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Husband Scarcity by SuPeRq(f): 6:18pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
My little thought on HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By: JUSTICE PETER This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer. God did not just make Eve for making sake; He made her for Adam's need to become complete and fulfilled. Ladies in the house no cruisify me oooooo Cc: lalasticlala Help us push it to front page so that we ladies can learn......... 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Husband Scarcity by Dipville(m): 8:29pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
May Allah grant you fulfilment Qudroh!!! 1 Like |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SAMBARRY: 8:32pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
Bla Bla bla 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SAMBARRY: 9:10pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
I'm a MOTHER. A proud mother for that matter and my daughter is still small. DON'T worry when she starts having children you'll know Infact I'll invite you for the naming ceremony Thanks for the compliments,Jesus is lord oloyede252: |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SAMBARRY: 9:53pm On Dec 08, 2015 |
oloyede252: University dropout out so you still believe any single Mother was left by her baby daddy.no wonder you were too ret@rded to complete your degree And if you're looking for baby factories your sister is a good option. Just be like David's son and go and rape her like your mates do to their sisters Afterall your match stick phenese is functional abi e impotent 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Husband Scarcity by oloyede252(m): 8:32am On Dec 09, 2015 |
SAMBARRY:oh God.woman i swear you're a goat..i asked i question you're here telling stories..and you have thing for incent.is the baby daddy your bro?na question o and for your last statement you dont have sense at all.ode baby factory.awon eyan borehole. I pray the evil spirit following you wont manifest on your innocent child...say ameen.... |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SAMBARRY: 8:38am On Dec 09, 2015 |
oloyede252: Yeeepaaaripa O dun e pain am Ashe oro na dun werey Okalara gan |
Re: Husband Scarcity by oloyede252(m): 8:57am On Dec 09, 2015 |
SAMBARRY:ode you knw i like you.oya close your mouth nd stfu Good morning |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SAMBARRY: 9:30am On Dec 09, 2015 |
oloyede252:o ba furo e Awon ara Ile loni stfu. Losoyen fun mumsy e. Oniranu omo |
Re: Husband Scarcity by oloyede252(m): 9:39am On Dec 09, 2015 |
SAMBARRY:i cover my furo with the blood of jesu walahi eran ni e fe ya.;P e kin gboran rara.kilode abi ara hin ti kun ni e nid step down.lols nd please i'm not omo oniranu.am omoluabi. |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SAMBARRY: 9:43am On Dec 09, 2015 |
oloyede252:kosi omo luabi Lara e boshey wun ko Mo.kotodi si suit bi alubosa And Tara e bakun ,o delo offload e.oni jati jati omo 1 Like |
Re: Husband Scarcity by Alubosa: 9:54am On Dec 09, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: Stay off my mention pal |
Re: Husband Scarcity by DNameisOla(f): 10:02am On Dec 09, 2015 |
To be frank wf u, OP, d reasons u listed above are nt d main reason for husband scarcity. Guys need to do slf evaluation. Most are nt ready to settle down, giving silly excuses for nt 'ready to settle down". Some will be like ladies are bad. Remember, nt all dt glitters are gold.Why do they always go for wat glitters are knwing this fact and later start wailing dt ladies are bad? There are some ladies out der dt only needs love and assurance from guys in order to marry them but den, guys are turning out to be highly unreliable, wat do u nw expect? D ladies shld marry them like dt or wat? In fact, dts even d guy dt decides stay. Therefore, there can only be husband scarcity when husband materials are scarce. 5 Likes |
Re: Husband Scarcity by oloyede252(m): 10:05am On Dec 09, 2015 |
SAMBARRY:eyin gan mo pe omoluabi ni mi e ko fe so otito ni ti ara eyin ba ti kun e tete soro ki a ba yin wa nko sh si.. |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SAMBARRY: 2:09pm On Dec 09, 2015 |
oloyede252:mummy e Loma help e offload e |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SAMBARRY: 2:12pm On Dec 09, 2015 |
Alubosa:gbenu e soun my friend |
Re: Husband Scarcity by oloyede252(m): 4:18pm On Dec 09, 2015 |
SAMBARRY:ode ni yin ma. |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SAMBARRY: 6:14pm On Dec 09, 2015 |
oloyede252:awon ara Ile e lode.alobaje.o go gan |
Re: Husband Scarcity by Nobody: 7:06pm On Dec 09, 2015 |
My Ppl. Husband has been scarce since when global economic meltdown started. and now that oil price has fallen husband scarcity has increased so so so so so much |
Re: Husband Scarcity by Godmother(f): 9:16pm On Dec 09, 2015 |
Sambarry and Oloyede na wa o, you guys have turned somebody's thread to a battle ground. |
Re: Husband Scarcity by Adesiji77: 10:04pm On Dec 09, 2015 |
Hmmm.... |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SAMBARRY: 6:08pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
Godmother:please ask him |
Re: Husband Scarcity by EZEIGBO1OFIMO: 6:57am On Dec 11, 2015 |
DNameisOla:So love and assurance will pay wedding bill, love and assurance will pay house rent, love and assurance will buy expensive brazillian hair. The economic situation doesn't encourage early marriages like back in the good ol' days and thats it. |
Re: Husband Scarcity by Richy4(m): 8:32am On Dec 11, 2015 |
OP, I do not think there are husband scarcity at all. Most of the Good guys has been friend zoned. and some ladies are looking at guys who are not slightly interested in them.... Most of them were not interested when the right one comes their way.( which might not directly be their fault because some are having pressure training their siblings in school and they see marriage as a distraction at that moment. by the time they are ready, the guy is gone) Others might not like the suitors that comes their way because they were not flashy enough. Oh!!! he is too tall, oh!! he is too short. his teeth is not straight... he got a bow/k legs, oh!!! He wears only one shirt.....Oh!!!I need a man that has a car, not any kind of car but range rover..... When those long list continues without adjustment from their side, they end up in a prayer house.... Some destroyed their chances due to bad orientation at home or peers. that a man should provide everything for them up to sanitary pad. some called the potential husband to be MUGU, maga etc. if you were a guy and you were referred to as Mugu, how will you feel ? I do not think it was the men that should change. the women has lots of changes to do and be reoriented. 3 Likes |
Re: Husband Scarcity by PresVA: 9:07am On Dec 11, 2015 |
There's neither husband scarcity nor wife scarcity because people keep getting married everyday! Go to Ikoyi registry and see the population that comes everyday.. In my Catholic parish in PH, about 20 couples wedded last Saturday! Or maybe those getting married ain't husband or wife material? 1 Like |
Re: Husband Scarcity by DNameisOla(f): 9:05pm On Dec 11, 2015 |
EZEIGBO1OFIMO:You see wat am saying abt going after wat glitters? Are u even aware dt some babes still make use of N600 weavon and still look beta than those painted masqurade guys prefer to run after? Anyways, a guy wf a future is wat really matters, nt necessarily an already-made man. |
Re: Husband Scarcity by EZEIGBO1OFIMO: 9:11pm On Dec 11, 2015 |
DNameisOla:Ah, some babes eh ? Why not you, 600 NGN can't even buy your ear rings |
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