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| She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by ILoveToFuCcK: 7:56pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Please am not a good writer bear with me..Thank you Ermm where should i start from seff??  My big bro is currently in this dilemma.. He has a fiance ..They're wedding date has been set already(although they have not started printing the Invitation card).. Last three weeks he was jokingly playing with his girlfriend(wife to be) when he uttered the statement "Very soon you'll be known as Mrs Adekunle" (not the real name) Then the girlfriend responded that she wants to keep her surname and add it to the guys surname... that she doesnt want to completely throw away her surname My bro rejected the idea.. it all started like a joke but now its a big problem My bro is threatening to call off the marriage just because of this funny issue The girl is also forming "strong head" claiming she will stand by her decision (NB shes a lawyer by profession  )Funny enough her mum is also fully behind her(her dad is late) My brother said its either she sticks with only his surname or He calls off the wedding My brother loves the girl.. and I know she loves him too Do you think my brother is being immature with this issue? Should my brother go on with the wedding or should he Call it off?? |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by chocolateme(f): 7:58pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Hmm.. What about something like this "Chioma Chukwuka Akpotha"? She doesn't want it either? Ok so she wants your brother is going to join her in answering her surname too. Please tell your brother I said that this is the first sign of a disobedient wife. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by NOBODYY: 7:58pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
This one is strong  |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 8:00pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Eleyi wa le gaan oo |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by saraphina(f): 8:01pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
your brother or u?but seriously itz no big deal sha. |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by mechtronics(m): 8:02pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
To be frank wit it bro bro is nt a coward , all he nid wit her is just to dialogue wit her if she really love her and also try explain the matter to yur parent. Cuz dey both av seen far just tell to be patience sha |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by mechtronics(m): 8:04pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
saraphina:y isn't a big deals wat did u marry yur husband for, ar u marryin him wit yur father , naija gurl gat skushi , for me if a gurl try dat we either dialogue or call it an end |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by SINNZ(m): 8:06pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Although its fast becoming a norm these days but i believe your bro is the head of that family so he should be the one calling the shots and not her. I know of a female court Judge who married her court clerk! . In court he addresses his wife as "Your Honour" all day!! But at home, he's the boss  . That's how it should be.5 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 8:07pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
I don't see anytin wrong with the idea,she prolly knws much of the technicalties she'll go thru to change surname, so she prolly just wants to hyphenate it I'm just saying tho,let the male chauvinists and egotists on nl not have my head for supper 1 Like |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by ILoveToFuCcK: 8:09pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
chocolateme: Thanks basically the kind of thing she wants @bolded...but my bro isnt cool with the idea at all Thanks tho |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by ILoveToFuCcK: 8:11pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
mechtronics:Thanks for ur input bro |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by JustHere2Observ(f): 8:11pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
I don't think there's anything wrong with her having a compound name. She can add your surname to hers, no big deal. Your brother is just making a mountain out of a mole hill. Marriage is all about coming to an agreeable compromise, not my way or the high way. And your brother seems to be the latter, Mr. My way or the high way kind. 1 Like |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Cholls(m): 8:13pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
My brother tell your brother to calm down abeg. Watin bad for dat? 1 Like |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by ILoveToFuCcK: 8:14pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
JustHere2Observ:The same thing i told him.. But he claims he doesnt want such.. He wants her to take up our surname fully |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by JustHere2Observ(f): 8:21pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
ILoveToFuCcK: Your brother is not ready to marry if he cannot compromise. For one their children will not use the compound name but his own. Threatening to call off the wedding on top this small issue shows he is not ready to be a husband. So if they have small issue after wedding he will threaten to divorce? 2 Likes |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by crispberry(f): 8:29pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Nothing bad in joining d two names. I'l do same when I eventually get married 3 Likes |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by wristbangle: 8:32pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Being a man is not about his lastname. 2 Likes |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 8:37pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
To Me it's not an issue. if My wife decides to add her surname to Mine, cool. I've got no probs with that. someone needs to talk to your brother before he ruins his marriage. 4 Likes |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Truckpusher(m): 8:42pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
ILoveToFuCcK:Your brother is sitting on a long thing. If they can't agree on this simple matter now ,It is important to call off the wedding before they'll end up calling off the marriage after the wedding. If you want to keep your family name you'll have to be bringing in plenty money into my bank account or plenty connection like that of Dasuki - Or you better find your elder brother and marry him.Simple..... 3 Likes |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Favolly(f): 8:45pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
ILoveToFuCcK:Your brother is a caveman 1 Like |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Adaeze003(f): 8:49pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Well, there are two options the way I see it... agree or call it off... it's really that simple. Don't know what the fuss is about... 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 8:51pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Favolly:hahahaha now that was funny |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 8:52pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
First of all...Permit me to Say Your brother is an "Asshole".... Threatening to call off the wedding coz of a Lil issue as this?? Ridiculous!Anyways...i also wouldn't wanna Throw my surname away Too..."Fabian" Is just to dope to be replaced by one "Ebuka" Or "Obiorachukwu" Or "Suleiman".... that ain't happening abeg!5 Likes |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Lsofdk(m): 8:53pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
they should both sit and talk it out. me, i don't give advice on sensitive issues. |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Adaeze003(f): 8:53pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Truckpusher: So you're some cheap golddigger after all...   1 Like |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by just2okworld(f): 8:53pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
 Your brother should grow up please1 Like |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Truckpusher(m): 8:55pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Adaeze003: Not at all - If you want some form of equality ,then you gotta pay bills, honey.  FYI: Men don't dig for gold ,we hustle.  1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Lsofdk(m): 8:55pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Estharfabian:is this a booked space |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Adaeze003(f): 8:56pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Truckpusher: You have a point... |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Nobody: 8:58pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Truckpusher(m): 8:59pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Adaeze003:That's the way it is. Not sitting on my head for everything and yet screaming 'equality'! You gotta be kidding me 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: She Doesnt Want To Change Her Surname After Marriage by Lsofdk(m): 9:12pm On Dec 14, 2015 |
Estharfabian: i think it was worth it after all. maybe OPs bro thinks she retaining her surname(adding hers to his) means he would do same b4 opening the thread i was thinking d lady was refusing the guys surname totally |
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