VampireeM:
Sex is just overrated! Esp in this century when you can enjoy yourself with toys

VampireeM:
Sex is just overrated! Esp in this century when you can enjoy yourself with toys

neoapocalypse:


I'll like to ask a question , can she withhold sex in marriage ?

Estharfabian:
For Guys, yeah! for ladies? No!

MzPecs:

Yeah, your opinion.

misspicy:

Relax

you are the only one i choose to reply cox we have been having a common ground....so here is it


I never said it is a ladies place to demand for anything from a guy,but saying she does not deserve money or gift because she insist on no sex means every other woman you give money to because she gives you sex is a prostitute we all know that sex in exchange for money is prostitution so,it indirectly means if guys should follow what the OP listed as number two,then they are indirectly or directly sef making their patners prostitutes


besides am saying this to you only too,i owe no motherfucker_ any explaination,you can read my diary,personally i don't demand,ask for,pressure anybody for my upkeep,eg,been wanting to get a new phone since last month,i had to coollate my salaries to get it even when i have enuf guys to ask from,and some voluntered but i hate to see lasting things like phones that will remind me of people.....note am not justifying my post,i prefer to be seen as a gold digger here,so we can put an end into reasonings like numbr two

sex should not be seen s exchange for money,if she demands its your place to deny her or give her if you have omnot say because she said no sex then no money



morning

neoapocalypse:


Yep you can say that again , she actually loves the guy and has probably been through a lot with this guy , I don't have a problem with that , I just want her to be honest about it and not lie to me to collect money from me. I would respect her more if she had told me about her relationship and her financial woes , in that case I'd still be willing to help her financially whether we were dating or not. She may have thought that I wouldn't want to help her if I wasn't dating her so in actual sense she was the one bargaining sex for money.

eniolaamoda:

If u will demand money from me without me not free willing giving it to u,den I shall demand sex from u without u not wanting to free willing give me

EnlightenedSoul:


It actually would've been unrealistic of her to think that someone she didn't know very well would help her without cause. Most people wouldn't.

Estharfabian:
Age!?? seriously?

Well, that's Great! thankyou....
uh...I'd be looking toward to reading Yours and please feel free to mention me anytime!

Rapmoney:
I have never debated before, online or offline, on whether relationships should be free of love-making or not; I am not a moral teacher and I believe whoever that is 18 years and above, living in Nigeria is an adult by the laws of the land. This implies that I cannot judge whoever is of the opinion that relationships should go with love-making; in the same sense, I cannot give names to people who feel that love-making should never be part of relationships too! To each, his or her opinion!

At this point, it is important to note that it is very annoying to see how some ladies campaign for No-sex relationships without considering the level of the authority they use in campaigning for this. The truth is that you cannot be in Moscow and expect not to feel cold!!! Below are the categories of ladies that do not deserve a No-sex relationship:

1) Ladies who cohabit: How can you be staying with a guy and all of a sudden, you wake one morning to tell him that you want the relationship to be free of sex? Did you smoke grass? So what have you been thinking all these months/years? You think you can just convince him to lose what he has been 'eating' all these years just like that? Except you are breaking up if he disagrees; don't cohabit while thinking of No-sex relationship!

2) Ladies who depend on men for their daily resources: You want a No-sexie but you want to chop his cash? Demanding unnecessarily from guys surely makes you vulnerable to sex. You can ask sometimes from male friends when in need; after all, what are friends for? But you should not make it a favourite hobby! Ladies who do this do not deserve a No-sexie!!! There's no difference between the one that stands in brothels and you!!!

3) Ladies who do multiple dating: Don't you think it is very unfair to deny Akporode sex while giving that same stuff to Emeka? Most often than not, when some girls tell you that they want a No-sexie, it doesn't mean they are out of it. It could mean that they have stopped it with you and started it with someone else!!! A lady must prove herself worthy of it. Anything far from this should sincerely be seen as counterfeit! . If you have not been faithful in the past, how do we tell whether you would be faithful to the guy if he eventually agrees to the No-sex situation? You surely lack the authority to campaign for this. Trust is earned, it can never be commanded!!!

Sex is an important issue in a relationship which must be seen as one! Don't be too emotionally carried away that you would outrightly condemn it when you in person lack the authority or platform to do that! In law, they say 'He who comes to equity must come with clean hands'. In romance, they say 'He who comes to No-sexie must come with a good stand or authority to back it up'!!!

Let's call a spade a spade! Let's not call it 'that instrument that is used to dig the soil'!!!

Good evening everyone!

TimothyNkenu:


Yea, I'm actually younger.

Read this about me:

http://www.myafricanow.com/timothy-nkenu-woma-poet

And I'll sure mention you.

Happy Sunday.

Oh! You're Ugandan?. Nice!

And You're 17? woah! And Also A poet! I've always liked literature....Buh poetry seems So boring to me...(No offense tho).....

Happy Sunday!

Estharfabian:
Oh! You're Ugandan?. Nice!

And You're 17? woah! And Also A poet! I've always liked literature....Buh poetry seems So boring to me...(No offense tho).....

Happy Sunday!

YourMain:


True... But he has no right to tell a woman what they deserve.

TimothyNkenu:



I'm a Nigerian...just studying Law here (for 2 years now, I'll probably go back to Nigeria when I'm done, I be confam Naija person .

Plus, I'm not a poet (anymore).. I'm a writer and a social media strategist, and add techpreneur to that ;DD

No mind me, I tend to be egoistic in describing myself.

Have fun dear.

LoL

***lemme do my own***I stay in Nigeria....Studying teethistry.. i'll probably come to Uganda when i'm done..

PlUs---I'm A comic writer..(to myself), A Paint artiste(could draw a little), I'm An intern in a Radio station, And A tutor(A girl has to make money)

don't mind me, I tend to be very vainglorious whilst describing myself...

Nice to meet You...

iceberylin:
Yh....nobody does

iceberylin:
Yh....nobody does

driand:
wasn't actually pointing at u, was referring in general terms, but the average Nigerian girl demands much more than those stuff I mentioned, they are solely dependent on their bf, now tell me does such a person deserve dat 'no sexie'?

pleep:
Develop your brain and learn how to think woman.

let me create an analogy for you, look at the picture of the overweight child below:

Does this child deserve more food?

Does its mother not have the right to refuse to give this child a privilege it has misused in the past? Its the same logic the OP is using. Just as this child has misused the privilege of food, the women in the OPs post have misused the privilege of a sexless relationship and thus do not deserve it anymore.

Innu:


I agree and understand ALL the points you have made so far on this topic except this, keep it up. But I need education/clarification on this one.
Except for medical, emotional/psychological and perhaps physical reasons, which I expect the hubby to be in the know and also agree with her, what else could justify sex-refusal in marriage without placing the relationship on the alter of scrutiny and risk. For any of the party to just choose refusal without consent and the same party will also request, subtly or otherwise, for The same gift he never wanted to give when the other needed it, beats my understanding.
Perhaps my childhood has not departed from my brain. Educate me please, I think I missed a link here.[color=#000099][/color]

FuckTheMod:

Go school you gree sidon one place


Thunder will fire your ENGRISH teacher

Estharfabian:
LoL

***lemme do my own***I stay in Nigeria....Studying teethistry.. i'll probably come to Uganda when i'm done..

PlUs---I'm A comic writer..(to myself), A Paint artiste(could draw a little), I'm An intern in a Radio station, And A tutor(A girl has to make money)

don't mind me, I tend to be very vainglorious whilst describing myself...

Nice to meet You...

lawnreigh:
There is so much a lady has to offer than sex in a good society like the Western Countries, in Nigeria here abt 60-70% only have sex to offer because they aren't independent minded and they want guys to solve all there financial problems, even if you are just ordinary friends they will still put there Financial burden on you, Imagine a case where you just met a matured lady and all she is demanding is to send her account number which there is no chemistry or intimacy yet talkless of been really free towards eachother

halfrica:
OP EVEN IF A LADY PRACTICE ALL THE 3 PHASES U HAVE LISTED AT THE SAME TIME SHE HAS THE RIGHT TO SAY YES OR NO TO A NON SEX RELATIONSHIP TO WHOEVER SHE WANTS TO!!!!!!!

Fearcom:


Well then you must be the type that's not only well brought up, but refined and cultured in disposition, orientation and behavior.

There are different kinds of men, just like there are women/ladies, that's why we can't speak for all of them as a whole simply because they are our gender. With regards to this issue, a lot of ladies have horrible behavior which brings out the worst in men. No man likes to be played, and a lot of ladies can 'form' or pretend to be something they're not. If a lady for instance, who isn't a virgin and who probably is sexually active says no to sex from a guy who asks her out on the pretext that she just wants to 'date' him without having sex with him, yet she keeps demanding for money from the same guy to foot her bills, taking advantage of his emotions yet this same guy finds out she has another guy (her REAL Bf) who's shagging her, what kind of arrangement is that?? He's being played for a fool. Encountered quite a number of girls like that (in our path thru life you meet the good, the bad and the awful ) who tried to play smart with me and I made sure all of 'em got burnt. But it's fast becoming a trend with lots of young ladies(not all) who probably think it's harmless to convert a guy's emotions to a steady flow of income and then dump him, leaving him emotionally and financially bankrupt.

adanny01:


She has a right because the guy is not allowed to rape her.

You probably didnt understand the op. A girl who ask for no sex wants to be in a relationship with the guy. The op means if she is having sex with another guy and going into a relationship with a new guy, she has no moral right to deny this new guy what she is giving the other guy at the same time. If she quit sex entirely, thats understood.

She cant be morally right to be milking a guy og his cash when she knows he wants sex but she wont give. She should leave him.

For me i have never had a no sex relationship and would never. A girl who tells me that i will dump immediately. When i start a new relationship, sex is not discussed neither is it the only need from the relationship.

I went out with a girl back in the days, we never had sex for almost a year and we were inseparable. We did everything but no sex. When we finally tried to have sex (there was no penetration and i thought she was a virgin) and it wasnt successful, i broke off with her the next day. I knew she did it deliberately when she offered a BJ but would pushed me off when its about to enter. She cried her eyes out after but memories of that night kept me away.

Sex is not an issue to me as it is mutual, but if a girl wants to play me on it, i walk away. Sometimes i run away fast.

drnoel:


Everyday and times of ur life. A lady once told me she has male friends for several occasions. I asked her what occasion my being friends with her was and she mistakenly said "the messenger occasion" even I don't know what that meant. I just laughed at her and walked away. She didn't know what she had done and am sure she didn't care till she badly needed help to accomplish somethings and she came to my house. I just told her the story of her life, she begged and begged till even my wife who was her strongest ally asked me why I had refused. My wife got so angry after I informed her what she had said and sent her away. I now know to be nice to some people is not always good.