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Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Nobody: 6:12pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
andromida: Whilst she is playing ludo, the kids are destroying the house and breaking their necks by climbing shelves and jumping off. He has no clue |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Nobody: 6:18pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
kovak: What your wife needs is more support. I can relate. When you are trying to keep the house clean AND care for the kids and they keep on messing every where up. You are bound to get frustrated and angry. House need to help out with the house and kids more. Lead by example. Shoe your wife how to correct without shouting. If she just let them mess up the house and d9 what they like i can bet you, you will come here to complain that your wife is lazy. Take more of an active part in the home. |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Nobody: 6:26pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
kweenkong: Here goes... 1. I am a "family" type of guy. So I spend quality time with my wife and kids. 2. Kids definitely need discipline and structure. Such we provide for the kids. The issue here is about negative use of words and being rather too critical about a child's every move. 3. Yes. She's choleric. I love her for her tenacity and commitment. But I wish she could have better control over her temper with the kids. |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Nobody: 6:30pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
fem29: Thank you for your candid advice. I am involved in my home affairs. I think more involved than the average Nigerian man. But if digging deeper will enrich my home, then I'm willing to do even more. Thank you. |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Ihechiopara: 6:33pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Nobody: 6:36pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
bravitudenatura: You're wrong you know. I lead my family in practical terms. And I am firm with kids. But my emphasy is on negative words on kids. 2 Likes |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Nobody: 6:49pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
kovak: You are very welcome . You seem like a nice hubby. Please do dig deeper. It's for the best interests of your family. You will surely be rewarded with a lovely family unit 1 Like |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Eketem: 6:49pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
kovak: No oh negative words are not allowed or acceptable abeg. I get you now, I advice that you stop cautioning her in the presence of the kids instead do some research on Google, then copy the main points either send her an email or sit with her and share it. Just Google effects on negative words on Children, we accept correction faster when we read from authority that what we are currently doing is bad 1 Like |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by bravitudenatura(f): 10:22pm On Nov 25, 2015 |
kovak:Ok just try to talk to your wife 1 Like |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Pidggin(f): 7:26am On Nov 26, 2015 |
kovak: Nice one. I don't think she is only choleric, she also has Melancholy in her. This explains the endless criticism, while the Choleric part explains the short temper. People like this make the most difficult parent to live with. I will not be surprised if your kids live home at an early age if she does not change. Disciplining kids is good, but she also has personality issues which she has to deal with too. 1 Like |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by LordReed(m): 9:49am On Nov 26, 2015 |
Eketem: This needs to be emphasized. You need to take a more proactive hand in raising those kids, hyperactivity is not an excuse for bad behaviour. If on the other hand they are not exhibiting bad behaviour engage them in more challenging activities that will put their strength to good use. You can also talk to your wife and ask her to leave the disciplining of the kids to you, if you handle them well then she'll see things from your POV. 2 Likes |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Nobody: 10:54am On Nov 26, 2015 |
Pidggin: You've got my point. So how do I deal with the situation so that everyone can have a happy home to live? |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Pidggin(f): 11:07am On Nov 26, 2015 |
kovak: She has to tone down, this can be difficult because her ways are set already. Buy this book by Tim Layahe for her "Why you act the way he do" If you do not have it already, it will help. |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Onegai(f): 12:58pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
kovak: Firstly, ask her if those. words. were words. she. grew. up. with. Remind. her how it felt to hear them and tell her "words. can maim. and if you are. not over that type of. language, don't pass it on to your kids". She may not see. it as. a big deal. but remind her of. it (no-one forgets those. words. said. to them). Practically, get 4 jars with lids. Everyone gets a jar. Create a list of bad words (in my sister's home, STVPID, IDIOT etc are bad words). Anyone who uses a bad word, deposits N50 in the jar. And the end of the week, the person with the fewest amount of words gets all the money in the jars or collate all the money frpm the jars and donate it to the charity home near you or give it to a low-income family you know. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by LordReed(m): 6:29pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Onegai: Hehehe nice one. I'll save this as a way to teach my kids. |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Ishilove: 7:01pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Demigods:So in your mind, what you have written makes sense, ba? 4 Likes |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Nobody: 8:44pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Ishilove: Looooolz, ah lau u mami |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Localamos(m): 8:04am On Dec 01, 2015 |
oglalasioux: Slow poke |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by soopamom: 1:38pm On Dec 01, 2015 |
kovak:Have a parenting discussion with her. Explain your own parenting goals and get to know hers as well. Let her know how constant criticism can rob children of their self confidence. And blah blah it's a lot of things to say and I just got tired of typing... 2 Likes |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by ThomasEvans: 11:15am On Dec 08, 2015 |
Parenting is an important part to give your child the environment which is required for them. There should be emotional climate at home. I think you wife needs emotional support from you, as well as love and care so that she has that understanding to deal with children. But if situation is not controlled soon it can be worse and in that case you have to send your kids to a preschool or some childcare centre. |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Nobody: 2:58pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Both of you need help. firstly, the kids aren't yours alone. What are the kids not doing right? why do they keep doing it? is it that you aren't playing your part or what? both of you should join hands together and train the kids.Is really gonna be stale if u don't look for a way to make them behave well rather resorting to NL to know how to handle your abusive wife. Look for a way to make the kids behave and your wife will appreciate you for that. |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by cynhamscakes(f): 9:04pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Oga, your wife have every right to correct the kids where she feels they have erred. You shunning her is bad enough but shunning her in the presence of the kids is worse. I won't accept that myself and will certainly react too. You can't blame her for being who she is, its her nature and you already said it yourself that she temperamental so what you should be doing to correct the situation before it gets out of hands is to talk to her in a very calm manner and explain to her that the kids may start resenting her or they will be detached from her emotionally if she continues this way. Believe me, no woman wants to hear that........ No woman wants to experience the feeling of being hated by her own kids. The manner in which you approach her over this issue will determine the outcome. Good luck sir! Surprise your loved ones in Abuja with a cake. We will deliver it for you. All kinds of party and wedding cakes and pastries are available. Call or whatsapp Cynthia on 07034794947, pin 531753fb, Www.cynhamscakes.com. |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Nobody: 9:31pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
parenting...not easy especially when you have hyperactive kids..sometimes the kind of smoke that comes out of my head ehm..more grace to evry parent here abeg. |
Re: Help. My Wife Is Abusive To My Kids by Nobody: 3:57pm On Dec 09, 2015 |
kovak: Videotape her doing so n post online. Or better still report her to child rights services. |
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