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Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by micca: 8:28pm On Dec 22, 2015
Estharfabian:
undecidedThis isn't A sensitive issue!


She loves this guy for Christ's sake! Nothing should Be A barrier...Not even if he has AIDS...cool
why make silly family Traditions A priority?? Smh!

If eventually, She refuses to marry This guy... then, Trust me..She never loved him half as much as I Love my Puppy..undecided.
4 christ sake wht she mean by osu mean dis type of igbo av alread been curse by the generation father of igbo so they are not allow 2 marry each order. Not d family that matter but d four father of igbo curse dat matter. My advice is tell ur father that u ar already carry his baby an either u abort d baby or not u hav already defile d law. That's, is evn 4bid 4 u 2 sleep wit each order. An two ask d guy wit a cool mine . Dat either what they tld is true. Lyk whn u are both in gud manner an if he accept dat is true z 4rm that place . Both of u wil Prepare 2 brake d curse . Whether God hav design u ppl 2 brake dat convenant u dnt knw. So u an ur husband wil take step of faith an go an see Tv joshua he wil deliver u both 4rm that curse. An d angel of d commission of that tv joshua wil begin 2 speak 4 u. U wil face true christain. If what u ar facin is generational power. Ar u tellin me they are nt ppl that 4rm that place that marry each order nd their luk 5n is depend hw they deal wih dat issue . Stnd up an fight if u die god wil find ur blood in ur hand. Coz u allow man made gods to defeat u. Thax follow dis an u wil see d result may God be wit u Amen
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by porshuch: 8:29pm On Dec 22, 2015
funkyibodude:
easier said than done, that practice is strong in Ibo land, though I don't support it..
sorry bro, my cousin bro married one, she's a medical doctor. I'm Igbo too, and my home town don't believe in such, since the coming of the missionaries, you hardly hear about OSU caste in Anambra, it is mostly practiced in Enugu state.
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by rhames(m): 8:30pm On Dec 22, 2015
funkyibodude:
A female friend of mine brought up an issue that have been bothering her so much she said that she needs an urgent advice on what to do. Here's her story
She met a guy last year in a friend's get together party and they both fell for each other. According to her story the guy works with an insurance company in Lagos and my friend was about to go for her NYSC when they both met. So because of the heated romance between them, she decided to work her NYSC posting to Lagos state. During her service year the guy proposed to her and she accepted. So they both went for family introduction. Few months after her introduction, her father called her and told her that she should come home that there's something urgent he wants to tell her. When she traveled back home, her dad told her that the have done some investigation into the guy's Family and the discovered that the guy is an OSU ( meaning outcast in Igbo land) and their village still practice the osu caste system. So the implication there is the both can't get married. And if she insist in getting married to him that her family will not be part of it, literally she's on her own with the guy, she's so heart broken now because she loves her family and she told me she can't imagine her world without him. And more so she's few weeks pregnant for him and the have started making plans for their wedding. How can she break this news to her fiancee?!!.. She told me she rather dies than not marry him.



Please I would appreciate matured advice only because this is really a sensitive issue that involves tradition and beliefs, no attacking of any personality or ethnic group. it can happen to anyone out there. Thanks

Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Basildvalour(m): 8:31pm On Dec 22, 2015
Spirit1:


Easier said than done in Igbo land. No amount of Christianity is going to change the Igbo belief system around Osu caste system. Some people will say it's been abolished. Some will say it doesn't matter. Wait until you have an Osu blood in you. As for anything happening to them, nothing will happen. They will just remain out casts. Nothing more. But the word outcast says it all.
Love is far stronger than that mere word
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by greatefa1011(m): 8:32pm On Dec 22, 2015
donTbone:

Note this:
Before getting married to anyone, those that must give you their consent are;

1. you pastor or spiritual leader
2. parents
3. siblings
4. closest friends

If any of the above shouldnt concur, see to their reason and have a rethink!
#soft
http://datingyouths..com


...That is if their REASONS are congent and it came earlier.


If you suggest an end to this relationship do you aswell suggest temination of the pregnancy ?

This issue should be committed into GODs hands.
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 8:33pm On Dec 22, 2015
donTbone:

Note this:
Before getting married to anyone, those that must give you their consent are;

1. you pastor or spiritual leader
2. parents
3. siblings
4. closest friends

If any of the above shouldnt concur, see to their reason and have a rethink!
#soft
http://datingyouths..com
Who is the idio.t that placed pastor/spiritual leader over parents?

I know...a stupid moronic pastor who owns the stu.pid article/blog.

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Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by jidxin(m): 8:33pm On Dec 22, 2015
schumastic:


if that's the case then get the blessing from them and not your parents and family cus they won't giv one neither will they be there for you...is even in the bible give what belongs to caesar to caesar and what belongs to God to God.
just saying tho...in d elitist society or d western culture all dos Blessings re bull shit but i think marriages can be blissful without parental Blessings...just saying
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 8:33pm On Dec 22, 2015
This is not even an issueundecided
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by rhames(m): 8:40pm On Dec 22, 2015
This damn dumb fetish practice should be outlawed completely. A very close neighbour of mine, a pharmacist dated his doctor girl friend for seven years and their parents objected to their marriage when they discovered the woman is an OSU. For God's sake why should this sledgehammer be the reason for their non marriage? This is the twenty first century men.
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by mzvyne(f): 8:41pm On Dec 22, 2015
emorse:
Lol. Neither was I. But I'm sure you heard/read about it.
Yes... Yes I did.
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by schumastic(m): 8:45pm On Dec 22, 2015
emorse:


Oh now I get where you're coming from. I'm sorry, I don't do "spiritual". Not condemning your spiritual inclinations though.

neither do I do spiritual inclination like you said...

all the same, them no they tell blind man say rain they fall..
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Spirit1(m): 8:46pm On Dec 22, 2015
funkyibodude:
lol you seem to dislike OSU people

No actually I don't. I have very good and close friends who are Osu.
I love them just like any other, I respect them, I eat and dine with them. We just understand that this has nothing to do with marriage. I actually don't like the caste system in Igbo land, but I respect my culture and understand the seriousness. Is it right?..NO.
My problem is with those who wave away this serious Igbo culture and belief system. The same people who advise people to engage in Osu marriage.

An interesting example was Chief Micheal Okpara the then Eastern Nigeria premier who passed a law against the Osu caste system, but when his kinsmen asked him to give his daughter's hand in marriage to an Osu man, he refused.

My other problem is that Osu families know themselves and know that this problem exists, but they are constantly playing this game. They will never voluntarily tell a free born until it's too late. By the way, osu's are the best educated in Igbo land and are usually very good looking. They first embraced Christianity and benefited from early education from the missionaries while the rest of the free born stuck to their shrines.
They know to marry themselves, but no they prefer to cause problems in families as in this case.
Why pregnant this girl, when you don't have approval of her family yet and when you are not married. Isn't that bad enough?
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by JuanDeDios: 8:51pm On Dec 22, 2015
Basildvalour:
Which would you rather prefer:

1. Be rejected by a group of racist

OR

2. Be rejected by love
This isn't about me. Ask her - although I answered your question in my post. But I think you don't get it at all.
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by funkyibodude(m): 8:51pm On Dec 22, 2015
Spirit1:


No actually I don't. I have very good and close friends who are Osu.
I love them just like any other, I respect them, I eat and dine with them. We just understand that this has nothing to do with marriage. I actually don't like the caste system in Igbo land, but I respect my culture and understand the seriousness. Is it right?..NO.
My problem is with those who wave away this serious Igbo culture and belief system. The same people who advise people to engage in Osu marriage.

An interesting example was Chief Micheal Okpara the then Eastern Nigeria premier who passed a law against the Osu caste system, but when his kinsmen asked him to give his daughter's hand in marriage to an Osu man, he refused.

My other problem is that Osu families know themselves and know that this problem exists, but they are constantly playing this game. They will never voluntarily tell a free born until it's too late. By the way, osu's are the best educated in Igbo land and are usually very good looking. They first embraced Christianity and benefited from early education from the missionaries while the rest of the free born stuck to their shrines.
They know to marry themselves, but no they prefer to cause problems in families as in this case.
Why pregnant this girl, when you don't have approval of her family yet and when you are not married. Isn't that bad enough?
good point smiley

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Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by nnamdiosu(m): 9:07pm On Dec 22, 2015
donTbone:

Note this:
Before getting married to anyone, those that must give you their consent are;

1. you pastor or spiritual leader
2. parents
3. siblings
4. closest friends

If any of the above shouldnt concur, see to their reason and have a rethink!
#soft
http://datingyouths..com


with all due respect.....is that the rubbish you teach people on ur blog? closet friends must give their consent before I marry? well I will like to be ur closest friend .......wen I tell u no 5 times, na only you go cone back to Nl and remove closest friends from this ur post. no offence meant.....

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Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Abykayi(f): 9:12pm On Dec 22, 2015
Note this:
Before getting married to anyone, those that must give you their consent are;

1. you pastor or spiritual leader
2. parents
3. siblings


If any of the above shouldnt concur, see to their reason and have a rethink!
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Hustlerlomo(m): 9:13pm On Dec 22, 2015
Make she kill herself na.
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 9:32pm On Dec 22, 2015
She rather die than not marrying the guy,she has concluded already
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Abykayi(f): 9:35pm On Dec 22, 2015
When it comes to issue of marriage,i think parents concept has a lot of role to play.Reason: what an elderly person sees while lying or sitting down,a child can never see even if he climbs the tallest mountain. I advice your friend listen to her parents.

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Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by schumastic(m): 9:38pm On Dec 22, 2015
kevinscore:
She rather die than not marrying the guy,she has concluded already

and who told you she has concluded?
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by oglalasioux(m): 9:48pm On Dec 22, 2015
OSU in 21st century! Pathetic. Black Africa is still far from being full human beings. We are more of animals in the dark ages. I advise the girl to go on with the marriage. Bleep archaic backward tradition.
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by OlaSpeaker(m): 10:12pm On Dec 22, 2015
donTbone:

Note this:
Before getting married to anyone, those that must give you their consent are;

1. you pastor or spiritual leader
2. parents
3. siblings
4. closest friends

If any of the above shouldnt concur, see to their reason and have a rethink!
#soft
http://datingyouths..com
wen God created marriage he never created "consent" he (God) alone created EVE marriage is a union between two not three my advice is that she should go on with her marriage who is osu to determine what she do with her life.......#AfricaBelieveSha

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Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by lyricalz: 10:16pm On Dec 22, 2015
Please wats OSU? Who is an outcast
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by timmyblast(m): 10:18pm On Dec 22, 2015
Rhesusmonkey:
To hell with osu, this is 21st cenntury and not 19th century, if there is enuf luv in d relationship to carry u through, den marry the person u luv
what u saying, why not say this is 21st century n then to hell with the devil
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 10:25pm On Dec 22, 2015
emorse:
This is why we must always preach love. Imagine this coming from a tribe that appeared so united for a certain cause just a fee weeks ago. Love is key.

When we start seeing one another a one instead of Yoruba, Hausa and Igbo, or Christians and Muslims, or Osu and sons if the soil, we would begin to make significant progress.

As for me, to hell with any form of segregation. As long as I love her and I'm sure she loves me too, I'm marrying her with or without anybody's consent.

How old are you?

U sound like a child born in the nineties. You children know absolutely nothing
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Arebay(m): 10:25pm On Dec 22, 2015
funkyibodude:
A female friend of mine brought up an issue that have been bothering her so much she said that she needs an urgent advice on what to do. Here's her story
She met a guy last year in a friend's get together party and they both fell for each other. According to her story the guy works with an insurance company in Lagos and my friend was about to go for her NYSC when they both met. So because of the heated romance between them, she decided to work her NYSC posting to Lagos state. During her service year the guy proposed to her and she accepted. So they both went for family introduction. Few months after her introduction, her father called her and told her that she should come home that there's something urgent he wants to tell her. When she traveled back home, her dad told her that the have done some investigation into the guy's Family and the discovered that the guy is an OSU ( meaning outcast in Igbo land) and their village still practice the osu caste system. So the implication there is the both can't get married. And if she insist in getting married to him that her family will not be part of it, literally she's on her own with the guy, she's so heart broken now because she loves her family and she told me she can't imagine her world without him. And more so she's few weeks pregnant for him and the have started making plans for their wedding. How can she break this news to her fiancee?!!.. She told me she rather dies than not marry him.



Please I would appreciate matured advice only because this is really a sensitive issue that involves tradition and beliefs, no attacking of any personality or ethnic group. it can happen to anyone out there. Thanks




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Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Becalm(m): 10:27pm On Dec 22, 2015
The issue at hand is a sensitive one. OSU caste system is gradually disappearing in Igbo land but few communities still practice it. I come from such a place and your fiance too cos his family was easily identified on investigation, the stigma is enormous in communities where they are practiced.

This is the hard truth, you will sacrifice family at expense of love cos your children i.e your family grand children have become OSU unless your family does not give a damn about what the community thinks and feels. You will face certain discrimination at your husband family place and get used them and in any case of divorce, you will face the same issue re-marrying since you have been contaminated by the first marriage. The stigma goes on and deep.... unless you live outside the shores of Nigeria or live in Nigeria but goes home once in a blue moon.

My advice: if you are very sure you are walking into a marriage that will last till death do you part, let your parents understand why you have to make this decision and live the rest of your life happily with the love of your life. Secondly, take a decision you would have taken if you were not pregnant....don't let the pregnancy influence your decision.

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Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Akhere1: 10:30pm On Dec 22, 2015
Since you love him and you get pregnant for him go ahead and do your wedding

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Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 10:34pm On Dec 22, 2015
The bible said something in Galatians 3:13,"For Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the Law".It also said a woman must leave her family and join to her husband and they shall be one flesh. Religiously speaking she can get married. Tribal discrimination must end...
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 10:42pm On Dec 22, 2015
addictiv:

I am not just an igbo man but an mbaise man from one one of the historic families in igboland and I can tell you that we don't believe in the osu system. My kids are free to marry anybody that is said to be an outcast. If you won't show up at my wedding because I am marrying an outcast, it's your loss. I saw my parents build their little empire from scratch without a dime or assistance from anyone so the issue of family members deserting you when you re in need is a deceptive ploy. The osu caste system is devilish and barbaric n so is anybody believes and practises it. There are far more important things to worry about when choosing a life partner .

You sound like an OSU
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 10:43pm On Dec 22, 2015
Akhere1:
Since you love him and you get pregnant for him go ahead and do your wedding

Another Powerful crusade has come again, Calvary greetings.
It’s a pleasure inviting you to The lords Chosen crusade program titled,
“ONLY GOD CAN DO THIS "
That your long expectation it is time to receive now come with the below date I promised you, you we never go home he same.

Date: 25TH and 26TH DECEMBER . 2015.
The Lord's Chosen Charismatic Revival Church,
10 Odofin park Estate, Oshodi Apapa Expressway,

Pls fu*ck off with your fake idiotic church

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Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by adefizzy(m): 10:54pm On Dec 22, 2015
donTbone:

Note this:
Before getting married to anyone, those that must give you their consent are;

1. you pastor or spiritual leader
2. parents
3. siblings
4. closest friends

If any of the above shouldnt concur, see to their reason and have a rethink!
#soft
http://datingyouths..com


Those who choose your spouse for you has the power to control your home n tell you how to treat your spouse and that has contributed to great number of broken marriages. You can get advice from the aforementioned pple bt dey shouldn't take your decision for you. Your marriage is your business! What good decision will you ever boost of in life if u can't determine the right spouse for yourself with the help of God. Even pastors, parents, siblings n friend do make bad decisions abt things that concern their personal lives not to talk of someone else. As for me, I don't need anybody's consent, ONLY God matters.

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