A nairalander advised u talk to her parents.... I think u shud call a meeting. Her parents and urs shud b involved nd u guys shud collectively take d best decision.....


For me, I'd advice she travel to a diff location to deliver her baby, come back in a few months time, give her child to her mom to help her in taking care of d baby, continue her schooling there after ... While u on the other hand shud see to it dat d child is being cared for nd when d time is right , tie the knot with her... #gud luck

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Here is the thing, the fact that you impregnated a girl and you put it on Nairaland to get advice is just sad, believe it or not, you are not ready to be father and ask your spiritual consultant to deduce whether you will both be able to help the child achieve greatness because if you can only give the child less, then you are the greatest slowpoke on earth.

Leave d pregnancy,God is in control.she shud think of her of future and d advice.she might die with d pregnant if she abort it or she might not conceive again,haa its dangerous,dnt b an ignorant of urseif,let her face d chanllenges now n have a great future.thou shall not kill.its a sin.

Cutehector:
I am fed up! I i need to start going to secondary schools to counsel young girls on dangers of premarital sex!

Hmmm

searching4l0ve:
A 22 YEAR OLD KID SHOULD CONCENTRATE ON HIS STUDIES OR SKILL AQUISITION SO YOU CAN HAVE A BRIGHT FUTURE BUT HERE YOU ARE SHAMELESSLY SEEKING FOOLISH ADVICE FROM PEOPLE ALL BECAUSE OF A WASTED SPERM CALLED NIGERIAN GIRL . NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE DISTRACTIONS AND EVERY SANE MAN SHOULD AVOID THEM LIKE A PLAGUE. AS FOR THE BITTCH YOU GOT PREGNANT SHE OUGHT TO BE SHOT IN THE VAGINA FOR HAVING UNWANTED PREGNANCY FOR A LOW LIFE LIKE YOU THIS IS HOW YOU PEOPLE GIVE BIRTH TO RITUALIST AND ARMED ROBBERS WHEN U CANT CARE FOR USELESS KIDS YOU BROUGHT TO LIFE. I WONT BE SURPRISED IF YOU ARE IGBO BECAUSE MOST YORUBA YOUTHS WONT WASTE THEIR EARLY LIFE CHASING GIRLS. USELESS BASTARD

..like the plague.

searching4l0ve:
A 22 YEAR OLD KID SHOULD CONCENTRATE ON HIS STUDIES OR SKILL AQUISITION SO YOU CAN HAVE A BRIGHT FUTURE BUT HERE YOU ARE SHAMELESSLY SEEKING FOOLISH ADVICE FROM PEOPLE ALL BECAUSE OF A WASTED SPERM CALLED NIGERIAN GIRL . NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE DISTRACTIONS AND EVERY SANE MAN SHOULD AVOID THEM LIKE A PLAGUE. AS FOR THE BITTCH YOU GOT PREGNANT SHE OUGHT TO BE SHOT IN THE VAGINA FOR HAVING UNWANTED PREGNANCY FOR A LOW LIFE LIKE YOU THIS IS HOW YOU PEOPLE GIVE BIRTH TO RITUALIST AND ARMED ROBBERS WHEN U CANT CARE FOR USELESS KIDS YOU BROUGHT TO LIFE. I WONT BE SURPRISED IF YOU ARE IGBO BECAUSE MOST YORUBA YOUTHS WONT WASTE THEIR EARLY LIFE CHASING GIRLS. USELESS BASTARD

U r just a Fcked up Idi.ot 4 ur comment

Congratulations in advance!
You both are of age. My advice for u is, go with ya family to her place, let her family know what's on ground and tell em what ya plans are(sending her to sch or setting up a good business). I have a name for the unborn child tho!

Guys sha, unah too like skin to skin sex..na so e dey sweet unah as unah dey pour inside d girl toto?..why unah com hate condom like dis?..E nor gud to dey condition girls life ooo, all in d name of releasing inside a girl coz of mumu pleasure.I rest my case

bestdeals0:
Lol, better start now ooo. Some guys really lack self control.

Lol, nd u re fortunate not to av meet wit dose ones abi?

Leave her go 4 her sister if she try am

Flee from Premarital sex,

Bt you won't listen... What is the joy of having sex when you are afraid of keeping its outcome (baby)?



Allow the girl to keep the baby, and after birth she can give it to your mum to treat the baby as her last born.

You are nt even happy she want to abort it.

Sweetyie:

U r just a Fcked up Idi.ot 4 ur comment

I second u!

@crayguy, the deed has been done, at this stage you need to inform your parents & hers to sort things out. please do everything within ur reach to make sure that your girlfriend did not abort the pregnancy.

MRBrownJ:


bro, FIRST AND FOREMOST, in order to stop her from having an abortion, you need to LISTEN and UNDERSTAND her problem. why does she want to abort?! she does so because of her school and shame from the community. so you need to sit down and ask yourself what you can do to solve that. searching for "good businesses", thinking that it will solve the problem, shows us all that you are not listening to what she is saying.

FURTHERMORE, having a child is no joke!!! here you are talking of having this baby while you dont even have a JOB or steady income of any sort. how are you going to FEED/CLOTHE/CARE/ACCOMMODATE/EDUCATE that child for 18yrs, when you cant even care for your own self?!

LAST BUT NOT LEAST, right now your only option is to ABORT, as both of you certainly aint mature enough (aka emotionally/financially/physically ready) to have a child. here is a clue: you should BOTH finish your education, BOTH get a job, then get married, get a house... and only then should you dream of starting a family.

Work done = 0

Encouraging him to abort de child is wrong
Sleeping with her in the first place is wrong
So let them clean their mess by saving the innocent child

PHATE007:
you are really open for criticize.......




#END TIME errors

The guy is an error all thru save fucccking a poor girl.

You Were MAKEING SENSE NOT UNTIL YOUBMENTIONED IGBO.. U NOW SENSELESS

searching4l0ve:
A 22 YEAR OLD KID SHOULD CONCENTRATE ON HIS STUDIES OR SKILL AQUISITION SO YOU CAN HAVE A BRIGHT FUTURE BUT HERE YOU ARE SHAMELESSLY SEEKING FOOLISH ADVICE FROM PEOPLE ALL BECAUSE OF A WASTED SPERM CALLED NIGERIAN GIRL . NIGERIAN GIRLS ARE DISTRACTIONS AND EVERY SANE MAN SHOULD AVOID THEM LIKE A PLAGUE. AS FOR THE BITTCH YOU GOT PREGNANT SHE OUGHT TO BE SHOT IN THE VAGINA FOR HAVING UNWANTED PREGNANCY FOR A LOW LIFE LIKE YOU THIS IS HOW YOU PEOPLE GIVE BIRTH TO RITUALIST AND ARMED ROBBERS WHEN U CANT CARE FOR USELESS KIDS YOU BROUGHT TO LIFE. I WONT BE SURPRISED IF YOU ARE IGBO BECAUSE MOST YORUBA YOUTHS WONT WASTE THEIR EARLY LIFE CHASING GIRLS. USELESS BASTARD

Tell her 2 leave it,thou shall not kill.u people shud face ur difficulty now and enjoy ur future,always pray n move closer 2 God,ask 4 4giveness n work hard with.it is well.

PHATE007:
A nairalander advised u talk to her parents.... I think u shud call a meeting. Her parents and urs shud b involved nd u guys shud collectively take d best decision.....


For me, I'd advice she travel to a diff location to deliver her baby, come back in a few months time, give her child to her mom to help her in taking care of d baby, continue her schooling there after ... While u on the other hand shud see to it dat d child is being cared for nd when d time is right , tie the knot with her... #gud luck

I guess you've witnessed this kinda thing.

IdisuleOurOwn:

Nonsense

See your head

I think you are a very selfish person! You are only thinking abt yourself nd nt d gurl......u wanna set up a biz for her? You didn't even talk of sendin her to sch which I guess is her dream......I believe you shd also consider what she wants too.

crayguy:
Hi nairalanders....
I'll try to break short my context of my story.
I am a young guy of 22 years old, I am actually dating a girl of 18 years old, I love her real deep and I believe she do loves me too, she's has a bright future and a very nice home manner(beautiful as well),I eventually got her pregnant and she's planning to do abortion which I am not in deep support, considering we both have seek some spiritual findings which makes it clear that the child(male or female) is a great and powerful child, aborting could lead to my girlfriend not able to conceive again otherwise loose her life, she's hell bent on abortion because of her school and shame from meighbours... I was actually thinking of settling her down with business (don't know the best for her).....
please help on idea of a good business I can setup for her in this states, what am I to do ? , I am really frustrated as am still hustling as well.
please help.. I am open for "criticise"

lord please sense is needed here

DickSin:

See your head

Abeg, deactivate straight.

Sex should be left for the grown up, see what you have done to the small girl. You yourself never stand with two legs, you go give girl belle.

See what your small peni.s and five mins of pleasure don land you. OYO

You are plain stupid

Dnt knw y some guy cnt cope with withdrawal method, if u knw say u no fit use condom, withdraw wen ur load don dey come. Abeg click like if u dey team withdrawal method.

crayguy:
Hi nairalanders....
I'll try to break short my context of my story.
I am a young guy of 22 years old, I am actually dating a girl of 18 years old, I love her real deep and I believe she do loves me too, she's has a bright future and a very nice home manner(beautiful as well),I eventually got her pregnant and she's planning to do abortion which I am not in deep support, considering we both have seek some spiritual findings which makes it clear that the child(male or female) is a great and powerful child, aborting could lead to my girlfriend not able to conceive again otherwise loose her life, she's hell bent on abortion because of her school and shame from meighbours... I was actually thinking of settling her down with business (don't know the best for her).....
please help on idea of a good business I can setup for her in this states, what am I to do ? , I am really frustrated as am still hustling as well.
please help.. I am open for "criticise"

Why can't you quit school yourself and do business/baby sit while she finishes her education?

Why does she have to forgo her future and dreams to have your baby

You sound a bit selfish don't you? You need to grow up!

It is called Planned Parenthood by no means inclusive of Abortion.
It was silly and selfish to ignore the use of Condoms when having Casual Sex. at 22, you are (Should be) at the Peak of Preparedness or Readiness to take life-changing decisions to positively affect your Destiny. This is where you choose to be a successful Medical Doctor, Surgeon, Accountant, Banker, Architect, Lawyer, Soccer-player, Drill Engineer, Fashion Designer, Musician etc. If you make the wrong decision now - you could end up being an under-paid Halogen Security Officer (Gateman), Freelance Electrician, Taxi Driver, Corporate Cleaner, High-performance Loafer, Kidnapper, Street Hawker, Armed-Robber or worse Male Prostitute. You could be successful in any of those gigs but I doubt you will ever be free of regrets as to what you have done.

You have 2 Options.. choose wisely

1st Option - KEEP THE PREGNANCY: Accept responsibility and let the girl keep it and here are the pros and cons
Pros
1: At age 18, having a child is one of the most favorable (strangely) positions Nigerian Society supports (if you are properly married) and have a Financially Supportive Husband. Parents will Frown at this at first but nothing melts away anger like the laughter and smiles of a new born

2: Parents usually opt to take care of the Child while you she gets a 2nd chance at growing up

Cons:
1: You (or and) the girl will have to put a hold or slow-down on your life for at least 10-15 years so the child can get adequate care (emotionally, mentally and physically) before you start thinking of better things... in other words your work alternatives will fall in this region; under-paid Halogen Security Officer (Gateman), Freelance Electrician, Taxi Driver, Corporate Cleaner, High-performance Loafer, Kidnapper, Street Hawker, Armed-Robber or worse Male Prostitute.

2nd Option - DON'T KEEP THE PREGNANCY: Abort the Pregnancy,
Pros
1: You both get a fresh start, a painful decision but a practical one - You will be blessed with another child at the right time

Cons
1: God will be angry with you both (Allah will be mega-raging mad at you)
2: Society will frown on your decision and curse you (like many nairalanders on this thread).. but then again when you ask for Financial Help, they will scorn you and remind you of your stupidiity