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Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Monalisa185(f): 7:18pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Geraraheremehn:the advice is still in progress... check baq later |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 7:19pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Flameneo: Yes it does. The same shiiiiit cost my sister her intended marriage to one fine guy. In my own case, she thought I was an Osu because we own two different houses located just at the boundry in two Osu villages. She and her family just concluded without proper investigation. In the end na she cry... |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by schumastic(m): 7:19pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
emorse: how many people are lucky to have access to it and am sure you read the part they said they have been in and out the hospital all their life before the cure came and do you know the pain they went through, my bro you don't want to imagine? |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by jidxin(m): 7:21pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
schumastic:im just sayin...under d requsite law btw it has happnd b4 notin new u ve friends collegue nd some naughty family of urs ur neigbhours could make it all 4 u |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by schumastic(m): 7:27pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
mzvyne: your mixing it up..tradition goes a long way, take for instance till date the first son of a man in an igbo land is entitled to his father building irrespective of his siblings and the ladies once married don't get anything mean while in the yoruba tradition they share everything equally and so many others which i won't like to start mentioning..quite alright is really bad no doubt about it but there is solution to it which is very expensive to pay.. that's why they advice young people to travel home and know more about their culture and people..this days you see guys and girls who have had sexual intercourse not knowing they are related cus they don't visit home or know their extended families.. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by schumastic(m): 7:30pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
jidxin: if that's the case then get the blessing from them and not your parents and family cus they won't giv one neither will they be there for you...is even in the bible give what belongs to caesar to caesar and what belongs to God to God. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Monalisa185(f): 7:30pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Fourwinds: I dey tell you oooo |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Monalisa185(f): 7:30pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
hustler86: hustler86: |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Spirit1(m): 7:30pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
V0lv0: Keep calling it shit. Why don't you go and marry an Osu if you are Igbo |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by schumastic(m): 7:34pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Spirit1: some of the peeps here blabbing don't even know the road to their village or visit home so why won't they end up saying what they don't understand.. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by addictiv(m): 7:35pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Spirit1:I am not just an igbo man but an mbaise man from one one of the historic families in igboland and I can tell you that we don't believe in the osu system. My kids are free to marry anybody that is said to be an outcast. If you won't show up at my wedding because I am marrying an outcast, it's your loss. I saw my parents build their little empire from scratch without a dime or assistance from anyone so the issue of family members deserting you when you re in need is a deceptive ploy. The osu caste system is devilish and barbaric n so is anybody believes and practises it. There are far more important things to worry about when choosing a life partner . 1 Like |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Spirit1(m): 7:39pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Lerumo: Thanks for a great advise to her. Some people are here shouting Christianity. This is not a church or Christian matter. It is culture simple. Even oyibo that you borrowed Christianity from have their culture and they respect it. The stress of a free born marrying an Osu is too much. Let Osu marry their own. After all they typically have the best looking girls and most educated in Igbo land. The so called boy friend knows that he is an Osu , why didn't he tell the poor girl on time. Why can't people see this guy as being a fraud, by hiding this information? Rather he went and pregnanted the poor girl. Where is the trust in this relationship sef? He clearly knows the implications of being an Osu in Igbo land. He knew this might be a big problem. He should have warned her. That's what you do when you truly love someone. You don't trap them and then turn around to blame her family. 1 Like |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by funkyibodude(m): 7:40pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
addictiv:brother chill I understand ... I'm also from Imo state. Orlu to be precise |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by harsysky(m): 7:43pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Some things are easier said than done. The girl is between the devil and the deep blue sea , that is , thinking about the pregnancy and the family's consent. Questions like , " does one need his/her parents consent before marrying?" , " What are those honors we give to our parents?", "am I strong enough to live through this whole thing?" arise in a delicate situation like this. Everyone needs his/her parents' consent, whether you like it or not. My humble Opinion is don't tell that friend of yours to go on simply because majority here, on Nairaland, say so. Instead, tell her to go on if she has the strength-- the Mental strength. Believe me , it's not gonna be easy as most people ,here, think, especially in a village they still practise it much. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by bettyoge: 7:44pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
When its comes to osu , their s nothing like bin civilised abt it , I really feel bad abt this osu issues I got a frnd DAT it happened to , d guys parenta didn't even want her cos of d osu issues , the culture I guess cnt be abolished, its respected, had a case were by they went ahead wit it , the marriage became something else , they lady had to leave her husband n her son n was purified bfore she wld enter her family house. Terrible culture , in some village u cnt eat frm their house or even drink water .in my place the first thing they ask u, if u coming for a lady's hand in marriage is abt d osu stuff, u dare not lie abt it . I really feel bad for her honestly I do, buh for me , I knw the implications abt it , won't go ahead . If its just bin an osu, its differnt , buh I guess their more to it . |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by schumastic(m): 7:45pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
emorse: don't you get it at all? you can't win them over..you think is mere talk right okay let me tell you something.. my mum friend whom her daughter got married to an osu man after much warnings from her family.. she gave birth and her mum visited her after ignoring plea from her husband not to go but due to the love she have for her daughter she went coming back she was involve in a ghastly motor accident and was the only person that died..my mum made it clear to me that she will accept any 1 but not an osu and if i go ahead with it then am on my own cus she won't risk her life because of my ignorance...even though nobody wish for it we just have to be careful, do the needful and avoid story that touch. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Spirit1(m): 7:46pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Why can't people see this guy as being a fraud, by hiding this information from the poor girl? Rather he went and pregnanted the poor girl. Where is the trust in this relationship sef? He clearly knows the implications of being an Osu in Igbo land. He knew this might be a big problem. He can't claim he doesn't know, because Osu is what you are born with and the family know very well the implications. He should have warned her. That's what you do when you truly love someone. You don't trap them and then turn around to blame her family. Let him leave this poor family alone that are practicing their culture as they deem fit. Let us not demonize them please. It's like being HIV positive and hiding it from your prospective spouse. The only reason you will hide it is because you are scared he or she will run. Is it right to wait until you have infected your prospective spouse ( pregnanted her in this case) before telling her. What's the morale in this story. This guy is mean. Let him go marry his own!!!! 2 Likes |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by V0lv0(f): 7:48pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Spirit1:Clearly I am no match for your level of ignorance. Ignorance is indeed bliss. Please don't quote me again. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by uniquejessy(f): 7:48pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Dis is jack shit |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by bewla(m): 7:50pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Please I would appreciate matured advice only [/quote] Beautiful story. But she dont say u may not since u can explain to us gently pls tell the guy ur self and save us the trouble of cracking brain |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by bettyoge: 7:51pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Hmmm me am frm owerri , we knw the tradition, u sounding agitated abt it , buh no offence for u 2 sound dis way, paranoid, angry n stuffs, am guessing mayb , just mayb . Lemme kip quite sha . I cnt its only dose , any way forget. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Spirit1(m): 7:51pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
addictiv: Thank you Mbaise man. Go ahead and marry an Osu and then let's see you proudly declare again that you are an Mbaise man. Easier said than done. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Spirit1(m): 7:54pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
V0lv0: Thank you educated wise man from the east. Again it's simple, go and marry an Osu if you are a free born. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by funkyibodude(m): 7:58pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
For all those that don't understand, OSU caste system is a strong practice in Igbo land. It's a very delicate issue and I feel for my friend. She's lucky because she ain't one, that would have been disastrous for her. And all of you here telling her to forget tradition and get married, hmmm it's easier said than done. No marriage in Igbo land is successful without your peoples backing. Except you decide to relocate forever and forget about your home town. But then it's not easy too . I advised her to consult wisely before taking any decision. Her main problem now is breaking the news to her fiance, because she said that he doesn't seem to know that he's an OSU and he's the only child of his parents and he didn't grow up in the east |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by V0lv0(f): 8:00pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Spirit1: Firstly I am not a man. Secondly if you have a problem with 'Osu', nobody said you should marry them but don't be upset for those who do not have a problem with it. I personally feel that such believe is outdated but my opinion so let it rest |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by porshuch: 8:00pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
funkyibodude:IF SHE LOVES THE GUY, TELL HER TO GO AHEAD AND MARRY HIM, NOTHING WILL HAPPEN TO THEM. I MEAN NOTHING WILL HAPPEN. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Spirit1(m): 8:04pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
V0lv0: No wonder. Now I see. With all due respect; do you know who are the custodians of culture in Mbaise? I shouldn't have replied you all this while. Your response says it all. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by funkyibodude(m): 8:07pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
porshuch:easier said than done, that practice is strong in Ibo land, though I don't support it.. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by funkyibodude(m): 8:11pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Spirit1:lol you seem to dislike OSU people |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by mzvyne(f): 8:12pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
emorse: Sir, I don't remember Oh... I wasn't born then. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by emorse(m): 8:15pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
schumastic: Oh now I get where you're coming from. I'm sorry, I don't do "spiritual". Not condemning your spiritual inclinations though. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by emorse(m): 8:17pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
mzvyne:Lol. Neither was I. But I'm sure you heard/read about it. |
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