kaboninc:


Looollzzzz


Come make I confirm...

I'll give you a babe to test and be sure that ya heart is good!

teemy:
beleza, I do feel for you and understand what you are going through. I do believe just as tosyne3much said here https://www.nairaland.com/post/41058667 you need to build up on your own self esteem first. Imagine you being a success as madam Iweala as world bank president for Africa and a man wants to woo you. Whomever is going to approach you must package very well and not just any man would get that kind of liver. Your self personality would determine who comes around you so get busy on your pathway to success so you don not have to live in desperation.

Secondly also make your desires known towards God. I believe a believer in the almighty should not have a problem with knowing what the future holds with a partner. I would pick on the story of prophet Hosea in the bible whom God told to marry a prostitute. He was warned that there would be problem sin the future and at the end of the day joy would prevail. If you have such a talking relationship with your maker you would be given a heads up on what your enterprise would be so build that area.

Lastly forget a man that is with another person. If you expect him to leave his previous lover for you then expect him to leave you in future for another lady and live a life of fearful expectations. You would find the man whom would be yours and only yours. Just believe in yourself or don't you?

Cheers my dear.

kaboninc:

Lool.
What kind of shoe you dey?
Bend-down select or First Grade?

ishiamu:


Just do and I will make you my godfather LoL

Galaxydon1:
third grade okirika

kaboninc:


Loookk at this ONE?


Na me carry you come Lagos?

ishiamu:


Person no dey follow u play again??

kaboninc:




That shoe doonn dieeeee kpatakpata....

Oya give am ishiamu, make him sow am.

kaboninc:


No be for where woman dey oh....

I fit dash you money but leave woman for you? Mbanu

kaboninc:




That shoe doonn dieeeee kpatakpata....

Oya give am ishiamu, make him sow am.

humilitypays:
No one has told you the problem...I think they are all beating around the bush.

As a young man myself who has lots of married and single guys....both rich, poor and average guys...I will itemize your possible issues with guys below:

1. You have very high taste of men- he must be tall, dark fair, muscular, born again, have a good job....in as much as these are good screening criterias, they most often lead ladies into falling for the wrong guys. Wrong guys in terms of married guys or those in committed relationship....playboys only out to catch fun with as many ladies as possible

2. You show signs of desperacy towards guys you are dating: no man (rich or poor, handsome or ugly) admires a desperate woman. This is why many ladies get dumped....they make any guy that end up dating them to feel like they must marry her at all cost since you agreed to date them and maybe have sex/romance with them.

Once a man notices that a lady is desperate to marry, he becomes scared....scared that the lady maybe the wrong woman for him...scared that the lady may have some defficiencies or secret why other guys are running away from marrying her and now she wants to impose herself on him.

Once a man starts to feel you want him to marry you at all cost, he starts to look for a way to escape from you via any flimsy excuse.

3. Do you work? How much do you value your work or business?

Unfortunately, in our present day world....Nigeria as a case study...the economy is harsh...and this has made men (rich and poor) to start filtering women to marry based on their economic viability. If you have a good job and make these guys to understand that you have a viable job, career or business...believe me, most of them won't run from you. most won't quit but will most likely end up settling down with you.

Men have learnt from ladies....guys now select would-be-wife based on where she works....the business she does....her family background....where she lives.....her financial status and more...yes, guys have started digging diamond too...sadly


4. Lastly, you believe that any guy you agreed to date owes you a lot since you have not been dating any guy...that you are a rare gem...yes, even though you may be a rare gem, but making a guy feel like you are doing him a favour dating him will only make him feel bad and start looking for a way out.

Make him feel worthwhile....not by pestering him or by stalking him but via certain actions.....gifting...calls....and also don't pester a guy.....give him space....make him feel like you aren't forcing yourself on him...make him feel like he's not being caged by you but then make an indellible mark in his life, how? Help him in his career growth...business growth...give him useful information and links if you can or come across any that will help him grow....forget all the nonsense some ladies preach that if you help a man grow....that he will leave you to marry another girl when he's made...its all fallacy.....I have never seen it...all guys I know married ladies that made positive impact in their lives, so don't listen to those preaching negative message about helping a guy grow.

Finally....finally....pray....find a way to pour your heart to God in private prayers...not via a pastor or brother this and that...believe in yourself....read the Bible...book of Esther.....and quit being desperate and be friendly....don't look down on any guy.....listen to guys trying to say hi...listen to their bullshit if you can.....the best guys mustn't come driving a range rover....sometimes....your Mr Right might meet you in a bus and it doesn't mean your life is doomed...if you will be rich....you will surely be....all you need now is a trustworthy companion to share you life, you vision, your dream with and God will sure bless you materially and financially when the set time comes...quit choosing men based on their financial, job or business status!

kaboninc:


Hahahahahahaha

They are still learners.....

You tell them make them learn from the masters, they go dey shiit agidi for you.

If that guy gif you that pick-up line, you go fall for am?

tpraiz:





Taught Thought as much......
I been wan vex ni.....

queenfav:
lol..why I no go fall for am?Afterall na "I like you fine girl,talk your own" nai my oga take toast me na.And I just gree once.Seriously,the pick up lines were comical.Na laugh I dey since.The poor girl dey lament about her predicament,men wan try their luck.

Galaxydon1:
lol dont worry she will fix it for me

LegatusGlaber:


Take your frustration and puerile manners elsewhere boy

ishiamu:


Make I send my acc number?? Money over women all the time

Oliviaarims:
Dunno what more I have to say here that has already not been said. I didn't read past the first page. First of all, my dear.
U're being too hasty in ur generalization that u keep falling for the wrong guys. U mentioned just three, which may have all been a bad coincidence.

Take a deep breath and take ur kind off men, bcoz believe me, as long as u keep pondering on getting hooked up, ur heart just strt catching feelings unnecessarily fast. U no longer scrutinize keenly.. U get attracted to the first guy that looks ur way twice... Of course, this is exaggerated, but I hope u get the msg.

Don't give a man any reason to disrespect u and disregard ur emotions. Start learning to love and respect urself... to start knowing ur worth. There are times u need to be strict. People would treat u the way u think of urself.

Also, I think u sincerely and seriously need to do an overall appraisal of urself. I'm doubly convinced that there are things u aren't doing right. Maybe the way u dress, the way u talk, ur lifestyle, ur character, the way u treat ppl. I can't tell exactly, but look introspectively into u and ur lifestyle. 4yrs in the University and nobody approached u for a serious relationship? That's shocking!

Lastly, get busy if u aren't. Develop productive new hobbies... Get a social life... Get a job if u aren't employed yet or start learning a trade.


Lastly, u screwed up big time in the way u handled the issue with the man that has a gf in Nigeria. I was saddened!

iceberylin:
You never told us what really attracted you to these wrong guys

kaboninc:

Funny guys...

beleza:
I am not in a good situation at the moment. I am in love with a guy who has a girlfriend.Before you judge me here is my story.I am a lady in my late 20s, pretty, funny, lovable and a good christian but the major problem I have been facing since I knew about dating is the kind of guys I get attracted,they are usually cool but unserious,have commitment issues, are emotionally unavailable and just want to sleep with me.I am very emotional and I tend to show my feelings towards a guy so soon.Secondly I have never had a relationship that lasted more than six months.

In my 4 years in the university, I didnt have any relationship, not that i didnt want but guys were not just coming.My friends always felt I should have a lot of admirers because of my looks but the reverse was the case.After school, the few ones I tried to have,turned out sour.One was my former fellowship pastor so I thought he will be serious as he was old enough for marriage.This was about 4 years ago.I was disappointed when I realised that he was just after sex.He started acting up, withdrawing, saying I was disturbing him emotionally and that he is tired.Later, he said we should do friends with benefit, I just cut him off totally. This was a supposed pastor trying to take advvantage of my weakness.

A year later in 2013 met another dude.It didnt last up to six months before we broke up due to our numerous differences.he also didnt make a commitment, the major thing was that we liked ourselves.It took me a long time to get time over him.fast forward to this year met a very funny and inteeligent guy.we met on an online socialnetworking site.he is in his 30's and he seemed just like my perfect man. There was this connection I had with him and we could talk about anything at anytime.snooped on his social media accounts and I didnt see any signs of a lady or girlfriend so I felt the coast was clear.Only for me to ask him one day and he says he is in a relationship,even showed me her photo.I had already started having feelings for him, it was hard to turn back.We were so attracted to each other and it was to hard to resist him even though I knew he just wanted sex from me.Dude travels out and isnt communicating like before, even though he told me his gf is in nigeria but I wasn't convinced.

Our major fallout was when on my birthday I didnt get message fro him until a day later, I decided to send a nasty message to him saying he was just after my body and all.Dude gets angry, I started apologising almost immediately, this happed in October.he just reads my messages doesnt reply doesnt pick my calls.Since the incident happend, I havent been myself, I have never begged or apologised to any one like this in my life, I have cried almost everyday for the past two months, I cant concentrate at work.He recently came back but didn't tell me but I found out on my own.Went to his house a few days ago unannounced just to apologize, He got more angry in the process saying he warned not to come without telling him.He said he has forgiven me and also apologized for leading on but ended up saying he has issues with people that dont trust him.The worst part is he knows I love him so he is doing this to hurt me more.

I just cant get him out of my mind, I think about him everyday, I am in a dilemma.we never had sex, we just kissed and touched so I dont understand what is going on. I still sent him msgs yesterday but he just read them and didnt reply.I have uninstalled my whatsapp because of him so I cant send him msgs.At this point, I am fed up, I don't why love treats me like this. I need your advice asap .

Galaxydon1:
yea i just hope she wil like me

kaboninc:


I go send you the money as compensation.....

Onlymewakacum:


One just wonders why you are so pained? Is she your sister?

kaboninc:

Keep trying sha....
Just don't exhaust your airtime