skj1377:

my dear i guess your ibo thats why your thinking like that your tribe i expensive to marry at times. well i dont blame you for how you think but let me try to change your mind to think in a more acceptable way please am not going to insult you but just reason with me.
first as a woman be careful how you talk, your the pride of your husband to be, you need to be coth. your future husband could just be on this thread and you insulted him yesterday be wise.
when i was looking for who to marry i met girls that think like you but to tell you the truth they are still unmarried all of them and the ones that married are divorced with some" home video like story to tell" . Not that they did not meet nice guys like me but i was to poor for them, mind you, i was on a salary of 125k per month, they wanted the latest nokia phone the latest whatever that was fashionable and i could not provide that for them because at that time my family obligations was 110k per month leaving me with only 15k to spend a month.
15k per month and i still managed to give 5k out of it only to be laughed at because they had the rich boyfriends that could give the 50k and still buy the lasted phone for them at same time. well to cut long story short this rich guys wasted their years from 21 no 29 and not married,some will come to nairaland and say "boyfriend dumped me after 6yrs", while i was in competition for their hand they did not see i was a responsible struggling guy all the sow was a broke ass nigger that cant take care of them. well all that is history now but the moral of the story is" don't judge a man by his pocket today."
If you are my sister i will tell you, place a gamble on a man that earns N50k today but he is a responsible man, has little or no criminal tendencies, has some business sense. see it like a business gamble you don't know the outcome but you know the principle to win big. ultimately you have to love a man to see beyond his present monetary circumstances and that is why our mothers admonish us to marry before we get rich so that we can see true love and enjoy the marriage.
so my dear sister go forth and love a man in all sense of the word.

I understand your point actually.
Seriously, I really cannot give any man that privilege. This was I a decision I made on my own.I know nobody knows tomorrow. Things might change for the better or worst. I can't marry a man that earns that amount no matter how much I love him, excerpt of course I am earning way better.Love is overrated and too difficult for me to feel, so definitely it's not also major a criteria to stay/ get into marriage.

My prayer is to marry a responsible man that's financially Ok. Little Things impress me and I appreciate kind gestures a lot, but 50k salary in marriage without any other source of revenue, that marriage will have to wait.

let me share a story of two of my cousins friends this is true story not home video. i was close to a cousin of mine when i was growing up. i visit him regularly in the university while i was growing up. my cousin had seven male friends i was close to some of them one of them is the person i want to talk about.
lets call him kola, kola was a student at the federal university of technology akure where my cousin schooled. kola was studying architecture he was from a poor family in fact his father was a security man at the north gate of federal university of technology akure(futa). futa had two gates one gate is called northgate the other is called obakekere or south gate. my cousin and all his seven friends are church brothers serious students and all from different backgrounds, kola was the one with the least cgpa among all my cousins friends. sorry i forgot to tell you while kola's father was a gateman at futa and alternated between the northgate and southgate as a security man on afternoon or night duty, kola himself was a photographer. yep kola was a camera carrying brother ready to snap a picture at moments notice for a fee. life was hard for kola he had to argument his school fees from proceeds of his camera man business.
kola had to work hard and float in the hostel with my cousin and his six friends. floating is when you sleep on the floor while others sleep on the bed in the hostel. life was hard for kola when i met him and he told me his story i was grateful to God that my story was not as bad as his. kola's story was bad and i could see it, when i stroll around with him while he waits for a fellow student like him to call him for a picture he will point at a lady and tell me that when he approached her she casted him away with" holy ghost fire" another would say he is not the type she is looking for some would insult him am talking of pretty fellowship sisters not the obviously worldly girls, remember kola is a brother.
well kola finished school with a 2.2 married a lady he met in futa i remember the sister i met her once then she was dark and not fine at all
let me say a little on the ugly side of things. well from the way kola was smiling and laughing i new he had some interest in the sister. years rolled by i kept in touch for some time then more years rolled by and i lost touch. Among the seven friends was another lets call him femi, femi was a profs son in fact a prof in futa life was good for femi. I see femi often and i ask about kola, the update i was getting was not good at all. The update was more like how kola's suffering is continuing with a wife and a kid, well, i collected his address and phone number and went to visit him in his room and parlour in iyana ipaja lagos state. life was not really good but the wife was happy and he was struggling with his business as he was unable to get a job with his 2.2 grade, the wife was actually helping out a lot he told me this him self he told me how the wife gives him transport to his office when he is out of cash. when i was going i gave his baby N50 they were very happy and pleased.
I lost contact with kola again but i think it was because he was broke and i never imagined how things can turnaround in a mans life. i finished school and started working so years rolled by. Femi; one of my cousins seven friends, was working in a company that was a subcontractor to my company and so one day a project brought him to my office. we started talking then i inquired about kola the student photographer with gateman father, what femi told me about kola was simply unbelievable. Femi said kola was now a well established architect and business man in worri and that he was now a multimillionaire i took his phone number and called i pretended i have not known his change of status he gave me an open invitation to his house in worri.
The following year a project took me to worri so i called him and told him the hotel i was staying, he came to pick me at my hotel with a brand new nissan armanda jeep on getting to his house in worri i counted like six different luxury state of the art cars, his house had among other things a heated swimming pool with underwater lights he now had four children and the so called ugly wife was now very beautiful and happy looking. honestly, i was in a state of shock to experience such change of circumstances. when i was getting married i called kola he apologised he could not make it but he sent me a hefty amount of money.
well this is just one story of one of the seven friends there is still another one called bisi. Bisi married his wife without a job, bisi is a hustling brother he said he will rather marry than furnicate. Bisi sells stuff small small items his wife got a job in a bank and was practically feeding him for four years before his business stabilized but today things are not the same again i heard he is a part owner of computer ware house group also he has a few petrol stations and trucks, i heard he collects close to five million from federal government for subsidy payments weekly.

The moral of this stories i just told you is " these guys did not have a steady 50k monthly that they can call their own as at the time they married. fast forward a few years they are the type of men most young spinsters like your self are looking for". If any of those sisters knew how rich kola will become they would not have used holy ghost fire to consume him. If bisis's wife was like you, she would not have married him because he did not have a job and his income was far less than 50k if any at all. both men a very happily married today because they married women that truly loved them.

THE WAY LADIES USE HOLY GHOST FIRE THE FIRE GUYS THESE DAYS NO BE HIA O! And Na Dem De Lose Pass.

EggovinMma:



You have your own luck in life as I have mine.
I am not a proud person, I just choose to have a limit to what I can accept. I can never marry a man on that salary u less of course I am buoyant and connected like your fiance who helped you! Now you get the drift. Take care and have a wonderful marriage. Wish me luck too! Who doesn't need it?! Cheers!

I wish you the best of life especially what you wish yourself positive.

kuuljay:
how are we sure you are not a guy...this write up does not sound like a naija girl

I understand you......I am a woman, an elderly one at that

chimkaire:






I understand you......I am a woman, an elderly one at that

ok one colanut for you

kuuljay:
ok one colanut for you

...Schnapps will do

chimkaire:






I understand you......I am a woman, an elderly one at that

SMH... some peeps sha

stinggy:


SMH... some peeps sha

even some husband dont earn such money, and dey stil get married... man earn 50k u no go happy

softysparky:
Only if he is one responsible fellow.

This is why i want to be your friend.

I am impressed with your down to earth and non materialistic nature and you strike me like a very decent lady. I have never asked for any nairalander's number before and trust me i wont push it.

some people can be illicit in thinking. u don't want to go through hard times all u want is a guy with 50m naira salary DAT will never stop beating d hell out of u. Mitheeew

Must all and sundry marry. How can man that earns 50k as a basic salary take the ultimate risk of getting married with the devastating NIGERIA ECONOMY that is synonymous to committing suicide. The said man must really have some proven and A list skills that would sell in out and get him more pay. I can't settle for less in the abundance of so much luxury. Heaven here in earth and heaven in heaven, my designated life plan.....smiless face

EggovinMma:
God forbid!
50k salary inside marriage. Na before ooo.But now, I REJECT EVERY SPIRIT OF POVERTY IN MY :oIFE.My bible tells me to seek and I shall find, and whatever I bind here on earth shall be bind in heaven. I stand upon the rock of St Peter and I am binding every spirit of poverty in the life of my future husband, every spirit of meagre salary. I lose your hold on that poor future husband of mine.IT SHALL NOT BE MY POTION.50K SALARY KE? Which kind rough play be that?


*singing *

Holy ghost fire burn them, holy ghost fire pursue them, anyway poverty may gather holy ghost fire fire them.IN THE LIFE OF MY FUTURE HUSBAND WHENEVER AND WHEREVER YOU ARE, I SAY I REJECT POVERTY IN YOUR LIFE.


*Straight face*

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danbrowndmf:
Question For The Ladies, come tell us your Answer.

i cant marry a guy that even earns 50k a day

Kasimaramma2:

i cant marry a guy that even earns 50k a day

50k a day is to small for u abi? 1.4million in a month is to small 4u abi?

i will so marry him,,cos i love him,i wld not depend on him,he wld not remain whr he is with my surport nd prayers.

EggovinMma:
God forbid!
50k salary inside marriage. Na before ooo.But now, I REJECT EVERY SPIRIT OF POVERTY IN MY LIFE.My bible tells me to seek and I shall find, and whatever I bind here on earth shall be bind in heaven. I stand upon the rock of St Peter and I am binding every spirit of poverty in the life of my future husband, every spirit of meagre salary. I lose your hold on that poor future husband of mine.IT SHALL NOT BE MY POTION.50K SALARY KE? Which kind rough play be that?


*singing *

Holy ghost fire burn them, holy ghost fire pursue them, anyway poverty may gather holy ghost fire fire them.IN THE LIFE OF MY FUTURE HUSBAND WHENEVER AND WHEREVER YOU ARE, I SAY I REJECT POVERTY IN YOUR LIFE.


*Straight face*

You bind every spirit of poverty? Because he collects 50k? So, ur husband should be ur source of wealth? What do you plan to contribute to the marriage? Nothing, I guess. You dont plan to work with him towards a better tomorrow; you only plan to eat what he makes. A wise man will run far from peeps like you. You are more of a parasite than a help mate and soul mate that a true wife should be.

And did you just mention St Peter? Which means you must be a Catholic. We catholics really need to start teaching ourselves about marriage. Many of our ladies (you inclusive) lack knowledge and understand about marriage. They get carried away by frivolities.

EggovinMma:


My brother, that was during our mother's time.Where I come from, as an igbo gurl, my father made sure he slaved to give me the best, despite the fact he is not a graduate. I CAN NOT MARRY A MAN THATS LESS THAT MY FATHER. I CAN NOT EAT THERE SQUARE MEALS IN MY FATHERS HOUSE, ONLY TO EAT ONCE A DAY IN MY HUSBAND S HOUSE.THATS ILL LUCK.I should be the one earning that kind of amount to support my husband, and not him.Its not a sin o, but it's way below what I grew up with despite we weren't rich.BROS, ONCE AGAIN HOLY GHOST FIREEEEE! !

It means you will marry any dog or armed robber, so long as he has money. You are so shallow and petty.

EggovinMma:
God forbid!
50k salary inside marriage. Na before ooo.But now, I REJECT EVERY SPIRIT OF POVERTY IN MY LIFE.My bible tells me to seek and I shall find, and whatever I bind here on earth shall be bind in heaven. I stand upon the rock of St Peter and I am binding every spirit of poverty in the life of my future husband, every spirit of meagre salary. I lose your hold on that poor future husband of mine.IT SHALL NOT BE MY POTION.50K SALARY KE? Which kind rough play be that?


*singing *

Holy ghost fire burn them, holy ghost fire pursue them, anyway poverty may gather holy ghost fire fire them.IN THE LIFE OF MY FUTURE HUSBAND WHENEVER AND WHEREVER YOU ARE, I SAY I REJECT POVERTY IN YOUR LIFE.


*Straight face*

Na so girls like you after much much go still settle for less. How many plots of land your papa get?


Oringo gbukwee gi dia. Anu mpam.

0ldirtybastard:


Na so girls like you after much much go still settle for less. How many plots of land your papa get?


Oringo gbukwee gi dia. Anu mpam.

Afo sabuo gi there.Otolo!

blazer234:


It means you will marry any dog or armed robber, so long as he has money. You are so shallow and petty.

This is nairaland. You may be a dog or armed Robber.

blazer234:


You bind every spirit of poverty? Because he collects 50k? So, ur husband should be ur source of wealth? What do you plan to contribute to the marriage? Nothing, I guess. You dont plan to work with him towards a better tomorrow; you only plan to eat what he makes. A wise man will run far from peeps like you. You are more of a parasite than a help mate and soul mate that a true wife should be.

And did you just mention St Peter? Which means you must be a Catholic. We catholics really need to start teaching ourselves about marriage. Many of our ladies (you inclusive) lack knowledge and understand about marriage. They get carried away by frivolities.

Please kindly shut up and work better than your fathers. Lazy youths! ! Of these days! If it's not because no woman wants to be a liability, what role the the bible gave to the woman. Rubbish! The Bible says you lazy lots will suffer and suffer to bring in food for the home, so get out to the streets and work your lazy ass off and leave the women alone. Na we go born, take care of the kids, cook wash and still fuccck you all after coming home from work and yet you open your stinking pit of a latrine to question what I will bring to the table! ? YOU MUST BE SILLY!

justmag:


just as you are wise, may your future wife and kids be as wise as you. You are so right!

he said he got married 4yrs ago, yet u are talking about future wife. Do u read b4 posting?

EggovinMma:
God forbid!
50k salary inside marriage. Na before ooo.But now, I REJECT EVERY SPIRIT OF POVERTY IN MY LIFE.My bible tells me to seek and I shall find, and whatever I bind here on earth shall be bind in heaven. I stand upon the rock of St Peter and I am binding every spirit of poverty in the life of my future husband, every spirit of meagre salary. I lose your hold on that poor future husband of mine.IT SHALL NOT BE MY POTION.50K SALARY KE? Which kind rough play be that?


*singing *

Holy ghost fire burn them, holy ghost fire pursue them, anyway poverty may gather holy ghost fire fire them.IN THE LIFE OF MY FUTURE HUSBAND WHENEVER AND WHEREVER YOU ARE, I SAY I REJECT POVERTY IN YOUR LIFE.


*Straight face*

i understand where u are coming from, u want to marry a ritualist who will use u for money rituals

lilzcee:
i understand where u are coming from, u want to marry a ritualist who will use u for money rituals

Your father that is a ritualist, Is your mother not still alive?

EggovinMma:



Your father that is a ritualist, Is your mother not still alive?

U...where have u been? And, easy there..

zicoraads:

U...where have u been? And, easy there..

Sweetie, it's not been easy oooooo
I have been working my ass off just incase Devil carry me join 50k husband! At least with my hard work paying off, I can resist the urge of plunging his left eye off with garden fork!

EggovinMma:



Sweetie, it's not been easy oooooo
I have been working my ass off just incase Devil carry me join 50k husband! At least with my hard work paying off, I can resist the urge of plunging his left eye off with garden fork!

Hahahaaa...50k ain't bad na U sef
Who has that lovely babe on your D.P?

How is preparation for Xmas? And would u be in Abuja?

Kasimaramma2:
i cant marry a guy that even earns 50k a day

lol
How about a guy that earns N50k a year?

zicoraads:

Hahahaaa...50k ain't bad na U sef
Who has that lovely babe on your D.P?

How is preparation for Xmas? And would u be in Abuja?

Yea, will remain in Abuja. No much hols for me o

Please 50k is bad oooooooooooooo, very bad.If na for far North, I can manage small . At least life is simple and easy there.