Sex sex sex! That's the topic breaking through ethers of the romantic atmosphere across the globe.

In all ramifications, it can be drawn that the act of Sexual intercourse can indeed change a relationship for good; either to the right direction or otherwise.

The bond that Sex creates in relationships shouldn't be overlooked because even as it could strengthen relationships, it could keep you emotionally attached to the wrong person.

WAITING till after marriage for sex seems religiously appealing at all fronts, and to be honest with you it really is a beautiful thing to behold. However, let us not pretend to be unaware of the numerous disadvantages it holds. (few of which will be treated here)

Thus, before taking a "purity pledge" (i.e. No sex till marriage), let us be realistic at the following levels:

1.) Your Future Sexual Satisfaction is not guaranteed:

This is the major disadvantage of not having sex with your partner till after marriage.

It is true marriage isn't entirely about sex but we can't deny the fact that sexual intimacy makes up a huge part of marriages.

When you haven't had sex with your mate before walking down the aisle, your partner's sexual capability is entirely subjected to guess work which is really a huge risk and if your guess turns out wrong, it most often than not leads to.....

2.) Infidelity:

We're humans. It is in our nature to diversify when our long term investments yield a loss.

Oh yes, that's the word, it's a big loss! Imagine having spent two decades (or more) of your life waiting for your wedding night to have that long envisaged pleasure of intimacy only to be met with an ill-performing partner. It's a huge loss!

At this point, one party or both begin looking for alternative means to attain that long yearned satisfaction. At first, it starts with masturbating and porn addiction, and when it gets out of hand, infidelity sets in.

Body no be firewood you know.

3.) Risk of Impotence:

There's absolutely nothing worse than discovering that you've been entangled to a partner that'll never be able to procreate with you till death do you both part.

What a nightmare that is!

No wonder some people choose to get married only when the wife gets pregnant.

I even recall a neighbour back in Abuja who had an impotent husband. She had to have children with his relations and name them after him just to keep the marriage strong.

Some love strong sha!

4.) Sexual Chemistry:

Supposing everything goes fine and both partners are fit, capable and fertile, they will most definitely be one thing missing: Sexual Chemistry.

For couples who have had each other before walking down the aisle, pleasing each other won't really be difficult because they already know where ticks and how to get into each other's cloud nine. That's the understanding they took time to build. Mind you, everyone's different. That which works for Obi may piss Alhaji off.

It's really hard getting married to someone you don't fully understand and some situations come up where one partner wants MouthAction and the other detests it, or where one partner seeks to try out other positions and the other won't just get any of it.

These could lead to both insatisfaction and infidelity which aren't really good for a lifetime bond.

So, guys, that's it.

I'm not encouraging you to lose your "sexual purity", I'm rather highlighting the disadvantages of what you're getting yourself into and being real about it.

Please don't get me wrong, your purity pledge could come out as a tremendous success (which would be awesome) but assuming you find yourself in any of the situations stated above, know it's because of the decision you took.

Wish you well.

I concur.

I can't believe I ended reading a trashy piece of sheet like this. Sex guarantees nothing in a relationship. If your mind isn't there, no amount of sex will keep you. We fake things that aren't real. In a few years to come, you will confirm that holding on, saves a lot of headaches.
That's why blacks keep feeling marginalised, coz they spend precious time looking for and giving sex, partying and following trends.

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jascon1:
I can't believe I ended reading a trashy piece of sheet like this. Sex guarantees nothing in a relationship. If your mind isn't there, no amount of sex will keep you. We fake things that aren't real. In a few years to come, you will confirm that holding on saves a lot of headaches.
That's why blacks keep feeling marginalised, coz they spend precious time looking for and giving sex, partying and following trends.

I believe you didn't really take your time to read this at all for the following reasons:

1.) Nowhere in the article was it stated that sex guarantees anything

2.) This article doesn't ENCOURAGE pre-marital sex but analyzes the disadvantages of waiting.

3.) The OP never said both parties cannot hold together, et cetera

Take your eye out of your religious bigoted lens for a second and examine this.


How do you define the term "SEX"

If indeed you understand sex solely as a procreation tool then I think I'd just leave you with your definition.

Sex is not just for reproduction, it compliments and enriches intimacy in marriages.

People who tend to "hold on" more often than not tend to endure their marriages (rather than enjoy it) or cheat due to insatisfaction.

This article doesn't castigate or encourage, it simply analyzes. Thank you.

Reiyvinn:


I believe you didn't really take your time to read this at all for the following reasons:

1.) Nowhere in the article was it stated that sex guarantees anything

2.) This article doesn't ENCOURAGE pre-marital sex but analyzes the disadvantages of waiting.

3.) The OP never said both parties cannot hold together, et cetera

Take your eye out of your religious bigoted lens for a second and examine this.


How do you define the term "SEX"

If indeed you understand sex solely as a procreation tool then I think I'd just leave you with your definition.

Sex is not just for reproduction, it compliments and enriches intimacy in marriages.

People who tend to "hold on" more often than not tend to endure their marriages (rather than enjoy it) or cheat due to insatisfaction[b]. Check your statistics again[/b]

This article doesn't castigate or encourage, it simply analyzes. Thank you.

if sex is ur religion, then am a firm believer in abstinence. I won't mince words. I have daughters n if I have no belief, then is woe for them. Would be heretic for me to try to see the other side of sex without conjugal blessings. I begin to wonder how Christians view homosexuality as loathesome, but turn a blind eye to fornication. In my mind, we are being hypocritical. I Condemn sin, even if I'm sinful. Where is our conscience at all? It just ain't right sharing pre-marital bodily fluids and yet feeling good that our bodies are temples of God.
A full grown man in his late twenty or late thirty is still testing kitten, while in most places in the world his mates are raising kids. If you can't hold on, then Get married.
You got no money, you're not ready for marriage, but you ready for sex. I'm not lamenting here, cos is a Sign of the last days.
But, am sorry my faith got no compromise and I see clearly

in timaya's vouce * u av a point, I concur* (number2 is so on point)

The sexual impotency got me: So what's the need for going for a medical test which is a must do condition before walking down the aisle?
Then sexual chemistry... Dad once told me that marriage is a school with time you adjust to suit your partner's needs.
Please don't use this points as a justification for premarital sex makes no meaning.... One can always learn how to satisfy his/her partner .... Time is all they need

Op,You are yarning dust.

jascon1:
I can't believe I ended reading a trashy piece of sheet like this. Sex guarantees nothing in a relationship. If your mind isn't there, no amount of sex will keep you. We fake things that aren't real. In a few years to come, you will confirm that holding on saves a lot of headaches.
That's why blacks keep feeling marginalised, coz they spend precious time looking for and giving sex, partying and following trends.

You are very very wrong. There is nothing as real as sex and it's only when we define it that relationships can last.

Lobish

jascon1:
if sex is ur religion, then am a firm believer in abstinence. I won't mince words. I have daughters n if I have no belief, then is woe for them. Would be heretic for me to try to see the other side of sex without conjugal blessings. I begin to wonder how Christians view homosexuality as loathesome, but turn a blind eye to fornication. In my mind, we are being hypocritical. I Condemn sin, even if I'm sinful. Where is our conscience at all? It just ain't right sharing pre-marital bodily fluids and yet feeling good that our bodies are temples of God.
A full grown man in his late twenty or late thirty is still testing kitten, while in most places in the world his mates are raising kids. If you can't hold on, then Get married.
You got no money, you're not ready for marriage, but you ready for sex. I'm not lamenting here, cos is a Sign of the last days.
But, am sorry my faith got no compromise and I see clearly

I'm a Muslim but I share your sentiment.

The fact that a man says he isn't ready for marriage but goes on having sex with females beats me.


They claim to test compatibility, but you know they're just there for the fun of it. How unbashful can a man be that he removes his garment and exposes his privates to a woman who isn't his wife and vice versa ? Just think about it ! Its sick.


We ask Allaah for peace and safety.

OP, God is soaking your cane in hot oil.
Saying no to premarital sex gives me a clear conscience, that alone is better than all those jargon you wrote there.

all I see is an OP whose life has been influenced by watching too much of Nollywood.... nothing, absolutely nothing justifies pre-marital sex.

Thank you my brother. truth from a Muslim brother

Souljaboi1:



I'm a Muslim but I share your sentiment.

Tge fact that a man says he isn't ready for marriage but goes on having sex with females beats me.


They claim to test compatibility, but you know they're just there for the fun of it. How unbashful can a man be that he removes his garment and exposes his privates to a woman who isn't his wife and vice versa ? Just think about it ! Its sick.


We ask Allaah for peace and safety.

Bump

Lalasticlala farano rocktation ishilove seun please do something. This fp worthy. Thanks

End time challenges

I can't buy a product without testing. period.


What if she has a dick or side dick, how I'm I supposed to know

F.P

klassiquette:
The sexual impotency got me: So what's the need for going for a medical test which is a must do condition before walking down the aisle?
Then sexual chemistry... Dad once told me that marriage is a school with time you adjust to suit your partner's needs.
Please don't use this points as a justification for premarital sex makes no meaning.... One can always learn how to satisfy his/her partner .... Time is all they need

They're also issues like vaginismus which cannot really be detected by the doctor ( vaginismus is severe pain in the vagina during sex).people with these problems can't have sex.

Even premature ejaculation is an issue, the man won't know he has until having sex.
There are also thing's like Micropenis ( even though the man may feel like he's endowed.) its a major problem during sex

there are various advantages of waiting till marriage but there are also several disadvantages and there is Nothing wrong In discussing them.

He is not encouraging pre-marital sex but let's not pretend that pre-marital sex is all bad or foreign. It happening right now and will keep on happening as long as humans are on earth. No amount of preaching will reduce it.
Besides not everyone is a Muslim or Christian or religious in general...

I personally, do not see anything wrong if two people in a committed relationship have sex (remember personal)

Early marriage is the solution far both guys and babes

Sex is. Wow

It absolutely beggars belief that a post as shallow as this made FP. No wonder Hitler was able to raise an army of delusional people who thought they could conquer the world.

Another campaign for pervasion! The devil is a liar!!

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Infact without mentioning all these facts no one is his or her right sense shouldn't engage in sex before marriage. Ordinary garri person dey taste before buying talkless of a woman I'm gonna pay her bride price.


Biko!!

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Reiyvinn:


.....This article doesn't ENCOURAGE pre-marital sex but analyzes the disadvantages of waiting....

Yes the article doesn't ENCOURAGE premarital sex at all.

The article just ENLIGHTENS them- the singles, unmarried, divorcees, teenagers etc of the 'evils' of not engaging in formication and the 'stupidity' of being chaste, virgin and Godly!


Hmmmn....even Satan parades himself as an angel of light!!

Great analysis op..Its very enlightening.Because many decieve themselves that they are in a no sex before marriage relationship,yet you find them doing everything short of actual penetration.I know I can't marry a man I am supposed to spend my life with without knowing what to expect.I never dey that strong spiritually!Besides,a lot of issues in most marriages stem from sex.I have recommended dissolution of a marriage because the man(a serious spirico) said the woman doesn't give him head.It seemed like it was a vital part of se.x to him.The woman said she can't use her mouth meant to praise God to touch his johnthomas..Both of them looked very spiritual,so it was shocking to me.Besides,I appreciate the op being real about this.Many say no se.x before marriage to appear 'holy and decent' to their serious partner,wheras they have one guy man or woman knacking it steady on the side.Finally,it all comes down to whatever makes you happy..