Please guys come to my rescue....

This is centered around two female which i do not want to loose but have to select one to marry. Here goes...

I met these ladies around the same period, i asked Labake out and after the initial gra gra she accepted to date me. thing are getting serious now that i had to ask her certain questions... She has been into business for like 6 years and when i asked what was her savings from the biz she said NOTHING. I asked the reason and she said debts and some other excuses. In short she has no savings and told me to my face i am providing all she will be needing in marriage, relocating her shop from one town to where i am and other things even to her sanitary towels! What is annoying me is that have i now offended the gods that i want to marry her and there taking over her liabilities (her body being the only asset)! I do not have a problem meeting these needs but she has to meet up at some point which she cannot do! I just like/love her i dont know why despite these liability.

On the other hand, there is Shalewa, who is more than willing to meet my people, she has a job and even a business. She encourages me to be the best and all other positives. The problem here is that i dont have a feeling for her at all, but i dont want to let go. Mind you we have not had sex even with Labake

Guys please if you were in my shoes what would you do? Who will you take home to mamma. Cos i want to do that this december and wrap up marriage. But i am in a dilemma for nowQ

please advice maturedly

You don blacklist the first babe na....wetin be your question again?

Op ayam coming oooo

Lemme finish soaking this garri

Summary pls

Why not marry two of them?

Twaci:
You don blacklist the first babe na....wetin be your question again?

If I was ur bro, what wld you advice me to do?

niggi4life:
I won't advice u to go for the lazy girl(Labake) and neither will I recommend the other one as u don't av any feelings for her else u will just blame ursef.


My guy u never see wife o

Hmmmm.... makes sense

Please keep the advice coming in

Thanks

idontaya:


If I was ur bro, what wld you advice me to do?

Follow ur heart

How about dumping them and getting a third girl instead of coming up with all sort of whining tales when you settle for any of the two. Get somebody that has both their qualities and take home to mamma.
Don't be in a haste to dig your grave .

Twaci:
Follow ur heart

I hear you

VintageCocktail:
How about dumping them and getting a third girl instead of coming up with all sort of whining tales when you settle for any of the two. Get somebody that has both their qualities and take home to mamma.
Don't be in a haste to dig your grave .

I can't even focus now sef! Gosh

idontaya:
Please guys come to my rescue....

This is centered around two female which i do not want to loose but have to select one to marry. Here goes...

I met these ladies around the same period, i asked Labake out and after the initial gra gra she accepted to date me. thing are getting serious now that i had to ask her certain questions... She has been into business for like 6 years and when i asked what was her savings from the biz she said NOTHING. I asked the reason and she said debts and some other excuses. In short she has no savings and told me to my face i am providing all she will be needing in marriage, relocating her shop from one town to where i am and other things even to her sanitary towels! What is annoying me is that have i now offended the gods that i want to marry her and there taking over her liabilities (her body being the only asset)! I do not have a problem meeting these needs but she has to meet up at some point which she cannot do! I just like/love her i dont know why despite these liability.

On the other hand, there is Shalewa, who is more than willing to meet my people, she has a job and even a business. She encourages me to be the best and all other positives. The problem here is that i dont have a feeling for her at all, but i dont want to let go. Mind you we have not had sex even with Labake

Guys please if you were in my shoes what would you do? Who will you take home to mamma. Cos i want to do that this december and wrap up marriage. But i am in a dilemma for nowQ

please advice maturedly

how do they marry where you come from?

because december only has two weeks left, and you are saying you want to marry this month but you are yet to decide who.

besides that, what is the meaning of this rigmarole you typed?

tpiar:


how do they marry where you come from?

because december only has two weeks left, and you are saying you want to marry this month but you are yet to decide who.

besides that, what is the meaning of this rigmarole you typed?

Read well...... . Said I have to take one of them to mamma this December NOT marry!

Patiently read what I typed up there and you'll understand better

.

idontaya:


I can't even focus now sef! Gosh

Remain focus and dont be in a haste. Labake might end up being a big laibility and a terrible nagging wife and i tell you that will kill the love you both share. ( Building a good home is not only about LOVE ).

The other lady on the other hand is good but there is no feelings for her ( what is the essense of a good relationship is there is no TRUE LOVE ?

Best of luck in your choice

Why should you be dating two people in the first place.
Anyways, you are waiting for perfection and guy there's no such thing.
My advice to you would be to sit Labake down and make her know what you think about her attitude to work.
Better let Shalewa go so a man that loves her can marry her.

Marry the first one, I think you love her more

You don't marry someone because you LOVE them.


Married couples fall in "love" after wedding oo. Falling in 'love' is a never ending process.

You marry because you are compatible. My advice: get closer to the girl you claim you don't love. Love grows with TIME. There is no such thing as falling in love at FIRST SIGHT. Just spend more time with her, as in quality time and watch that love grow

Godmother:
Why should you be dating two people in the first place.
Anyways, you are waiting for perfection and guy there's no such thing.
My advice to you would be to sit Labake down and make her know what you think about her attitude to work.
Better let Shalewa go so a man that loves her can marry her.

Thanks so much

taryour:



Remain focus and dont be in a haste. Labake might end up being a big laibility and a terrible nagging wife and i tell you that will kill the love you both share. ( Building a good home is not only about LOVE ).

The other lady on the other hand is good but there is no feelings for her ( what is the essense of a good relationship is there is no TRUE LOVE ?

Best of luck in your choice

Thanks ma'am

taryour:



Remain focus and dont be in a haste. Labake might end up being a big laibility and a terrible nagging wife and i tell you that will kill the love you both share. ( Building a good home is not only about LOVE ).

The other lady on the other hand is good but there is no feelings for her ( what is the essense of a good relationship is there is no TRUE LOVE ?

Best of luck in your choice

Thanks ma'am...

Acidosis:
You don't marry someone because you LOVE them.


Married couples fall in "love" after wedding oo. Falling in 'love' is a never ending process.

You marry because you are compatible. My advice: get closer to the girl you claim you don't love. Love grows with TIME. There is no such thing as falling in love at FIRST SIGHT. Just spend more time with her, as in quality time and watch that love grow

Thank man.... you too much

Oya na more advice plssssss

Are they the last two women standing in this world?

taryour:



Remain focus and dont be in a haste. Labake might end up being a big laibility and a terrible nagging wife and i tell you that will kill the love you both share. ( Building a good home is not only about LOVE ).

The other lady on the other hand is good but there is no feelings for her ( what is the essense of a good relationship is there is no TRUE LOVE ?

Best of luck in your choice

dont you think he loosed the feeling because of the second girl he met? This guy is emotionally unstable just like a woman

Twaci:
You don blacklist the first babe na....wetin be your question again?

You just 'sook' the boil with the needle.

The guy already knows what to do, he just need some reassurances.

Taiwo20:



You just 'sook' the boil with the needle.

The guy already knows what to do, he just need some reassurances.

He's on his own be that.

Acidosis:
You don't marry someone because you LOVE them.


Married couples fall in "love" after wedding oo. Falling in 'love' is a never ending process.

You marry because you are compatible. My advice: get closer to the girl you claim you don't love. Love grows with TIME. There is no such thing as falling in love at FIRST SIGHT. Just spend more time with her, as in quality time and watch that love grow

thabks jare..... This op doesn't know what he want..... All these i don't love the ist girl is just because of the resent girl oooo and i assure him the devil he know is better than the angel he do not know

Some have bae but cannot marry, some can marry but have no bae...you have baes but you are confused...Glory be to God Amen

Stick to one.
Play boy

If you had only one, you wouldn't be this confused.

Sometimes, putting our eggs in one basket is a better approach.

Take some time off from both women to think things through. The picture will become clearer.

And, who's putting a gun to your head that you must take one to mama this december? Take your time bro. This is marriage and not some short lived fantasy.