Every pastor should have "fathers" in the ministry. Kindly talk to one. Let him come and settle you people.

Nkasiobi87:

I have been helping in the church activities, though we sleep in a separate apartment which was as he command ,he said that he need space to enable him pray always but that does not stop me from going to do my daily duties for him. I also do all my best when it cone to bed things Infact that has not been the problem that am a pastor wife does not mean that I don't know what men want in bed. he still rate me 100percent in that.I do my best to always look good because I know am in the centre of congregation eyes...what I don't understand is that upon all this character of his he is still very jealous .any time am talking with a male member he got very angry and ban the member from attending church. yet he find it hard to tell the girl to stop.

u are being timid about this issue and trust me again,the spirit of the lord has departed from ur husband...the kingdom of the lord suffereth violence,and only the violent takes it by force..open up to church elders,deacons etc,about the happenings in ur home,u'll see that devil of a lady will flee from ur house.ur husband is still misbehaving cos u are still covering his little secret.its 4 ur children's sake am telling u all these things.God bless u

Swissheart:
toh, he appears like an authoritarian. I believe you know prayer works. Apply it. Humanly speaking I would suggest you stand up right nd stop being timid. Let Pastor discover Mummy Church has changed. No nonsense accommodation or stupid attitude from any She-pastor. Get a job! GET A JOB. Yes a job. Let's try consultation ...... Visit him tonight...... Talk to him... Tell him everything. Let's see. Wish you well.

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thanks I will sure talk to him this night. I pray God to help me.

obinnashady:
if its real,then I'll give u this one advice...fight 4 ur place,fight 4 ur children's place.do not allow the fool reap where she did not sow.be strong and of good courage,fight to the last to secure ur marriage with all that u've got.

what am finding hard to belive is that this members are behaving as if they ar all under a spell.I consulted the elders of the church at the beginning of all this and the only thing they can tell me is that thier man of God is entitle to marry as many wife as he want.no matter who he chooses.

obinnashady:
u are being timid about this issue and trust me again,the spirit of the lord has departed from ur husband...the kingdom of the lord suffereth violence,and only the violent takes it by force..open up to church elders,deacons etc,about the happenings in ur home,u'll see that devil of a lady will flee from ur house. husband is still misbehaving cos u are still covering his little secret.its 4 ur children's sake am telling u all these things.God bless u

I belive they are aware of all that is happening but none of them have the courage to speak to my husband .who ever tries it will be ban from coming to church. all they keep telling me is to give my husband a chance to marry the girl.I don't know if they are all under a spell. they fear my husband as if he is God him self.no one dares challenge him. he surround himself with men that have divorce thier wife and anytime a member has a family issue the only advice he give to the man is to leave the wife and look for another .he won't even try to unite them.some members that understands has stoped coming to our church. yet he is not bordered.

I believe

Nkasiobi87:

what am finding hard to belive is that this members are behaving as if they ar all under a spell.I consulted the elders of the church at the beginning of all this and the only thing they can tell me is that thier man of God is entitle to marry as many wife as he want.no matter who he chooses.

hmmmm,even as a christian?

obinnashady:
hmmmm,even as a christian?

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he always give sermon on people with many wives in the bible and Sid that God dis not kill nor punish them.he don't belive in one man one wife.

Nkasiobi87:
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he always give sermon on people with many wives in the bible and Sid that God dis not kill nor punish them.he don't belive in one man one wife.

ur husband is not a pastor,he's just doing business..I mean church business.

obinnashady:
ur husband is not a pastor,he's just doing business..I mean church business.

This seems to be a case of church business. Well since your husband and the elders are in the game together you have to decide for yourself what you want from this situation.

andromida:


This seems to be a case of church business. Well since your husband and the elders are in the game together you have to decide for yourself what you want from this situation.

I think she should arrest the woman with police first,take legal actions,involve ur family,u should let people in on what's happening in ur home now,talk,act,don't fold ur hands and wallow in pity.tear that lady up,burn her down..prepare 4 war

obinnashady:
I think she should arrest the woman with police first,take legal actions,involve ur family,u should let people in on what's happening in ur home now,talk,act,don't fold ur hands and wallow in pity.tear that lady up,burn her down..prepare 4 war

Lol. War indeed I don't get how women still want a husband that has treated them so shabbily which is why I refrain from giving advice and encourage her to do what she wants if it were me the husband is a goner.

Babe i have read your story and is really common with ladies of nowadays dat have benchmark time they must get married and as soon as that date is reached with marriage not in view, panic and desperations sets in and anything goes.

I advise you go with a man u have proven love for and loves you in return. 2 yrs may llo long now but in no time it will be here. The worst case is daniel not marrying you. You will fill bad but you will move on and have proven to yourself that you understand marriage is built on love. And the next man you will meet will love you and you will forget about the pain.

Joe is a scam, he is suddenly in a hurry and u are a scape goat he wants to use. Beware dont fall for his mothers trick. You need be with him minimum 1yr to understand him and his family.

Cos of love you have for daniel,even if u marry joe you will come to appreciate daniel and long to be with him, and wen you realised you are trapped in the word marriage u will feel depressed at that point the haste to marry to hit target will not be dere. Then the family pestering u in a hurry to marry will not be dere you will have a big hole in your hrt.

Tell daniel you will wait but he should try to see ur people to show he is serious. If this fails, it does not make joe the better alternative either.

Pull out of the relationship and stay alone and some nice dude like me will come around and you will not regret it.

Lol. U mumu sha

obinnashady:
This story is as fake as they come,believe me,this sh*t was composed by a boko haram

How person no go laugh....this one strong!

Na you invite the devil into your home so deal with it.

OTEGA1:
Babe i have read your story and is really common with ladies of nowadays dat have benchmark time they must get married and as soon as that date is reached with marriage not in view, panic and desperations sets in and anything goes.

I advise you go with a man u have proven love for and loves you in return. 2 yrs may llo long now but in no time it will be here. The worst case is daniel not marrying you. You will fill bad but you will move on and have proven to yourself that you understand marriage is built on love. And the next man you will meet will love you and you will forget about the pain.

Joe is a scam, he is suddenly in a hurry and u are a scape goat he wants to use. Beware dont fall for his mothers trick. You need be with him minimum 1yr to understand him and his family.

Cos of love you have for daniel,even if u marry joe you will come to appreciate daniel and long to be with him, and wen you realised you are trapped in the word marriage u will feel depressed at that point the haste to marry to hit target will not be dere. Then the family pestering u in a hurry to marry will not be dere you will have a big hole in your hrt.

Tell daniel you will wait but he should try to see ur people to show he is serious. If this fails, it does not make joe the better alternative either.

Pull out of the relationship and stay alone and some nice dude like me will come around and you will not regret it.

how does this help 8/

Nkasiobi87:

I have been helping in the church activities, though we sleep in a separate apartment which was as he command ,he said that he need space to enable him pray always but that does not stop me from going to do my daily duties for him. I also do all my best when it cone to bed things Infact that has not been the problem that am a pastor wife does not mean that I don't know what men want in bed. he still rate me 100percent in that.I do my best to always look good because I know am in the centre of congregation eyes...what I don't understand is that upon all this character of his he is still very jealous .any time am talking with a male member he got very angry and ban the member from attending church. yet he find it hard to tell the girl to stop.

I understand how u feel cus I v an aunt who s married to a pastor and I stayed with them for a while...his the authoritative type n due to d fact she has nt given birth for him, she s always quiet,submissive, and those every to pls her husband n still he still act d way d does...would nt want to go into details....wa I il say s dis,,jus got a JOB s very important and try and speak up when you can cus u sound like d age gap between u both s very much that's y Ur scared to stand up for ur right n do wa makes u happy.

Look for a job sweetheart.

So you can take care of those children. That man is a con not a pastor.

schumastic:



I understand how u feel cus I v an aunt who s married to a pastor and I stayed with them for a while...his the authoritative type n due to d fact she has nt given birth for him, she s always quiet,submissive, and those every to pls her husband n still he still act d way d does...would nt want to go into details....wa I il say s dis,,jus got a JOB s very important and try and speak up when you can cus u sound like d age gap between u both s very much that's y Ur scared to stand up for ur right n do wa makes u happy.

My dear am too ashamed to even say the age gap.I was 14 when I married him he is the one that took my virginity and he was 45 (please don't criticize me much on this age gap please is now that I know that I was used) .now he is 56 while am 28. and the mistress in question is 25. she seems very happy with him and she has taken all his attention. am considering a divorce because honestly am really not happy here. he want me to die of jealousy over them.

Nkasiobi87:

My dear am too ashamed to even say the age gap.I was 14 when I married him he is the one that took my virginity and he was 45 (please don't criticize me much on this age gap please is now that I know that I was used) .now he is 56 while am 28. and the mistress in question is 25. she seems very happy with him and she has taken all his attention. am considering a divorce because honestly am really not happy here. he want me to die of jealousy over them.

Jesus Christ....ahh this one worse pass sugerbelle case *smiles*...jus joking dear but sincerely now I know better n d reason for the attachment, fear, respect n y u worship...I won't criticize u, never cus it may or may not n ur fault but either way Ur happiness s what matters...there r lots of things I would love to say n ask Bt i can't cus this a forum...

silently telling you this... that girl is posses, she came from river

Nkasiobi87:
I married a man of God and God bless us with 5boys.we were living happily and the church was growing in congregation. we live in the church premises with the workers and they do offer help both in my home and at church. one day a member brought her younger sister to come and live in the church. I welcomed her we started living together and she was enrol into school from junior secondary till she finishes Senior secondary. I never suspect her and my husband untill one day, my husband said that he want to make her pastor of the church.we all agree and she was ordained. after that she started belittling me.she started challenging me any time I said something in the church that she is now in the position to say any thing concerning the church. I complained to my husband he did not do anything nor say anything to her.I use to be with my hubby in his quarters cos we live differently though in the same compound. one early morning I came out to do my daily chores as a wife to my husband cooking and other house chores I was surprise to see the girl there washing my husband cloth I can't tell if she pass the night there but it sure look like I did not talk her rather I confined to my husband and he said that from that day that she will be taking care of his food and laundry and other things. he said that I should focus on my kids and my self. he gave me the most painful embarrasesment of my life by pushing me out of his room in the girl presence because I insisted on otherwise. from that day till date she is taking care of my husband.my husband still sees to our needs and still be with me when ever I call her to come to my quarter. she pest on my husband that he find it hard to ask her to give him space. she does many things to get me jealous but I do as if I don't care but inside me am burning. please I really need a good advice please.

Pray, pray and Pray madam, God's not dead!

andromida:


Lol. War indeed I don't get how women still want a husband that has treated them so shabbily which is why I refrain from giving advice and encourage her to do what she wants if it were me the husband is a goner.

the husband is a goner,u be arsenal fan? Anyways,am advising her to put up a fight cos of her kids,that all.

Nkasiobi87:

he stoped all the employment I got. because I don't want to disrespect him I resort to working in the church and I start a television program which is also promoting the church and all the books the church can boost of was all written by me. which he sometimes become very jealous of.I believe am doing my best for the church and for the home.

Then give him a public disgrace in church. No church committee or elders? Abi na where two or three are gathered kinda church? And members haven't notice the girl's closeness to pastor? So u just quiet for d girl to take ur space n man? Which normal woman does that?

Nkasiobi87:

My dear am too ashamed to even say the age gap.I was 14 when I married him he is the one that took my virginity and he was 45 (please don't criticize me much on this age gap please is now that I know that I was used) .now he is 56 while am 28. and the mistress in question is 25. she seems very happy with him and she has taken all his attention. am considering a divorce because honestly am really not happy here. he want me to die of jealousy over them.

That is a better option. divorce him, so they can be free. But u must disgrace him publicly cos he is not a man of God.

uglybuthandsome:
silently telling you this... that girl is posses, she came from river

why pastor nor know say na river she for come? fake pastors everywhere. And the woman will still sit in church on Sunday to listen to his nonsense sermon. U need to toughen up abeg. which kind swegbe be dis?

thelish:


why pastor nor know say na river she for come? fake pastors everywhere. And the woman will still sit in church on Sunday to listen to his nonsense sermon. U need to toughen up abeg. which kind swegbe be dis?

the pastor is weak in spirit and promiscuous

uglybuthandsome:
the pastor is weak in spirit and promiscuous

he's a businessman not a pastor abeg.

thelish:

he's a businessman not a pastor abeg.

u get

uglybuthandsome:
u get

I hate foolish women. What is she still doing in that compound? Na to give the mistress rat poison chop, then divorce d old fool.

thelish:

I hate foolish women. What is she still doing in that compound? Na to give the mistress rat poison chop, then divorce d old fool.

u para ooo.. u can't blame her. with six son.. she might not know Hw to cope with that situation. besides she has hope

Nkasiobi87:

My dear am too ashamed to even say the age gap.I was 14 when I married him he is the one that took my virginity and he was 45 (please don't criticize me much on this age gap please is now that I know that I was used) .now he is 56 while am 28. and the mistress in question is 25. she seems very happy with him and she has taken all his attention. am considering a divorce because honestly am really not happy here. he want me to die of jealousy over them.

u still have hope.. divorce, u might still see man that will take u in