This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer. God did not just make Eve for making sake; He made her for Adam's need to be truncated.
CC lalasticlala

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Really revealing write up..... however, ladies should not lower their standards of the kinda man they want because of 'scarcity' because a man dosent define you. A hard-working, industrious lady would not find it too difficult to find a man but when you lazy and you want to marry a made man, then sorry is your middle name.

omotayor123




Lalasticlala please

tharealbkk:
This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer. God did not just make Eve for making sake; He made her for Adam's need to be truncated.
CC lalasticlala

BRO SEE YOU ARE SO CORRECT EVEN IFA AND SANGO KNOWS..... I AM INSPIRED BY THIS, REAL MEN TRAIN ANY LADY THAT COMES AROUND THEM FOR SUCCESS, FAKE MEN LEAD LADIES TO THEIR BED...... A TRUE WIFE LOOKS FOR CONTENT IN HER MAN NOT CONTEXT.....

tripplephi:



BRO SEE YOU ARE SO CORRECT EVEN IFA AND SANGO KNOWS..... I AM INSPIRED BY THIS, REAL MEN TRAIN ANY LADY THAT COMES AROUND THEM FOR SUCCESS, FAKE MEN LEAD LADIES TO THEIR BED...... A TRUE WIFE LOOKS FOR CONTENT IN HER MAN NOT CONTEXT.....

Abi O.

vaseline is abelevle

Husband scarcity?


But people are getting married every Saturday na




But we men sef should try to measure up na.
Won't you like to give your kids the best things in life?


Make sure you don't forget these words of the OP


A husband is that man God made and then saw
that it may be hard for him to really actualize his
purpose for making him, without a help mate and
then made the woman and gave to him, and he
felt complete and fulfilled.

This scarcity of husbands doesn't affect Anambra girls.

Endtimes scarcity

Great write - up op.. .. hope the ladies learn quick.

End time




Meanwhile if u need sumone to grow ur future wiv I'm available though I still de on Garri levels buh d future is bright! Hala.....!

WebSurfer:
Endtimes scarcity

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Really revealing write up..... however, ladies should not lower their standards of the kinda man they want because of 'scarcity' because a man dosent define you. A hard-working, industrious lady would not find it too difficult to find a man but when you lazy and you want to marry a made man, then sorry is your middle name.

omotayor123




Lalasticlala please

You are on point.. Ore Mii! Well said.

No matter how scares husbands are, yours will definitely find you. Ladies keep calm and drink malt

Nice write up btw
Now lemme write this piece,where i work as an IT student,i met a lady who resumed work on wednesday, since am a lively person in no time we got chatting and den told me her problem, she married her husband when he had nothing to his name,they have been married 4 10yrs now with 3 kids. They went from bad to good ,the husband got a new job and everything became rosy 4 him with dah he started misbehaving,knowing fully well she dropped out of sch cos her parents died in a car accident without anyone to help her,she dropped out of d uni.well after 9yrs of fending for the family with d little she gets from her job ,the husband who finally gets a good job now wants to bring in a new wife,he has seized her phone and she cant make contacts with her customer,he drops 1k for her and her 3 children each day 4 dem to take care of themselves,he has stopped paying d children fees,so dey r out of sch....what am i saying in essence ,some guys are just not worth being there for dem from the beginning.i want a ready made man ,cos i plan to b a ready made woman,and am not gonna drop d standard....

Genea:
Nice write up btw
Now lemme write this piece,where i work as an IT student,i met a lady who resumed work on wednesday, since am a lively person in no time we got chatting and den told me her problem, she married her husband when he had nothing to his name,they have been married 4 10yrs now with 3 kids. They went from bad to good ,the husband got a new job and everything became rosy 4 him with dah he started misbehaving,knowing fully well she dropped out of sch cos her parents died in a car accident without anyone to help her,she dropped out of d uni.well after 9yrs of fending for the family with d little she gets from her job ,the husband who finally gets a good job now wants to bring in a new wife,he has seized her phone and she cant make contacts with her customer,he drops 1k for her and her 3 children each day 4 dem to take care of themselves,he has stopped paying d children fees,so dey r out of sch....what am i saying in essence ,some guys are just not worth being there for dem from the beginning.i want a ready made man ,cos i plan to b a ready made woman,and am not gonna drop d standard....

Lolzz and not all men are the same.. that's her case, thou i have seen many such of this case... Marry some1 U understands and understands U

tharealbkk:
Lolzz and not all men are the same.. that's her case, thou i have seen many such of this case... Marry some1 U understands and understands U

well she did marry someone like dah,as d saying goes u know d tru character of someone wen they av money,he now has money and nw sees her below his class

Genea:
well she did marry someone like dah,as d saying goes u know d tru character of someone wen they av money,he now has money and nw sees her below his class

Eyya Sorry for her.. lets her just be patience, time shall tells

tharealbkk:
Eyya Sorry for her.. lets her just be patience, time shall tells

well i just hope he doesnt do it to d new wife

Omotayor123:
No matter how scares husbands are, yours will definitely find you.
Ladies keep calm and drink malt

hehehe and u will the be the FIFTH wife

Genea:
well i just hope he doesnt do it to d new wife

It's Vice Versa. definitely the new wife will be the 1 to trouble him

tharealbkk:
It's Vice Versa. definitely the new wife will be the 1 to trouble him

i do hope so

amtaken:
In the past men used to marry many wives, unlike now..





Am not saying I support that though....



This scarcity of husbands doesn't affect Anambra girls.

Funny U. shey Anambra girls no plenty for market?

Anambra girls are hot marriage materials.

tharealbkk:

Funny U. shey Anambra girls no plenty for market?

Genea:
Nice write up btw
Now lemme write this piece,where i work as an IT student,i met a lady who resumed work on wednesday, since am a lively person in no time we got chatting and den told me her problem, she married her husband when he had nothing to his name,they have been married 4 10yrs now with 3 kids. They went from bad to good ,the husband got a new job and everything became rosy 4 him with dah he started misbehaving,knowing fully well she dropped out of sch cos her parents died in a car accident without anyone to help her,she dropped out of d uni.well after 9yrs of fending for the family with d little she gets from her job ,the husband who finally gets a good job now wants to bring in a new wife,he has seized her phone and she cant make contacts with her customer,he drops 1k for her and her 3 children each day 4 dem to take care of themselves,he has stopped paying d children fees,so dey r out of sch....what am i saying in essence ,some guys are just not worth being there for dem from the beginning.i want a ready made man ,cos i plan to b a ready made woman,and am not gonna drop d standard....

How do you wanna get a ready made man? Do you just "want" these men and then wait till one comes and chyks you? Do you go chyking these made men confidently? Do you ask you friends to matchmake you with one? I'm asking because a guy wants a hot babe, he goes in for the kill, he goes after what he wants. How do you get this made man?

These are signs of End time..

As usual, its always the women's fault.

Marriage is a very big deal in Nigeria hey... I couldn't care less about finding a husband. Career first to feed the family I already have. That's my opinion

Your facts has in reality become the opposite. “WIFE SCARCITY” .... Not every woman makes a good wife.! Sorry to say but we all know how materialistic ladies of dis generation are. D will stick with u when the going is good, u got money n fame. What happens when u lose everyting? How many will want to stick by u? So even if men with vision wants to settle down, where are the ladies that are willing to start from scratch with u? I agreed with ur write up, but wana state categorically here dat it is now actually “WIFE SCARCITY

tommychow:


How do you wanna get a ready made man? Do you just "want" these men and then wait till one comes and chyks you? Do you go chyking these made men confidently? Do you ask you friends to matchmake you with one? I'm asking because a guy wants a hot babe, he goes in for the kill, he goes after what he wants. How do you get this made man?

dats y we have flirting,i dnt neccessarily have to tell u,i gv u d green light,frnds also help match make

Genea:
dats y we have flirting,i dnt neccessarily have to tell u,i gv u d green light,frnds also help match make

Seen. Good luck on your hunt.