:00pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
I appreciate this comment coming from a man and thanks a lot. Brandnew2: 1 Like |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Izzystevens: 2:04pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Brandnew2: Gbam! We ladies tend to relax once we are in, all the touch ups and little efforts we add to make ourselves attractive and wanted are often jettisoned. My opinion tho. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:06pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
The truth is that nothing remains the same and that EVERYTHING changes. Did you expect your marriage to forever remain the same? It isn't possible. Your first and foremost priority should be the relationship you have with yourself and if you get it right everything else will fall into place. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by ITbomb(m): 2:07pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Were you friends before marriage or was a meet up, sex and marriage. Because after the initial passion rush has faded what keeps the marriage is friendship, children and the commitment to remain together. Never love 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:07pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Highcuerayte: It can also incline, I am speaking from experience. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by IamforGod: 2:08pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Izzystevens: Excuse me! Is she the only one in the relationship? Why is it a lady's duty to spice up a relationship? If he felt that the relationship was boring after 2. Kids why can't he spice it up rather than giving the lady that is taking care of 2 toddlers stress? 1 Like |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:10pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Izzystevens: If it needed effort to get it going, it will need effort to keep it going. I don't want relationships that are based on effort, I prefer to relax. Relationships can be so easy. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by sparkles2015(f): 2:12pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Wow! Learning already. Keep them coming please. Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:22pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Brandnew2: Is it her job to entertain him? 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Izzystevens: 2:25pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
babe, weda we like it or not, ladies own the home, we make out of it wat we want it to be. Besides, we have d "remote control" of our husbands, learn to use it!!! **runs out of thread b4 una catch me** IamforGod: 1 Like |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by PresVA: 2:26pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
I don't know what to say but I know that love just like a flower needs water/manure for continuous growth/blossom. I think both of you may be placing ALL attention on your kids thereby ignoring yourselves.. Do you still do those stuffs you loved doing together when the kids hadn't arrived? Do you still go out together? Do you still play together? Do you still hv time for some heart to heart talks? Do you still listen to each other's concerns or you're all about the kids? Do you pray together? Eettccc... I think you guys need to do stuffs that will rekindle the togetherness/bond or even make it stronger. .. Or could he be getting attention from someone outside? |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:31pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
PresVA: This is what most marriage counsellors suggest and this is also why their success rate remains so low. |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:45pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Mindfulness: No. She should make herself more attractive, sexy and hot. Get in shape if she added more weight. Update her style in case she relaxed. Update her beauty regimen in terms of getting facials done, spa, manicure, perfumes to smell nice e.t.c. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by PresVA: 2:46pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Mindfulness:so what do you suggest? |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Olasco93: 3:23pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
@sparkles2015, Love is a seed, Love grows. (A woman is in charge of any relationship/marriage) but apply wisdom and don't disrescpect your man. Since he's your husband, i would advice you call him and you people should sit down face to face and discuss about your marriage, talk to him about how the joy of being married has faded away. You two have to be best of friends and communicate often. It's a good thing that you noticed this early, it shows your are wise. If this persist and you two don't find a solution to it (sorry to say) ''your position as his wife is at stak.'' Because if you ask any woman that divorced why she divorced their answer is aways ''Am not happy in the marriage.'' So you better avoid the danger in the future now that is DAY... |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Highcuerayte: 3:24pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Mindfulness: |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Highcuerayte: 3:25pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Mindfulness:I will be pleased to tap from your wealth of experience |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by danton(m): 4:19pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
It's common, The problem is you stopped looking good just because you got married... You need to continue looking good before............ |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 5:03pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Brandnew2: Are you telling us that people need to stress themselves out to have happy relationships? |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 5:04pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Highcuerayte: How much are you willing to pay? |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 5:12pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Mindfulness:Everything about women is stressful. Even making hair is a lot of stress compared to this little things i mentioned. |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 5:14pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Brandnew2: You don't make sense. |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 5:28pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Mindfulness:You have refused to understand. There is even a bible verse that supports it. Most beautiful women keep beauty regimens and they do it successfully so no one has an excuse. Whats the stress in going to the spa once a month? what is wrong with getting Facials occasionally? I'M NOT HERE TO TRADE INSULTS OR ARGUE. If you don't agree then let me be. Other reasonable people will see the sense in it. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 5:33pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Brandnew2: Your Bible says the following: 1 Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” 1 Peter 3:3-4 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. Proverbs 31:30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. 1 Timothy 2:9 Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, 1 Peter 3:3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 5:38pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Mindfulness:None of the bible verses you posted above speaks against a woman keeping herself clean and attractive. since you are against it because it's stressful, then i guess your husband prefers you being dirty and unkempt. |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 5:47pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Brandnew2: Whatever I do, I do it for myself in the first place. I am very selfish and proud of it. I don't work out to please anyone, I do because it is fun and makes me feel fit. I don't shower twice a day because it pleases anyone, I do it because it makes me feel refreshed. My spouse does the same and each of us is happy. The problem in most relationships is that the people involved expect the other to make them feel good when they are not able to do it for themselves. How can anyone make you happy if you are not able to do it for yourself? |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 5:56pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Mindfulness:Good for you. |
Re: Please Help! How Do I Renew Our Love In Marriage? by Nobody: 5:57pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
Brandnew2: |
10 Types Of Husbands- See Where You Belong / Photos: Spending Time With Mom Vs Spending Time With Dad / I Want To Leave My Marriage,now Or Later?
Viewing this topic: 1 guest(s)
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 41 |