YourMain:
No means no! If she doesn't want a no sex relationship and you do, and you don't want think she's worth it, then leave her.

You can't put women into categories of what they can do with their body ?

misspicy:
my bad then....

am out

YourMain:


lol no im just disagreeing. theres so much more a woman has to offer than sex. and if shes not ready to have sex and youre in a relationship with her regardless of anything she has a right.

YourMain:


Hahahaha I don't know the kind of women you encounter but all the ones I know pay their own bills and only date one guy at a time. I personally think that's awful. But everyone has a right to whatever suits them. Anyways, demanding for sex would make you no different to these women.

ChappyChase:

But you go wan collect money for hair from the guy abi!?

AdeniyiA:


You bad gan o, u no fit help a sister out without wanting to chop her 'kpomo' at all cost??

AdeniyiA:


You bad gan o, u no fit help a sister out without wanting to chop her 'kpomo' at all cost??

VampireeM:
Sex is just overrated! Esp in this century when you can enjoy yourself with toys

EnlightenedSoul:


YourMain is schooling you here, dear. Are you really used to being told, "get me this that and the other, and then I'll give you sex"? That's how it sounds. Quite the relationship

Sincere4u:

Sorry sister, me don't think sex is overrated. No no no.

Yeah, your opinion.

neoapocalypse:


Hahaha , I was toying with her. But really a relationship shouldn't be about what you can get from it or what you're giving to it , compromises and sacrifices should be made by both people in the relationship. No role is attached to any gender and both should work for the benefit of the other and the relationship as a whole. No one should have the " upper hand" , when this happens it seizes to be a relationship.

YourMain:


lol no im just disagreeing. theres so much more a woman has to offer than sex. and if shes not ready to have sex and youre in a relationship with her regardless of anything she has a right.

EnlightenedSoul:


But I don't think you were. If one party has a problem with the other's hardline rules, they're not cut out for each other and they can very well move on. Not this, "You must give me this, for me to give you that". It's not bondage.

pikapizy:
The "no sex " thing is always done by immature or teenage girls ...a mature girl at heart won't dance around fire expecting not to sweat
When they tell me no sex,I tell them bring it on,no poblemo...a couple weeks later the chick be on D ! It's just sense .I'm full of romantic moves and sweet temptations..
Then again my style is different, my wooing usually happens after the first sex infact I don't tell a girl I love her... She screams it during our website play
"Pls tell me u want me ,pls tell me u love me "
Guys don't settle for less!

TimothyNkenu:


Hi Esther,

I'm a follower of your diary updates and we are alike in many things (age, 'brain-growth' et al).

I'll be starting my diary on the 20th of this month, I'll mention you (if it's okay with you). It'll also be available on WattPad as well as my website.

Regards,

A fan.

Age!?? seriously?

Well, that's Great! thankyou....
uh...I'd be looking foward to reading Yours and please feel free to mention me anytime!

ChappyChase:

Abegi!! Make I hear word! We don turn daddy christmas for your eye abi?!

Sincere4u:
Never overrated dear. Never, never, never. Its the best thing one can get.

For Guys, yeah! for ladies? No!

neoapocalypse:


I agree with you , no one should hold the other person ransom.

EnlightenedSoul:


But I don't think you were. If one party has a problem with the other's hardline rules, they're not cut out for each other and they can very well move on. Not this, "You must give me this, for me to give you that". It's not bondage.

YourMain:


What ? When do we place you in categories ?

YourMain:


A woman shouldn't be an inconvenience to you. She should pay for all that. You're not her atm. And also if you do all those things don't you think you're worth a lot more than just sex?

neoapocalypse:


I'll tell you about a lady I dated once , she was this nice looking lady with an amiable disposition and I took a liking to her the moment I met her. I chatted her up and told her I really liked her and would want for us to be an item , this was of course after a few dates. During one the dates I had asked her about her boyfriend and she promptly told me she was single , I found this odd as she was not only stunning but also quite smart. I was single too so I decided to ask her out which she agreed. A few weeks into the relationship she started requesting for money to take care of some bills which I obliged , she started by saying she was borrowing the money and that she would pay back month end and I told her not to bother about paying back , at a point she was collecting money from me on a weekly basis ( substantial amounts ) but I still didn't mind as I could afford it. about 4 months into the relationship she was at my place and I felt a longing for her but she refused saying she didn't want it to be a sexual relationship which I still obliged then one day I introduced a friend of mine who came in from another town to her , my friend remembered her from his former apartment , she was dating this guy who lived in the same block of apartments with him while he was still working in the same state I reside ( he left there when he got a better job in another state about a year ago ) , luckily she didn't recognize him. He said we should take a trip to his former apartment to find out if she was still dating his former neighbour which we did , to my surprise we found out she was still dating this guy and was always going to see him every weekend ( she tells me she spends the weekend at her parents place ). I'm not one to beat about the bush so I confront her my findings and she initially denied it but I had overwhelming evidence and she had to just accept. She also told me she had a sexual relationship with the guy and the guy is her first love but he was in financial crisis and that was why she couldn't also let me go. I just told her that we were done and she should leave me but you won't believe what she said next , she said she was willing to start giving me sex if I can overlook everything and accept her back and that at least I can afford her needs. At that point I lost all respect I had for her and practically threw her out of my place. Till this day she keeps trying to get back to me

YourMain:


If you decide to support your girl financially ( which isn't necessary) sex is what you consider a token of appreciation ? Don't belittle yourself like that...

neoapocalypse:


Good we're getting somewhere now , I'll buy for her to appreciate her not when she demands it , which is the main point of the poster , if she has to demand for things from her boyfriend then she has no right to a no sex relationship.

YourMain:
B

No. It's not about the man. When a woman decides she doesn't want to have sex in a relationship she's not thinking " how can I cheat this man". It's probably due to her own emotional turmoil. It's unfair and blackmail in my opinion to then tell the lady she has no authority to deny you of sex because you buy her a few things...

In my opinion, if you love this lady, you wouldn't degrade her so much.

EnlightenedSoul:


I don't know what to say. That's sad. She comes across as desperate, financially desperate particularly.