odaniel1:


Instead of sounding so protective, why not try and find out if she's wooed by any?
You'll be amazed by the result of your findings.
And..abt castration?...quit dt shii...pretty girls dnt play wt knives..lol

I hear u

personally I don't think is right to be discussing such with a little girl of that age no matter how we try to justify and rationalise it. deep down we know the truth.
let me narrate my own story which is similar to this.
I once had a girl I was crushing on and who was also crushing on me within that age bracket. I was 21yrs then and she was sixteen. I sought counsel with my pals then as to what to do since I considered her still very young for such. most of my pals kept telling me to date her that there is nothing wrong. and if i delay she might change her mind and somebody else will end up dating her and I will lose her.
though I luved her very much then, but I couldn't bring myself to do such because I had my set values and beliefs that I vowed to myself never to flaunt no matter what it costs me which are
1)I will never have dealings with any under age girl
2)I will only treat girls the way I want my younger sisters to be treated by guys
3)I can't stand my thoughts or conscience blaming me constantly of corrupting an innocent underage girl
4)relationship is dynamic. you can't tell with absolute accuracy what might happen next in a relationship. some of the things you said you won't do in a relationship you see yourself one day doing them. what will be the consequence of such if it eventually happens with this girl.
5)I did not want to soil my reputation. I had already built a reputation of being a very decent and reponsible person such that some parents in my neighbourhood were using me as an example to their sons on how a good son should behave whenever they were correcting their erring sons.
I ended up settling for being just nice and normal frnds with her, until when she matures, then I can really ask her out. she actually got to 18 and was already in the university by then, I tried wooing her, she turned me down insinuating the feelings she had were no longer there.
l moved on with no regrets, rather I was full of pride and high self esteem applauding myself for being able to stand firm, sticking to my values and beliefs irrespective of some of my frnd's advice and pressure then.
To me the end result of succeeding or failing in wooing her didn't matter, but the process made me a better person because I was able to develop discipline by sticking to my values and philosophy irrespective of the fact that it may cost me loosing her.

airprince1:
U, go hug transformer if wetin I talk too pain u.


U too lyk ur sister, u fid engage am join... No problem with dat

E no pain me dear, and I go happy say no be. U she dey engaged to

Finally someone with sense! Phewwww!

IBBG:
personally I don't think is right to be discussing such with a little girl of that age no matter how we try to justify and rationalise it. deep down we know the truth.
let me narrate my own story which is similar to this.
I once had a girl I was crushing on and who was also crushing on me within that age bracket. I was 21yrs then and she was sixteen. I sought counsel with my pals then as to what to do since I considered her still very young for such. most of my pals kept telling me to date her that there is nothing

all does shouting pedophile up and down, do u really know the meaning of pedophile??....i dont see how dis story is any way related to a pedophile...pedophile means sexual attaction to children. here i didnt see the guy talking abt sex and besides is a 16year old a child...btw its 8 years diiference we are talking abt here......how is a man wanting to marry a lady who is 8years younger a pedophila.....some pple sef ehn

to op let him remain an acquaintance till she add up 2 more years..den dey cn decide from there

Classicman47:


Chiiiisos!! 40-wetin?

yes oo,what I'm trying to say is dat,if his intentions are good he should wait till maybe when she's 18.at least dats a matured age....me and my husband met and before you know it I dropped 2 babies.

The fact that its even a debate means it is wrong .. i mean u don't see people debating if its OK for a 22yrs old guy to date a 21yrs old girl Right?

zinaunreal:
I addition to what you have pointed out, serial cases of pedophiles would never have anything would such a young child when she has begun to show signs of development and maturity. So I don't know why every small thing here about Nigerian reasoning na child abuser, underage. People should do their research and home work before they spit nonsense. But I would never support dating a minor for any reason, she must be 18 and above, fully aware of herself as an adult and able to make important decisions about what she wants.

Thanks for giving me the catchword MINOR.Yes she is a minor and it is wrong to do that with a minor.But we are being academic now and I have a question 'Is that kind of relationship ok with a parent's permission and effective 'chaperoning' ?

Suigeneris93:



...btw my sister's career comes first bfr any yeye marriage and bethrothal

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Wow....so you've taken Diz lil thread so personal to the extent of makin clear decisions for your sister in no other place but NL

oga gaan ooo, i suspect a dark history tho'.. .. ..and i equally pray that you know ur sister as much as decidin for her!

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Matured ladies and their tales of past relationships. .d kind that wud make me cast my eye on fresh grounds. .
. .but d trut is....i've had much experience wif teens and sec skuul gals and in my best knowledge, i wudn't advice my junior brother to walk that line cos although its real tempting, it is totally vain. . .19+ is okay for me tho

Suigeneris93:



E no pain me dear, and I go happy say no be. U she dey engaged to

Say I dey craze to go date or engage monster??
Hav I ever tried dat before??
Na today I wan try am?? God forbid, e no fid hapn

Nope... Tell him to go cast his net elsewhere and leave secondary school children alone! [/quote]
u been reach 15yrs of age b4 dos pot-belle men start 2 chop u? Talk true o

So says sum1 dats so ashamed of his features, he doesn't even hv a dp

airprince1:
Say I dey craze to go date or engage monster??
Hav I ever tried dat before??
Na today I wan try am?? God forbid, e no fid hapn

rayopt:


. .but d trut is....i've had much experience wif teens and sec skuul gals and in my best knowledge, i wudn't advice my junior brother to walk that line cos although its real tempting, it is totally vain. . .19+ is okay for me tho

Every1 has a past dear, dats nt a new tin. Its gud to knw behind all ur prev ramblings u still hv a fuctional brain

Suigeneris93:



You're not even ashamed of ursef. My sister is not up for grabs for cradle snatchers like u, oya sue me

what is this one saying? tell me when you were opened, odoyo

mightycrown1:

what is this one saying? tell me when you were opened, odoyo

When ur mother tells u wen she was opened den I can tell u, ozu

dubemnaija:
My friend is 24, a graduate, and does a fairly paid job. He recently started wooing a 16-yr-old SS2 student through her aunt (The girl lives with her mom's sister). According to him, he wants to nurture this girl probably for marriage .

He told me about it today and I was stunned. He said he wanted to get as many advice as possible, so he'd know the next line of action to take..

Let him go-ahead...when the babe chop his money finish, his eyes go open like Dasuki own.

smitez:



Dude u r dumb o.. 16yrs only if the other person is not above 18.. if anyone is above 18..then it's a crime..consensual or not..

Some people here are even irritating me!!

you show to be far more dumb, now tell me which law in Nigeria states that consensual sex for a 16 year old girl is only for males below 18.you must be silly to have quoted me when you have nothing reasonable to say.. you must know that adult age being 18 does not bar sex from happening below that age as. far as it's upto 16 and consensual. nonsense

Edigrows:


check dictionary for the meaning of paedophile.
The gal is a kid so It is not related with what U are saying.

Funny..ok mayb u can give me answers to this questions:
1) Which one do u want us to check pedophile or paedophile?
2) You that already know the meaning, did the guy sed he wants to be having sex with the girl or he wants to nurture the girl
3) Finally since you use to using the dictionary, its good you check the meaning of a child and teenager and mayb check for the difference

quiinnBee:

that is not the point here.the point is she's still in SS2.is husband the next thing ?
please use your brain.its meant for thinking.

Did the guy say he wants to marry her now or he sed he wants to nurture her till she's thru with school

Suigeneris93:



When ur mother tells u wen she was opened den I can tell u, ozu

now i can see your pains, because sweet sixteen is getting attention and u are abandoned, been a very old cargo. sorry lagido, i fully understood ur pains

babafirst:
Thanks for giving me the catchword MINOR.Yes she is a minor and it is wrong to do that with a minor.But we are being academic now and I have a question 'Is that kind of relationship ok with a parent's permission and effective 'chaperoning' ?

absolutely not.

mightycrown1:

now i can see your pains, because sweet sixteen is getting attention and u are abandoned, been a very old cargo. sorry lagido, i fully understood ur pains

Lol...bros remove ur glasses and luk @me very well, if ur mother looked like me @any age she wldnt have given birth to u

Suigeneris93:



Lol...bros remove ur glasses and luk @me very well, if ur mother looked like me @any age she wldnt have given birth to u

if you have gotten a standing mirror to check yourself, you notice that ur look is liken to a woman in her late 45, even though u far below that, courtesy over fucking. so at what age were you disvirgin

dubemnaija:
My friend is 24, a graduate, and does a fairly paid job. He recently started wooing a 16-yr-old SS2 student through her aunt (The girl lives with her mom's sister). According to him, he wants to nurture this girl probably for marriage .

He told me about it today and I was stunned. He said he wanted to get as many advice as possible, so he'd know the next line of action to take..

He's being honest so help him out.

Suigeneris93:



. Its gud to knw behind all ur prev ramblings u still hv a fuctional brain

prev ramblings? For Where??
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Well, So many Quotes gives the quoted troll a popular feelin. . Waka pass jaare *sighs*

jamex93:
lolx
advice don finish for today, come back tomorow

lol

rayopt:


prev ramblings? For Where??
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Well, So many Quotes gives the quoted troll a popular feelin. . Waka pass jaare *sighs*

Ur quotes or misquotes of me doesn't add a cent to my bank acct neither does it fuel my gen, same as ur 'popular feeling.' If u wanna achieve celebrity status on nl its ur funeral nt mine

Suigeneris93:
So says sum1 dats so ashamed of his features, he doesn't even hv a dp

Mtcheew!! What benefit will i derive in updating my pix here??
Is dere no other social media to do dat??


Go check my d.p now on my profile if dat's really ur problem.
After today am removing it.
Am not chasing anybody here, and I don't want anybody to chase me here


And mind u, let me correct u one impression, don't be over protective of ur sister cos u don't knw what she's doing in de secret.
Young gals of now adays are different from the ones of those days.


Hid my words if u lyk, if u don't lyk keep fighting with me here

donj84:


Funny..ok mayb u can give me answers to this questions:
1) Which one do u want us to check pedophile or paedophile?
2) You that already know the meaning, did the guy sed he wants to be having sex with the girl or he wants to nurture the girl
3) Finally since you use to using the dictionary, its good you check the meaning of a child and teenager and mayb check for the difference

forgerrit bruh, U win abeg, i no wan argue here

quiinnBee:

that is not the point here.the point is she's still in SS2.is husband the next thing ?
please use your brain.its meant for thinking.

And what is wrong with that? haven't you read or heard about people who courted for years before getting married? never heard of 7-10 years courtship?

Dat gul is stil a minor,she knws nothing abt love/life,she can accept ur frnd nw cos of one silly reason,e.g "i like d way he laughs,he speaks gud english,hes handsome,he has money e.t.c BUT the moment she gets to the age of 23,24,25(wen her flower fully blossoms),her choices wil begin to change,she myt nt fancy ur frnd or his kinda lyf again cos shes grown into a woman and by then ur frnd wil start saying tins like "women are ungrateful,after all dis yrs,tym resources,emotions e.t.c,..only 2 out of hundred ladies wil become full grown adults and stil stick to the choices they made as a teenager in terms of relationship.tel ur frnd nt to dig his own grave by himsef cos the hrtbrk dis gul wil give him in future,he myt nt survive it

Icekyng:

u sound bitter on this issue asif its a 10 years old girl and a 30yrs old.
truth is a 16years old is nt a kid any longer and they look 20 dese days as long as they are capable of getting pregnant
he has good intentions of norturing her to be ripe for marriage by following dues process nt molesting her and am sure if he nurtures her for marriage and she gets to 21 and dey later become happily married u will kp ur mouth shut
if you're bitter that guys dnt approach u , dnt put it on d girl cos u sound like someone that was heartbroken
NOW GO BACK TO THE KITCHEN!!

Lol... look how he said "go back to the kitchen" like it's an insult or something. Oga swerve abeg...

16 year olds are like 20 year olds... Shameless human... *spits*