| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by Akynzodeighbour(m): 2:29pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
Daily12:
This might sound obscene to some people, as i do not intend to hurt anyone feelings but i seriously need help. I dont know if i can continue this or not. But i would be short and straight, and i hope you guys can help me. Please
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I married my wife 2 years ago and we were very young. Our parents kind of forced us into it. My dad said i must marry her so that he can cement his friendship and contract with her father. Her own Mum told her she must marry me so that the family business would continue and the name stands since its a joint venture. So, technically, our parents used us both for business! I was only 23 she was just 19 approaching 20. She was 20 the Sunday after our wedding. That is not really the problem here, the problem is I enjoy seeing my wife in pain! It turns me on when she cries or she is sad. It makes me feel closer to her.
And as a result of this, Sometimes i deliberately do things to hurt her feelings. I scold her at every opportunity! I pick a fault in her every action. I complain about everything. I even condemn whatever she does just so she can feel bad and possibly cry. That is my intention. It has become like a drug and i'm an addict. I cannot stay without it.
In fact, sex is not what i want even when we have sex i am aggressive and mean so she can feel excessive pain. It suppose to bother me but it doesn't, it makes me feel happy.
Long story short, I think i am not normal or maybe its a fetish i don;t know but whatever this is, my wife is at the receiving end of it and she is receiving the bad side. Please mature persons, i need your advice. Divorce is impossible, our parents would disown us. so that is why she is still around and i am not surprised she did not file for divorce or report my wicked actions. She is just "Swallowing It" because her father might just disown her or cut her off from his expenses. And same applies to me, i am starting to love her and i dont want to keep on hurting her and i was thinking of ending the marriage so she finds someone better but my mum said she must not hear it and i know my dad wont find it funny. So its impossible to separate from each other and its somehow impossible for the pain she is going through to stop because I am the pain, and i want to fix this.
Thank You all. ever heard of the word dacryphilia? sexual pleasure in seeing someone cry, i think you are suffering from it or something similar to it |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by florjay(f): 2:29pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
StiffDick:
Florjay. A stupid sad lonely introvert. When your dad locked your mother out of the house after domestic abuse telling you not to open the door for her. What did you do? Nothing...you were singing like someone who won lottery.
Don't worry I have copies of your stupid diary. Too late to delete it now. I will be dissing you from your diary. Diick Muncher. 
Yet you have the effrontery to comment on my post while doing nothing when your mother is suffering domestic abuse from your violent and saddistic father. Who locks his wife out of the house in 21st century?
Even if your father is poor and suffering depression, he has no right to hit your mother or lock her out. Shame on you...as the first child. Remove the log in your eyes before attempting to remove that of others. Your stupid diary says a lot about your personality.
Won't be surprised if Doveda is your sibling suffering the same fate. Dirty Lonely Sad Friends. You two will.make a good couple. Not a recommendation though. You two are considerably cortically subilluminated. x.x.x™
Battering words with u will be an insult 2 my personality, coz as suspected u are the madman that ran away 4rm yaba left last week, it has really been so nice reading ur words while u rant like the psycho u are, u are lucky 2day is my happy day but uve overused ur privileges. Now I will give u d answer fool like u deserve which silence Have a wonderful day and thanks 4 making my day pleasant StiffDick:
Florjay. A stupid sad lonely introvert. When your dad locked your mother out of the house after domestic abuse telling you not to open the door for her. What did you do? Nothing...you were singing like someone who won lottery.
Don't worry I have copies of your stupid diary. Too late to delete it now. I will be dissing you from your diary. Diick Muncher.
Yet you have the effrontery to comment on my post while doing nothing when your mother is suffering domestic abuse from your violent and saddistic father. Who locks his wife out of the house in 21st century?
Even if your father is poor and suffering depression, he has no right to hit your mother or lock her out. Shame on you...as the first child. Remove the log in your eyes before attempting to remove that of others. Your stupid diary says a lot about your personality.
Won't be surprised if Doveda is your sibling suffering the same fate. Dirty Lonely Sad Friends. You two will.make a good couple. Not a recommendation though. You two are considerably cortically subilluminated. x.x.x™
Battering words with u will be an insult 2 my personality, coz as suspected u are the madman that ran away 4rm yaba left last week, it has really been so nice reading ur words while u rant like the psycho u are, u are lucky 2day is my happy day but uve overused ur privileges. Now I will give u d answer fool like u deserve which silence Have a wonderful day and thanks 4 making my day pleasant |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by Nobody: 2:43pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
Florjay. Ha-ha...You amuse me. Address your low self esteem first. You onced wish for an accident that will send you into Comma...Lol. You don't need to have accident to go into Comma. Now that I know you are suicidal and hate the life you are living... I can help you to go into Comma. Go to the nearest chemist request for 24 tablets of paracetamol take it with Alomo bitters. I will send body bag to your house free of charge. At least you won't live a sad life anymore. Have you addressed your abusive father? Have you called him a pscho? Has he been chained? Why is your mother still enduring the saddist? Your foolish father needs attention see to that first before you address mine. Daughter of a Violent man will also be violent...not surprised. You are a thief, liar and am sure you are also a wh-ore because they all go together. Pigglet. User...having a bf to sustain your family is part of low life. Am here for you. Not going anywhere. This is my Hobby. Am just having fun. Toss. x.x.x™ |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by Charly68: 2:57pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
You are masochistic ,the likes of Hitla the warior ..it is a state of mental malady that requires medical attention..but to be sincere with you,a good deliverance pastor can help you to cast out the demon..it is equally a demonic manifestation. .very subtle but inherent & if you don't voice out you will be suffering in silence.. Please seek for spiritual help & I can tell you that the demon can be cast out under two minutes & you will be your normal self forever. Good luck |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by alaskido(m): 3:37pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
I can see a sick fella here. No be only man wey naked for street and market be craze person o. All these spoilt children from wealthy families. These is the way they behave. Spiritual killer. You need to be in Yaba Psychiatric hospital with chains in your leg and hand. |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by Ceohombre: 3:58pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
Op, sounds to me like classic anger transfer. You're taking you're lack of control of the situation with marriage & fam and placing it on your wife's shoulder. She was as powerless as you were and her 'swallowing' all this nasty behavior of yours is a power trip.
Remember she's a victim also, even more than you as you're now her daily tormentor/bully. If you can't get out of the marriage that you're feeling trapped in, then think of her as you're cell mate.
Lastly, get over you're self! if you can't, or will not, stand up to you're parents for your happiness & independence then you've made you're bed; make the best of a bad situation with you're wife OR leave. Grow up. |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by harsysky(m): 5:21pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
Daily12:
This might sound obscene to some people, as i do not intend to hurt anyone feelings but i seriously need help. I dont know if i can continue this or not. But i would be short and straight, and i hope you guys can help me. Please
-
I married my wife 2 years ago and we were very young. Our parents kind of forced us into it. My dad said i must marry her so that he can cement his friendship and contract with her father. Her own Mum told her she must marry me so that the family business would continue and the name stands since its a joint venture. So, technically, our parents used us both for business! I was only 23 she was just 19 approaching 20. She was 20 the Sunday after our wedding. That is not really the problem here, the problem is I enjoy seeing my wife in pain! It turns me on when she cries or she is sad. It makes me feel closer to her.
And as a result of this, Sometimes i deliberately do things to hurt her feelings. I scold her at every opportunity! I pick a fault in her every action. I complain about everything. I even condemn whatever she does just so she can feel bad and possibly cry. That is my intention. It has become like a drug and i'm an addict. I cannot stay without it.
In fact, sex is not what i want even when we have sex i am aggressive and mean so she can feel excessive pain. It suppose to bother me but it doesn't, it makes me feel happy.
Long story short, I think i am not normal or maybe its a fetish i don;t know but whatever this is, my wife is at the receiving end of it and she is receiving the bad side. Please mature persons, i need your advice. Divorce is impossible, our parents would disown us. so that is why she is still around and i am not surprised she did not file for divorce or report my wicked actions. She is just "Swallowing It" because her father might just disown her or cut her off from his expenses. And same applies to me, i am starting to love her and i dont want to keep on hurting her and i was thinking of ending the marriage so she finds someone better but my mum said she must not hear it and i know my dad wont find it funny. So its impossible to separate from each other and its somehow impossible for the pain she is going through to stop because I am the pain, and i want to fix this.
Thank You all. Op, you're one of the few honest men I've seen on earth. I ain't joking! Atleast, you are not a hypocrite who goes to a pray ground to say, " father I thank you for I am not like that tax collector. I fast thrice in a week and give alms." Recognizing that you have a problem is one big step to finding a solution. You've married her whether it's a mistake or not. You just need to come home one day and just develop loving her. I do tell people," there is nothing like love. It is built from scratch." try building it but this time let her happiness makes you a happy man. If you believe in God, pray He helps you because He is for those who are not whole. |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by preciousbibi(f): 5:25pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
..............And their marriage would appear in Bellanaija and soirls would actually feel jaalous towards them..............SMH |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by EmperorTayo1864(m): 5:40pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
You got excited when you see her pain,that's because you are not romantic to her and loathe her.
Try to commend her,appreciate all her efforts to stand next to you and apologise for wrongdoings.
Have it in mind to embrace her and be more romantic.
If you do all this,you will have a peaceful,successful marriage with her even though both of you were forced into the marriage |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by Dhotseal(m): 6:02pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
Daily12:
This might sound obscene to some people, as i do not intend to hurt anyone feelings but i seriously need help. I dont know if i can continue this or not. But i would be short and straight, and i hope you guys can help me. Please
-
I married my wife 2 years ago and we were very young. Our parents kind of forced us into it. My dad said i must marry her so that he can cement his friendship and contract with her father. Her own Mum told her she must marry me so that the family business would continue and the name stands since its a joint venture. So, technically, our parents used us both for business! I was only 23 she was just 19 approaching 20. She was 20 the Sunday after our wedding. That is not really the problem here, the problem is I enjoy seeing my wife in pain! It turns me on when she cries or she is sad. It makes me feel closer to her.
And as a result of this, Sometimes i deliberately do things to hurt her feelings. I scold her at every opportunity! I pick a fault in her every action. I complain about everything. I even condemn whatever she does just so she can feel bad and possibly cry. That is my intention. It has become like a drug and i'm an addict. I cannot stay without it.
In fact, sex is not what i want even when we have sex i am aggressive and mean so she can feel excessive pain. It suppose to bother me but it doesn't, it makes me feel happy.
Long story short, I think i am not normal or maybe its a fetish i don;t know but whatever this is, my wife is at the receiving end of it and she is receiving the bad side. Please mature persons, i need your advice. Divorce is impossible, our parents would disown us. so that is why she is still around and i am not surprised she did not file for divorce or report my wicked actions. She is just "Swallowing It" because her father might just disown her or cut her off from his expenses. And same applies to me, i am starting to love her and i dont want to keep on hurting her and i was thinking of ending the marriage so she finds someone better but my mum said she must not hear it and i know my dad wont find it funny. So its impossible to separate from each other and its somehow impossible for the pain she is going through to stop because I am the pain, and i want to fix this.
Thank You all. In very plain English, you are a sadist! I don't think you are here cos u want to change your ways,i know you are here to play out your sadistic and sociopathic tendencies. But in case, somewhere in the dark recesses of your very sick mind u find a reason to actually want to change, then God will definitely help u. |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by Nobody: 6:49pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
refiner:
hnmmm exactly dexam wif me.I do feel happy,,,I mean Vewi happy seeing anyone close to my hrt get hurt or angry.it gives some kind of joy.......is dis normal plz. My dear, accept Jesus, and ask him to help you, If not you may end up a witch unknowingly . |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by refiner(f): 7:32pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
Oguguah:
My dear, accept Jesus, and ask him to help you, If not you may end up a witch unknowingly
. I reject!!!God for bid.....must everyfin look spiritual to u?Nawa oo |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by smoby(m): 8:02pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
Its because she is very beautiful .........and mayb in the past u hv been hurt by a very beautiful lady ........bt this ur wife n life ....ppray and lover her ....treat her more like an egg ,my apologies. |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by Nobody: 8:39pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
refiner:
I reject!!!God for bid.....must everyfin look spiritual to u?Nawa oo My dear, whatever happens in the physical is caused by the spiritual. Besides, it doesn't have to be "spiritual" before you accept Jesus as your Lord and saviour. |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by dapsonlou(m): 9:17pm On Dec 10, 2015 |
Bhurlahjeah:
Hmmmmn.............but y BOLAJI?? BolaJi and Kola is a Common Yoruba Name Lol you dey fear ni. |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by joefranky(m): 1:09am On Dec 11, 2015 |
The problem now is not ur parents, the problem is, do u love her?. If no, then love her cos I noticed that U're only trying to transfer aggression. |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by skimmy39: 9:02am On Dec 11, 2015 |
you just wicked and you cant help yourself Daily12:
This might sound obscene to some people, as i do not intend to hurt anyone feelings but i seriously need help. I dont know if i can continue this or not. But i would be short and straight, and i hope you guys can help me. Please
-
I married my wife 2 years ago and we were very young. Our parents kind of forced us into it. My dad said i must marry her so that he can cement his friendship and contract with her father. Her own Mum told her she must marry me so that the family business would continue and the name stands since its a joint venture. So, technically, our parents used us both for business! I was only 23 she was just 19 approaching 20. She was 20 the Sunday after our wedding. That is not really the problem here, the problem is I enjoy seeing my wife in pain! It turns me on when she cries or she is sad. It makes me feel closer to her.
And as a result of this, Sometimes i deliberately do things to hurt her feelings. I scold her at every opportunity! I pick a fault in her every action. I complain about everything. I even condemn whatever she does just so she can feel bad and possibly cry. That is my intention. It has become like a drug and i'm an addict. I cannot stay without it.
In fact, sex is not what i want even when we have sex i am aggressive and mean so she can feel excessive pain. It suppose to bother me but it doesn't, it makes me feel happy.
Long story short, I think i am not normal or maybe its a fetish i don;t know but whatever this is, my wife is at the receiving end of it and she is receiving the bad side. Please mature persons, i need your advice. Divorce is impossible, our parents would disown us. so that is why she is still around and i am not surprised she did not file for divorce or report my wicked actions. She is just "Swallowing It" because her father might just disown her or cut her off from his expenses. And same applies to me, i am starting to love her and i dont want to keep on hurting her and i was thinking of ending the marriage so she finds someone better but my mum said she must not hear it and i know my dad wont find it funny. So its impossible to separate from each other and its somehow impossible for the pain she is going through to stop because I am the pain, and i want to fix this.
Thank You all. |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by Nobody: 1:44pm On Dec 11, 2015 |
It's called S&M.
You can read it up on Wikipedia
It's a psychological disorder, and requires professional help so it doesn't develop into a more aggressive and destructive condition.
Please seek help fast, your wife is way too young to even understand and you sound learned so you should be able to get the right kind of help.
Between, some comments here are plain ignorant and stupid. It'd be great if common sense could become a trend. 
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| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by donj84: 8:29am On Dec 14, 2015 |
Imdachick:
Don't get me wrong Mr. All I've said so far is that the op's solution isn't far from him. Yes I wouldve suggested a psychologist but in this case he knows his wrongs, so why involve a third party into family and marriage affairs? I said that because I've seen cases where a psychologist made the case even worse for a family than good. But if he can still try one then no stress but I'll always object tho.
He knows his problems, he can pen them down in a secret book and start working on a process of changing each act. My quote "the only person that can change yourself it's you". Ok nice one sir.. |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by donj84: 8:39am On Dec 14, 2015 |
Estharfabian:
You should shut up and read my post again...Stone blah blah! Not surprised, your words speak to a great extent who you are.. And I guess u will be a church worker, and see what you typing.. Sha many pple as taken being a Christian or muslim as a title and not a lifestyle |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by Nobody: 8:41am On Dec 14, 2015 |
donj84:
Not surprised, your words speak to a great extent who you are.. And I guess u will be a church worker, and see what you typing.. Sha many pple as taken being a Christian or muslim as a title and not a lifestyle LoL I seldomly go To church....Buh yeah! I'm definitely A christian... |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by donj84: 8:43am On Dec 14, 2015 |
gamaliel121:
Read my post well again nigga!!!!!
I guess u shud take your time to read them again and digest them well..because they are very correct.. |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by mykel25(m): 11:28pm On Dec 17, 2015 |
[quote author=refiner post=40863774][/quote]. Deliverance my dear.....it might be spiritual husband things.....MFM monthly deliverance session ll help |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by refiner(f): 7:02am On Dec 18, 2015 |
mykel25:
. Deliverance my dear.....it might be spiritual husband things.....MFM monthly deliverance session ll help fanx my dear Buh I Dnt fink I need it |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by NovusHomo(m): 1:04am On Dec 21, 2015 |
doveda:
There is no mention of his wife consenting to it. If it is consensual, no wahala but it isn't. Stop implying what isn't into his explanation, especially in a country where it is normal for a woman to be abused My post asked "what if?" |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by NovusHomo(m): 1:06am On Dec 21, 2015 |
Memyselfu2009:
D write up didn't say if d wife love it. I think a devoted wife can do anything for her husband just to make him happy but when the wife feel she can get pleasure and comfort outside with out getting angry i think she would start cheating on her husband. My post asked "what if?" |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by Memyselfu2009(m): 10:13am On Dec 21, 2015 |
NovusHomo:
My post asked "what if?" Marriage is about sacrifices and about making each other happy do your actions make her happy tell me if she satisfy ur sexual need at the expense of her getting angry for how long can she endure that torture when she know she can get our own pleasure from dating outside marriage |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by BeckettPierce: 8:23am On Aug 16, 2021 |
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| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by elonmuskbaby: 1:45pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
HungerBAD:
You actually need help. actually op is a full fledged narcissist.he just described the full characteristics of a narcissist.even if he married someone he loves as long as he derives masochistic pleasure from pain,he will do it to someone he loves |
| Re: It Turns Me On Seeing My Wife Hurt, Sad Or In Pain by Expresswriter: 8:53pm On Aug 16, 2021 |
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