This might seem disturbing to some people and i am sincerely sorry but i just i have to let this out and perhaps get help.

So I graduated from the University at a very young age and I got a job in a very big company in Lagos(Name Withheld.. I'm Sorry). Initially i was employed as an IT Specialist/Engineer and I was later promoted to being the direct assistant to the CEO of the company. Most times, I feel unnecessarily happy when he comes around. Even when he asks me to bring certain files/reports to him, i can move the whole thing at once to him but i would break it down at which i would take it to him 3 - 5 times so i can see his face.

I don't know if this is right or wrong with the fact that he is a married man. The day he was invited to Abuja for a meeting at the company's branch, i received the mail on his behalf, instead, i bugged his computer so he won't travel without me! Sometimes i feel that i can never have him as that is what my female colleagues say but another part of me wants to take him by force but i fear that i would ruin his family because now, he is starting to like me. He ensures i accompany him on any of his business trips(Local and International) the last time, he secured an hotel room for both of us. I was surprised as i did not expect to be with him in the same room.(Though nothing obscene happened).

At this point, i feel that if i continue to push the radar, i will get him! But I'm considering his family.. his wife! I dont know if he has a kid but i know he has a wife. He calls her often before during lunch time but now he doesn't! he spends more time with me. He got me a lot of gifts on my birthday in April(Gifts that got people talking.. but no one can say a word! He is the CEO).

I am in love with him though i haven;t told him but i think he knows and he is starting to like me too because he is mean with the male workers that come around me when he is around.

Please NL, Should i Quit and save his family? Or Still follow my desires? Your opinions are appreciated

To the poster below me: There is no shame! She is expressing her feelings--

Back to the topic: OP, Sorry to ask, how old are you? How old is the man? If the man is old enough to be your dad, errr... you need help? Quit it!

But if he is not, I assume, that he is young, handsome and rich! The CEO! And you want him! Well, You might not be interested in his wealth, but here is my advice for you:

If the man can be unfaithful to his wife to book a room for two with his assistant and possibly 1 bed! When you become his wife, he would do same thing to you! Finally, Quit it dear!
You are not quitting to save his family but yourself! He is already lost! I;m sure he has another mistress in that same company!

So dear, leave him. If he is just too awesome, resign or ask to be demoted back to your IT department! #My2Cents

you are in love with a married man and you arent ashamed to say it

How a sane lady will decide to go after married men baffles me.

Karma is a biatch u know....5 years down the line you will be crying to the Lord for ur husband to stop bringing girls into your home.

My answer for you is contained in this link. Don't ruin your future. Hope you won't mind another girl sleeping with your own husband when you must have gotten married and had kids too.
https://www.nairaland.com/2796652/something-every-lady-should-know

U ARE A WITCH, A HOME WREKER, U DESERV TO BE TIED WITH A ROPE AND THROWN INTO RIVER NIGER, URE A DEVIL, URE NOTHING BUT A DESTROYER, @OP URE A BAD WOMAN INFACT MAY OGUN, AMADIOHA,SANGO, IFA, KILL U FOR WANTING TO DESTROY THE HOME OF ANOTHER WOMAN, CHAI IM ANNOYED!!! WHAT A STUUUPID OP AND A FOOLISH THREAD.

Always remember that karma is not juz a mere b1tch..

Now, if u both allow urself to be in a relationship, sooner or later his wife will discover this and u might lose ur job..

Now, if I we're u stay away from trouble that will may cause u embarrassment in the future.

There are many fishes in the ocean.... ojukokoro is when you want my sardine... Madam go find your own fish!

Eleyi gidi gan. If I may ask what do you really want from him? Se.x, ordinary date, or you want to be his mistress.

ssoftappless:
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Softapples is this u?

RESPECT YOURSELF Firstly, girls, when did we stop respecting
ourselves? While the man might be giving you
tons of attention, gifts and taking you out, it
really isn't ever going to be a true relationship
because he already has a family.
You don't
ever want to be called a home wrecker or someone that is going to break up a family.
Instead, end it with him and really go through
the breakup process so you can find someone
free.
Being in love with a married man isn't
going to get you anything but a lot of judgment
and grief, girls!

ladyF:
Softapples is this u?

YES MY LADY, "its ladyf husband again.

ssoftappless:
YES MY LADY, "its ladyf husband again.

Lol welcome back

u dey craze well well for ur head, stupidd girl asking silly question, zombie!

CaroLyner:
you are in love with a married man and you arent ashamed to say it

Hope you know people don't really control their feelings

ladyF:
Lol welcome back

yeah thank u, i really miss you, where hav u been?

ladyF:
Lol welcome back

yeah thank u, i really miss you, where hav u been?

While I read ur crap, all I could say is that, "YOU ARE A FOOL!!!"
Mtcheeeeew

Just date him, after sometime,he will dump you,by then there would be a new fresh and younger girl in ur office,he switches over to her,and then make the working environment unsuitable for you,and then both of you,i mean the new girl and you,will continue to fight for someone's husband, and he may or maynot continue to ffuk u both,, but remember, you have a brighter future and a good job,so forget married me and wait for your own which is diffinitly on the way, but remember if ever date a married man knowingly, someone will date your husband, that is how it works

Stop loving him,and start loving ur job. Sh*t happens in a working environment,...just get a good guy and start dating him,u'll get over it.Actually,this is not love but infatuation,lust,maybe cos he's rich and all.

iceberylin:

Hope you know people don't really control their feelings

she's old enough to control her feelings.

Think of his wife. Is it fair to her? She's been married to him for
however many years, cleaned up after him
when he's sick, raised children with him,
sacrificed with him, dealt with the "damn
dailies," then you come in at the 11th hour and
provide a contrast to that that's new, and exciting and fun. You are intruding upon her
turf. You are a trespasser. It is no different
than being a thief in the night. It is no different
than breaking into their house and stealing their
things.

Do unto others what you wish and pray to be done unto you, remember karma is a silent bi**h

CaroLyner:

she's old enough to control her feelings.

Believe me anyone can loose it...

Haven't you?

Hmm. If u care about his family, u wouldn't be here asking whether or not u should drop the chase. If u did care the slightest bit about his family, u wouldn't have been going out of ur way to make ur boss notice u in ways he's not supposed to. U want to ruin a woman's home and that's inherently bad in itself.

U've been lucky to finish school at a young age and get gainfully employed not long after. Pls, concentrate on ur job and let ur boss be. If he's naturally promiscuous, u shouldn't be one of his playthings. Pls, don't mention anything about how u feel. Act as professionally as possible henceforth. Allow him to start wondering if all the events in the past were simply illusions in his head.

I don't believe ur conscience will let u be if problems start arising in his home because of u, whether or not he has a child.. And yes, Karma is real.

I know it's difficult, though... Loving sb and not being able to have him. But u allowed urself to love wrongly. U could have avoided all this if u had immediately quelled the attraction from the onset and not allow him notice it. Just stay away from a married man!

iceberylin:
Believe me anyone can loose it...
Haven't you?

am a teen.so its understandable .but she aint no teenager so she got no excuse.

CaroLyner:

am a teen.so its understandable .but she aint no teenager so she got no excuse.

I guess Age isn't maturity...

ssoftappless:
yeah thank u, i really miss you, where hav u been?

I'm always here o. Missed u too

U better free d married man and continue to consider his family

OK
Continue

Break off this relationship today. You'll hurt, you'll feel broken-hearted, but you'll
be better off. Take some time to get really
clear with yourself about who you are and
what you want.

The most important relationship
you'll ever have in this world is the one you
have with yourself.

And eventually, you'll fall in love again — with someone who's willing to
make you first in his life!