Jesumed:


Pls free the lady nah. Haba! If she had made a mistake in her past, should you compound it by making her regret? Can you help her erase her past? Encourage her rather, by advising her on the issue at hand and how to make the future better instead of blaming the poor lady.

okay sir thanks. Wishing her the best in her relationship.

Pheals:
Sorry 41 or 14 yrs U made a typographical error there

If U marry that baby boy, he will delete U from home when mad

i hate dis kind of man,very childish.keeping malice is for kids not even a woman should.adults trash things out there and move on.u can be angry aand ask 4 space but 2 delete me from social media,u go tired.delete me 4 good because i wont accept any invite from u back,na so sms u go begin 2 use.rubbish!

LoveJesus87:
Thank you Prof.Jegede. Seconded

Lmao!
Afi prof. Jegede na

u go fear grammar ontop simple matter.

prettythicksme:
Yeye guys everywhere!!!My dear dat is d sign of end time relationship Ask him y he always did dat!!My guy once did dat to me and he suffer for it cos till now i refused to accept him on bbm,we only chat on watsapp&viber cos i dont need to accept his request bf unblocking me on those ones.I asked him y he try dat shiit with me ,he told me i make hm mad!! and i told him we r done on bbm,make he no send me request again cos i wont accept!!

Hahaha.... very funny. My ex even deleted his number from my phone last year. Till today I never saved it back. Even though we reconciled that time. The number dey my head o.

greekgoddess na u sabi treat guy fk up u are referring 2 a 41 yrz old pson as a child...won't u ask wat brought abt thr mis understanding

He actually loves you a lot...he's just afraid of falling too deep so he won't get hurt if you decided to leave him later on.
It might be that he's been hurt so many times before that he's afraid to let you in. Anyways, show him that you really care and you'll discover a whole new person under the camouflage Coz people like that are the nicest (trust me I know Coz I've dated someone like that before)

Did u marry her?

Walesadeyemi:
He actually loves you a lot...he's just afraid of falling too deep so he won't get hurt if you decided to leave him later on.
It might be that he's been hurt so many times before that he's afraid to let you in. Anyways, show him that you really care and you'll discover a whole new person under the camouflage Coz people like that are the nicest (trust me I know Coz I've dated someone like that before)

FIRSTLY LET ME CORRECT ONE MISTAKE, A MAN IS NEVER MATURED WEN DEALING WITH LADIES....


MY ADVICE, TRY AND TALK THINS OUT WITH HIM WHY HE DOES SUCH THING. HE MIGHT BE A HOT TEMPERED SOMEONE WHO IS TRYING TO CONTROL HIMSELF.. SUCH PEOPLE WEN U MARRY HIM THE LEAST HE CAN DO WEN U BOTH HAVE MISUNDERSTANDING IS TO PICK UP HIS CLOTHE AND LEAVE THE HOUSE FOR YOU... EVERY MAN HAS HIS OWN WEAK POINT. IF YOU LEAVE HIM AND FOLLOW ANOTHER MAN. U MIGHT END UP PREFERRING THE OLD LOVE WAYS OF SOLVING ISSUES.. SINCE HE NEVER INSULT YOU OR TRY TO BEAT YOU HE IS STILL COOL.

Lizabeth25:
Been awake since 3am....trying to figure this out. Throwing it here might give me an answer to my disturbing questions. I hope the topic catches attention because I really need to read other people's opinion on this.

I'm 29 of age. I have a 41 years old guy whom I've introduce to my relatives and I've also met his.

We've been seriously dating for the past 5 to 6 months and within that period, every time we have a slight misunderstanding, he deletes me from social media starting from BBM to Whatsap then to FBK.! So whenever we settles, he begs me to re-add him.

This is the 5th time he is deleting me again and this has started giving me concern.

And I've started thinking that he's not right for me! Then what if I end up marrying him, any issues that comes up or we have slight misunderstanding, will he send me out of the house

Please, guys, is this how your react to your woman? And why do you do that?

Ladies, have you ever experienced issues like this and how did u cope?

I'm confuse and I don't understand why an adult will be thinking or behalving like a kid!

Just want to be sure that it's a normal and general reaction guys exhibits when they are not happy at their woman otherwise, I will just be on my own. Because my common sense is telling me to run away from him!

Please, don't just view, kindly type in your opinion. I will appreciate them!

I only delete people from all my social med like that when I've decided they've pissed me off so much I want nothing to do with them again.Im guessing ur bf has had that feeling 5 times and changed his mind after loneliness or his senses finally came back.In that case drop him like a bad habit,its immature and stupid for even a young dude,talkless of the 41 year old to act like that

Mikzy11:
greekgoddess na u sabi treat guy fk up u are referring 2 a 41 yrz old pson as a child...won't u ask wat brought abt thr mis understanding

I have already said all i can say about this issue, i won't say anything else

U can ask the op, am sure she will be glad to explain

AsherStorm:

lol...
so what about you? are you a free woman? id love to talk ... hahahhaa

U r very funny
Are we not talking already

Codyt:
You've nailed it.... Even at 41!

Tanks

umehmj:

and he is 41
and he is 41

Dats wat d OP said

Samsonklin:

Yeah "very childish"... I use to b so some yrs bak buh thank God have change ma mindset now... Like dey said U NEED A MAN, nt A BOY... You knw wat 2 do!

Am happy dat u've changed, at least it shows that you have decided to be a MAN

Demigods:



Exactly baby, every woman needs a man, but you yourself needs a god like me to fit u beautiful goddess, let's chat privately

D one nd only demigods

Wats up with you

Hope you are enjoying your day

Lizabeth25:
Thank you.

U r welcome dear

Highcuerayte:
Well, this does not, in any way and at any rate,call for public opinions but since you opined i guess then i might just give my own opinion which, might be unacceptable or acceptable. Nevertheless, i am still going to give it anyway, knowing you are still going to do what you are going to do.


First of all i must say you have a nice story up there and analyzing it I found out you made some erroneous and highly egregious mistakes,which compounded has led to this fortunate rather unfortunate series of undeserved puerility. Which considered, according to you is pestilential and pernicious, most of all,highly disturbing.

Without much prevarication, i submit that you quit for your own peace. If you don't quit, maybe then, one day, you will have the honour of having your life quit by your marriage.

bros no vex oooo!.... Na for dis small question wey dis our sister throw u wan give ppl assignment for dictionary.

Lizabeth25:
Been awake since 3am....trying to figure this out. Throwing it here might give me an answer to my disturbing questions. I hope the topic catches attention because I really need to read other people's opinion on this.

I'm 29 of age. I have a 41 years old guy whom I've introduce to my relatives and I've also met his.

We've been seriously dating for the past 5 to 6 months and within that period, every time we have a slight misunderstanding, he deletes me from social media starting from BBM to Whatsap then to FBK.! So whenever we settles, he begs me to re-add him.

This is the 5th time he is deleting me again and this has started giving me concern.

And I've started thinking that he's not right for me! Then what if I end up marrying him, any issues that comes up or we have slight misunderstanding, will he send me out of the house

Please, guys, is this how your react to your woman? And why do you do that?

Ladies, have you ever experienced issues like this and how did u cope?

I'm confuse and I don't understand why an adult will be thinking or behalving like a kid!

Just want to be sure that it's a normal and general reaction guys exhibits when they are not happy at their woman otherwise, I will just be on my own. Because my common sense is telling me to run away from him!

Please, don't just view, kindly type in your opinion. I will appreciate them!

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Girl, as you been reading, nairaland forum is not very a good place to seek this type of advice. Sincerely, you must understand how these social media works. Because you both follow each other triggers the anger especially for that moment when he dont want to see or hear anything of you. It is natural!
Please don't rate your relationship base on this act. To me, it is like i want to be alone, and FBK is sticking out one message of you.! On your 29 and 41, girl, ignore all the junks. You are right on track. Give the relationship some extra push. You can make it. Congratulation in advance.

Rival:
You've quarelled 5 times in 5 months? What kind of relationship is that?

My thought exactly

I have learnt to never advise based on a one sided story.. It's just unfortunate the guy no dey ere to defend himself..

Buh I have a question.. Wats the foundation of all your quarrels?

Let's start from there...

Rival:
You've quarelled 5 times in 5 months? What kind of relationship is that?

Ping pong relationship I guess...

Greekgoddess:
D one nd only demigods

Wats up with you

Hope you are enjoying your day

Lol I'm kk my goddess, days goin gud , hw abt urs?

Lizabeth25:
Lol....its normal! Because we still trying to know each other!

You could as well assume every other thing he does is normal......

Demigods:


Lol I'm kk my goddess, days goin gud , hw abt urs?

Very stressful, but all the same we tank God

mrking3:
If he tried it once, I would say its a normal phenomenon with most guys and I was once guilty of this childish attitude. I did that just to show the height of my annoyance and to see if she would show Remorse! But my dear, at the end I ended up pleading for a RE - ADD. Lols! Eversince then, we've had countless miss understanding but such issues never came up!! Your own case is quite different here hence he does that frequently! My candid advice is Don't Re Add or Accept Him anymore most men prefers to learn the hard way! If he can't get Rid of this childish attitude at this stage of your Relationship, what becomes of you when you get married? That's he kicks you out each time you have minor misunderstanding? That's the implication!! I don't get why a man Twice your Age should be acting this way? Probably that's the more reason he's unfurtunately still single at 41! Coz not too many ladies would tolerate his kind of attitude. Age indeed isn't maturity!!!

What's unfortunate abt a man being single @ 41 even 50? or for life? does a man "need" to marry? no! it's the 29yr old spinster who is unfortunate! what's a man business with marriage?

Greekgoddess:
U r very funny

Are we not talking already

Private trips...
We don't wash our linen in public maam

I used to do it. So relax, it isn't strange. It is probably part of his weakness. And it shouldn't bother you much. Does he treat you with love and care? I think that's of utmost importance not the social media virtual world. You can still lay your complaint and hope he changes or not. But it is something you can live with. Okay Good luck.

Aroboi:
Dnt add him again on any social media platform..thn watch his behviour in the real world..cos u won't marry on social media.

But I thought social media was a real world media of communication that is even more powerful than telephone calls? The way he behaves to you on social media is a perfect mirror of the state of the inside of him. He is just as the op fears he is. You can pretend more when you are not talking with me face to face ( like when sending texts to me on social media), but for a person to deal with you like that on social media is no pretence at all, he must be showing you a sign written "This is who I AM". Therefore explore you options while there is yet time.
THANK YOU!