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Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by puresoul1(m): 3:00pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
I just wanted to discuss a trend i've noticed. It seems when the 'nice guy' is dumped, he metamorphosises into a player or bad guy. I've seen some of the nicest guys I know, when dumped, turn into misogynistic, hateful, bitter, arrogant and mean men who do attract the ladies (but normally quite insecure/needy ones of variable attractiveness). I'm not sure if the same is true for women; the 'nice girl' turned hussy? I'd consider myself a 'nice guy but when I was dumped, I just put a wall up and after a short rebound, stayed away from ladies altogether. But do people do this to get their power back? As in, 'I was the nice one, now i'm going to be the nasty one' to make themselves feel better for their powerless position in their break-up? I just find it funny the number of good male friends i've known who have turned into jerks since being dumped and i'm sure women do as well - I just may not have noticed it. |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by PrinceAlex001(m): 3:01pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Hmmnnn... So true. Just reflecting about how nice, loving and caring i was before i was heartbroken. My trust in ladies became broken and shattered and i turned into a wild thing, thank God now sha, i am back to the normal and smooth loving dude but despite this i still have this slight feeling that ladies dont worth it. So i have made up my mind that what will be will always be jawe. 2 Likes |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by dgalon(m): 3:01pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Oh yes, I'm also a victim 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by fran6co(m): 3:04pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
u nt far from d truth..... trust sometimes knows hw to change a man once broken. . .#W A I L E R S 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by Cholls(m): 3:04pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
My brother you're making sense. One plate of isiewu. 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by Nobody: 3:06pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Op same goes for the females too 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by kilokeys(m): 3:11pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
My babe told me she needed space.. I dumped her sorry arse.. No time to beg.. If u need space in a relationship.. What will u need in marriage? Light-years? Right now.. I am almost into another.. And this one is hotter 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by PrinceAlex001(m): 3:17pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
kilokeys:I dont just understand why ladies will always use that word "i need some space". My ex gave me that shit 4 times before i decided to really give her that space, now she has been trailing me for years, telling me she is yet to find a guy like me blablabla.... she is planning to come and see me in Lag, I go too over-bleep her and after send her comot for my house. Onyeoshi. lolz 4 Likes |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by Nobody: 3:17pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
I rest my comment here... 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by Fernandowski(m): 3:20pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
definitely that's why I only Bleep them bitches once and honestly,i don't give them numbers 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by Nobody: 3:21pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
KashyBaby:see your life?who you con dey confess to now? Them ask yhu? I wonder the kinda gurl that your g.f is self. Fishbrain. 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by Nobody: 3:27pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Then when we say men are childish they'll start complaining. Get over urself and stop being a whiny little brat, one small girl from somewhere broke ur heart and ur actually proud to use that as your reason for being a bad person? Grow up abeg 2 Likes |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by kilokeys(m): 3:36pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
PrinceAlex001:When u r too perfect for them I guess.. I cook, play instruments, sing, work .. A perfect gentlemen.. So they think.. Woo.. If i can get this guy attention.. It means I can get someone richer, finer, more talented.. As if u r cheating them from something good.. The good life.. Only for them to realise.. U were the best for them.. Too late.. I need space... Thats the beginning of the end.. To any relationship.. Guys beware.. Run for ur life 5 Likes |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by Nobody: 3:37pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Too fucking bad. I don't get what's so "damaging" about a break-up. So she bleeps up, too fucking bad. Get your act today and get another girl. Some people sha......... 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by puresoul1(m): 3:48pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
KashyBaby:I really need your comment 2 Likes |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by kunlesmiles(m): 4:32pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
MrsPhyno:funny u,i bet u won't undastand 2 Likes |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by puresoul1(m): 4:37pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
MrsPhyno:we guys are so emotional and things are not the way you girls thinks sometimes 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by ChappyChase: 4:43pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Op, in summary, all good guys that were heart broken just woke up from sleep(the sleep of believing in true love!) #team_Olosho 2 Likes |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by puresoul1(m): 4:45pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
ChappyChase:I believe all men are good from start 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by tpiar: 4:58pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
not again. 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by ChappyChase: 5:02pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
puresoul1:I can't tell oo, cause I have never had a girlfriend all my life and am not sure if a searching for one! 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by Sabadon(m): 5:31pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Too bad am abt going tru one nw..... 2 Likes |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by puresoul1(m): 9:28pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Sabadon:wow |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by seyiofficial(m): 10:34pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
wo gals don help self 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by Ehimzy(m): 10:37pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
kilokeys: I do all that except play instruments, my ex said I wasn't deserving of her, called me an over perfectionist cos I didn't cheat... now she trolls me on whatsapp with all manner of texts, even talking about sex... I'm in school now, and I'm turning into a player, and I hate it... anyone with steps on how to feel like a guy without playing girls.... 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by Ehimzy(m): 10:38pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
In a dilemma right now.... 3 girls on my head... anyone in UNIBEN here?? 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by Rexnegro(m): 11:05pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
PrinceAlex001:in fact u just spoke about me like u directed my past with girls...bro u have said that all....in my own case after my first and second girl I loved truly with my heart, I just told myself that the next 1001 girls that will come my way will suffer for it....and they did tho not up to 1001 girls...but I really dealt with girls in my university days, straffing them like say my life depends on it all in the pretence of "I love u girl"...but now I trust no girl again even tho I have calmed down from my past life style with girls.....as I chat now I don't have a gf to call my own cos I tink my past is haunting me, cos I ve asked some girls out and they turn me down despite th fact am handsome with height n nice physique and to the glory of God I hold small pepper ....i will be 32 come March 19 ...we bro nice comment again. hala 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by puresoul1(m): 11:10pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Ehimzy:I hate to be a player, but the girls are not helping at all,most of the girls see relationship as profit and loss 2 Likes |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by arki(m): 11:20pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
I still don't understand what ladies really want. Is it that their wants are complicated or they themselves. I was a perfect gentleman. I loved this girl with all my heart, did everything for this girl, even to the extent of following her to fetch her water. When she falls sick I made sure that I showed her all the care I could,sometimes massage her body wit hot water and rob,pay for most of her assignments,helped her in her exams etc, only for her to finally dump me. I think ladies dnt like perfect and loving guys but the harsh ones. Now I dnt think I'll try such a crap again. #never 2 Likes |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by killsmith(f): 11:32pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Finally....my dream thread..... *Drops 15 inches mouka foam*.... 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by RedCapChief(m): 11:43pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
I think kilokeys answered it well Unfortunately, women are not men with breasts and vaginas. They are a totally different subspecies. They naturally crave drama. When you give a woman everything, she will wonder whether the guy is too good to be true and she will conclude that he probably is. Too perfect! Giving her all your time and stuff makes her into a god that you worship. She knows she is imperfect and begins to wonder why this guy is worshiping her and being so nice. Naturally then, she will crave something else, maybe some bad guy who will treat her like the imperfect thot that she is. Not some dry guy who will reply all her pings on time.That is when she will ask for "some space." Finally, after satisfying her need to go on an emotional roller coaster, she realises what a clown she had been Every dude deserves to be a player, even if on part-time basis. Take Home Point: Women Hate Men Who Are Too Perfect!! 1 Like |
Re: Nice Guys' Becoming Players After A Relationship Breakdown? by Nobody: 11:46pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
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