Take it to God in prayer... I dnt. Knw y many always neglet God in issues like this. My dear if the relationship u seek is one built on principles of scripture, one to lead to marriage, then ask God . He will do it. Bt never give God deadline for any reason, he is faithful, and he'll do it in it's own time. And u'll testify.

esonuu:
U aint falling in luv,u jst get infatuated wit doz guys cos of one quality or d other which u saw in them,it did happen to me more dan 5 tyms..infatuation is always intense,u feel like u gona die without dat person,u mistake it 4 love but at d end,it aint...giv ursef sum time,try startn tins wit sum1 as frnds,dnt rush it,tak ur time,study him,get to knw wat/hw he feels towards u b4 u nw start dating/courting..it worked 4 me,a lady i told openly dat we cannever date,after two and half yrs of being jst frnds,nw we are dating and doz tins i dnt do for oda guls i dated or did out of pretense,nw i do it for dis one willingly without expectn sex or any pay bak 4rm her.GOODLUCK HONEY

My brother ur very correct. Infatuation makes us feel like we are in love. And I also think her problem also might be her looks, she says she's pretty yet no admirers, most of u guys don't go for pretty girls coz u have that notion that ur not the only dude on the line and so therefore lots of guys that would've loved to be with her will just use that negative vibe n let her go, and then she on the other hand jumps at every little opportunity she gets with a guy coz many of them are not fort coming, so I understand her plight very well, the only issue she has is not being able to carry herself or value herself well enough.

Cyberfavour:
With your story, I can say that your conclusion is very wrong. You concluded wrongly, it's just coincidental.

My sole advice to you is to stop being too emotional and even when you love a guy don't let him see you like you are so dependent on him

BULL.

hmmm lets roll like this . there is wat we called illusion. many guy and many girls do the same. expecially guy of 31 and above because when you look at their age yes its up to having his own life partner. but they use this opportunity to Bleep Bleep woman. Sam tin to woman if a nice and gentle guy com on their way they will say look at this one that look like my hand bag, wonders shall never end. so dear always be you wise as serpent because not every thing that is shining is called gold.

SexyStrawberry:


My brother ur very correct. Infatuation makes us feel like we are in love. And I also think her problem also might be her looks, she says she's pretty yet no admirers, most of u guys don't go for pretty girls coz u have that notion that ur not the only dude on the line and so therefore lots of guys that would've loved to be with her will just use that negative vibe n let her go, and then she on the other hand jumps at every little opportunity she gets with a guy coz many of them are not fort coming, so I understand her plight very well, the only issue she has is not being able to carry herself or value herself well enough.

And so she shld reduce the beauty or what?

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Lol.

So tell us then, what world you come from...

achinaboy:
maybe you have to learn how not to be so gumy gumy to guys, most guys I know,don't like women that are so gumy and emotional,,just be free and enjoy your life as a young girl, don't be so much focused on settling down, when it's time to settle down,the right person will come, and again don't be so cheap give guys some hard time,and that would make them to really try hard because they want to see that which makes you special, goodluk

Did she mention dat she is cheap? Everybody just dey advise wetin dem no even know.

Classicman47:


And so she shld reduce the beauty or what?

obviously u didn't understand my writeup and the last thing I'll do is to make u understand, the person that I quoted his comment would understand me perfectly well.

Classicman47:

BULL.

queenfav:
my man na..We have done family introduction/engagement,plus the fact that I love the way he loves me..So I am on serious lockdown!

Or sweerry, I love the way you flow...


When is the d day na

Cholls:
My sister their is absolutely nothing wrong with you. The reason you fall for the wrong guys is simply because you are too emotional. My sister the only way for you to find the right guy is for you to start hating guys for you to know who is serious to have you.

See dis one. hating guys for what?

tochigimel:
hmmm lets roll like this . there is wat we called illusion. many guy and many girls do the same. expecially guy of 31 and above because when you look at their age yes its up to having his own life partner. but they use this opportunity to Bleep Bleep woman. Sam tin to woman if a nice and gentle guy com on their way they will say look at this one that look like my hand bag, wonders shall never end. so dear always be you wise as serpent because not every thing that is shining is called gold.

Lolxxxxx funny but u made real sense sha

IF PEOPLE MAKE FUN OF YOU BECAUSE YOU'RE DIFFERENT LAUGH IT OFF AND MAKE FUN OF THEM FOR BEIN THE SAME.

Different folks with difference rational and irrational messages.. She just actually seeked for reasonable advice, not nonsense. Babe, cast all ur burden upon thy LORD ok. There is nothing too big for Him. I love u all folks. Cheers.

beleza:
I am not in a good situation at the moment. I am in love with a guy who has a girlfriend.Before you judge me here is my story.I am a lady in my late 20s, pretty, funny, lovable and a good christian but the major problem I have been facing since I knew about dating is the kind of guys I get attracted,they are usually cool but unserious,have commitment issues, are emotionally unavailable and just want to sleep with me.I am very emotional and I tend to show my feelings towards a guy so soon.Secondly I have never had a relationship that lasted more than six months.

In my 4 years in the university, I didnt have any relationship, not that i didnt want but guys were not just coming.My friends always felt I should have a lot of admirers because of my looks but the reverse was the case.After school, the few ones I tried to have,turned out sour.One was my former fellowship pastor so I thought he will be serious as he was old enough for marriage.This was about 4 years ago.I was disappointed when I realised that he was just after sex.He started acting up, withdrawing, saying I was disturbing him emotionally and that he is tired.Later, he said we should do friends with benefit, I just cut him off totally. This was a supposed pastor trying to take advvantage of my weakness.

A year later in 2013 met another dude.It didnt last up to six months before we broke up due to our numerous differences.he also didnt make a commitment, the major thing was that we liked ourselves.It took me a long time to get time over him.fast forward to this year met a very funny and inteeligent guy.we met on an online socialnetworking site.he is in his 30's and he seemed just like my perfect man. There was this connection I had with him and we could talk about anything at anytime.snooped on his social media accounts and I didnt see any signs of a lady or girlfriend so I felt the coast was clear.Only for me to ask him one day and he says he is in a relationship,even showed me her photo.I had already started having feelings for him, it was hard to turn back.We were so attracted to each other and it was to hard to resist him even though I knew he just wanted sex from me.Dude travels out and isnt communicating like before, even though he told me his gf is in nigeria but I wasn't convinced.

Our major fallout was when on my birthday I didnt get message fro him until a day later, I decided to send a nasty message to him saying he was just after my body and all.Dude gets angry, I started apologising almost immediately, this happed in October.he just reads my messages doesnt reply doesnt pick my calls.Since the incident happend, I havent been myself, I have never begged or apologised to any one like this in my life, I have cried almost everyday for the past two months, I cant concentrate at work.He recently came back but didn't tell me but I found out on my own.Went to his house a few days ago unannounced just to apologize, He got more angry in the process saying he warned not to come without telling him.He said he has forgiven me and also apologized for leading on but ended up saying he has issues with people that dont trust him.The worst part is he knows I love him so he is doing this to hurt me more.

I just cant get him out of my mind, I think about him everyday, I am in a dilemma.we never had sex, we just kissed and touched so I dont understand what is going on. I still sent him msgs yesterday but he just read them and didnt reply.I have uninstalled my whatsapp because of him so I cant send him msgs.At this point, I am fed up, I don't why love treats me like this. I need your advice asap .

baby am here for you
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firstking01:
tanx.

. U r welcome

Classicman47:


Did she mention dat she is cheap? Everybody just dey advise wetin dem no even know.

mr wise man,this just an advice, when your parents advices u to listen good to your teacher, does that meant that someone told them that you don't listen to your teachers?

just be smart...call 09081564592 to get cool advice.

My dear I was really moved reading your story..please try and move on.. its very obvious he isn't for real and who knows the outcome if he marries you out of pity..you will be frustrated all through your life in the marriage..get your acts together and refocus your attention on things that will make you happy..its going to be fine...stay blessed.

Estharfabian:
Well, trust me girl....Your world Would be Much Easier n less dramatic if You Stopped Making It Revolve around "Guys"...

Are You independent? Do You just want A Guy Coz U want someone taking care of Your needs, financially? coz U seem pretty desperate to me!

Maybe the reason these guys are backing Out is 'Coz They feel You'd only be parasitic towards 'em...and No one wants that!

Bout the 2013 guy...He doesn't like You..I think U should just forget bout him..No Real guy would see a Lady in that much pain and still ignore her the way he did..he's A douchebag!

Just start working Towards Your future...Be independent, be successful, be beautiful, be bold, be classy...that's when Guys would come, You'd only have to choose from so many...

@OP pls if u are sensible, read everything this young lady has posted here and follow it to the letter!

You have a lot of things working against u. First you are pretty desperate. Second, you are still desperate.

I mean how could u even let yourself get emotionally attached to a guy who told you he has a girlfriend from the outset? Oh, you expected he would leave her for you bah? Because you two had chemistry? What of biology?

Baby girl, you are beautiful yes we know, but not every beautiful girl is meant to be in a relationship at every given instant in her life. So stop listening to your friends who keep wondering why a pretty girl like you doesn't have a boyfriend. Its your life. Allow them do them, while you do you(hope u get that).

See, you have to start committing to a higher cause as soon as possible. Life isn't just about romantic relationships.
Get your degree. If you have that already, plan for a higher degree maybe. Get a job. Start a business. Develop yourself. Be independent. Make some money for yourself. And keep praying to God. If a good man comes your way, you marry. If he hasn't showed up yet, you still be living well. Doing your thing your way. Buying stuff you like...with your own dough.

One love.

kaboninc:


Lol.

So tell us then, what world you come from...

The world of sense perception.. In which the things we see and observe are only representations/copies of the things in the world of forms.

why do pretty girls always have relationship problems

outstandingsyll:
Please call my friend mercy to wish her happy birthday 08134212742

You lack virtue

beleza:
I am not in a good situation at the moment. I am in love with a guy who has a girlfriend.Before you judge me here is my story.I am a lady in my late 20s, pretty, funny, lovable and a good christian but the major problem I have been facing since I knew about dating is the kind of guys I get attracted,they are usually cool but unserious,have commitment issues, are emotionally unavailable and just want to sleep with me.I am very emotional and I tend to show my feelings towards a guy so soon.Secondly I have never had a relationship that lasted more than six months.

In my 4 years in the university, I didnt have any relationship, not that i didnt want but guys were not just coming.My friends always felt I should have a lot of admirers because of my looks but the reverse was the case.After school, the few ones I tried to have,turned out sour.One was my former fellowship pastor so I thought he will be serious as he was old enough for marriage.This was about 4 years ago.I was disappointed when I realised that he was just after sex.He started acting up, withdrawing, saying I was disturbing him emotionally and that he is tired.Later, he said we should do friends with benefit, I just cut him off totally. This was a supposed pastor trying to take advvantage of my weakness.

A year later in 2013 met another dude.It didnt last up to six months before we broke up due to our numerous differences.he also didnt make a commitment, the major thing was that we liked ourselves.It took me a long time to get time over him.fast forward to this year met a very funny and inteeligent guy.we met on an online socialnetworking site.he is in his 30's and he seemed just like my perfect man. There was this connection I had with him and we could talk about anything at anytime.snooped on his social media accounts and I didnt see any signs of a lady or girlfriend so I felt the coast was clear.Only for me to ask him one day and he says he is in a relationship,even showed me her photo.I had already started having feelings for him, it was hard to turn back.We were so attracted to each other and it was to hard to resist him even though I knew he just wanted sex from me.Dude travels out and isnt communicating like before, even though he told me his gf is in nigeria but I wasn't convinced.

Our major fallout was when on my birthday I didnt get message fro him until a day later, I decided to send a nasty message to him saying he was just after my body and all.Dude gets angry, I started apologising almost immediately, this happed in October.he just reads my messages doesnt reply doesnt pick my calls.Since the incident happend, I havent been myself, I have never begged or apologised to any one like this in my life, I have cried almost everyday for the past two months, I cant concentrate at work.He recently came back but didn't tell me but I found out on my own.Went to his house a few days ago unannounced just to apologize, He got more angry in the process saying he warned not to come without telling him.He said he has forgiven me and also apologized for leading on but ended up saying he has issues with people that dont trust him.The worst part is he knows I love him so he is doing this to hurt me more.

I just cant get him out of my mind, I think about him everyday, I am in a dilemma.we never had sex, we just kissed and touched so I dont understand what is going on. I still sent him msgs yesterday but he just read them and didnt reply.I have uninstalled my whatsapp because of him so I cant send him msgs.At this point, I am fed up, I don't why love treats me like this. I need your advice asap .

Get back to your root. Retrace your steps. Return to your status heavenly father.

beleza:
I am not in a good situation at the moment. I am in love with a guy who has a girlfriend.Before you judge me here is my story.I am a lady in my late 20s, pretty, funny, lovable and a good christian but the major problem I have been facing since I knew about dating is the kind of guys I get attracted,they are usually cool but unserious,have commitment issues, are emotionally unavailable and just want to sleep with me.I am very emotional and I tend to show my feelings towards a guy so soon.Secondly I have never had a relationship that lasted more than six months.

In my 4 years in the university, I didnt have any relationship, not that i didnt want but guys were not just coming.My friends always felt I should have a lot of admirers because of my looks but the reverse was the case.After school, the few ones I tried to have,turned out sour.One was my former fellowship pastor so I thought he will be serious as he was old enough for marriage.This was about 4 years ago.I was disappointed when I realised that he was just after sex.He started acting up, withdrawing, saying I was disturbing him emotionally and that he is tired.Later, he said we should do friends with benefit, I just cut him off totally. This was a supposed pastor trying to take advvantage of my weakness.

A year later in 2013 met another dude.It didnt last up to six months before we broke up due to our numerous differences.he also didnt make a commitment, the major thing was that we liked ourselves.It took me a long time to get time over him.fast forward to this year met a very funny and inteeligent guy.we met on an online socialnetworking site.he is in his 30's and he seemed just like my perfect man. There was this connection I had with him and we could talk about anything at anytime.snooped on his social media accounts and I didnt see any signs of a lady or girlfriend so I felt the coast was clear.Only for me to ask him one day and he says he is in a relationship,even showed me her photo.I had already started having feelings for him, it was hard to turn back.We were so attracted to each other and it was to hard to resist him even though I knew he just wanted sex from me.Dude travels out and isnt communicating like before, even though he told me his gf is in nigeria but I wasn't convinced.

Our major fallout was when on my birthday I didnt get message fro him until a day later, I decided to send a nasty message to him saying he was just after my body and all.Dude gets angry, I started apologising almost immediately, this happed in October.he just reads my messages doesnt reply doesnt pick my calls.Since the incident happend, I havent been myself, I have never begged or apologised to any one like this in my life, I have cried almost everyday for the past two months, I cant concentrate at work.He recently came back but didn't tell me but I found out on my own.Went to his house a few days ago unannounced just to apologize, He got more angry in the process saying he warned not to come without telling him.He said he has forgiven me and also apologized for leading on but ended up saying he has issues with people that dont trust him.The worst part is he knows I love him so he is doing this to hurt me more.

I just cant get him out of my mind, I think about him everyday, I am in a dilemma.we never had sex, we just kissed and touched so I dont understand what is going on. I still sent him msgs yesterday but he just read them and didnt reply.I have uninstalled my whatsapp because of him so I cant send him msgs.At this point, I am fed up, I don't why love treats me like this. I need your advice asap .

Seem not to read your current career path...........but I will advice you focus on your career while you go for deliverance (preferably at MFM church heaquarter or Prayer City-if you are in Lagos) to sort out this issue and your future. Really felt your pain.

Go watch Ruky Sanda's piece of crap called "The Search"...Ignore the childish acts and pay attention to the story line!

beleza:
I am not in a good situation at the moment. I am in love with a guy who has a girlfriend.Before you judge me here is my story.I am a lady in my late 20s, pretty, funny, lovable and a good christian but the major problem I have been facing since I knew about dating is the kind of guys I get attracted,they are usually cool but unserious,have commitment issues, are emotionally unavailable and just want to sleep with me.I am very emotional and I tend to show my feelings towards a guy so soon.Secondly I have never had a relationship that lasted more than six months.

In my 4 years in the university, I didnt have any relationship, not that i didnt want but guys were not just coming.My friends always felt I should have a lot of admirers because of my looks but the reverse was the case.After school, the few ones I tried to have,turned out sour.One was my former fellowship pastor so I thought he will be serious as he was old enough for marriage.This was about 4 years ago.I was disappointed when I realised that he was just after sex.He started acting up, withdrawing, saying I was disturbing him emotionally and that he is tired.Later, he said we should do friends with benefit, I just cut him off totally. This was a supposed pastor trying to take advvantage of my weakness.

A year later in 2013 met another dude.It didnt last up to six months before we broke up due to our numerous differences.he also didnt make a commitment, the major thing was that we liked ourselves.It took me a long time to get time over him.fast forward to this year met a very funny and inteeligent guy.we met on an online socialnetworking site.he is in his 30's and he seemed just like my perfect man. There was this connection I had with him and we could talk about anything at anytime.snooped on his social media accounts and I didnt see any signs of a lady or girlfriend so I felt the coast was clear.Only for me to ask him one day and he says he is in a relationship,even showed me her photo.I had already started having feelings for him, it was hard to turn back.We were so attracted to each other and it was to hard to resist him even though I knew he just wanted sex from me.Dude travels out and isnt communicating like before, even though he told me his gf is in nigeria but I wasn't convinced.

Our major fallout was when on my birthday I didnt get message fro him until a day later, I decided to send a nasty message to him saying he was just after my body and all.Dude gets angry, I started apologising almost immediately, this happed in October.he just reads my messages doesnt reply doesnt pick my calls.Since the incident happend, I havent been myself, I have never begged or apologised to any one like this in my life, I have cried almost everyday for the past two months, I cant concentrate at work.He recently came back but didn't tell me but I found out on my own.Went to his house a few days ago unannounced just to apologize, He got more angry in the process saying he warned not to come without telling him.He said he has forgiven me and also apologized for leading on but ended up saying he has issues with people that dont trust him.The worst part is he knows I love him so he is doing this to hurt me more.

I just cant get him out of my mind, I think about him everyday, I am in a dilemma.we never had sex, we just kissed and touched so I dont understand what is going on. I still sent him msgs yesterday but he just read them and didnt reply.I have uninstalled my whatsapp because of him so I cant send him msgs.At this point, I am fed up, I don't why love treats me like this. I need your advice asap .

You are one of those girls that jump around on the flashy and good looking play boys Because there are simple and more sincere guys out there.

Sis, your case my b spiritual which demand prayer to concquer. Be careful about peoples advice
because every guys desire a woman wu will sincerely love them, so anyone advising u not to show yoir man that u love him is just deceiving u. It is a prove of genue love but if u dont show him that u do, yor travail may continue cos of d feeling of insecurity by d guy.
2ndly, if I may ask, are u born again or not? Cos that is where your freedom start and if not my advice may not b useful to u.
How is d trend of marriage in your family? Pls dig deep into this! U need deliverance if any of the following is traceable in your family;
Good thing coming late
Always getting attracted to wrong things
Showing/sowing/ investing into a baren land

The truth is, there is no special way of handling man for him to truly fall for u. All advices u are seeing are just peoples opinion base on what they have either heard or experience in their personal life and because your life is unique as what works for Mr. A might not work for B. That is why opinions of people here are limited.
I also sugest u need an enquiry prayer from God and believe me God will rescue u and whateva HE said will set u free for life.
Pls b careful because u are about to make d greatest choice of your destiny. So b calm and watchful, do not overate your problem as no one is free from any.
U are still very young at late 30, cos u need to hook up with right man as this only set d pace for your destiny.
My sis, wrong mariage is far worse than wrong relationship because d day u are going to spend in yoir home is very far compare with what u have spent, so take time to work on yourself, pray often, do not over rate your self and dont b too ambitious about specific kind of man cos God's opinion might b totally different from yours.
The check also d job u are doing might b intimidating to guys, so b sober and full of d spirit of humility. When d real guy comes u he will love u and show it. No one can hide tru love.
Good day.

this used to be me. now even Satan himself can't mess with my head.

I'm interested in this story, kindly add me on facebook.

How come Genevieve is unmarried @ over 40 if all the girl needs is to beautiful, bold, successfully etc just as u said?

The girl is simply too emotional and desperate to marry. That's what I believe make guys treat her the way they do.

Estharfabian:
Well, trust me girl....Your world Would be Much Easier n less dramatic if You Stopped Making It Revolve around "Guys"...

Are You independent? Do You just want A Guy Coz U want someone taking care of Your needs, financially? coz U seem pretty desperate to me!



Maybe the reason these guys are backing Out is 'Coz They feel You'd only be parasitic towards 'em...and No one wants that!

Bout the 2013 guy...He doesn't like You..I think U should just forget bout him..No Real guy would see a Lady in that much pain and still ignore her the way he did..he's A douchebag!

Just start working Towards Your future...Be independent, be successful, be beautiful, be bold, be classy...that's when Guys would come, You'd only have to choose from so many...

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Dear sister
your story got me shading tears, but it is not the end of the world ,just pray for it or even fast .Ask God for direction