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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by MYMINDER(m): 4:22pm On Nov 30, 2015
Which one is tougher to deal with: Remaining a spinster or bachelor for life OR getting married without experiencing the joy of parenthood I. E. The couple cannot have children.

The one assumption here is that you already know you cannot have children if you do get married.

Will you prefer not to be married if you cannot have children in the marriage or you will still rather be married even if you cannot be a biological parent?

Where do you stand in this tough dilemma?

Marriage is supposed to serve two purposes: unification and procreation. Since the former is still satisfied, I will go with marriage.

Thoughts?
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by omotogoodo(m): 4:51pm On Nov 30, 2015
MYMINDER:
Which one is tougher to deal with: Remaining a spinster or bachelor for life OR getting married without experiencing the joy of parenthood I. E. The couple cannot have children.

The one assumption here is that you already know you cannot have children if you do get married.

Will you prefer not to be married if you cannot have children in the marriage or you will still rather be married even if you cannot be a biological parent?

Where do you stand in this tough dilemma?

Marriage is supposed to serve two purposes: unification and procreation. Since the former is still satisfied, I will go with marriage.

Thoughts?


Hmm. Tough topic huh?
Let's look at it this way, kids are amazing gifts from God, no gainsaying that. But marriage isn't all about making kids. When God created Adam, He realized he was bored, lonely, encumbered (there was no help-meet for him), So God decided to make a woman out of him.

That biblical reference is a pointer to the fact that, marriage is first and most importantly about companionship.

After that, comes chilldbirthing and every what-have-you.

In the case you cited.
The challenged should open up to his or her partner from the get go. God will bless him or her for being honest. Afterall two are better than one.
Only God can say one can or cannot bear children and He won't even say that cos He's God (His thoughts towards us are good, not of evil. To give us a future and an expected end)
It's all about faith.

That being said,
If both parties consent to spending their lifetime together, then 'pas grand chose'!

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Nobody: 9:23am On Dec 01, 2015
MYMINDER:
Which one is tougher to deal with: Remaining a spinster or bachelor for life OR getting married without experiencing the joy of parenthood I. E. The couple cannot have children.

The one assumption here is that you already know you cannot have children if you do get married.

Will you prefer not to be married if you cannot have children in the marriage or you will still rather be married even if you cannot be a biological parent?

Where do you stand in this tough dilemma?

Marriage is supposed to serve two purposes: unification and procreation. Since the former is still satisfied, I will go with marriage.

Thoughts?

well! thank God for medical break through, one can easily do (forgot the name) tube baby abi? or rather adopt a child and that wont hinder he/she from marrying.
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by naijasaint: 12:55pm On Dec 01, 2015
deeyor:


Thanks


deeyor....pls textme on 07034703258
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Nobody: 1:06pm On Dec 01, 2015
Happy new month to Every one... wish you all the best of the month... may you achieve all your heart desires before the year ends.. cc: udysweet
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Bisjosh(f): 5:43pm On Dec 01, 2015
Happy new month to beautiful and handsome peeps
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by zubinike(m): 7:44pm On Dec 01, 2015
good evenin pals. hope we all had a 1daful day. I really miss the thread.

quickly: my Apologies goes out to sparkles003,4give my tactics, never thought the pm will stir up a case out here, I blive pm were quicker ways in knowing 1 anoda. am very sorry.
wen I saw d name sparkles I know there would be a spark behind it. ndoh n'ne.

special tanx to Myminder for watching a bro's back, and missbronze tanx,

people's opinion must be respected.

and to all the newbies in here, special welcome to u all, we will get to know one anoda soon and I hope the purpose fr hanging out with the thread will surely be a success.

who missed me?

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by magneto(m): 8:12pm On Dec 01, 2015
Happy December my pipul! Hustle wan wounjure una guy for here o...u knw say na 'season' we dey so wink

@halexito, lovely post bro...dats one clever system analyst! How u been?

@zubinike nwanne, glad to see u back bro! I follow miss u o...kee nke mee last?

@siamia, ur still da best dearie... I wish u a very special december to remember!

@everyone else...udysweet, missbronze, ddshow, toks2008, melsan, nouvelle, klassic, bluepearls, myminder, milychocs, sisisioge, vivaciousvivi, abeg no vex if I no remember ur moniker... May God bless u all and enlarge ur coasts dis season!! Have a wonderful, blissful, colourful, and prosperous new month, IJN!!
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by magneto(m): 8:38pm On Dec 01, 2015
MYMINDER:
Which one is tougher to deal with: Remaining a spinster or bachelor for life OR getting married without experiencing the joy of parenthood I. E. The couple cannot have children.

The one assumption here is that you already know you cannot have children if you do get married.

Will you prefer not to be married if you cannot have children in the marriage or you will still rather be married even if you cannot be a biological parent?

Where do you stand in this tough dilemma?

Marriage is supposed to serve two purposes: unification and procreation. Since the former is still satisfied, I will go with marriage.

Thoughts?


I'll go with marriage too. No amount of girlfriends and concubines can successfully substitute the role of a godly wife in a man's life.
To me marriage is much more than a union...its a covenant! A sacred bonding of two kindred souls, forged in the eternal flames of genuine love, and consecrated before the altar of the one true God. What an awesome, epoch making, lifetime experience! Can't wait to begin dat journey soon...
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by magneto(m): 8:44pm On Dec 01, 2015
Bisjosh:
Happy new month to beautiful and handsome peeps
Wish u d same sweerie kiss ...howfa na, been a while I've seen u here, hope ur good?
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Bisjosh(f): 8:45pm On Dec 01, 2015
magneto:

Wish u d same sweerie kiss ...howfa na, been a while I've seen u here, hope ur good?


Yes I am and u?

Been busy jare
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by magneto(m): 8:50pm On Dec 01, 2015
tollyB:
Happy new month to Every one... wish you all the best of the month... may you achieve all your heart desires before the year ends.. cc: udysweet
Amen! Same to u too my dear...remain blessed!
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by magneto(m): 8:54pm On Dec 01, 2015
Bisjosh:



Yes I am and u?

Been busy jare

I can relate my dear...I can't recall d last time I've been so busy as I've been the past two weeks. Gosh! So many dying minute loose ends to tie...no be small tin o undecided
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Bisjosh(f): 9:02pm On Dec 01, 2015
magneto:


I can relate my dear...I can't recall d last time I've been so busy as I've been the past two weeks. Gosh! So many dying minute loose ends to tie...no be small tin o undecided


Lol

How's your Christmas gonna be like?
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by magneto(m): 9:05pm On Dec 01, 2015
Bisjosh:



Lol

How's your Christmas gonna be like?

Exciting I hope. I'm only free from work on the public holidays, but I intend to make d most of it.

How about u, wat are ur plans?
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Bisjosh(f): 9:08pm On Dec 01, 2015
magneto:


Exciting I hope. I'm only free from work on the public holidays, but I intend to make d most of it.

How about u, wat are ur plans?


Only free on 25th and 1st also
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by udysweet(f): 9:23pm On Dec 01, 2015
@tollyB @magneto,thanks for the mention,gracias!
Hello people! Here's wishing you a happy new month.
Have a great night rest
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Nobody: 2:00pm On Dec 02, 2015


Leo, so let's flip the script on you - what's your birth sign & birth date.

Siamia what's yours?
I'm a leo
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by zubinike(m): 4:33pm On Dec 02, 2015
siamia:
Well, u know....its a romance/relationship thread. I cud be wrong and wudnt mind being corrected, but what are the odds abt a 30 plus guy being serious with a woman in her early 40s? Hmm??

just saw this, well if the understanding is there and the fire to kindle wat dey both believe in. I will give it a 6/10
or 1.35 odd
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by zubinike(m): 4:38pm On Dec 02, 2015
petkruz:
I'm a leo
xup petcruz. welcum to the thread. lovely pics on profile. how was your day
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Nobody: 4:47pm On Dec 02, 2015
zubinike:


xup petcruz. welcum to the thread. lovely pics on profile. how was your day
Thanks, my day was ok
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by zubinike(m): 5:45pm On Dec 02, 2015
magneto:
Happy December my pipul! Hustle wan wounjure una guy for here o...u knw say na 'season' we dey so wink

@halexito, lovely post bro...dats one clever system analyst! How u been?

@zubinike nwanne, glad to see u back bro! I follow miss u o...kee nke mee last?

@siamia, ur still da best dearie... I wish u a very special december to remember!

@everyone else...udysweet, missbronze, ddshow, toks2008, melsan, nouvelle, klassic, bluepearls, myminder, milychocs, sisisioge, vivaciousvivi, abeg no vex if I no remember ur moniker... May God bless u all and enlarge ur coasts dis season!! Have a wonderful, blissful, colourful, and prosperous new month, IJN!!

nwanne @magneto, hustle strong bro. he ga gba December na Lagos? how was your day
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by gratefulme40: 7:20pm On Dec 02, 2015
zubinike:


nwanne @magneto, hustle strong bro. he ga gba December na Lagos? how was your day


Nnaa..... ina anwa mana igbo gi adiro nma like that. I ga akwu ego ole ka mu kuziere gi?

You know this is xmas....a babe gats to make money anyhow...lol

How are you anyways?

How is everyone? Udysweet, magneto, helexito, missbronze, toks ( where in the world have you been).

Been ages i commented here....been busy really. Still thinking of what to do with my xmas. I do need a holiday badly.

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by itstpia8: 7:27pm On Dec 02, 2015
MYMINDER:
Which one is tougher to deal with: Remaining a spinster or bachelor for life OR getting married without experiencing the joy of parenthood I. E. The couple cannot have children.

The one assumption here is that you already know you cannot have children if you do get married.

Will you prefer not to be married if you cannot have children in the marriage or you will still rather be married even if you cannot be a biological parent?

Where do you stand in this tough dilemma?

Marriage is supposed to serve two purposes: unification and procreation. Since the former is still satisfied, I will go with marriage.

Thoughts?


there are no extremes as you are presenting them in this case.

parenthood is not biological only.

If you want to be a parent and you cannot have children naturally, you can adopt or try ivf.
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Ishilove: 9:21pm On Dec 02, 2015
sonofananimal:
well! thank God for medical break through, one can easily do (forgot the name) tube baby abi? or rather adopt a child and that wont hinder he/she from marrying.
You really need to change your username. Your posts and your username don't jell smiley

Wow! 97 pages. What have you folks being discussing since? shocked
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Nobody: 11:04pm On Dec 02, 2015
Ishilove:

You really need to change your username. Your posts and your username don't jell smiley

Wow! 97 pages. What have you folks being discussing since? shocked
initially wanted to use this username to advertise some products just like "Peter and sons, this and sons marketing product" but later change my mind after I have already created this username.


the deed has already been done.
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Ishilove: 11:11pm On Dec 02, 2015
sonofananimal:
initially wanted to use this username to advertise some products just like "Peter and sons, this and sons marketing product" but later change my mind after I have already created this username.


the deed has already been done.


You were going to advertise the sale of puppies?
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Nobody: 11:16pm On Dec 02, 2015
Ishilove:
You were going to advertise the sale of puppies?
grin
live stock mostly ram, goat and poultry

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Ishilove: 11:20pm On Dec 02, 2015
sonofananimal:
grin

live stock mostly ram, goat and poultry
You still can. I'm interested in poultry grin

It kinda reminds me of what happened a year ago. I was travelling to Osogbo and the shylock driver driving us had the nerve, the audacity to squeeze 4 rams into the back of the vehicle.

The most amusing part of the whole situation was the owner of the rams, a young man with the most scattered set of teeth I have ever seen in my life, but with excellent command of English, started chatting me up halfway into the journey. I, the rams and the youngman were sandwiched together at the back of the vehicle. embarassed

We became fast friends and exchanged numbers by the time we arrived Osogbo, but I refused picking his calls thereafter because of the circumstances under which we met.

I cannot build a romantic relationship with 'agutan' in the background angry

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Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Nobody: 11:31pm On Dec 02, 2015
Ishilove:
You still can. I'm interested in poultry grin
lol! discount specially for you!
remember! December is at the corner wink
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Ishilove: 11:33pm On Dec 02, 2015
sonofananimal:


lol! discount specially for you!

remember! December is at the corner wink
Can you give me a brief breakdown of the discount? cheesy
Re: If Ur 30 Plus And Single, Let's Talk... by Toks2008(m): 12:01am On Dec 03, 2015
petkruz:

Thanks, my day was ok



Sometimes you just want to make friends with a sweet looking lady lol...Lovely pics i must say

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