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Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by smileysmiles(f): 11:46pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
amosade30: Lol. He's fine thank you. |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by blakky97(m): 11:47pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
jamela:hahahaha trust me; love exists. dont judge by the people in your environment. a British woman in love will stay; and fetch water from the stream with a pot on her head, pluck mangoes, roast yam and snails and even scrap the last rice from the pot. and if she ever returns to Britain, she will be seen as a bush woman despite been white. environment dictates our activities more than we give credit to. 2 Likes |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Amhappy(f): 11:50pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
blakky97: There are people who focus so much on career or set unrealist targets for a man they'll like to marry,yet they know that they will not be fulfilled without getting married. If one doesn't want to marry or care less about marriage that's another issue altogether. You are not a lady and may not know that there is a time in a girl's life that she get a lot of marriage proposals and that is usually a good time to choose. 1 Like |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by amosade30(m): 11:51pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
smileysmiles:I'm sure u enyn ya 9t or is he wt ? |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by deeptesting(m): 11:53pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Dexema:I think i have responded to someone who also made reference to the Bible.. The school will teach you the theory but life teaches you the practical.. If you are lonely and want to marry then look for a lonely woman and marry so both of you can pursue same goal of getting out of loneliness but if you think getting a partner will take you out of loneliness then you are on a long thing... Marriage has it`s own troubles big enough that will compound your loneliness and take it to 360 degree. And what is the right person? So you want to marry a happy girl and bring in your garbage inherited from loneliness to her life so she begins to pamper you like a child? If you are lonely fix it, find the root cause of it.. I think the OP is bored living alone don`t get it twisted.. If you are lonely get out and make friends, get social and enjoy singleness. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by blakky97(m): 11:55pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
deeptesting:obviously sir, you are a wise man. the decision has been a tough one for me. I do not crave entirely independent women because I fear my position as the head and General Officers Commanding in my home will be jeopardised. and yet do I run from demanding ladies who I feel will never appreciate the concept of sacrifice and struggle and may feel they are entitled to kindly gestures just by virtue of been women. |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by elantraceey(f): 11:58pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Bloggz74: Lol For someone like me I have no reason to console myself at least not yet. Even though the importance of marriage can never be overemphasized but it isn't all there is about life. |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by deeptesting(m): 12:00am On Dec 23, 2015 |
blakky97:Lol... Bro you can`t eat your cake and have it or sit on the fence on this issue... A decision must be made either way.. I wish you the best. 5 Likes |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Nobody: 12:01am On Dec 23, 2015 |
All the people saying no rush, etc are just deceiving themselves. In fact even if truly there is no rush, you should do the right things at the right time or you will end up being left behind. Everyone wants to be happy. And marrying the right person brings happiness especially if it is in the context of a happy home. Some guys or ladies when they should have married were busy forming bachelor and spinster and living a free spirit life. Now when it's time to marry it becomes more difficult. It is oyinbo pple that live Me, myself and I life and can decide not to ever get married. A Nigerian is not Oyinbo. We have a very social culture. 1 Like |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by prettychick: 12:06am On Dec 23, 2015 |
IT IS WELL IJN |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by blakky97(m): 12:06am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Amhappy:wise words. does it mean all single and searching ladies in their late 30s are responsible for their predicament? a lady may have dated 3 guys beginning from when she was 21. first guy for 5 years, he disappointed, second for 8 years. he cheated. and third for 4 years, he boasts, insults, and lacks manners generally. she does not love him. where lies her fault? 1 Like |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by elantraceey(f): 12:12am On Dec 23, 2015 |
blakky97: I won't call it irresponsibility,I'll say some just want gain stability first before venturing into the institution called marriage, its a greater embarrassment when you get married early and you're unable to provide adequately for your family financially and otherwise. |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Miggs(m): 12:22am On Dec 23, 2015 |
lawanson44:you are absolutely correct.it doesn't take much thought to realize marriage is bullshit especially for men 3 Likes |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by blakky97(m): 12:29am On Dec 23, 2015 |
elantraceey:we cannot avoid the fact that life takes us through the chequered board of time in this world. some early starters had rough beginning and balanced out later. some people who actually love kids and wish to have their own, but are waiting till theyve acquired "enough" only end up wishing they had defined the concept of "enough" earlier. a man could get married at 42 after labouring 15 years to be balanced. then he builds a supermarket, few months after marriage, it gets gutted by fire, will he now divorce? |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by sweetgala(m): 12:31am On Dec 23, 2015 |
deeptesting: How come man, it seems like you got the wrong end of the stick. |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Mrlekan07034617: 12:32am On Dec 23, 2015 |
DonUjay: Bros I fear ur advice ooooo. To sample all d sweet girls? Abeg na infections person dey play with. my guy @op shine ur eyes!! Nothing do u joooor free urself from those funny depressions. |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by deeptesting(m): 12:35am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Miggs:i laughed so hard at the bold part... Bro.. don`t get it twisted marriage is beautiful, having a companion to share with is awesome but as you already know life has become so complicated, selfishness, egotism, modernization and greed is messing relationships up. Go in with the mindset to be a blessing to your partner and less expectation from her things will surely be fine but do you have what it takes to be a blessing to someone else without expecting a reciprocation? Happy marriages are built on selflessness. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by obowunmi(m): 12:38am On Dec 23, 2015 |
OP: must be poor and broke because there are so many single, desperate women out there. Go to church and find one. |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by obowunmi(m): 12:40am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Why not go to the church where of the testimony of the 50 year old.... Try the church... |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Nobody: 12:45am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Amhappy:madam could you please shed more light on the dupe part.....i dont clearly get your story. as for your friend are you jealous that your friend is about to taste and experience marriage people often regard as a sweet thing with right partner? there is gawd ooo!. @everyone, what qualifies one to be the RIGHT PARTNER? because as far as i am concerned there is no marriage on earth that does not have issues which might range commonest such as cleaning table after eating, closing the door to the more complex ones. perfect happily ever after marriages exist only in fairytales and in movies. throw more light on this. 1 Like |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by elantraceey(f): 12:47am On Dec 23, 2015 |
blakky97: Lol, Of course he won't but you know that scenario can't just happen like that, who suffers most during the rough beginnings isn't it the children? |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Laeroy(f): 12:53am On Dec 23, 2015 |
[quote author=deeptesting post=41219943.. "Solitude is a gift".[/quote] SOLITUDE IS TRULY A GIFT.......BUT CAN U SINCERELY SWEAR BY GODTHAT WAT PEOPLE TINK OF U DOES NOT AFFECT U......? I'VE COME TO REALISE DAT WE CANT TOTALLY DO AWAY WITH PEOPLE....DEY'RE D REASON Y WE ARE STILL LIVING.....ISNT IT HIPOCRISY.....DAT WE TED TO LOVE IT WHEN PEOPLE PRAISE US BUT WHEN ITS D OTHER WAY ROUND.....IT TENDS NOT TO BE OUR BUSINESS... 4 Likes |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by AreaFada2: 12:55am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Truckpusher: Lol. Well, this guy spent the last twenty or so years of his life in Europe, where he died. Even in Nigeria, some of the most hardworking & most successful people I know lost their fathers early in life. Even many public figures like IBB, Chief Gabriel Igbinedion, etc. Maybe extended family system of yesteryears made it slightly easier in some cases. Surely, many of those who end in social deprivation, even jail, these days have no parent(s). But that alone is not the cause of 70% of Nigerians living in quasi poverty. |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by deeptesting(m): 1:01am On Dec 23, 2015 |
[quote author=Laeroy post=41257705][/quote] Bro, i don't know how old you are (no pun intended) but at the attainment of a certain age you will surely careless about what people say or think most especially about your PRIORITIES, that is when you begin to live in accordance with your principles and values.. 1 Like |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by tranxo(m): 1:02am On Dec 23, 2015 |
deeptesting:deeptesting, that's DEEP! Thanks. Hope your health is much better. We miss you at the dog thread |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by OTEGA1: 1:08am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Experience has shown dat its not how far but how well. Marry one ur soul resonates with,dat understand s u and u understand her. If u hurry and get married cos of wat people are saying ior cos of age, u will be on different frequencies with ur partner and marriage will not be enjoyable rather it will be endured. Over 80 percent of marriage s are been endured cos it of shame. While some will c dere soole make early other may find it late but d most important thing is to find it. When u do u will be happy for d rest of ur life. Ladies especially desperation will lead u to marriage u will leave to endure never rush into it . |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by deeptesting(m): 1:08am On Dec 23, 2015 |
tranxo: Thanks.. I am doing very well and in good health now.Thanks! 2 Likes |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Laeroy(f): 1:09am On Dec 23, 2015 |
deeptesting:Can U Explicitly spell out just 5 wrong reasons people go into marriage? |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by baby124: 1:11am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Op, marry!!! Don't mind the guys saying marriage is overrated. It is not overrated to you. You may have missed your right person at your age, but find someone good enough to marry! And determine in your mind that you want to stay so. Look, at 40- till you die, you will only meet girls interested in your money. No true love for you. Girls like men that also look good and fit, we also like young and sweet looking men, like you would like a girl to be too. Don't think the right girls will want a sagging, old looking, erectile dysfunction, creaky bones, white haired man, hypertensive or diabetic too. I once had a suitor in his 50's and all I could think of was this man having a heart attack, or not being active enough to run after naughty kids and discipline them. I was thinking, will he even live long enough to see my kids through uni?The way he begged and begged was so pathetic. He spent his whole life chasing money. He has a lot of money, but not the type of girls he knows are good for him. With all his money he is not happy! He has never been married by the way. Look well and marry a good girl! You deserve that after waiting this long! Time waits for no man, we get older every second. There is nothing like desperation when you feel you are ready!!! In your search, also keep in mind that no one is perfect, especially you. So don't go looking for perfection. Make a list of the core qualities you want, which are realistic. Find the woman and marry her! Stable mental health must be one of them! 1 Like |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by AreaFada2: 1:12am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Whether we like it or not, each society has certain values. We Africans take pride in our family values, the oldest and most important institution. The only insurance policy in a place where you're on your own. No social safety net. Many people here talk about marriage being overrated, not important, yada yada yada. Yet I believe none of you can afford to be so different from your social environment. How many here can openly admit being gay, being sexually attracted to younger girls/boys, elderly men/women, married men/women or some other unorthodox desires? Risk being labelled a pervert in our conservative, judgemental and hypocritical society? Yet we know such people exist. In our midst. We only get to read about them in the papers when they are exposed. |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by Nobody: 1:18am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Sagamite: Nearly broke my head in laughter! 1 Like |
Re: The Travails Of Marrying Late by deeptesting(m): 1:23am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Laeroy: Lol! 1. They are of age as defined by the society. 2. Others are married so why should they be an exception. 3. For the guys they don't want to loose their beautiful girlfriends. 4. She is pregnant, cannot abort so we marry. 5. For the girls material reasons, the guy has an apartment, looks good, a good ride then let's marry. You can help me add yours because the list is inconclusive. 1 Like |
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