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Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by corneremperor: 3:50am On Nov 26, 2015 |
optimusprime2: optimusprime2 has said it all. This OP needs captain beat-a-wife in her life. She does not deserve the man that she married , and she appears very selfish. "Sometimes if I say no to his advances for sex he would act like I am a wicked woman who has cheated him or rubbed him of his right. He would give me the silent treatment for weeks until I give in" . why would you starve him of sex for weeks?? You then go ahead to say he wants sex daily, which one are we to believe nau? You have contradicted yourself right there. I suggest you take a long hard look in the mirror dear 22 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by SonOfEl(m): 3:57am On Nov 26, 2015 |
OP, you are showing mild signs of Stockholm syndrome. It is you that need help not your hubby. IMO. 14 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by utenwuson: 4:15am On Nov 26, 2015 |
op. after u finish trying all d advises given above n he didn't learn try mine, since he obeys and worship u, give him punishment, slap him, tell him 2 do frog jump, tell him 2 cook, clean d toilet, wash d plate, wash ur pants n keep punishing him! one day, just one fateful day! he ll hold ur hand in d air and say "woman, am tired, am tired of u maltreating me! then d man in him ll rise up 2 ur occasion n he ll beat d hell outa u! u myt even faint n collaps but don't worry! u ll stil come here 2 create another thread on how ur hubby is a dangerous man 49 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by AVRecruit: 4:20am On Nov 26, 2015 |
utenwuson: love this 8 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 4:55am On Nov 26, 2015 |
Reminds me of my first actual relationship.. But I thank God,, that babe really tear my eye wide opened and the friends I had then. Funny how things can change though..... Smh 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Karleb(m): 4:56am On Nov 26, 2015 |
I might be the most romantic man on earth but changing a sport channel to Faith channel? mba! 20 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by mimicious(f): 5:14am On Nov 26, 2015 |
Op sorry to say this, ur husband married the wrong person (that is u) so many ladies will die to have such man. Tho I understand the fact that he was a virgin and u are his first love and wife. His in experience with ladies made him so. I would advice u to accept him the way he is, reason with him, don't take his attitude for granted also remove that thought of divorcing him. Like u said the marriage is just a year. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Allwility: 5:25am On Nov 26, 2015 |
OP in other words what you want is someone that doesn't give a damn about your feelings, shouts at you, kinda dominates and subdue due, probably beats you up etc... smh! You know what, your hubby may be displaying puppy love but that's not enough reason to consider divorce. I bet there's one- six pac dude you consider to be an alpha male out there in your school or warreva training you've been attending and you've been eyeing him. Confess!! 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by dBard: 5:41am On Nov 26, 2015 |
I am getting to understand why peeps say Nigerian ladies, there's no pleasing them. O.p ain't serious. The husband is clingy and soft, but is That something to get u tired of a year old marriage I hiss in Abakiliki. O.p had beta come correct and deal with the deeper issues she's having and leave this whitewashing. No advice here...Am out 9 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by miqos02(m): 6:07am On Nov 26, 2015 |
all for love |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by oglalasioux(m): 6:51am On Nov 26, 2015 |
Tell yourself the truth. You don't love this man. You are in for it for material gain. Your husband even knows this and feels doing what he is doing will make you love him. 17 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 7:09am On Nov 26, 2015 |
Awwwww,lucky girl.. Turn the tables around..How would you feel if he transfers this same feeling to another lady? Just asking? 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 7:10am On Nov 26, 2015 |
If you met a stronger man,you will give in!! Be careful of what you wish for... oglalasioux: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by EverestdeBliu(m): 7:12am On Nov 26, 2015 |
shininglite: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by ednut1(m): 7:17am On Nov 26, 2015 |
Why did i open this kind yeye thread self. All this tins were der during courtship but u overlooked. If d man was the opposite of wat u portrayed u will still complain. Abegi 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by dNoblej: 7:23am On Nov 26, 2015 |
Don't change that man to what he is not or you will still come back here to complain. You don't know the value of what you have until you lose it. Listen to complaints from some married women, you will understand that your husband is really an angel to you. Try as much as possible to reciprocate his love and care and happiness will never depart from your home. 6 Likes
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Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by adeoladeola(f): 7:30am On Nov 26, 2015 |
Simple, just divorce him, he's too weak. Then go ahead and search for a wife-beater, you'll love him better than that weakling. Come back and tank me later...Mumu!! 15 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by nne4(f): 7:37am On Nov 26, 2015 |
Op you need urgent help dear. Pray to your God for your husband to remain caring like this. Hmm But don't misuse this great opportunity God just gave you. Stop discussing your husband with your friends, because what works for them may not work for you. For Instance, my hubby don't like me or anybody giving him food most times. He just go direct to the pot to dish out his food as he likes( for over 10 year now). While some women serves their husbands food as a god or household lol You can't change your Hubby, just pray n ask God for wisdom to be a virtuous woman and build your home. Peace! 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 8:03am On Nov 26, 2015 |
OP, please try to see the positive side of this behavior, with time you will appreciate the fact that you did.. I believe you feel like you need some air, some challenges and more to keep you excited, it might not be worth all the drama I know of a guy that divorced about 6 months ago, I strongly believe that this is what his wife was going through cos he literally adores, she had the luxuries of life, he takes her word as law, all for love and a peaceful home but she went for a divorce after about 7 years of marriage. Now he said he is happier and will give everything to avoid going back to the marriage cos she seems to be wanting to come back. Please just try to exhaust all positive avenues before opting for divorce |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 8:06am On Nov 26, 2015 |
OMG!!! |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by misspicy(f): 8:08am On Nov 26, 2015 |
optimusprime2:Best analogy so far...OP please divorce him and send him my way 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by JustOzito(f): 8:12am On Nov 26, 2015 |
God gave u ur husband y dnt u take ur problem to him. Telling his frnds or relatives might turn hm in2 a beast & spring up jelousy in xternal family. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by babysophie(f): 8:28am On Nov 26, 2015 |
Love n care cn neva b 2 much. Those ladies at d salon r jst jealous n wish to v a man like ur husband secretly. Enjoy ur husbnd cos men r like children dt nid care n attention. Treat him jst as he is treating u n u l v a perfect family. 12 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by deekseen(m): 8:30am On Nov 26, 2015 |
@OP, If you feel you are more experienced in certain areas than him, teach him. If you are more mature than him, bring him up. If stronger, be his strength. Communication is the key here. Remember, two become one in marriage. His shame is your shame, his nakkedness is your nakkedness too. I know it could be frustrating having your partner way behind you in certain areas, but your marriage is just a year old, give him time. If this is the rough road you have to tread on before things get better, of many women consider yourself very fortunate. Eventually, you'll see that the best days are ahead of you guys. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by luvguy(m): 8:42am On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack:de prob. Abt women is dat dey always nag...he is free wit u ur complainin...if he's strict u wil stil complain...na waooo 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by peedeeasobie(m): 8:50am On Nov 26, 2015 |
I'm seeing some very sycophantic replies here.... shame! This OP is selfish and very wicked! You denied him sex for weeks... He gave you his ATM and you spent the money recklessly until he went broke! You are saying maybe he's mentally challenged! You come back late at nights! Don't worry, go ahead and divorce him. God will give you a 'mike Tyson' who will use you for his boxing lessons. Nonsense! 23 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by peedeeasobie(m): 8:50am On Nov 26, 2015 |
I'm seeing some very sycophantic replies here.... shame! This OP is selfish and very wicked! You denied him sex for weeks... He gave you his ATM and you spent the money recklessly until he went broke! You are saying maybe he's mentally challenged! Don't worry, go ahead and divorce him. God will give you a 'mike Tyson' who will use you for his boxing lessons. Nonsense! 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by MaziOmenuko: 9:02am On Nov 26, 2015 |
We guys were all born and programmed like your husband: alas when we started meeting women who burnt us out like a candle, we lost our virtues and turned to what we are now. Every guy that had not dated a girl before will act like your husband. 31 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by MsBliss(f): 9:05am On Nov 26, 2015 |
Woman be greatful. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by flokii: 9:06am On Nov 26, 2015 |
@OP the guy dey wash ur undies, panties etc.. you didn't complain about that 2)I feel you're older or bigger than he is |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by enstack: 9:17am On Nov 26, 2015 |
optimusprime2: I had to respond to you. Perhaps you are missing the point here. I never said he is too loving or something. If i am to write all the silly things he does in the name of love you wont even be able to read it all. I just put a few. Even neighbors around have noticed it. They have called me to order many times! His elder sister accused me of giving him a love portion. Its that bad! You call this love? Then I'm sorry i don't want such love anymore. The other day, i asked him to purchase something for me, he had no money, instead of him to talk to me about being short on funds, he went to take a loan to get it. Something that even I dont need so urgently(He is still owing his partner for it) So sir, read again and understand! Dont be to hasty in talking or commenting. Call me a girl, Its no big deal. After all, this same Man threatened to stand in the middle of the road if i dont accompany him on his field trip. This type of a man can commit suicide if i dont give him what he wants at a given time. 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by enstack: 9:17am On Nov 26, 2015 |
flokii: We are of same age |
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