somebody have to go down......just pretend to be in accordance with them..then struck.

What ur husband did is not as bad as what you did in the past that resulted in you not having babies. Abortion is dangerious. Unfortunately ur husband married you without knowing ur past. Pls move on and allow the man to enjoy his fatherhood. It is wicked for a man to have a man as wife. It is true both of you ladies ve got pussies but it takes more than a pussy to be pregnant.

sapiosexual1:

yeah I understand, just pulling your legs.

why are u pulling his leg? U be homo?

ajuwarhodes:



Where in the bible was it said that can get away with been unfaithful? Quoting the bible to suit urself

Lol.. I find this difficult.. So uhh, I didn't quote the bible to suit myself..

There's a place in the bible "women, be faithful to your husbands and husbands love your wives just as Christ loved the church"

Double Walhalla for dead body. Kpele

My candid opinion: Divorce him if you cannot cope with the effect. The bible is in support of divorce if a mate is unfaithful anyway. Its better you save yourself from such trauma which can cost your health or life while he lives to enjoy himself. If you were the one who cheated, he would have divorced you without hesitation. The world would have labelled you 'a bad woman'. Now its a man cheating, see them all praising him.

The sooner we stop giving men the impression that they are free to misbehave while we should be in our best behaviour, the better for us. Both parties must be made to respect the feelings of each other. It shouldn't be a one sided thing. Whoever said women are less humans and their feelings doesn't matter?


Still, if you feel you can endure it for whatever reason, forgive him and accept the new development.

it a sad story though, a lot of advice has been said here. mine won't equally change the verse. i would just pray for you!

Wallade:
My candid opinion: that marriage to your husband is over. You need to get him to file a divorce so you can be free to marry or date someone else

Christianity gave no room for divorce bro

victorazy:


You can see she has already been angry, meaning she is not the prayer type, she is of the world.

That's bad
Yeah her first reaction would b anger later she would remember prayers trust me it has to do with time.
The husband wasn't good enough he should have been patient i can't ask her to leave her home but seek God's face

Eve4eva:
How r we sure the man is responsible 4 the pregnancy

good question
the preg may be for another man abroad

Brytawon:
My name is Myra and I'm a very angry and bitter woman. And it's all thanks to the 'witch' called Hetty, my landlady.
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Before the 'Jezebel', came into our lives, my husband CJ and I were doing just fine. We had been married for about eight years and though we did not have children, CJ was not too worried.

"When the time comes, we will have children. God's time is the best," he often said anytime I grew anxious over our childless state. You know how our African society is. Once a couple gets married, people especially family members, friends, colleagues and other so called 'well-wishers' expect the woman to start popping out babies as quickly as possible. My husband's parents and other family members live far away from us and hardly visit so pressure from their end was not much.

All the same, I never relented in my quest to have my own child. I fasted and prayed and cried to God to remember me. But the years went by and there was still no issue.

Then about two years ago, we had to move to another apartment from where we were staying in Lagos due to problems with the landlord. He had increased the rent by over fifty percent without warning and threatened to eject any tenant who did not comply. My husband, who felt the new rent was too high for the flat decided we should move.

So that's how we ended up in our new place. The house, made up of four flats is owned by Hetty who had inherited it from her parents. She lived in one of the flats downstairs with her two children, both teenagers. Hetty, who is in her late 30s, was said to be divorced or separated from her husband. When we moved in newly, the woman was so nice and helpful to us, always asking if we had any problems. She would invite us to her home and even cook for us. With time,
we became very close. I thought in my naivety that she was just being nice.

How did I know that she had designs on my husband! Anyway, I found out later that my husband was dating our landlady. It had been going on for months before I knew about it. You see, because of my job I'm hardly at home. My office is in Victoria Island so I leave home early and return home late as well. My husband is a business man so his schedule is more flexible than mine. There are days he does not go out at all, but stays at home and works on his computer and makes contacts on phone.

Since the story came out about their affair, friends and other concerned well-wishers have told me that I should have been more careful, that I should not have allowed a woman like her, single and still quite young and pretty to get close to my husband. But what were they expecting me to do, tie a grown up like him up? He's mature enough to know right from wrong and that dating that woman is something he should not have done.

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I found out about the affair from a neighbour who had been seeing them going out together and acting like lovers whenever I was at work. I confronted CJ and though he denied it initially, he finally owned up and confessed. He pleaded with me to forgive and forget that it was the 'work of the devil.'
"What devil?" I countered furiously.
"Instead of accepting responsibility for cheating on me with our landlady, you are blaming the devil!" I was very angry with him and I felt hurt too. What the woman has that I lacked, I wondered, weeping bitter tears. Ok, she was very pretty but I was not bad looking and was even younger than her.

CJ promised to stop seeing the woman, also begging me not to go and fight her as we could be kicked out of the apartment. I loved my husband very much and he meant the world to me so I forgave him. Things went on as normal though I was more vigilant this time around. As for my landlady, she travelled with her children abroad for the summer holidays and I did not see her for some time. The children came back and resumed school but she stayed behind for a few more months.

When she returned later, it was clear to even a blind man that she was pregnant. I did not think much of it and just ignored her as I had been doing since I found out she was sleeping with my husband. That was until CJ broke the terrible news to me, that he was responsible for her pregnancy! How could this have happened, was the first thought that entered my mind. I was, as expected devastated by the new development. Here was I, married to him for nearly eight years and yet to produce a child. Yet a clandestine affair with our landlady had resulted in a
pregnancy.

I became ill when I heard the news and had to take some time off from work. When my mother who lived near us heard what happened, she came to spend time with me. It was my mother and younger sister who came with her that went to my landlady's house and fought with her. Much as I hated the woman, I was not in support of physical combat and told my mother to leave her alone. The damage had been done and fighting her would not solve anything, I reasoned.

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It was my husband that I was more worried about. He had become so happy since Hetty announced she was pregnant for him.
"Finally, I will be a father," he had stated with obvious pride the day he broke the news to me. When I recovered, I called him one day that due to the situation of things, I no longer felt comfortable living in the same compound with the landlady, that we had to move. To my shock, CJ was vehemently opposed to my suggestion, insisting there was no need to relocate.

"Hetty will soon put to bed and as the father of the baby, I need to be around to look after them," he said. I was not ready to give in and I gave him an ultimatum: it's either we left or he should forget about me and our marriage. I told him I was not ready to share my man with any woman, least of all that conniving landlady of ours.

"I can't stay here anymore. Seeing that woman every day with her big, protruding tummy drives me crazy. I need to get away for my own sanity and peace of mind," I said.

That was when he told me that I could do whatever I wanted, that he was not ready to go anywhere.
"I'm going nowhere. We just moved here so why would we be moving so soon? Learn to adjust to the situation or ..." he rejoined.

Since I'm not ready to adjust, I have begun making alternative plans. My younger sister, who has her own apartment in town, has suggested I move in with her until CJ comes to his senses. I don't know what will happen to my marriage when I leave. I still love my husband and I know he cares about me too, but that woman seems to have cast a spell or used 'love charm' on him or something. I need to get away before I lose my mind with worry and stress. I don't know if I have taken the right decision or not. But I need some space right now before I lose my mind or even die prematurely from all the trouble my husband and his mistress have caused me...

THE END!

Names have been changed to protect the identity
of the narrator and other individuals in the story.

source: www.truelifestoriesng..com.ng/2015/12/im-childless-but-my-landlady-is.html?m=1

END TIME LANDLORD. No matter how preety a lady is, there is always someone better( confirm figure 8, perfect sets of teeths, seductive smile, hips, e.t.c). It is normal jawe..sorry @d Woman in d context.take heart.

bettercreature:
Ladies are selfish! You suppose to divorce or ask your husband to marry another wife if you can not concieve for 5yrs or more, my opinion might not make sense to you tho but we all know God does not created any woman who can not concieve,their ability not to concieve is due to what they have done when they were young,i don't think i can hustle all my life, make it, then stay with a woman who can not concieve for more than 5years

Gosh ur so ignorant. There are virgins whose husbands popped their cherry & they still cant concieve. There are girls who marry as young as 22 wt fresh eggs & can't conceive. And there are women DT have had 3 abortions and end up having 5kids.

Maybe read abt all d different causes of infertility and stop yarning opata on this thread. Empty Numbskull! Don't worry, shebi u will marry.

bettercreature:
Ladies are selfish! You suppose to divorce or ask your husband to marry another wife if you can not concieve for 5yrs or more, my opinion might not make sense to you tho but we all know God does not created any woman who can not concieve,their ability not to concieve is due to what they have done when they were young,i don't think i can hustle all my life, make it, then stay with a woman who can not concieve for more than 5years

kid brother... if medically u are not fit as a man, how many women will you marry?
Fitness test should be recommended before marriage... shikena!

ilawanson44:


The man is infertile and yet the landlady is pregnant for him? Are u with your senses?

for a woman to move around with a married woman knowing fully well that he is married is of loose manner, meaning that the husband may not be the only man she has had a thing with and YES I AM WITH MY SENSES

Careless woman. "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach" .... she was happy that the landlady was cooking and inviting them over. After al l the warnings and confirmations.... how can she not expect the end result if they continued to live with Jezebel? Even her lack of pregnancy.... she has not done a medical checkup. That husband is long gone.

Omotolu:
...assaults and battery are not involved. The choice is hers,but be rest assured the man is not moving an inch.

It's only a matter of time before it gets to assault and battery. The man does not send the wife again.

Seldom comment on this platform but this got to me so much that I feel like encouraging you that your time is near, in fact very near.

This is the moment to tell your MAKER to arise for you. Not that you have not been doing that but in the bitterness of heart tell Him and praise Him.

Should you move in with your sister, please return very fast and play your wifely roles. You'll surely laugh last, longer and longest.

HELLTY or woteva useless name she bear is indeed JEZEBEL reincarnation.The damage is beyond repairable.Pack ur thing and leave those pipu b4 she/her family,even ur supposed husband descend on U/harm U.There's always solution to every problem and every problem no mata what have expiry date.Believe GOD,U aren't a barren.if the one that born/gave birth to u isn't a barren,then U can't either.if animals procreate,U too will.Stop trusting/loving that man.If he can do such and even tell u to go to hell and u kip saying u love him,perish that thoughts and Move on.Except there's No GOD,U'll bring forth ur own children

Before your husband impregnates his landlady, two of you obviously have been doubting where the problem is but now it is clear your husband is fertile, there are cases of fertile couples who could not produce children but have children when they separate and got spouses elsewhere who knows maybe you can be pregnant for another man. There are two sides to it either you continue to wait till God answer your prayer while your landlady keep producing making you restless or you find succour elsewhere if your destiny is attached to it.

Call me if u want to be pregnant

fbtowner:
I can see some ppl blaming the man. Well they might be right. In the other book childless for 8 years is no beans.

He even tried kudos to him. I guess the wife didn't take the childlessness serious enough.

Now some ppl taking about STI or STD or whatever. U are childless for 8 years and u are talking STI

from my own view I have never seen a man who will be childless for 8 year and will not be trying other women.

The woman is not faulty. Neither the man. I blame the landlady for been wicked.

But critically looking at it the man has a little fault. But I still give kudos to him for waiting that long its not easy. I don't think I can myself. It will take God's grace for me to wait that long

Now psychologically the man loves his wife. He didn't go far. I guess the relationship started by d Hetty woman initiating. The man couldn't resist. Who could do that should cast d 1st stone. For d man to do it within same compound I bliv he still loves his wife it was only a temptation he couldn't resist
He who can resist that should cast the first stone
Note : so many are cheating only those who get caught are named

Now to top it he is going to be a father after 8 years meeehn its no joke.
(probably the best feeling he ever had in his life)

The best thing to do here for the wife is to accept fate and move on with him or otherwise. If she tries anything funny the man won't hesitate replacing her for Hetty

So I bliv if she confines In God and pray. God will grant her wishes and make her get pregnant.


The moment she becomes pregnant. Things will start balancing.


A man made for 2 wives will never marry one


I hope u choose your advice wisely


*inks Empty*

"A man made for 2 wives will never marry one "

Sir,I'm trying hard to accept this part sir, though I agree with all you've said.

crackhouse:
why are u pulling his leg? U be homo?

homo kwa! For where, ask my gf, she would tell you how much I love her thang.
hehehe, his legs dey waka where trouble dey o, na so I tie rope for the leg dey pull am.

Vickygirk:
pple's comment sha, ESP ecially those blaming the woman for infertility problem. what if the man is actually infertile and the Hetty of a woman is taking advantage of their situation. the first thinf first is for the woman to do fertility test to rule out the possibility of the fault been hers. then wait for the lady in question to give birth and the conduct paternal test for the baby. this is actually ascertain the husband is the owner. for the meantime stay low and be strong, u will pull through this challenge

mehn ur de wisest... Ur comment was so mature n gosh dunno hw to put it, very intelligent way of advice n i go with ur point..

ojun50:
For the past 8 years no child why?

What kind of question is dis? Is she God? Dat is so insensitive of u to say.

Well this is a very complicated situation,first thing first, stress can make it difficult for a woman to conceive and even if they do that can loose it in a swift, it happened to two different women in my former workplace, so sad.So she needs to manage her time.
I think she should not move out, unless she has made up her mind or doesn't love the man anymore, if she can the man will return begging, just be strong, prayerful and do the needful (medical)because it seems you neglected that aspect due to pressure of work.
Finally, hope lesson learnt , never leave your man unattended to, the man even tried when you compare to alot of men nowadays, even the one that gave them half a dozen, they still....

JrizzyJosh:
Lol! After all the abortion you committed then. ..now you are here. .don't blame the nigga. ..He needs a baby! Stay away from premature sex all this girls nor go hear

Why are you so dumb?? Abortion is not the only cause of infertility! Where did she state that she had an abortion. Smh

MissGdope:

Why are you so dumb?? Abortion is not the only cause of infertility! Where did she state that she had an abortion. Smh

sweetheart, I'll appreciate it if you don't call me dumb...you that is not dumb what is the cause of her not having babies? Na Ogbanje dey worry you. .

MissGdope:

Why are you so dumb?? Abortion is not the only cause of infertility! Where did she state that she had an abortion. Smh

sorry for the insults!

Vickygirk:
pple's comment sha, ESP ecially those blaming the woman for infertility problem. what if the man is actually infertile and the Hetty of a woman is taking advantage of their situation. the first thinf first is for the woman to do fertility test to rule out the possibility of the fault been hers. then wait for the lady in question to give birth and the conduct paternal test for the baby. this is actually ascertain the husband is the owner. for the meantime stay low and be strong, u will pull through this challenge

From the tone of the article I don't think she is in a position to even request for a paternity test, because the man ain't sober, so bringing up that can only add more wood to a raving fire, if the result turns out positive, my dear that ain't cool.Patience and prayers is the only thing that can upturn that result and that will be more interesting as you would ve the last laugh, but don't get ahead of yourself.

It's very painful, but please don't leave your husband.
Do you remember the story of Abraham ,the maid and his wife?
Just be steadfast in prayers your child will arrive in the next few weeks in Jesus name. Amen

Wisdom is when you Marry your landlord's daughter.
But in this case you impregnated your landlord.
Wise man

JrizzyJosh:
sweetheart, I'll appreciate it if you don't call me dumb...you that is not dumb what is the cause of her not having babies? Na Ogbanje dey worry you. .

dude I called you dumb for the simple fact that you sound really silly. I find it hard to believe that you don't know that abortion is not the only cause of infertility. In fact if abortion is carried out by a professional and at an early stage of the pregnancy, it will have zero effect on fertility. Let me educate you a little bit. Infertility can be caused by a number of factors:
1.Ovulation disorders
2. Issues with the Womb and fallopian tubes
3.Cervical mucus defect
4.Submucosal fibroids
5.Endometriosis
6.Pelvic inflammatory disease
7.Age

all of the above, including a few others can cause infertility in women or reduce fertility.
here's a link: http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Infertility/Pages/Causes.aspx
do yourself a favour and click on that link as the website explains each point i made up there.

It is very sad to think that there are many women out there who can't get pregnant out of no fault of theirs but people like you will always be there to accuse them of being promiscuous, or a witch or an ogbanje.
smh