Enahi:
True life story there is this guy that got introduced to me last year by his relative, his relative wanted him to marry me but as a sharp girl I was able to know by his appearance that he is a cheat.

I told him I can't just go ahead and marry him based on the fact that I don't know him enough, but based on respect I have for his relative I decided to date him for some months and see what comes out of it.

My instinct wasn't wrong at all the first month was h ellish for me with him demanding sex from me like no tomorrow. I decided I won't give him until ending of the 2nd month.
But before the 2nd month I observed he he had a funny way of answering his calls when he is around me so I decided to carry out my little research about him.

It was really difficult getting facts about him as he wasn't based here and I was getting fed up already..

to be continued....

the reason why it was so difficult getting details about him was based on the fact that I didn't know any of his friends and couldnt get details from his family.

I kept to my promise and allowed him do the do at the end of the 2nd month.
something still wasn't right as the urge to get more details about him intensified.

Luckily for me I bumped into an old friend at the supermarket and I had to gist her all that has been happening and also told her about him. I went as far as showing her his pictures and She was surprised and asked me how I met him and that was when I gave her the full download.
My friend now told me to forget him that's he wasn't worth it, She now told me that the guy is a cheat and chronic womanizer. I had to tell her how he has a funny way of receiving and making calls when he is around me.
My friend really saved me from the mess I would have gotten into as she went as far as introducing me to my man's ex girlfriend who told me a lot of stuffs about him, I also got to find out he was once married.

I had to end every communication I had with him and he also did same .

NOW my annoyance is the fact that he is getting married this month and he has been calling my phone none stop asking me to please spend a day with him for the last time.
I told him I can't do that and that he should stop disturbing me.

I really feel sorry for his wife to be and feel I should let her know the type of man she is about to get married to and that he has been disturbing me.
She didn't take enough time to study him and She probably wants to marry him because of his money.

I am so irritated right now.

what should I do to him?

TRUTH IS, YOUR NOT HAPPY YOU GAVE IT TO HIM AFTER 2MONTHS AND YOU STILL FEEL HURT AND THAT'S WHY YOU WANT TO TELL HIS WIFE TO BE, THE KIND OF MAN SHE IS GETTING MARRIED TO..
JUST LET HER BE, SHE WILL FIND OUT THE TRUTH HERSELF IF HIS NOT A CHANGED MAN.
MORE OVER DO YOU THINK SHE WILL BELIEVE YOU AND IF SHE DOES, DO YOU THINK SHE WILL CANCEL THE WEDDING PLANS CUS OF WHAT A SIDE CHICK TOLD HER CUS THAT'S WHAT SHE WILL SEE YOU AS? MY ANSWER IS NO CUS HIS RICH LIKE YOU SAID SO JUST LET GO

allyon:
monkey dey talk. With u as a example of a arrogant sexist. Are u not allowed to criticize men. U are merely implying that women are been underrated in naija which is false. Especially imprudent igbo lady such as u

E pain am
Its my opinion we no need fight and tear cloth because I said my mind.
As you say I be monkey, Oya take Banana and stop vexing there now, I hope your boo boo feels better.


OP abeg dont tell his woman o. You should have known better than allowing him chop ya yam when you never trusted him or wanted to date him in the first place. He has chopped and cleaned mouth, leave his new boo alone. Maybe she even knew about you since sef. He prolly was playing her to be with you. This is why AIDS is more common among women. Men cant control it and women cant say NO. Shuo, WOMEN try to say no and stick to it. If you must do it; do it because you want to and not to please a dude.

schumastic:



TRUTH IS, YOUR NOT HAPPY YOU GAVE IT TO HIM AFTER 2MONTHS AND YOU STILL FEEL HURT AND THAT'S WHY YOU WANT TO TELL HIS WIFE TO BE, THE KIND OF MAN SHE IS GETTING MARRIED TO..
JUST LET HER BE, SHE WILL FIND OUT THE TRUTH HERSELF IF HIS NOT A CHANGED MAN.
MORE OVER DO YOU THINK SHE WILL BELIEVE YOU AND IF SHE DOES, DO YOU THINK SHE WILL CANCEL THE WEDDING PLANS CUS OF WHAT A SIDE CHICK TOLD HER CUS THAT'S WHAT SHE WILL SEE YOU AS? MY ANSWER IS NO CUS HIS RICH LIKE YOU SAID SO JUST LET GO

I don't want to tell her but just irritated with his disturbance, I have deleted his number long ago so was surprised when he called me and won't stop calling.

how all guys turned out the same is a mystery

Enahi:


I don't want to tell her but just irritated with his disturbance, I have deleted his number long ago so was surprised when he called me and won't stop calling.

His the guy d 1st guy u ever dated if no how many guys av u dated be4.
Why don't u block him so he will not be able 2 kal u again

Don't get it twisted my dear,if frm d outset u weren't comfortable with him,u shld hv not gone into a relatnshp wit him in d first place. And what is it with some ladies making it seem like they had sex with a guy just to satify him? That's d topic for anoda thread sha

fluffybaby:


E pain am
Its my opinion we no need fight and tear cloth because I said my mind.
As you say I be monkey, Oya take Banana and stop vexing there now, I hope your boo boo feels better.


OP abeg dont tell his woman o. You should have known better than allowing him chop ya yam when you never trusted him or wanted to date him in the first place. He has chopped and cleaned mouth, leave his new boo alone. Maybe she even knew about you since sef. He prolly was playing her to be with you. This is why AIDS is more common among women. Men cant control it and women cant say NO. Shuo, WOMEN try to say no and stick to it. If you must do it; do it because you want to and not to please a dude.

Nah far from it he hasn't met her when he met me, I told him I don't want the relationship anymore and told him all I found out about him.

I am very careful when it comes to sex, I allowed him use a condom and still didn't allow him release inside of me despite the fact he had condom on. I had it with me because he begged non stop and that's one of the reasons I got irritated about him.

Suigeneris93:
Don't get it twisted my dear,if frm d outset u weren't comfortable with him,u shld hv not gone into a relatnshp wit him in d first place. And what is it with some ladies making it seem like they had sex with a guy just to satify him? That's d topic for anoda thread sha

No really I think it was just my instinct at work.
For the sex part I didn't want the sex because I take my time before I give in but due to the fact that he was going to travel back and to keep my promise I had to give in.

And the fool was always begging for it.

Enahi:



I am very careful when it comes to sex, I allowed him use a condom and still didn't allow him release inside of me despite the fact he had condom on. I had it with me because he begged non stop and that's one of the reasons I got irritated about him.

Gosh!STFU aiidy...u hv power over ur own body,stop making it seem like it was to please him as if he coerced u to do it. Nobody can make u do wat u don't wanna do in d first place no matter how hard they try

Goandie:

His the guy d 1st guy u ever dated if no how many guys av u dated be4. Why don't u block him so he will not be able 2 kal u again

No he is not , guess I will have to block him.

Enahi:


I don't want to tell her but just irritated with his disturbance, I have deleted his number long ago so was surprised when he called me and won't stop calling.

since you don't want to tell her let her be..for the calls, you can block his line and any other line he use in calling u.

that's not hard so try it..hope this help

Suigeneris93:



Gosh!STFU aiidy...u hv power over ur own body,stop making it seem like it was to please him as if he coerced u to do it. Nobody can make u do wat u don't wanna do in d first place no matter how hard they try

Hey don't insult me please. For goodness sake I can't remember writing anything about someone been coerced or raped here.

allyon:
i swear.. Trying to convience or correct u is a waste of time. U say my friend tells me this and that, i have met him and his. Pls. U talk as if u have no mind of ur own

Hey take it easy you are too harsh.

I Dnt knw why u girls do complain abt guys cheating like say you people are nt d one who taught us that.. Someone define love and true love here yesterday, its now I just agree with the person, what u feel for that guy in the first place wasn't true love.

Enahi:
True life story there is this guy that got introduced to me last year by his relative, his relative wanted him to marry me but as a sharp girl I was able to know by his appearance that he is a cheat.

I told him I can't just go ahead and marry him based on the fact that I don't know him enough, but based on respect I have for his relative I decided to date him for some months and see what comes out of it.

My instinct wasn't wrong at all the first month was h ellish for me with him demanding sex from me like no tomorrow. I decided I won't give him until ending of the 2nd month.
But before the 2nd month I observed he he had a funny way of answering his calls when he is around me so I decided to carry out my little research about him.

It was really difficult getting facts about him as he wasn't based here and I was getting fed up already..

to be continued....

the reason why it was so difficult getting details about him was based on the fact that I didn't know any of his friends and couldnt get details from his family.

I kept to my promise and allowed him do the do at the end of the 2nd month.
something still wasn't right as the urge to get more details about him intensified.

Luckily for me I bumped into an old friend at the supermarket and I had to gist her all that has been happening and also told her about him. I went as far as showing her his pictures and She was surprised and asked me how I met him and that was when I gave her the full download.
My friend now told me to forget him that's he wasn't worth it, She now told me that the guy is a cheat and chronic womanizer. I had to tell her how he has a funny way of receiving and making calls when he is around me.
My friend really saved me from the mess I would have gotten into as she went as far as introducing me to my man's ex girlfriend who told me a lot of stuffs about him, I also got to find out he was once married.

I had to end every communication I had with him and he also did same .

NOW my annoyance is the fact that he is getting married this month and he has been calling my phone none stop asking me to please spend a day with him for the last time.
I told him I can't do that and that he should stop disturbing me.

I really feel sorry for his wife to be and feel I should let her know the type of man she is about to get married to and that he has been disturbing me.
She didn't take enough time to study him and She probably wants to marry him because of his money.

I am so irritated right now.

what should I do to him?

Enahi:


No he is not , guess I will have to block him.

That the best nd if u think ppple on nairaland we understand ur mind ur just on a long thng, coz dem get pull down syndrome.

Daughterzion:
This is trivality dear. I hope you dont want to tell his to be wife this because u are jealous. I suggest u just give the wife a hint and then make her find it out herself because you dont know if the man truly loves her

I don't want to tell her though I really do feel sorry for her.

I sincerely don't think he loves her with the way he sounds on the phone but that's none of my business Sha.

AfroKnight:
Who dey talk? So you "allowed" him to have sex with you.... As if you didn't enjoy it

Truth be told, you were just a booty call to him. He has met his Queen. The reason he is calling you is probably because he just wants a quick snack of plantain chips before eating the main course.

sorry to disappoint you I wasn't his booty call, if I was desperate I would have gone ahead to marry him immediately. Besides I ended the whole thing so how am I his booty call?

For goodness sake this has to do with his family involved, what family will recommend a booty call chick for marriage?

DigitalSignal:
Are you angry that he moved on without trying hard enough to make amends with you or because he's calling you to see him for a last romantic lap before his marriage? Well, you don't have to tell his would-be wife anything as she would make her own investigations if she is as concerned as you're about his being a womanizer! Some ladies just want financial protection in marriage and every other thing is secondary to them. By the way, since you were so suspicious of his being a womanizer, why did you allow him slip through your legs?

I really tried to get details about him at the initial stage, I didn't plan to break up with him until my instinct proved me right.

Yeah I think the lady is just Mar ring him for the financial aspect of it.
I am upset about his calls because it simply means he doesn't have regard and respect for his wife to be. I am upset because she is lady like me and doesn't deserve to be cheated on.

Females are very funny nowadays. You'd think these broads would be happy with all the benefits they're receiving, but no you all still complain. You say that the vast majority of Nigerian men are cheats.That's a big lie.
Also, you should have known the type of guy you were dealing with beforehand and to be honest, you probably didn't care because he probably phucked you into bliss or you subconsciously like bad boys. I have no sympathy for you and other girls who continously have bad relationships because if you truly wanted a "good man", you would have done everything to get one.

Enahi:


I am not whining and I don't see any flaws from me in this case, I was just careful and observant is there anything wrong in that?

I am just worried about the woman and nothing else.
if I had flaws that man wouldn't have asked his relative to marry me.

I understand this is nairaland where people don't like the truth and kicks against it.

its obvious u didnt undastand my post! What truth? oh u didnt get to knw dz dude in and out. ur frnd tld u? how we r nt sure ur frnd didnt av sumtin wif d guy gon.. see, in ur head u escapd humilatn dn y r u tryna pity d woman he's getting married to? u refusd 2 gv hm full attentn nd like evry sane guy wud do he went for oda women.. u cud av been d one he intends settling dwn with buh its clear ur pride cums first b4 anytin.

Enahi:

Hey take it easy you are too harsh.

and u werent harsh?

aim5:
Females are very funny nowadays. You'd think these broads would be happy with all the benefits they're receiving, but no you all still complain. You say that the vast majority of Nigerian men are cheats.That's a big lie.
Also, you should have known the type of guy you were dealing with beforehand and to be honest, you probably didn't care because he probably phucked you into bliss or you subconsciously like bad boys. I have no sympathy for you and other girls who continously have bad relationships because if you truly wanted a "good man", you would have done everything to get one.

seconded.

Enahi:


Nah far from it he hasn't met her when he met me, I told him I don't want the relationship anymore and told him all I found out about him.

I am very careful when it comes to sex, I allowed him use a condom and still didn't allow him release inside of me despite the fact he had condom on. I had it with me because he begged non stop and that's one of the reasons I got irritated about him.

Oh so u even allowd d guy 2 dig ur hole? u r ridiculous..

fluffybaby:


E pain am
Its my opinion we no need fight and tear cloth because I said my mind.
As you say I be monkey, Oya take Banana and stop vexing there now, I hope your boo boo feels better.


OP abeg dont tell his woman o. You should have known better than allowing him chop ya yam when you never trusted him or wanted to date him in the first place. He has chopped and cleaned mouth, leave his new boo alone. Maybe she even knew about you since sef. He prolly was playing her to be with you. This is why AIDS is more common among women. Men cant control it and women cant say NO. Shuo, WOMEN try to say no and stick to it. If you must do it; do it because you want to and not to please a dude.

. Keep ur banana. If that was ur mind then it needs flushing because it was reeking. Oh well ur problem is ur own palava.

allyon:
. Keep ur banana. If that was ur mind then it needs flushing because it was reeking. Oh well ur problem is ur own palava.

Hahahahha. E still dey pain you? Oya here is a bigger banana. After you finish eating it come and help me flush my mind. Naija men should learn to be faithful

Enahi:


No really I think it was just my instinct at work.
For the sex part I didn't want the sex because I take my time before I give in but due to the fact that he was going to travel back and to keep my promise I had to give in.

And the fool was always begging for it.

U r d bigger version of a fool. did u listen to urself wen u finishd typing dis? am nt surprisd!

fluffybaby:


Hahahahha. E still dey pain you? Oya here is a bigger banana. After you finish eating it come and help me flush my mind. Naija men should learn to be faithful

Omg. U fuking annoying bitch. Nothing hurts me as u think. U are a waste of time. Im done replying u because only a fool will waste his or her time with u.

allyon:
Omg. U fuking annoying bitch. Nothing hurts me as u think. U are a waste of time. Im done replying u because only a fool will waste his or her time with u.

E still dey pain am. Oya, take an even bigger Banana and lets kiss and make up.

Isaacmacdon:
Oh so u even allowd d guy 2 dig ur hole? u r ridiculous..

My point exactly

fluffybaby:


E still dey pain am. Oya, take an even bigger Banana and lets kiss and make up.

na ur papa e pain.as for kissing u i would rather kiss a toilet seat which of course is equivalent to ur mouth. Peace. Im out.




To:toilet mouth

allyon:
na ur papa e pain.as for kissing u i would rather kiss a toilet seat which of course is equivalent to ur mouth. Peace. Im out.




To:toilet mouth

How did you know? Abeg, help me greet am when next you see him.

E still dey pain am oooo. Chei! okay take a bunch of banana and lets kiss and hug and make up. After that feel free to use my toilet mouth to empty your running stomach. Cheating is bad

Enahi:


I really tried to get details about him at the initial stage, I didn't plan to break up with him until my instinct proved me right.

Yeah I think the lady is just Mar ring him for the financial aspect of it.
I am upset about his calls because it simply means he doesn't have regard and respect for his wife to be. I am upset because she is lady like me and doesn't deserve to be cheated on.

I have my reservations but...

So are you ready to stay single till you cross over to the afterlife...since, according to you, men are not worth it?
I just hope that, when you change your perception about men and consider them to be worth something and eventually get married, you'll be a good wife.