louistearer:
But brother, u knw hw women are.
1. She knows we are agemates d respect won't be there is we eventually ties d knot.
2. Because I was financially dependent on her don't u think I have lost my pride as a man to her?
She doesn't hesitate to remind me that she rented and furnished my ouse. Don't u think that's an eye-opener to what she will turn out to be when she has my ring on her finger?

louistearer:
But brother, u knw hw women are.
1. She knows we are agemates d respect won't be there is we eventually ties d knot.
2. Because I was financially dependent on her don't u think I have lost my pride as a man to her?
She doesn't hesitate to remind me that she rented and furnished my ouse. Don't u think that's an eye-opener to what she will turn out to be when she has my ring on her finger?

louistearer:
But brother, u knw hw women are.
1. She knows we are agemates d respect won't be there is we eventually ties d knot.
2. Because I was financially dependent on her don't u think I have lost my pride as a man to her?
She doesn't hesitate to remind me that she rented and furnished my ouse. Don't u think that's an eye-opener to what she will turn out to be when she has my ring on her finger?

louistearer:
I met a girl after my service year in 2013, but then she wasn't working, we met and started dating. Two months to our relationship she got a job and has being supporting me financially because am still yet to get a job. She rented an apartment for me and even furnished it, she pays all my bills including feeding and clothing me. But all she wants in return is to get married to me though we are age mates. Nairalanders if u were in my shoes wld u walk her down the aisle bcuz she has being supportive or wld u marry a girl that's ur age-mate

louistearer:
I met a girl after my service year in 2013, but then she wasn't working, we met and started dating. Two months to our relationship she got a job and has being supporting me financially because am still yet to get a job. She rented an apartment for me and even furnished it, she pays all my bills including feeding and clothing me. But all she wants in return is to get married to me though we are age mates. Nairalanders if u were in my shoes wld u walk her down the aisle bcuz she has being supportive or wld u marry a girl that's ur age-mate

sammieguze:
See rubbish talk?


Two questions.


1. Why did you woo her when you know you can't marry her?

2. Why waste her time making her feel she has found a mate when u know you ain't really interested in her and why allow her invest on you?

doveda:



How is she different form a bf that comes here to moan about all he has done for his gf?

It is human nature to do that!

Get him a job?

her father na president!

Why are you so daft sef?

LordAdam:
OP, you do not owe the lady anything.

Girls live on guys money all the time and leave with the signature statement, "he is not right for me."

So I do not understand why guys can't do the same.

Any money spent out of love is CHARITY!

@OP, if you do not want to be with her for the rest of your life, do not marry her, even if she has donated a kidney to you. Marriages consummated out of pity or unreal obligations are the worst versions of hell on planet Earth.
-Lord

doveda:


Definitely not with the way you write! you write like an imbeci.le

Grow up!

eckersley:

Objectivity at its finest.
I had fumingly said if after the 2nd page I do not see such an objective reply, I would close the thread.

What a relief to see this line of thought.
If the sexes were reversed, you wud hv heard comments like:

Every relationship mustn't lead to marriage.

You did it for love

Marriage is not by force

Did the sex and company she provided you not outweigh the LITTLE you've spent on her
[As if the pleasures of sex isn't mutual]

I hardly log on nowadays to comment due to the dense fog of prejudice over this forum.
Folks don't reason their way to an answer.
They FEEL their way to it.
Tragic.
The death of logic and training

sameolg616:

another dumb and dumber!doveda?wat kinda name is that....i guess ur one sad 40+ or approaching 40 single....
we have unlocked every secret abt gals nowadays and the accessories come cheap(food,clothes...)....so i can always help my confused brother..
when ur young,u get choosy and start waiting for mr right
then wen the biological clock start ticking,u start using money to Bleep a young brothers mind up...and confuse him..
not to worry.....na OLX dem go finally post una with the tag "COME AND TAKE FOR FREE"

mutombo:

Handsome handsome Bobo, age is just a number o... Shakara oloje. Don't lose your God sent wifey

sameolg616:

as they say common sens aint common.....so i wld pardon ur ignorance...
the best way to help in guy in need aint by been there always for him like a kid....u support him to stand by himself...yrs ago,i got my first job in dana airlines cuz my gf recommended me highly to the management and in return,i put my skills on display brightly so i dont disappoint her....thats what inspires people....
for ow long does she wan give him money.....i know ow tough the country can be but it doesnt mean we lose our dignity....women are emotional thinkers...and i know ow proud they can be esp wen u let them always take the lead...
i have a friend whose husband wasnt as rich as the wife...so she proposed that he built on a land she acquired years ago..suprisingly,he said,he would build on it only if she sold the land to him....logically,u'd tink its wrong but i supported the notion too...only him can know his wife better...

doveda:


You are so stupid!

doveda:


You are so stupid!

So men do not get emotional after doing everything for their gfs?

How many men find jobs for their gfs?

How would you know whether she has enough connections to get him a job?

What makes you think that she does not love him?

You should have rejected that employment offer because she has already taken lead!! You are indebted to her for life!

Ayomax:
I can relate to this but I'm not as heartless as you @op

doveda:


You are so stupid!

So men do not get emotional after doing everything for their gfs?

How many men find jobs for their gfs?

How would you know whether she has enough connections to get him a job?

What makes you think that she does not love him?

You should have rejected that employment offer because she has already taken lead!! You are indebted to her for life!

sameolg616:

yes im indebted to her....she gave me an opportunity and not wanna own me...im from abeokuta,ogun state wer the all the most successful yorubas have come from...and there,its women who must bow to their man no matter ow big she is....

sameolg616:

na u go tire o...
i guess this guys post reminds u of ur past disappontments and investments in guys...pele...take heart..u shd have been patient to have had atleast a child for one of them..then ur pain wld have lessened and ur attention diverted to ur child..
there is no nothing u ladies present nowadays that dude nowadays cannot eat finish...whether u have hotbody,rich or u wan play superwoman..dem go chop am finish clean mouth...
women have really lost their values to western lifestyle so lets all live with the consequences..
the ones that are single..cant find husband...instead they face their careers like linda ikeji and smile to the world during the day and cry in 250million banana island house...is that wer potential husband wld find find her...wen he is not nick cannon...(even nick don run too)
and the ones that manage marry...cant even stay in it....

louistearer:
I met a girl after my service year in 2013, but then she wasn't working, we met and started dating. Two months to our relationship she got a job and has being supporting me financially because am still yet to get a job. She rented an apartment for me and even furnished it, she pays all my bills including feeding and clothing me. But all she wants in return is to get married to me though we are age mates. Nairalanders if u were in my shoes wld u walk her down the aisle bcuz she has being supportive or wld u marry a girl that's ur age-mate

Atmmachine:
People like you are disgrace to Men.
This is the type of girl every guy wants.
A girl who can hold him down.

I wish i can see you face to face so i can strangle you.

sucobaba:

Black magic?I see you o
#confession

Ayomax:

chairman mi, watin man go do. na my babe wey dey work dey try support me in her own little way.

Atmmachine:
People like you are disgrace to Men.
This is the type of girl every guy wants.
A girl who can hold him down.

I wish i can see you face to face so i can strangle you.

tunnamania11:
See them , they keep telling him to marry her because of financial benefits he gets from her without considering the implications of marrying her.
Give the type of advise u can follow when given.

Op, u started dating before she got her job, so I can't say u started the relationship solely on potential financial benefits.

This is where u made mistake: u came here to narrate the negative impacts of marrying the lady, agreed, they are good points.
But didn't u know that you guys are age mate when u started dating?
First,Considering the points u listed, she will never accord u respect when married , good u know already .
You are like an Associate with significant influence while she is like the parent coy because she has the Controlling interest of the entity (your relationship).

Since u came here for advise, the best thing to do is to sit her down and explain to her calmly reasons y the marriage will never happen.
Don't expect her to agree easily, because you too can't if u were her.
No matter what happens, don't ever marry her.
If u have collateral securities, go get a loan and refund all her expenses with interest if you don't want her to destabilize you or your future for not marrying her.

To readers, no need to pretend, at first sight, we all can tell if we can marry the person or not as we all have imaginary potentials he/she must possess.
So, if u know that it's probable that u won't marry him/her, no need to waste each other's precious time.
If u know u can't marry him/her, make it clear you want friendship with benefit, if he/she is okay with it, congratulations.
Don't ever start what you are so sure u can't finish.
Don't mind them. Animals!!

doveda:


So the woman in question is trying to own the op?

You didn't tell me you were a psychic

Don't go there

Your women are known as witches. I heard that they kill their husbands early so that they would become landladies!

Your women sabi do juju pass devil sef!
Their wickedness no get part two.

God forgive me!

louistearer:
But brother, u knw hw women are.
1. She knows we are agemates d respect won't be there is we eventually ties d knot.
2. Because I was financially dependent on her don't u think I have lost my pride as a man to her?
She doesn't hesitate to remind me that she rented and furnished my ouse. Don't u think that's an eye-opener to what she will turn out to be when she has my ring on her finger?