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Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Nobody: 7:48am On Dec 02, 2015 |
I need advise from the married folks here. There is this lady that i have been dating for over 3 years. She's pretty, her character is almost flawless, neat, domesticated, hardworking, respects and loves me a lot. In short, she will most likely be a good wife. However, I like her but do not love her from the depth of my heart. I have tried hard to love her because shes is a good gal but it just isn't there. However, I am still considering her because she has the best character i have seen amongst all the women I have met. My greatest fear is if i will be able to endure a loveless but relatively peaceful marriage. On the other hand, I am beginning to fall in love woth someone else that i hardly know. She appears friendly, maybe not as pretty as current girlfriend but her smile can melt my heart. I am very fond of her and I just tend to like eveything about her. I have only known her for a short time and I am almost ready to go ahead with marriage. She's nice but not as loving as my gf. My fear is - what if she turns out to be a lazy, nagging and hateful wife. Will i be able to endure a bad wife that I love so much? So which is more important to a successful marriage? Love or character? Which should be the foremost in choosing a wife? To marry a good and loving gal, or to marry a girl I love that may turn out to exhibit some very bad characters? Only for the married folks please....they have the experience. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Drniyi4u(m): 7:55am On Dec 02, 2015 |
Since its only for married folks, I'll wait for their comment 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Kingsasian(m): 8:08am On Dec 02, 2015 |
I think both. 2 Likes |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by ademega(m): 8:10am On Dec 02, 2015 |
love covers everything since no one has a perfect character 17 Likes |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by ogoplus: 8:18am On Dec 02, 2015 |
Character 36 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Mixty: 8:19am On Dec 02, 2015 |
Kingsasian:Both? One should be placed above the other. Don't you think? In order words...choose one of these 2 extremes 1) Someone you love bit has a very bad and repulsive character 2) Someone you do not love but has a very wonderful and charming character 4 Likes |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Kingsasian(m): 8:23am On Dec 02, 2015 |
Mixty:I can't live with someone I don't love so I prefer no.1. I know how to tame a woman with a bad character 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Nobody: 8:30am On Dec 02, 2015 |
HMMM I TELL U BRO, CHARACTER IS more important, u can always learn to love. but when character is abscent then the love gradually turns to dislike. 149 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by 7footre(m): 10:24am On Dec 02, 2015 |
I'm not married, but even I know that a woman of character is worth more than all the gold in timbuktu ![]() 72 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by chynergy1(m): 11:11am On Dec 02, 2015 |
i don't understand how love can stand alone without character. can you love some one with bad attitude? if it is possible, then go for character. love is an embodiment of every good virtues, and the ability to overlook the less desirable. put simply, go for only what you want. it is rewarding. 2 Likes |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by PresVA: 11:28am On Dec 02, 2015 |
Kingsasian:how do you tame a woman with a bad character? I really want to know... 2 Likes |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by PresVA: 11:31am On Dec 02, 2015 |
For me, character comes first... someone's good characters/attributes attract me to the person, then consequently love! There has to be some kinda attraction before love sets in. .. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by xfire: 12:59pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
I would rather go for someone I love... There is always a lot of uncertainty in marriage. The man or woman you think you know today may turn out to be better or worse after marriage. Character can change. There is always a 50/50 chance that a relationship will turn better or worse after the solemnization. Thus the safest risk (especially for a guy) is to marry someone you love. Even when turbulent times come, it is the love you have for her that will sustain the marriage. On the contrary, if the love or infactuation "disappears", the past memories of the love you once shared (reminiscences) will sustain the marriage. In the very unlikely event that the marriage ends up collapsing, at least you were sincere about your intent of marriage which is love. On the other hand, you may not be happy all your life if you marry someone you do not romantically love even if the marriage turns out to "peaceful". And if the loveless marriage turns out for the worse, you will regret it all your life.. It is a lose-lose for a loveless marriage. I don't believe a guy can learn to love a woman he never had feelings for. A guy can only pretend to love a woman he has no feelings for. True marriage can only be built on the foundation of love. Everything else is falsehood and make-believe. Love is worth the risk! Cheers.......! BTW....ain't married yet. 31 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by pickabeau1: 1:04pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
Money |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by NashvilleTN: 1:40pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
Bros, Take it from me, marry a woman with great character. Such women are increasingly harder to find, so if you have found one. Please marry her. You already love her but you don't feel all excited about her. Even if you go for the one you think you love, that love will not keep you excited about her forever after. Her character will. A woman with bad character is a no-no for me. Keep the one you have! 25 Likes |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Edipee(m): 1:47pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
xfire:Thanks for this wonderful contribution. 1 Like |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Edipee(m): 1:55pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
ssweetorgasm:Don't forget that she has been with this woman for 3 years but couldn't feel the love for her. Is it after marriage that he will start loving her? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by baddyoosha: 2:46pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
OP SEE YOUR LIFE YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE WITH THE FIRST WOMAN BECAUSE SHE IS LOYAL TO YOU. OR YOU DONT FIND HER ATTRACTIVE ANYMORE EITHER AS A RESULT OF YOU HAVING SEX OR UR JUST TIRED OF HER LEAVE THE POOR LADY ALONE COS BY THE TIME U GET MARRIED YOU ARE GOING TO HURT HER BY CHEATING THINK ABOUT THE FAMILY YOU ARE ABOUT TO RAISE DON'T BUY WHAT WOULD TAKE YOU TO AN EARLY GRAVE 8 Likes |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by simplemach(m): 2:46pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
For girls, its non of the two. Dont ask me what it is cos u know. 1 Like |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Youngzedd(m): 2:46pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
Love If He/She truly loves ya, the person will change his/her character for good. 2 Likes |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Nobody: 2:46pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
[size=18pt]M0NEY, MONEY AND MORE MONEY MONEY MAKES THE LOVE BLOSSOM HEREBY LEADING TO A GOOD CHARACTER FROM YOUR WOMAN[/size] ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Nobody: 2:47pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
character, love fades character doesnt. love clouds ur objectivity 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by crispberry(f): 2:47pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
Observing..... here to read comments 1 Like |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by cutetopsey(f): 2:47pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
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Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by AfroKnight: 2:47pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
Hmmm. Love is not enough. Bad character will strain the love in the home eventually. Bro, the first lady actually loves you in her own unique way. When you start having children you'll realize that the character of the mother is a big factor in their upbringing. 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Kufie(m): 2:47pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
Wisdom......... and a lot of Money! |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by 12345DKO(m): 2:47pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
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Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Nobody: 2:47pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
my brother character o, love go tire you if ur wife na ass.hole. Love might be blind for a while but character really matters cos ur marrying her(character) and not love. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by datguru: 2:47pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
Let me put you in the right frame of mind bro. Love and character work together, the reason you love a person is because of certain characters the person portray that attracts you and makes to want to be with that person. If you claim to love someone, it means you like the person's character. Now, talking about love, it's a mental thing. Love is like a sickness and we recover from it with time. Love is necessary but not too important in a relationship or marriage, because it's like malaria, it comes and goes. The only thing you need to sustain any marriage or relationship is TOLERANCE. Sometimes we see people who were deeply in love before getting married but 6 months after the marriage, they are talking of divorce, it's because there's no tolerance You can only tolerate someone whose character you like. So I in this context, I think character before love 25 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Which Is More Important In Marriage? Love Or Character by Segadem(m): 2:48pm On Dec 02, 2015 |
both 1 Like |
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