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Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 1:17am On Dec 08, 2015 |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 1:25am On Dec 08, 2015 |
YourMain: No I am not quick tempered in real life. In real life, when I feel offended, I don't show it immediately. I have a way of controlling and suppressing anger, but here, I just get to allow it flow through me and I give the person a piece of my mind. It's fun in a way. |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 1:34am On Dec 08, 2015 |
Decker: Do you live in nigeria ? Mhm are you the type to hold in your anger and let it go. Or the type to hold in your anger and later on use it to hurt the person, emotionally not physically...? Mhm fun. In what way if I may ask ? |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 1:45am On Dec 08, 2015 |
YourMain: I reside in Lagos, Nigeria. Honestly, It depends on the person and what the person did to me. It's fun, in the sense that it's exciting to actually be your true self, and do what you really want to do, because what morality and decency does is that it takes away that freedom to express ourselves the way we should, the way we really want to, and it sets boundaries and limitations for us. But when I can shove morality aside, then I can do stuff I really want to do, that's the fun I am talking about. |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 1:57am On Dec 08, 2015 |
Decker: Mhm so do you think you're a lot more yourself here on NL than in "real life" ? Ehm. Imagine the worst thing a person can do to you ? Would you be the type to stay calm, go absolutely crazy or stay calm and plot their downfall ? Aren't you worried about the kind of person you are without "morals"? I personally fear what I am capable of if I decided to ditch "morality". |
Re: How True Is This!!! by jerryfunky(m): 2:14am On Dec 08, 2015 |
following these convo like it's #empire |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 6:51am On Dec 08, 2015 |
YourMain: Sorry I slept off. ![]() Yes, I am more of myself on Nairaland, because I wouldn't really say I am myself in real life. Most times when making decisions in real life, we tend to factorize what people will think, how it would affect those around us, and people's reaction into the equation, so we don't get to do what we really want to do. If you think about it, we aren't actually our real selves. But online, I am not bound by all this isssh. So yes, I am more of myself online than I am offline. Honestly, if someone does something really bad to me, I'd stay calm, and plot a massive revenge. No point throwing tantrums and going all crazy. But I am not a robot, I will definitely show some emotion at first, maybe some anger in my voice, I'd maybe scream a little, but I won't hurt the person physically at that instant. No, I am not worried. I know fully well what I am capable of, and I am not scared of it. |
Re: How True Is This!!! by noble2faith(m): 7:35am On Dec 08, 2015 |
YourMain: Good am |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 8:23am On Dec 08, 2015 |
jerryfunky: Lol. |
Re: How True Is This!!! by princely74: 8:40am On Dec 08, 2015 |
Very Corrrrrrreeecccttt! 1 Like |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 11:39am On Dec 08, 2015 |
Decker: Mhm. Did you have any preconceived notions about me before we started talking ? Lol why don't you factor the emotions of people here ? Do you think they're less human ? You must care enough about someone here to factor their feelings and emotions. You invest so much time and effort on NL. You don't fear your immorality here might start to seep into your moral life ? Or the person you are here, who isn't very nice, is who you really are. Lol I feel this is a very very formal topic and I'm not formal at all. 1 Like |
Re: How True Is This!!! by IndianaJay: 12:03pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Man is not God. People just like to vomit whatever ideology they have in their heads and act like it's the gospel. How you stay faithful is between you and God or you and your man. You can also be faithful to your man and not to your God.....and vice-versa. 1 Like |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 1:12pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
YourMain: Okay, now you are beginning to sound a lot like Kristinna....a caucasian friend of mine. What preconceived notions are you actually talking about? Honestly, I am lost on this one. Actually I am enjoying the formality of the whole thing. It's like I am talking with a therapist. I believe there are two sides to everyone. Who we are as a whole is as a result of a confluence of characters and personalities traits, most of these traits, we are born with, while some are developed and refined as we grow. But due to the nature of our upbringing and the effects culture and religion have on our minds, we are more inclined to express some, while the other traits are kind of suppressed. But certain psychological triggers have a way of "activating" these traits in certain individuals. And after being activated, these traits are pushed unto the surface of the personality of this individual, and the individual begins to express them. So I don't know if this is this character I express online is the real me, but one thing is certain, I tend to be comfortable being this person. It's like when you are trying out dresses in a mall, and you just put on one that although it's not that attractive, you feel comfortable wearing it, and you just decide to buy it, for that. Of course, I factor people's emotions, but it's not like I actually choose to hurt anyone. Whatever I say, is always in reply to someone's misdeed or foolishness. No, I don't fear if that will happen. I am in full control of my thoughts and actions. |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 1:37pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Decker: What were your thoughts of me before we began talking? Mhm I don't agree with the statement that people are born with personality traits. Maybe genes that make us stronger or weaker, but personality traits... Hmm no. So basically, the person you are on NL is a lot more you than the person you are in real life because you're not suppressing anything here. Then that goes back to your earlier statement of you having to factor other people in real life. I'm just curious, if you're more yourself here, would that not incline you to factor more people because they've catered the environment you are more yourself in. Rather than where you're "putting on a mask" almost but you seem to care for those more. I'm just curious because for me, I'm a lot less myself here on NL than I would be in real. I'm a bit crazy and weird. But that's okay because I've people that facilitate the environment for me to be like that... If you get me. Lol it's a bit jumbled. Lol really ? Really ? You must know you're going to hurt someone's feelings. When you're typing you must, sometimes, stop and be like " ugggh I'm so mean but yolo". Especially since it's such a big transition. |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Temilenu(m): 2:02pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Op you are correct. |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 2:15pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
YourMain: My thoughts of you? Erm, you seem smart, and kind of different from other ladies here on Nairaland and even in Nigeria as a whole...in the sense that you are more open minded and more tolerant, I guess No, people are actually born with certain personalities, the thing is that these personalities, are shaped and refined by the environment, the society, life's experiences and exposure to certain lifestyles. You are making it sound like I am living a false reality cause I am not. The core of my individuality remains and it's always at the center of my personality, wherever, whenever, whether online or offline. Don't get me wrong, I also factor in people's emotions when I want to express myself online, it's just that I don't care about their impression of me. I am more concerned about the people in real life because I wouldn't want what I do in real life to dent my relationship with anyone. Human relationships are very important to me, and it has a huge role to play in my being a successful person, so I always try my best to not seem rude or annoying, in a certain way, but online, no one really knows me. I am not totally anonymous but I am anonymous to an extent, so I tend to do what I really want to do. The truth is, in real life, it's smarter to not be all mean. No body wants to hear the blunt truth and nobody wants their foolishness to be called out all the time. So I give them what they want to hear. It's good for business and it helps in creating and sustaining relationships. |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 7:41pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Decker: Ehm lol no I still don't agree. No one is born with a personality. Your personality develops as you grow and experience things. That would be my understanding Anyways. No no. Not that you're living a false reality. Just where your loyalty lies really. I'm just curious to be honest. If the people see the "real " you better than the people in real I feel it should be easier for you to consider people here than people in real. Like, why would you care what people offline think of you if they only see the repressed you. They don't see you in all your glory. The people here do. So, their opinion of you should matter more no ? Anonymity doesn't really matter. You can connect with someone you've never seen before so much more than someone you see everyday. And you never know you may be talking to someone that has the power to change your life online even more than in real. Regardless, wouldn't you consider the relations you have here human relations ? Anyhoo. You aren't at all wary that you may become to familiar with this you and it will slowly seep into your offline life ? Lol that review of me seemed very careful hahaha was that offline or online David ![]() |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 8:57pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
YourMain: Okay, let's leave the personality argument for another day. Honestly, this all boils down to the duality of my personality. I am two sides of a coin and I can choose which side to face the ground. I have both under control, and I can choose which side I want people to see. It's not like I can't choose to show this "repressed side" to people in real life, I do sometimes when I am pushed to the wall, but I don't do it to just anyone, because like I said, it's the clever thing to do. And you have to understand that in real life, I am dealing with people I already know and who know me. That's why online, I prefer to verify the authenticity of anyone before taking things a step up. Here, I don't know these people. Most of them live fake lives, and mind you, I don't act mean to everyone. I have friends, like yourself and few others. Have I ever been mean to you? If I find someone who is worth being nice to and worth forming a platonic relationship with, then I will be nice to such person and show that person my other self, just like I am doing to you. It's idiots_ that I am mean to. I don't give a faq about idiots_ that I might never get to meet in real life. Whatever that person has to offer, there are millions of people in real life who can offer such and more, so I don't care about how they feel. I am already familiar with this real me. I have it under control, Whether or not it seeps into my personality offline, is my choice. |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 9:57pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Decker: Lol. How'd you know I'm not secretly an idiot ? Anyways I understand. Sort of. I'll evaluate it later on to see if it's a good or bad thing. Are you vulnerable ? Are you the type of person to 100% open your heart to a person even with the risk of them completely messing up ? Or are you the type that holds back and makes the person earn their trust slowly ? I think your ability to keep your two personalities separate really cool in a way. I often have to erase messages and rewrite them because I can feel the person I am outside NL seep into NL. And lol I don't think yous are ready ![]() And it's pretty crazy that you don't fear yourself. What would be your biggest fear then ? Awh I'm so glad you consider me a friend ![]() Oh and by the way do you have any questions for me ![]() |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 10:23pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
YourMain: I know idiots when I see them. By the way, you are smart, as in really smart. You ask really intelligent questions and you converse intelligently too. Na, I am anything but vulnerable. I allow people to see what I want them to see, but not because I am scared of being hurt. I love playing games with people, messing up their heads. No one actually knows me completely. The thing about me is that, I easily earn people's trust. I am a very likeable person. People tend to enjoy my company and they feel safe around me. It's a gift. My biggest fear is failure. I want to be successful in everything. Of course, I have questions for you, but are you ready to answer them? |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 10:37pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
U Decker: Lol. Have you ever taken a sociopath test ? Do you have a big goal ? Or you don't want to fail in anything in general ? Or do you have something specific you've planned for your life ? Mhm are you a mercy or justice person ? Do you easily feel sorry for people ? Thank you. You're really smart too! Jeez, to be honest I'm trying to keep up with you here. Of course. Ask any questions you wish. |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 11:01pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
YourMain: Yes, I have, do you want the results? ![]() I have few goals, and I want to be successful in them. Justice! Faq mercy. But when I am at fault and I am caught, which isn't likely to happen, then mercy please ![]() Do I feel sorry for people? Erm, it depends on the context in which I am to feel sorry for them. Really? Wow, I am flattered. Thanks! Okay Bolu, so you said you are crazy in real life. How crazy? Have you done the sociopath test? What was your result. Why did you ask me that question? |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 11:47pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Decker: Lol I'm too scared to do the sociopath test. I fear I am a sociopath. Haha I asked you that cause you sound like what I'm afraid to find out I am. I'm really crazy. I'm not even crazy I'm just really odd. I'm ridiculously spontaneous. I very often burst out singing in the middle of really serious conversations. I dunno lol I could show you better than I could tell you. Mhm so if a guy raped and killed my daughter and I decided to torture then kill him. Under your rule would I be going to jail ? Or would I be killed ? What would you do ? Ehm do you cry in the movies ? Don't lie oo Yesss! Are you a sociopath ? |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 12:10am On Dec 09, 2015 |
YourMain: I did the test and my score fell towards the sociopath end of the spectrum. Yes I exhibit few traits, not all but some. The fact that you are scared to do the test means you know that you are. ![]() If a guy raped and killed your daughter, and you decided to kill torture and kill him, that's justice, the fool deserves to die. If a guy did that to my sister, I'd do the same to him. Cry in movies? Hell No. I don't even cry when someone dies in real life. Like I understand the situation and I understand why someone would normally cry under such circumstance, but I don't just feel all that emotion most humans feel, and even if I do, I don't express it the way they do. I can't even remember the last time I cried at all. I knew you were this "crazy." I am beginning to really like you. I knew you were holding back a bit, hiding a part of yourself, and now I understand, and I am starting to see the real you. So what's your personality? Introvert? Extrovert? How do you handle anger or rage? Are you impulsive? How do you handle stress? Do you have a way of coping with stress, or you just go all go out and do crazy stuff? Have you ever had a break up? How did you handle it? Did you cry? Do you cry when watching movies? Do you drink much, like alcohol? |
Re: How True Is This!!! by iamtomi(f): 12:50am On Dec 09, 2015 |
yourmain nd Decker i like the flow! ![]() |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 12:51am On Dec 09, 2015 |
Decker: Lol I knew it! You're crazy! I'm a nice person lol I can't be sociopathic ![]() Mhm no. That's not really justice. You have feelings of empathy!! Awh ![]() Mhm I don't cry at funerals much either. But you don't cry at movies ![]() ![]() Yeah I'm a bit of an odd one. I'm a completely different person with the people I talk to off NL. Most people think I'm very "western" but I'm not really lol. I'm just crazy weird. Lol, honestly, you could never understand me. I'm a bit complicated. Anyways I like you too!!! I'm a mix of introvert and extrovert. I like going out and being with people and I also really like staying in bed and not talking to anyone. I'm really spontaneous but I don't see myself jumping off a cliff again anytime soon. I'm the type to stay completely calm when angered. It's hard to make me angry Anyways. But I become calm and really courteous. But my mind is extremely dangerous. I turn into iago in othello. I'm looking for ways to destroy he/she. Very impulsive. But then again I've a calculated plan for everything in my head but it never ends up working lol Ehmmm I like to paint when I'm stressed. But not pictures or anything. Like walls lol. Ehm yes lol lots of break ups. Yes I've cried lol. Ehmm. Well I think when it comes to exes regret is the best revenge you can dish. And guilt. It'll ruin them. ![]() And no. I think alcohol is absolutely vile. So no drinking for me. Plus I'm crazy enough sober Anyways. |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 9:05am On Dec 09, 2015 |
iamtomi: Lol. |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 9:22am On Dec 09, 2015 |
YourMain: If you aren't sociopathic, then why are you scared of taking the test? You must think you express a few traits? That's justice as far as I am concerned. I am not bound by society's definition of justice. I divine what justice means for me, and I act according to that definition. Why would I cry at movies? The shit_ ain't real. I mean, I feel all the emotion ingrained in the movie but crying? Come on.... "Your mind is extremely dangerous" please elucidate on this phrase. I am curious as to what you mean by dangerous. You imaginations? Ideas? What? Where do you live? Were you born over there or here in Nigeria? Do you find it easy to trust people. Have your many heart breaks forced you to have a certain stereotype about men in general? Do you think all men are the same? Do you easily get scared or do you have the heart of a lion? ![]() |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Rileey(m): 9:32am On Dec 09, 2015 |
What's popping here? |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 10:09am On Dec 09, 2015 |
Decker: Me I'm scared of everything oo. I don't watch horror or any crazy things like that. Scariest thing I've ever done was jump off a cliff and the whole time I was thinking never again. Ever. Ehm. I trust people until they prove they cannot be trusted. I'm not the type to think twice. I just walk away from the person. Nope I don't think all men are the same. Lol if I had to judge all guys by my first "heartbreak" then you'd all be absolute pricks. I live in Ireland at the moment. Born in Nigeria. Left for New York when I was two. Moved to Ireland when I was 8/9. Ehm. I become very very diabolical. Mostly the reason why I was asking how you could seperate your two personalities. When I'm angry the only thing on my mind is to make sure the person feels just as bad as I do. And people find it super easy to trust me and connect with me for some reason. And I'm good at finding and exploiting weaknesses. And while I'm plotting their mental and emotional degradation, they confide in me and I seem all sweet and innocent. Lol I shouldn't be telling you this... It's so sad ![]() Mhm but the lady just killed someone too. She's no better than the guy who raped and then killed ? |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 11:20am On Dec 09, 2015 |
YourMain: I love horror movies. I love the suspense and I love seeing the fear in people's eyes and them not knowing what's going the happen next. It's exciting in a way. I love the whole dark, gorish, horror theme too. You jumped of a cliff? Wow, how high was this cliff? How was it? Exhilirating? I would want to do that. For real. I also want to sky dive too, and climb mountains, and ride on elephants. ![]() Ireland huh? So you have that rough irish accent? How is Ireland treating you? Do you find it easy blending into their culture. You know being born in Nigeria, then spending some of your childhood in the US and they moving to Britain. How was this transition for you? So you visit Nigeria from time too time? Or you haven't been back home since you left as a kid? Trust me, I understand what you mean when you say you are diabolical. I can relate with you. Just like you, people find it easier to trust and connect with me and when I plan revenge or any of my pay back ideas, they don't see it coming. It's the perfect disguise. Yes, I have watched Marley and me. The film about the dog, the one with Jennifer Aniston? Wait, Bolu you cried over the death of a dog in a movie? Really? Lol. You'd have to experience something similar to this, to understand the satisfaction and comfort revenge brings. Revenge creates a sort of closure. Your mind is finally at rest knowing that the person who took the precious life of the one you loved and cared for, just for his own gratification, has suffered a similar fate, and he suffered it by your own hands. |
Re: How True Is This!!! by Nobody: 11:37am On Dec 09, 2015 |
The Decker: ![]() ![]() Mhm I've experienced tough times. And I like revenge. But I also like the power walking away gives you. Sure you can act out your painful revenge but you'd have to care. But for some people leaving them with guilt and regret and shame serves for a much sweeter payback. I still can't believe you didn't cry for Marley and me ![]() I have a Nigerian accent. 100% Nigerian. I was in Nigeria four years ago I think. I plan to take a vacation there 2016. I'll see how I feel. Yesss I jumped off a cliff into the Atlantic Ocean. Im going skydiving February 20th. I'm so so so so so terrified. But I'll do it Anyways. If I die I die. It felt scary lol. It felt really good afterwards though. I was really glad I did it. And I did it a couple of times more! Yeaaaah you really should. Why not ? Go for it! Carpe diem! I just don't understand you lovers of horror. Why? Why do you want to see someone kill someone ehn? What are you going to gain. The scariest movie I've seen is Taken. Idc that was scary. Mhm yeah. Most times I don't like the person I become when I'm angry. Sometimes I do. Never the less it's really difficult to make me really mad at you. I'm quite emotionless so I brush most things aside. |
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