Daily12:
This might sound obscene to some people, as i do not intend to hurt anyone feelings but i seriously need help. I dont know if i can continue this or not. But i would be short and straight, and i hope you guys can help me. Please

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I married my wife 2 years ago and we were very young. Our parents kind of forced us into it. My dad said i must marry her so that he can cement his friendship and contract with her father. Her own Mum told her she must marry me so that the family business would continue and the name stands since its a joint venture. So, technically, our parents used us both for business! I was only 23 she was just 19 approaching 20. She was 20 the Sunday after our wedding. That is not really the problem here, the problem is I enjoy seeing my wife in pain! It turns me on when she cries or she is sad. It makes me feel closer to her.

And as a result of this, Sometimes i deliberately do things to hurt her feelings. I scold her at every opportunity! I pick a fault in her every action. I complain about everything. I even condemn whatever she does just so she can feel bad and possibly cry. That is my intention. It has become like a drug and i'm an addict. I cannot stay without it.

In fact, sex is not what i want even when we have sex i am aggressive and mean so she can feel excessive pain. It suppose to bother me but it doesn't, it makes me feel happy.

Long story short, I think i am not normal or maybe its a fetish i don;t know but whatever this is, my wife is at the receiving end of it and she is receiving the bad side. Please mature persons, i need your advice. Divorce is impossible, our parents would disown us. so that is why she is still around and i am not surprised she did not file for divorce or report my wicked actions. She is just "Swallowing It" because her father might just disown her or cut her off from his expenses. And same applies to me, i am starting to love her and i dont want to keep on hurting her and i was thinking of ending the marriage so she finds someone better but my mum said she must not hear it and i know my dad wont find it funny. So its impossible to separate from each other and its somehow impossible for the pain she is going through to stop because I am the pain, and i want to fix this.

Thank You all.

OP, u funny oo, i go help call police for you

I think you should tell her as awful as all this sounds

it's the least she deserves!

Strahovski:
Do you think she does not have another bank account where the boys are sending her money? (Another set of "toasters",

hmmm...Dnt u tink dats kinda suggestive nd inciting? u're right abt many tins u said tho...

Hmmmm...Dis issue is best solved by a psychologist or psychiatrist.See one if u realy love her like you claim...

i think itz all ur wife's fault,let her give u some space, she doesn't need to tolerate u all the time,she should value herself, sometime she should show annoyance, let her find a way to make u jealous, it can trigger the love

[quote author=Strahovski post=40850585]Hmmm i have read the whole stuff and OP, i think i can reproduce what you are going through. Normally i would make a trash comment and port to the next thread but from what you wrote, i can see some sincerity and willingness to solve the issue. So i would help you

First, Your wife! She is young(She is 22 now) , her emotions are heightened up and this is a big deal for her considering where she is coming from(Her Family). I presume she does everything you want, when you misbehave she would still be the one to apologize and i can also sense that she is in love with you. Trust me, she is a girl, her father is not a problem! Do you think she does not have another bank account where the boys are sending her money? (Another set of "toasters", so if she wants out, she would get out! I have dealt with cases like this during my days. She loves you man, and you are taking advantage of it because it turns you on.. So follow these steps and see how it turns out:

- Communicate with her: Confess your crimes and tell her how it turns you on. Confess you do it intentionally. And observe her response(Dont be surprised she knows already) If you dont fix it, in the future, she might be using the hurt/pain to get things from you because "It brings you closer to her"
- Consult a marriage Counselor or Therapist: You need some counseling! You need to know that she is your wife and not an object of pleasure!
- Start feeling her pain: Make her pain your pain! When you start feeling her pain, you wont be the pain anymore.
- Find another way to please yourself: Yup, it can be a video game(You are a young dude), poker, or a friday night out with your wife every week.
- Make her the boss when it comes to sex: You do it her way! Not your way! At least for now *wink*
- Find out what turns her on: Its time she is the one turning on not you! You have had enough. Because all that is turning on in her is her pain.
- Be closer: Watch movies together, go on weekend time out, attend church programs together.. make her feel loved.

So Op, when you have tried it for about 3 - 6 months you would re-wire out of the idea that you should hurt her first.

Hope i helped

You can update me on the situation and i would be happy to help. Send me a mail, i will give you a call!
hmmm
[/quote you are really mature. You are good

SmartMugu:


A piece of OPs brain may be likened to those of the likes of
Ted Bundy and Gary Ridgway when they were younger. Their type derive pleasure in seeing other people feel pains.

It often graduates to learning more about how people like them have done 'great' jobs around seeing several other people feel pains and contributed to their sick knowledgebase.

Ultimately, they would prefer inflicting pains on random women for the level of pleasure they derive from seeing them in pains..

OP needs deliverance. He may want to read about Ted Bundy and Gary Ridgway etc and understand they started like him.

Psychos ain't that hard to spot anymore.

Lol. Please don't compare the OP with those guys. Those guys you mentioned are sexual sadists of the most extreme kind. I am suprised you would even try to compare the OP with them. Haha. These guys didn't get turned on by just seeing the women in pain. They were turned on by fantasies of killing and necrophilia. That's something on a whole other level.

The OP's case is just mild. Although the OP likes seeing his wife in pain, it's more of a soft core kind, I bet he can't bear thinking of torturing her to the point of her death.

Daily12:


Just her but i smile when i see young women in pain

What I thought you only liked seeing your wife in pains and it's still understandable to an extent till I saw this.
Meeeen,you need help .grab it fast

http://jacknjillive.com/therapy/

Daily12 go through this link and consult a therapist for free
You will be fine

Daily12:
This might sound obscene to some people, as i do not intend to hurt anyone feelings but i seriously need help. I dont know if i can continue this or not. But i would be short and straight, and i hope you guys can help me. Please

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I married my wife 2 years ago and we were very young. Our parents kind of forced us into it. My dad said i must marry her so that he can cement his friendship and contract with her father. Her own Mum told her she must marry me so that the family business would continue and the name stands since its a joint venture. So, technically, our parents used us both for business! I was only 23 she was just 19 approaching 20. She was 20 the Sunday after our wedding. That is not really the problem here, the problem is I enjoy seeing my wife in pain! It turns me on when she cries or she is sad. It makes me feel closer to her.

And as a result of this, Sometimes i deliberately do things to hurt her feelings. I scold her at every opportunity! I pick a fault in her every action. I complain about everything. I even condemn whatever she does just so she can feel bad and possibly cry. That is my intention. It has become like a drug and i'm an addict. I cannot stay without it.

In fact, sex is not what i want even when we have sex i am aggressive and mean so she can feel excessive pain. It suppose to bother me but it doesn't, it makes me feel happy.

Long story short, I think i am not normal or maybe its a fetish i don;t know but whatever this is, my wife is at the receiving end of it and she is receiving the bad side. Please mature persons, i need your advice. Divorce is impossible, our parents would disown us. so that is why she is still around and i am not surprised she did not file for divorce or report my wicked actions. She is just "Swallowing It" because her father might just disown her or cut her off from his expenses. And same applies to me, i am starting to love her and i dont want to keep on hurting her and i was thinking of ending the marriage so she finds someone better but my mum said she must not hear it and i know my dad wont find it funny. So its impossible to separate from each other and its somehow impossible for the pain she is going through to stop because I am the pain, and i want to fix this.

Thank You all.

guy have u tried disscusing it with your wife? Two heads are better than one

I think u should talk to a counselor. Put ur self in ur wife's shoes will u like if you were the one in her shoes n visit jacknjilllive.com

U r notin but an end time husband

donj84:

Just one question for you sir or ma..since you know a problem abt yourself, do you still go to the pastor for prayers or anointing oil when you already have the bible with you at home or you already know your problem..hope you don't go for counseling too..because if you do any of these, then you think only about yourself and not thinking of helping other people because of this you advice..we trying to create a better Nigeria, not pointing fingers at people

Don't get me wrong Mr. All I've said so far is that the op's solution isn't far from him. Yes I wouldve suggested a psychologist but in this case he knows his wrongs, so why involve a third party into family and marriage affairs? I said that because I've seen cases where a psychologist made the case even worse for a family than good. But if he can still try one then no stress but I'll always object tho.
He knows his problems, he can pen them down in a secret book and start working on a process of changing each act. My quote "the only person that can change yourself it's you".

@OP
You are nothing but a sick bastard and possibly a looser in real life.
She is just a child you fool!!!! just a child!!!

Some guys are like that , i no of one who says his babe's cry turns him on. But pls consider her feelings and treat her as a wife and not like a piece of trash....

Daily12:


Just her but i smile when i see young women in pain

Pray over it and make changes.

missyadorable:




There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Most Nigerian husbands derive happiness seeing their wives sad in pains,thats why they are professionals in doing things that will always hurt her...Matured Men who wooed,dated and courted their wives before marrying out of their own free will still make sure they make the women sad.How much more you who was forced into an early marriage? Treat her anyhow you like,she won't leave you.sHe will swallow it all for life.Her unmarried age mates have only 3years more to hit the age 25,that becomes a crime,sin and disgrace to be single.She wouldn't want to join that desperate flock.So be a typical man and continue making her cry.The tear gland of a Nigerian wife never dries up

Which gutters did this fool crawl out from? You are a beast

Daily12:
This might sound obscene to some people, as i do not intend to hurt anyone feelings but i seriously need help. I dont know if i can continue this or not. But i would be short and straight, and i hope you guys can help me. Please

-
I married my wife 2 years ago and we were very young. Our parents kind of forced us into it. My dad said i must marry her so that he can cement his friendship and contract with her father. Her own Mum told her she must marry me so that the family business would continue and the name stands since its a joint venture. So, technically, our parents used us both for business! I was only 23 she was just 19 approaching 20. She was 20 the Sunday after our wedding. That is not really the problem here, the problem is I enjoy seeing my wife in pain! It turns me on when she cries or she is sad. It makes me feel closer to her.

And as a result of this, Sometimes i deliberately do things to hurt her feelings. I scold her at every opportunity! I pick a fault in her every action. I complain about everything. I even condemn whatever she does just so she can feel bad and possibly cry. That is my intention. It has become like a drug and i'm an addict. I cannot stay without it.

In fact, sex is not what i want even when we have sex i am aggressive and mean so she can feel excessive pain. It suppose to bother me but it doesn't, it makes me feel happy.

Long story short, I think i am not normal or maybe its a fetish i don;t know but whatever this is, my wife is at the receiving end of it and she is receiving the bad side. Please mature persons, i need your advice. Divorce is impossible, our parents would disown us. so that is why she is still around and i am not surprised she did not file for divorce or report my wicked actions. She is just "Swallowing It" because her father might just disown her or cut her off from his expenses. And same applies to me, i am starting to love her and i dont want to keep on hurting her and i was thinking of ending the marriage so she finds someone better but my mum said she must not hear it and i know my dad wont find it funny. So its impossible to separate from each other and its somehow impossible for the pain she is going through to stop because I am the pain, and i want to fix this.

Thank You all.

The day a mad man is mad that day he has becoes hill. All u need to do is tell ur wife and noth of lift voice of prayers to God.

StiffDick:
Doveda. Or whatever you call yourself. I won't engage you or return curses on you. My post was not directed at you. What brings my mother into it and why call me a bastard? Why all the curse? Except if I have cursed you or directed my post to you.

Not that I can't engage you or become Nasty. I've passed that stage. You can't see any post where I curse those who curse me. If you don't like my post why not move on.

Now let it be your first and last time you will ever direct any curse or frustration to anyone that has nothing to do with you. Otherwise.. I will locate you, tie you up and cut your balls or your breast all just for fun. Then you will know that the game has just begun cos am just having fun. Guess you don't know what beef is. Do you know what Beef is? Ask Yourself. All I'm saying is don't Fucck with me...
Stay Out Of My Way.

x.x.x™

Who the hell are you?

You think I am afraid of cutting limbs, tongue and peniis just to do your fun hurting another person?

Someone complained of hurting his wife and you are asking him not to worry because she might actually like it. It is either you are a imbeciile or a sexist pig who treat women based on some BS.

My advice for u is dat stay wth her wth she wont 2 give birth u wil repect her.

fairygeh:

Which gutters did this fool crawl out from? You are a beast

Are you new on Nairaland?

Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. pls my Bro, don't use ur hand to bring cause yo urself. the cementalisation of ur parents av already take place just forget d past n continue wit d present.

cc RoyalRoy Seun

Can you please have a look at StiffDick's dp?

Well, it is a picture of his phallus.

Ewww!

Doveda. I will take your comment as a joke. Of all the comments here, how come it's mine you are picking on?
I don't have to exchange words with you cos this thread will not contain us both when I start with you.

If I put you on my radar, you will need to put a Teflon hard hat on. When you see a long 9, then you will know you are into what you not prepared for. I guarantee you a body bag and first class ticket to Lucifer. But before then you will see your maker. Be warned. x.x.x™

NovusHomo:


And what if his wife loves it and cooperates? It is some kind of sickness.

There is no mention of his wife consenting to it. If it is consensual, no wahala but it isn't. Stop implying what isn't into his explanation, especially in a country where it is normal for a woman to be abused

you are mentally disturbed and if I knew who you were, I would kill you.

StiffDick:
Doveda. I will take your comment as a joke. Of all the comments here, how come it's mine you are picking on?
I don't have to exchange words with you cos this thread will not contain us both when I start with you.

If I put you on my radar, you will need to put a Teflon had hat on. When you see a long 9, then you will know you are into what you not prepared for. I guarantee you a body bag and first class ticket to Lucifer. But before then you will see your maker. Be warned. x.x.x™

You are a clown!

Wait...Let me laugh small

Doveda. Don't fu-uck with me..cos I don't fu-uck with you. Stay out of my way. x.x.x.™

Holy heavens!!!


What's this

This is so malicious, she married you @ 19 in the prime of her youth. That's not enough reason to cherish her. Your both parents have lost it incase they don't know.

To do such in this 21st century i wonder what will happen when she starts having kids you would torment her and the kids right ?? Such a psycho!!

Solidkay:
No sorries,U r very stupid,
i dnt knw hw old u r ryt nw bt hw long will u remain a boy?wen will u man up n face ur worse fears?
I pity d poor lady,
its obvious this is d result of parents forcing their children into marriage wen dey r nt mentally ready and above all they dont luv each other.
Too bad.

You have said my mind.....In addition If u still have reservations about wat ur parents are making u to do u need to know that ur life doesn't belong to them.If u do not actually love this girl it is best u get out niw be4 it is too late or be4 she makes a bad friend who will school her on how to deal with you

Why dont i believe ds story?..... Not that it isnt possible oo, but some ppl just enjoy and take pleasure in reading d numerous comments dat follow their made up stories. Its also kind of a high.