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Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by RoyalRoy(m): 7:35am On Nov 29, 2015 |
bravitudenatura: Your bone is around the corner. Having failed relationships is better than a failed marriage. Keep believing, keep hoping, real soon it will happen when u least expect it. Welcome to the Fun Room!!! ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by RoyalRoy(m): 7:37am On Nov 29, 2015 |
How are you VickkyRuby? ![]() |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by bellong: 7:46am On Nov 29, 2015 |
bravitudenatura: Can your products wash away sin? ![]() ![]() Just joking... One thing I have learnt in my journey in this life, best things happen to us when we least expect it. Never let the failed relationship or age make you compromise reasonable standard. It is well... NB: The gods can help you with the search... Ask Tearoses for the requirements. Not many and not difficult. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by bravitudenatura(f): 7:52am On Nov 29, 2015 |
bellong:Thanks Scared of going into new relationships though not had any relationship in the past 1 year |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by bravitudenatura(f): 7:54am On Nov 29, 2015 |
RoyalRoy:Thanks |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by Ewuro4: 8:39am On Nov 29, 2015 |
RoyalRoy: Why do I find that narrative term hilarious? Where at the corner? ![]() |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by RoyalRoy(m): 8:44am On Nov 29, 2015 |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by Nobody: 8:56am On Nov 29, 2015 |
bravitudenatura: Even if you marry today and God blesses you both with long life, you have over 50 years of marital bliss to enjoy That is 50 years of happy days together (and a few dark days in-between) . . . . . .. Lemme be honest o! ![]() So in short my dear, dont fret. Better to spend time to pick Mr Bone than rush and pick Mr Muscle ![]() better to have 3 failed relationships that you can dust yourself up from than a failed marriage. It is well sis. ((hugs)) Madam Ewuro how you be? Family nko? ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by Ewuro4: 9:01am On Nov 29, 2015 |
My mind is disturbed . Being mom of a girl child... How much care/love is enough. If you do too much , you're being labelled an helicopter parent. If you cut them slack, you're an aśshole parent coz 12am IMO is not bad a curfew for a 17yr old. What really prompt these new generation girls run after these older men for comfort and security besides money? What are they looking for? Tearoses , sis we thank God and you? Happy Holidays! ![]() |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by Nobody: 9:23am On Nov 29, 2015 |
Ewuro4: Sis Miiiii ![]() ![]() I personally think that 12am is too late especially for a girl On a one off maybe It also depends on how the child has been brought up and the child him/herself Some kids are follow follow kids so this kind of kid needs to be checked more often as they have a tendency to derail Kids also tend to copy what their parents do If I am not out till midnight, then what are you doing out till midnight? Lets not forget that its more dangerous at night When my kid goes out, I don't sleep until he comes back 1 Like |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by bravitudenatura(f): 9:24am On Nov 29, 2015 |
tearoses:Thanks ma Really taking my time, for a year now no relationship |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by Nobody: 9:28am On Nov 29, 2015 |
bravitudenatura: So long as you are not deliberately hibernating and turning offers for friendship down. The best way to get to know and meet people is by being your natural self, friendly and approachable. Friendships turn into deeper relationships also giving you time to study the person. 2 Likes |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by Ewuro4: 9:38am On Nov 29, 2015 |
tearoses: Hmm I have an older friend whose daughter's curfew is 12am since jnr high (grd10/ss1) , I recalled, her mom was very well acquainted with her peers' parents as well and she has a phone on her 24/7 whenever she needed to spend the night at theirs. They(friends) also on many occasions had sleepover at hers too. she's currently studying Engineering in another province. Level headed kid and very prudent , she barely touched her student loan because she's been on numerous scholarships since her first year. Very impressive. And her parents are what we call antisocial so I don't know where she got her social butterfly trait from. That was why I said so sis. But you're right some kids are follow follow and needed to be checked like a hawk. ![]() ![]() Ojo iku lojo isinmi Loro awon omo ode yi |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by bravitudenatura(f): 10:13am On Nov 29, 2015 |
tearoses:Well I can't really say I am not turning offers for friendship down, yes I am. My last really abused me emotionally I wasn't good for anything. I was called names, I dare not offer him any advice, he called me enemy of progress cos I told him not to buy another car but rent a flat cos his brothers house is choked up. Ever since he left me honestly I feel all men are assholes. I don't go out nor make new friends. Now everyone says I am too choosy as to choice of man cos I am not perfect so I shouldn't look for a perfect man. Turning down a man with a child is that choosy? Turning down a man who attends white garment church and can't take any decision without consulting their shepherds,tieing beads on my waist is that choosy? Turning down a man who can't get over debby his ex, is that choosy? Turning down a brother who asks me to call hi$ daddy and he calls me mummy then I greet him goodmorning sir even while dating is that choosy? I grew up in a very liberal household we were very free with our parents and my mom didn't pamper any child for one. On saturdays she will apportion duties for everyone including my eldest brother. My dad too helps out in the house so I am not used to that regimented lifestyle. I told my mum not to kill herself with worries over me. I am the last born, she don carry six grandchildren make she calm down 4 Likes |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by Nobody: 10:24am On Nov 29, 2015 |
bravitudenatura: Absolutely not and I am proud of you that in-spite of the pressure you are using your head and not venturing into relationships just out of fear of being alone or pressure. Deep in you, you know what you want and what you deserve Dont settle for less I have a relative in her 30's and I had to tell her mum off for pressurizing her. I told her mum that her problem will be times 100 if her daughter has to come home every week with black eye. When I suggested friendship, I meant just being friends to start with. I know that some Naija men start toasting by saying they love you and want to marry you in the first minute that they meet you ![]() ![]() I'm not referring to these lot I am referring to the guy you meet in the banking hall, church, on the street, restaurants etc who smiles and says hello and you smile back. in the meantime, use the time you are waiting to better yourself and prepare yourself. It is well sis ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by Nobody: 10:26am On Nov 29, 2015 |
Ewuro4: The girl has a good sounded upbringing and is quite sensible so can be trusted. In cases where the kids have had a shoddy upbringing, the results may be different. May God direct us as parents sis 2 Likes |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by folasadegold: 4:30pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Thanks all for the comments .. I love you all for your advises....... May God help us.... You never know that you have help some with issues in their marriage...... And you have encouraged those that are depressed......... That people think they are helping but putting inside death trap all in the name of your colleagues have married.......... I live this forum... HAPPY SUNDAY TO YOU ALL. and don't forget tomorrow is Monday ooooo 2 Likes |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by freecocoa(f): 5:17pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
dont8:I'm good o, only owu, the economy is fecked so the weekend is very dry on my end, I hope yours is better. ![]() |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 6:33pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Goodmorning everyone. Ndewo nu. Ekaro. ![]() ![]() ![]() Plenty good wishes to all and sundry. May happiness never depart from your homes and joy from your hearts. 1 Like |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by babygirlfl: 6:35pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
cococandy: Thanks and good wishes to you too. |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by cococandy(f): 7:40pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
babygirlfl: ![]() 1 Like |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by damiso(f): 10:30pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Ewuro4: Indeed at Ojo iku lojo isimi Read sketchy bits of the whole case and again what kept on making me scared was how much work needs to be done on these kids. I was so disturbed. To think a boy was raised not to think anything was wrong with using another person as an object repeatedly without any remorse and a girl had such low esteem to keep going back.SMH Now I really really feel my parents ![]() I used to think their own was too much but now I looove and appreciate them. 2 Likes |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by Kimoni: 9:34am On Nov 30, 2015 |
damiso: Something is funny here Dami. In one vein, we are berating our parents for their high-handedness in bringing up kids calling them old-skool but when we see the repercussions on those who didn't have this strict upbringing, we start appreciating them for that same high-handedness that saw us become better persons. So which is it? Cc: Stillfire [size=4pt](sure you know why I tagged you)[/size] |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by taryour(f): 1:08pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
Good morning house. wishing everyone a blessed week. where on earth is Idowuogbo ![]() |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by dont8(m): 1:24pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
freecocoa:Eiyah, but never worry Buhari is on top of the situation ![]() I had a nice Sunday, went out with my son in a long while. Btw, what's owu? Cos I don't think I've come across a word like that before now. |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by dont8(m): 1:32pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
taryour:Good afternoon Tayo, wish you same. Idowuogbo where art thou? |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by damiso(f): 1:49pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
Kimoni: Me berate ke. I cant berate them o. Now as a parent I kinda understand them. You know how it is when you are a teenager and you think you know it all that's what I mean by I felt their own was too much. Me and my mum even joke about It now and she thinks she was not that strict( yeah right) . Me and my siblings hail her as MUMMMMMY LOL.Her car horn was alone to make you sit up. However there is a balance which is the tricky bit for most parents. Even with my lil uns I am constantly wondering If I am being too harsh or if I am being too soft, if am hovering/ being paranoid or if I am being lax with the various judgement calls you make every day. My parents (Dad especially) got that balance right to an extent. Obviously there were boundaries you dared not cross but somehow as we grew older there was till that feeling that you could talk to them and they got your back no matter what. I remember my dad would want to sit down and gist with you on Saturday morning if he was home. At the time that gist used to get plenty of groans and eye rolling from me and my sister but in hindsight it was just his way to stay connected to us. My mum was ( and still is even my children know grandma does not take ayokayo LOL) the stricter one but funny enough she was the ' cooler fashion one' . As liberal as my dad was he was conservative about dressing and I don't know how many times I was turned back to go and change. He has even stopped me on the road in our street once , asked me to get in the car and drove me home to go and change cos he said he saw skin when I bent down ( that man ehn). They kinda balanced each other out but were united in the basic moral standards eg curfews,being truthful,chores etc. I still had to let my parents know where I was even when I was working and living at home.Liver no even reach me to stay out too late and even if I was I would have to tell them in advance. God knows how many times I have had to call at 11.30 pm to beg for mumsi to open the gate for my brother cos he feels he is now a big man and wants to stroll in whatever time he feels like. My brother is working o. But she will say its her house and the gate must be closed by 11pm. I tell him sha that its her house if you want to come home late go and get your own place. Its a very serious business being a parent. Not everyone is cut out for it. To be honest I don't think I have it in me to give anymore to another child sef. 2 Likes |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by LewsTherin: 5:08pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
damiso: Nice one here. It really is difficult to get the balance right. My jewel is just a year old and I am already worried about how I'll handle someone so blastedly headstrong when she gets to her teens (my little girl is as stubborn as 2 rocks and 3 mules!!) Worse, I don't want to go the exact same route my folks used. They did it right yes but sometimes they overdo it (present tense intended). I've had to take a couple of business trips with my mum and believe me ee no easy. Early this year for example, while in the UK I wanted to go see a couple of old school mates. As at 8pm my mum was already calling to ask why I was still out so late! Dude!! I'm a grown arsed married man who runs a multi million naira business and she's asking why I'm out so late!! Yes they disciplined us as needed but they didn't let us take decisions on our own early enough. My fear is how to balance that with my kid. How do I keep her on the straight and narrow while letting her make her own decisions and her own mistakes? How do I ensure her mistakes don't burn the world down? Abeg my old school parents tried no be small. 2 Likes |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by babygirlfl: 6:20pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
@ Damiso and lewstherin, nice submissions. As you have both said, a balance is important. Lewstherin, the bit about your mum asking you why you were so late got me laughing. |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by Kimoni: 6:35pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
LewsTherin: Lewis, are you sure you ain't talking about my mum ![]() ![]() ![]() Like you and Damiso said, the most difficult part of it all is finding the right balance between then and now but if I were to err at all, I would err using their methods than what is obtainable now. Children have a way of knowing their parent's weaknesses and taking advantage of it to the fullest. I also get very worried about my daughter sometimes. One problem I currently have is getting her to eat. She is losing a lot of weight from not eating coupled with the different activities typical of her age that she engages in yet she remains picky with food. I have cajoled, begged, tricked, threatened but it all seems not to be working. Sometimes, I ask myself what my parents would do if they were in my shoes *sighs* @damiso -I honestly don't mind more kids but I don't see myself going through that 9 month journey again...lol |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by freecocoa(f): 10:01pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
dont8:Lol, owu is a slang for "brokeness". ![]() |
Re: The Family Section Fun Room!! by Nobody: 10:59pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
LOL @Old school parents Once mum told me and my hubby to submit our passports to her for safe keeping when we visited Nigeria ![]() ![]() ![]() I laugh tire that day When I was growing up I used to swear that I wouldn't be like my parents and will be very cool - No smacking and no telling off For where . . . . . . My drama puts patience Ozokwor to shame ![]() I managed the no smacking but I can talk ehn . . . . ![]() The kids eyes are on permanent roll ![]() ![]() ![]() I can even sense the rolling on the phone |
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