Toks2008:



Unfortunately i will say that you need to direct this thread to ladies more because they dont know what they want.

I created a thread asking ladies five questions and the response showed that most Nigerian girls will remain single for long time.

They are their own problems so let them deal with it. For me, im not interested in wasting time with any clueless naija girl who will go fasting and praying for a hubby and when they see one that is when they will form even more like a possessed individual.

They are many on Nairaland!

The reasons espoused in this post was wat made I and my then nysc friend to cut ties.
we were friends immediately after camp (we never knew each other in camp). we discussed and discovered we are falling for ourselves mutually. I suggested that we give ourselves time to understand the length n breadth of what we felt and then know if we are ad idem (oof the same mind n purpose).
After a month of casual friendship and with sincerity, we got to See that what she wants is not what I want. whereas she wants marriage after service, I want to work for at least 3years before marriage.
and we could not reconcile this issue, even when we could reconcile all other issues (tribal, denomination, career)
we just met in a love garden one day and ended the thing. I don't want to waste her time and she don't want to be an unsecured hunch on my back while I pursue my career.
we still remain friends till date, though she has long gotten into her home.
and I am better off now, in the mind.

Oliviaarims:

That's a bit risky. Imagine a girl that wishes to get married at 25. Should she then start to date only when she's 25? Strt getting to know what being in a relationship means... What putting up with a person totally different from u involves.. At that age? And what if the first relationship doesn't work out? There are far more consequences in that.

Haba. My theory only applies to men not ladies
Most men got carried away and are moved by beauty and how endowed a lady is. That's why they start relationship that they won't be able to finish

gcof:
like seriously u would ask a guy to take you to his parents Ladies una dey fall my hand yet you claim to be smart....if you are good for him, he'll take you to mama no need asking (begging)

You never see the rate of desperation. Have you seen when you would date a girl here on Nairaland and just two months into the relationship she asking to see your parents. Shine your eyeseyes

ladycomfort:
. Do you have long big and fat diiick?

I do, drop your digits. I like Yoruba girls very outspoken.

wailing:
take me now

Mbong, are u drunk? didn't u check her signature.

wailing:
take me now

Mbong, are u drunk? didn't u check her signature.

tpraiz:




Hope u r finally married now '


If not u must be a very Old lady by now '

. No am not. Its just dat I started dating him at a very early age.

Herrmes:
For the sake of love? What the hell is that? He loves you that's why he's keeping you around.

Not necessarily.

dachaste:
If a gal sees a guy that's not ready for marriage she should know

Ramsey Noah! You never jam some baddos!

artisticallyart:

You never see the rate of desperation. Have you seen when you would date a girl here on Nairaland and just two months into the relationship she asking to see your parents. Shine your eyeseyes

lol.. bros, you be c in c for ladies matter here

ladycomfort:
. Yes very cunny. You will ask them to take you to their parent. They will be telling you one story or the other.

you are out of the game, a guy taking a lady to his parent dosent guarantee the guy is serious,He will go behind the scene and told the parent that he is only playing you....
If u r patient enough,self reliant and focus,i bet u my sister....u will know the right to the wrong

Toks2008:



Unfortunately i will say that you need to direct this thread to ladies more because they dont know what they want.

I created a thread asking ladies five questions and the response showed that most Nigerian girls will remain single for long time.

They are their own problems so let them deal with it. For me, im not interested in wasting time with any clueless naija girl who will go fasting and praying for a hubby and when they see one that is when they will form even more like a possessed individual.

very correct

Op This your write up make over sense, na so i take lost the most beautiful, intelligent and most wonderful girl in the world, she waited for me for six years cos i wasn't buoyant financially to go down the aisle with her or pay for her bride price then, she was ready to wait for more years despite family pressures on her, until GOD smiled on her and gave her a MAN who Senior her with about 15 years from UK but he is still a nigerian, she is in UK now since, she still profess her love to me till now but she is married she is married and the deed has been done there is nothing both of us can do now, BUT THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS I HAVE NEVER SEEN SOMEONE LIKE HER SINCE THEN BUT I AM PRAYING FOR GOD TO HEAL ME FROM THAT HEARTBREAK, EVEN HER TOO COS SHE SAID HER HUSBAND IS NOT LIKE ME. We Missed Our Parts ...

Oliviaarims:

That's a bit risky. Imagine a girl that wishes to get married at 25. Should she then start to date only when she's 25? Strt getting to know what being in a relationship means... What putting up with a person totally different from u involves.. At that age? And what if the first relationship doesn't work out? There are far more consequences in that.

the earlier people realise not all relationships will lead to marriage the better for them

udysweet:
Hahaha! And one wasted 7 of mine! But its in d past!I guess I believed in love too and tried to make it work by all means,forgetting Bible says lean not on ur own understanding and also said by strength shall no man prevail. I wanted to help God but now,I'm calling Him into my affairs,can't afford anoda time waster o. Infact I'm typing this from Shiloh ground,I've tapped,received and ingested enof annointing(am willing to share some to u o,lol!)
Nobody shd come and label any lady here and be sayin its hard to get we're playing. Fine,we do mak mistakes but it is God dat pardons. That dsnt mean we shd jump at every Tom Dick and Harry one meets or approaches ones. I pray for a discerning spirit,to know henceforth,the ones who wants to come and waste our time or use us to satisfy sexual pleasures. Be gone in Jesus name,Amen!

Madam, he might not have gone truly he might still come Back. Besides so any man that comes ur way now weda he loves you or not but so long he is ready, u will marry?

sometimes its not always the boys fault but the situation of our country

TOPCRUISE:

Haba. My theory only applies to men not ladies
Most men got carried away and are moved by beauty and how endowed a lady is. That's why they start relationship that they won't be able to finish

Ohhh, u were referring to the men. U should have stated that clearly.

Women always playing victim. When you're not marriageable. How would u get married. That was how I was chasing one girl for almost 4 yrs (not that I didn't date other women in between) But thinking about it now, thank God we are not together today. When I think of her now in relation to my present fiancee then Im sure back then my head must not have been correct.

Odunharry:

lol.. bros, you be c in c for ladies matter here

My guy! Check out those girls that are usually silent on some threads. A lot are dying in silence.

ladycomfort:
. No am not. Its just dat I started dating him at a very early age.

Oh cool then.....

@ a very early age,maybe he thought you were too young for marriage issues then.....

Lytech:

you are out of the game, a guy taking a lady to his parent dosent guarantee the guy is serious,He will go behind the scene and told the parent that he is only playing you....
If u r patient enough,self reliant and focus,i bet u my sister....u will know the right to the wrong

Funny enough she is but can't see it.

akindap07:
we all cheat joor....buh gurls cheat more

I disagree. Guys are polygamous in nature

dachaste:
If a gal sees a guy that's not ready for marriage she should know

there's a whole lota sense on wat d op posted...this is why i always urge gals to define their relationship frm d onset, so to knw wer dey are heading, so nobody will be @d losing end.

been following d thread.
for d ladies, visiting a guy in d home of his parents is different from taking u to meet his parents #proper introduction.
a guy knows right from day one if he wud lov to marry u or not.

Chicagoesontop:
Op This your write up make over sense, na so i take lost the most beautiful, intelligent and most wonderful girl in the world, she waited for me for six years cos i wasn't buoyant financially to go down the aisle with her or pay for her bride price then, she was ready to wait for more years despite family pressures on her, until GOD smiled on her and gave her a MAN who Senior her with about 15 years from UK but he is still a nigerian, she is in UK now since, she still profess her love to me till now but she is married she is married and the deed has been done there is nothing both of us can do now, BUT THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS I HAVE NEVER SEEN SOMEONE LIKE HER SINCE THEN BUT I AM PRAYING FOR GOD TO HEAL ME FROM THAT HEARTBREAK, EVEN HER TOO COS SHE SAID HER HUSBAND IS NOT LIKE ME. We Missed Our Parts ...

She's still professing love... Hmmmm... That's sth. U'd better not indulge her, before sb becomes an adulterous wife. She's married now. There shouldn't be any love talks anymore.

Just saying.

Chicagoesontop:
Op This your write up make over sense, na so i take lost the most beautiful, intelligent and most wonderful girl in the world, she waited for me for six years cos i wasn't buoyant financially to go down the aisle with her or pay for her bride price then, she was ready to wait for more years despite family pressures on her, until GOD smiled on her and gave her a MAN who Senior her with about 15 years from UK but he is still a nigerian, she is in UK now since, she still profess her love to me till now but she is married she is married and the deed has been done there is nothing both of us can do now, BUT THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS I HAVE NEVER SEEN SOMEONE LIKE HER SINCE THEN BUT I AM PRAYING FOR GOD TO HEAL ME FROM THAT HEARTBREAK, EVEN HER TOO COS SHE SAID HER HUSBAND IS NOT LIKE ME. We Missed Our Parts ...

Una two dey craze. Guy una Don make mistake O. If u truly love a gal don't let her go in ur next world. What's the need wen u get married and still think of anoda man or woman?

artisticallyart:

My guy! Check out those girls that are usually silent on some threads. A lot are dying in silence.

I agree with you... many of them claim to be who they are not and atimes act like lion on here but the truth is they are cats if you get close to them..

I don't evn take what many of them say seriously cos some of them lie Jus to feel among or better.

Many here need a man but due to their pride and they can never admit that

Odunharry:

the earlier people realise not all relationships will lead to marriage the better for them

Surely. The more reason time is crucial.

Odunharry:

I agree with you... many of them claim to be who they are not and atimes act like lion on here but the truth is they are cats if you get close to them..

I don't evn take what many of them say seriously cos some of them lie Jus to feel among or better.

Many here need a man but due to their pride and they can never admit that

true .......

Oliviaarims:
Surely. The more reason time is crucial.

so who do you think should be blamed or the solution?

ladycomfort:
. Lucky ke. We are talking of two different things here. A guy with a big long and fat diick and a guy that refuse to take you home 6yrs into a relationship.

Is marriage a trophy that you ladies cherish about it?