Omotayor123:
Nice post.
But I think a man should be Man enough to make a move on the woman he loves. If he's too shy to do just that, I don't see how he intends to live forever as her husband.! *my view*

I Think a woman should be 'WOMAN' enough to go for what she wants. This timidity transfers into the marriage in most cases. She can't initiate sex, she can't openly communicate her sexual preferences e.t.c.



If women will take the sense of challenge they bring to there careers into the relationship arena, relationships will be more fun and marriage will last longer.


African women don't just take the INITIATIVE when it comes to relationships. Everything is left for the men: men woo, men spend,men disvirgin e.t.c.

Haba!

icelord:
If u agree to a guy d first time he woos u, u wud seem weak... Wher in Gods green earth do ladies get dis dia philosophies sef... ladies nd dia fish brain

murda dem

sammaking:

Bruhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah

badt guy
u mean after d smack down n numerous chuking

Exactly ny broda..

Truckpusher:
Players will have a field day on your puccy then.
Trust me ,making the first move on a player wouldn't pan out well.

u are a fucker,Bleep outta here mehn 4 real.

pelij18:
Fact...

But humans are distinct. Men of the above stated nature are likely to be the best. Reasons; i'm 22 now and i've never had a girlfriend in my lifetime. Not that i'm not handsome atlist i've seen so many greenlight and hype of my body position and facial look. But then... How i should get on someone i love is really becoming a pain in the ass.

I have an ardent and that's my real-time career. Definitely, such is what many are hustling to meetup for and yet i can't even ask a girl out, because of shame and fear.

There's this girl working for me. I swear i love her like mad, but can't even express my feeling to her. The worst of it, my heart beats when i see her.

Please... You girls should a bit lower your standard, so i can make up to it.

Thanks.

lmao.....just tell her and run away mehn.wtf,are u 4 real?

Genea:
ohk good....lemme tone down my ego and tell seun dah i am inlv with him:-):-D

Seun is really blessed..Oya Aburo make you take note o.

phatasschick:



Exactly! You are on point. They will tag you DESPERADO ( desperate). Some will call you CHEAP

lemme tell you a story



so in my early dating years,there was this cool guy in my hood,very handsome and gentle,so I had a crush on him,I started showing it,I gave him attention,we became close,he saw the signs and we started dating,later on the guy cheated and then when his friends confronted him on my behave,he made them realise I asked him out,he never wanted the relationship...lmao
all in all,I was blamed

Toks2008:


Seun is really blessed..Oya Aburo make you take note o.

yes o,ehn btw tell him to put his pix bk,atleast when i fantasize abt him,i have a picture to channel it to

Richiy:


Oh oh....I don't play with players at all. They are
a no no. Plus it isn't difficult to spot a player at all. They are the majority.

It is difficult to spot a player and this is the honest truth especially seasoned players.

The first weapon a player deploys is to get your trust and once this is established he will always say the right words and being an emotional being that women are they tend to fall for this smooth talking good looking fellow whose inner most part has a hidden demon of cunning and seduction - Believe me , you must have to come across one to know one ,that is if your emotions would let you see beyond the facade.
Players are just an enigma I tell you.

phatasschick:



Exactly! You are on point. They will tag you DESPERADO ( desperate). Some will call you CHEAP

u ladies are still nt getting d point, no one is saying ask us out. But when u like someone, make ursef aprroachable, dat is nt d time to form hard and serious. I actually undastand d fears of ladies but life is to short to onli settle for onli d stuff dat comes our way. Sometimes, we need to prepare and go grab wat we want.

@op you used the word "DESIRE", why would a lady desire something and still not look for a way to get it? A simple smile can pass the message across
,creating avenues to spend time with the person too can help ...there are so many ways one can do it, it is called seduction and there is creativity in seduction. Men are hunters by nature..ladies are seductive by nature.
Those ladies who "play had to get"(if u choose to use that word/see it that way) seriously lack the DESIRE you mentioned,they are not interested or are too distracted to notice e.g the shulammite maiden already has someone and king solomon was just wasting his time wooing her.
Its is possible for someone not to be interested initially and the interested party will have to give the uninterested a reason to be interested...... i.e the art of conviction,it can either be shortened or prolonged depending on ones convincing power( and peeps begin to label this as "playing hard to get".......its normal and natural)

tonyx4x44:



My girlfriend of a few years now did, and she has not posted a nairaland topic on my matter yet.

With all the hard to get and 14 asking outs, you go still see topic in 2 weeks; 'all boys are wicked"



Most serious people would not want you to accept them out of pity, or frustration, thus they will end proposal as soon as they sense a firm NO. Most of the "you must be in my life boys" are just liking the figure and wanting to get under the skirt or inside the trousers.

I don't even have time for all this wooing ladies rubbish self. Asked girlfriend out after being friends for a while.

I just don't wake up and leave my home with the goal of wooing any lady.



Last bullet: it's not pride, I can't ask a girl out twice, especially after a strong no. I do not see any reason why I should.

Chop knuckle.

obinnashady:
u are a fucker,Bleep outta here mehn 4 real.

We should be telling our sisters the truth bro.

pelij18:
If truly that person at your dp is you.

Then you don't have to. Really because the amount of classic attitude i got to find is quite amazing.

But... Then, girls like you are sought of challenging to me as i might not want to even say just "hi" because of fear and shame.

inferiority complex.

Neatboy:
Op you are on point! In my church I was crushing on a lady. She's cool and pretty but has this hard to get mentality. I wooed her and her answer was NO. I decided to press harder to no avail, so I just decided to make her my ordinary friend yet still hoping that one day she will realize how much I care for her. But suddenly another lady that is even more prettier and 100% classier than she is showed me a green light. My people, in fact, I didn't hesitate and I had to restrategise and restructure my mind. I wooed her and she accepted sharperly! I never new I was just wasting my time with the former lady. We're in a healthy relationship now and I'm looking forward to seeing her parent early next year. Shikina! I guess the former lady had noticed us and she's now wearing a hard and long face whenever she sees me. No time for timeless people o. I can't be crushing on a girl for eternity na.

an you imagine..you even tried pressing harder on the former chic...Its not about good looks or poise...even if i am so ugly,i will never ever push hard on any lady.

Though i hardly woo a lady but always want to strat as friends but if i see you wearing this attitude of sullenness walahi you will not see my break light.

There are just tooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo many chics in the world for one to start forming. Please this is the era of hard to forget and not hard to get...What profit a lady to form hard to get for a year and get laid just after saying yes to the affair?

A lady can woo a guy outrightly and say no to sex before marriage...the worst is that he will leave you and you have nada to lose.

misspicy:

lemme tell you a story



so in my early dating years,there was this cool guy in my hood,very handsome and gentle,so I had a crush on him,I started showing it,I gave him attention,we became close,he saw the signs and we started dating,later on the guy cheated and then when his friends confronted him on my behave,he made them realise I asked him out,he never wanted the relationship...lmao
all in all,I was blamed

ask me out ha will nt tell cutehector u did.



Modify..
After seeing ur mail i had to start searching for my older chat wiv u..
So na here d wahala start from.

Cc misspicy

Truckpusher:
It is difficult to spot a player and this is the honest truth especially seasoned players.

The first weapon a player deploys is to get your trust and once this is established he will always say the right words and being an emotional being that women are they tend to fall for this smooth talking good looking fellow whose inner most part has a hidden demon of cunning and seduction - Believe me , you must have to come across one to know one ,that is if your emotions would let you see beyond the facade.
Players are just an enigma I tell you.

Trust me when I say a player can never escape me. I know these things...I know these things really.

misspicy:

lemme tell you a story



so in my early dating years,there was this cool guy in my hood,very handsome and gentle,so I had a crush on him,I started showing it,I gave him attention,we became close,he saw the signs and we started dating,later on the guy cheated and then when his friends confronted him on my behave,he made them realise I asked him out,he never wanted the relationship...lmao
all in all,I was blamed

u said it all in ur first line "in ur early dating days". Wait lemme ask, if he has asked u out, and he still cheated, wuld it have bn less painful? Conversely, if he asked u out and he wanted to cheat, he wuld still have cheated.
U know dere is this commonly assumed theory dat d bad gurls(nt bad bad bt bad as in gurls who know dere game) ends of wit d good guys, y do u tink it is so? D ansa lies in wat d op has written.

they are too many species of pretty girl out there always springing out every day which have leave me to not have a choice. so it left for those forming hard to get. SO BETTER WISE UP B4 IT TOO LATE
SO do the needful and have your way

Hassasin:



I Think a woman should be 'WOMAN' enough to go for what she wants. This timidity transfers into the marriage in most cases. She can't initiate sex, she can't openly communicate her sexual preferences e.t.c.



If women will take the sense of challenge they bring to there careers into the relationship arena, relationships will be more fun and marriage will last longer.


African women don't just take the INITIATIVE when it comes to relationships. Everything is left for the men: men woo, men spend,men disvirgin e.t.c.

Haba!

Many ladies are in self inflicted perpetual bondage.

You want a tall cute guy and then you see one and the next thing is that you start praying to GOD that he sees you and walks up to you..how daft?

Now please understand this becaue if you dont you may miss it totally.

You just dont make it a dio or die affair..put yourself at a vantage point BY NOT WHORING OVER HIM.also check for signs to show he also loves and appreciates you and if he seems not to show deep respect and desire, please take a walk.

The point is that YES you can end up with a guy whose physical attributes are cool by you and could also end up respecting you if only you can be less timid.

shegxi:
u said it all in ur first line "in ur early dating days". Wait lemme ask, if he has asked u out, and he still cheated, wuld it have bn less painful? Conversely, if he asked u out and he wanted to cheat, he wuld still have cheated.
U know dere is this commonly assumed theory dat d bad gurls(nt bad bad bt bad as in gurls who know dere game) ends of wit d good guys, y do u tink it is so? D ansa lies in wat d op has written.

those girl sabi there way

Richiy:


Trust me when I say a player can never escape me. I know these things...I know these things really.

You just met a player.

shegxi:
u said it all in ur first line "in ur early dating days". Wait lemme ask, if he has asked u out, and he still cheated, wuld it have bn less painful? Conversely, if he asked u out and he wanted to cheat, he wuld still have cheated.
U know dere is this commonly assumed theory dat d bad gurls(nt bad bad bt bad as in gurls who know dere game) ends of wit d good guys, y do u tink it is so? D ansa lies in wat d op has written.

the excuse she asked me out was used,did you get that part at all?

yeah bad girls gets the good guys therefore we all have learned to be bad as long as we end up with that innocent guy someday

Truckpusher:
We should be telling our sisters the truth bro.

read the post very well,the Op was stressing on the ladies showing a little interest ie greenlight,not to go after the guy.

DonChippy:
You just met a player.

Where is the player

Dynamite02:
@op you used the word "DESIRE", why would a lady desire something and still not look for a way to get it? A simple smile can pass the message across
,creating avenues to spend time with the person too can help ...there are so many ways one can do it, it is called seduction and there is creativity in seduction. Men are hunters by nature..ladies are seductive by nature.
Those ladies who "play had to get"(if u choose to use that word/see it that way) seriously lack the DESIRE you mentioned,they are not interested or are too distracted to notice e.g the shulammite maiden already has someone and king solomon was just wasting his time wooing her.
Its is possible for someone not to be interested initially and the interested party will have to give the uninterested a reason to be interested...... i.e the art of conviction,it can either be shortened or prolonged depending on ones convincing power( and peeps begin to label this as "playing hard to get".......its normal and natural)

madam, u made sense if this is d true picture of things and reality. Unfortunately, it is nt entirely true. D point is, ladies have bn program(africans) to "stress" d dude even when they like him from d get go and dat is forming hard to get. In d end sha, everybody shld define wat works for him/her.

Richiy:

Where is the player

You will soon meet one.

DonChippy:
You will soon meet one.

I am done with players. Don't wish them on me please.

obinnashady:
lmao.....just tell her and run away mehn.wtf,are u 4 real?

I might not be for real. Fact is, i don't like it either.

obinnashady:
read the post very well,the Op was stressing on the ladies showing a little interest ie greenlight,not to go after the guy.

Read mine again - I was simply responding to a particular moniker based on her comment.

misspicy:

the excuse she asked me out was used,did you get that part at all?

yeah bad girls gets the good guys therefore we all have learned to be bad as long as we end up with that innocent guy someday

so it is d excuse dat is paining u . See ehn, people will give d most silliest reason when they have bn caught doing wrong, guys and gurls alike so dat shldn't surprise u and it shld nt also stop u from going for wat u want.

prince3009:
Very nice post OP. Esp that No.4

There was this fine girl i saw in my neighborhood whom i tried being friendly with. I went to her and tried to start up a conversation and if you see the way she looked at me in disdain like i was something that crawled out from under a rock! She just blurted a "Please i don't have time for this now" and moved on leaving me dazed and wondering what i said wrong.

Fast forward to almost a year later and this same lady is doing everything humanly and psychologically possible to get my attention (she started doing this about 7 Months ago "3 Months after i tried to woo her" and i just pretend as if she does not exist!

If i enter the estate shopping mall and she sees me go in, she will remember she has to buy something and come to the same aisle where i am trying to pick stuff. If she see's me reclining in front of my house, she will pass and "re-pass" over 10 times while swinging her hips provocatively just for me to notice her. All those moves and i just act like i am Stevie Wonder.

lmao....deal with the f*cking b*tch the stevie wonder way..lol.