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Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by marykaydee: 10:11pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Because their priorities are different from yours. Its only natural. Don't take it the wrong way. I on the other ✋ take it upon myself to avoid my married friends cos when some domestic issues emerge, you dnt want to be involved (i have seen enough damage ) don't get me wrong oh! I will be there when am needed as a friend and keep intouch from time to time 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by shegxi(m): 10:19pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Ezechinwa:merry christmas broda.......may 2016 bring us good tidings!!! 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by maryhaam(f): 10:20pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
yomi007k:weird boy#where have you been |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by menxer: 10:20pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
2 friends had bicycles used to cycle together to virtually every where; then one bought a motorcycle, would the one on bicycle meet up the speed of the motorcycle? Change is the watchword. |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by yomi007k(m): 10:23pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by yomi007k(m): 10:25pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by darlenese(f): 10:30pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
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Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by tuyeegal: 10:36pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
i think the men or husbands are mainly the cause. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by HARDWORKGOPAY(m): 10:36pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Hmm |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by spiralwedge(m): 10:37pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
It's nothing personal, just natural. Their worries will be different and their closeness will widen. The married one would be thinking for herself, husband and kids, while the single would be thinking for herself alone. What the married one wants to do with her money has her family inclusive, while the single often don't spend money on a long-term plan. The married wants to cuddle her husband and watch a movie on bed and have her phone switched off, while the single wants to go clubbing till dawn or be on phone chatting all night since she's alone. They are just different and they don't need to mix much. Keep them on FB.. That should do. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by cutebobo(m): 10:38pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
I'm a guy and I have a bestfriend who doesn't finds it interesting checking on friends. That's his nature. He doesn't do that to his girlfriend though. We have fought over it so te that I myself I'm tired. I'm just preparing my mind towards the time he will get married because I don't think a friendship like that will continue after he is married. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by Obaino1985: 10:39pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Ok naa |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by Gkemz: 10:41pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Simple to keep their marriage away from public scene and gossip |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by Drahmah: 11:04pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
The reason is simple; married people's lifestyle is not really compatible with that of single people, especially around these parts of the world. Single people keep late nights, hangout often, and are always exposed to situations that are 'unhealthy' for married people. That is the reason why a lot of married people tend to spend less time around single people. They do not want to be exposed to those situations or be around people that may tempt them into doing something irresponsible. The other reason is that most single people do not really understand the difference between marriage and courtship. Some of them expect their married friends to behave in the same way they did before marriage, they give silly advise, and that makes it more difficult to allow them in your life. With married friends though, it's a lot easier to get along because they're in the same waters as you. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by poshestmina(f): 11:24pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Noticed it too. The only time my married friends sends me messages or call is for baby dedication or just on fbk ![]() ![]() Started blocking them after a while,bearing Mrs doesn't make you better or make me less of a woman |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by Bollinger(m): 11:25pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Pidggin: This is not the reason. The priorities of a married individual is very different from that of a single person. Your interests do not match. The married individual obviously will be thinking more of their immediate family and putting his/her household in order whilst the single man/woman is still in the market and things like clubs and parties and sowing their wild oats would still be on the table. There is no freaking way i would advice a married man or woman to keep single friends. That's how you get into trouble. If you are man or woman and your husband or wife is still busy hanging around their single friends, then it might behoove you to cut that cord. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by babsnuel(m): 11:26pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Specialbaby:naah it doesn't 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by Bollinger(m): 11:28pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by Mcowubaba: 11:29pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
My dear, that's just life for u.. The are simply no more in the same status, (location, level, grade - as the case maybe) with u.. Those days, I was very close to a guy, we were like brothers, but I got admission, he didn't get that year nd even in the next year...that automatically drifted us apart, it just happens... He will call sometimes and say-" hey guy mak we go club this nite"..I will be like- "guy I get serious test/lecture/exams/practical tmwr" ![]() This is just admission, not to talk about marriage ![]() "Birds of the same feathers flock together" its that simple...get married too, u will see urselves becoming best pals again(if u are interested).. Nd morever, its not healthy nd very advisable for a married woman esp(men inclusive) to keep close association with single people.. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by Pidggin(f): 11:31pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Bollinger: In your opinion all single people are irresponsible? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by adelujohn(m): 11:32pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Hmmm |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by Bollinger(m): 11:38pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Pidggin: No. That is not my point. When i was single i sowed my oats thoroughly. I had my fill. Now things like that don't interest me. Been there, done that. Are you saying you've only had one girlfriend your entire life? Anyway, Let's say as a married man, i keep visiting you at home and you are single. Your girlfriend comes in from time to time. One day, she brings her friend to visit you and i happen to be there that day. Also, i just had a big fight with my wife and i'm pissed. Really pissed. Your girlfriend's friend is very beautiful and starts winking at me. With my state of mind, anything could happen. To avoid situations like that, it is better to hang with people who have the same interests as yours. I wonder what kind of conversations a married person and a single person would have? 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by Nickymezor(f): 11:38pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Na choice oo. I no longer bother my self again wen any of my married friends kips distance. It jst shows dat she wasnt really 'a true friend' |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by Pidggin(f): 11:48pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Bollinger: Are you saying married men with married friends don't cheat? 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by SexyStrawberry(f): 11:59pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
OP have u noticed that in most weddings now, the asoebi girls don't wear short or skimpy things anymore?! Ladies don't want to take chances, u never can tell after the wedding ur hubby might get attached to one of them and the rest would be history! When ur fellow woman wan do u strong thing, u go know say devil sometimes dey get conscience coz most ladies are extreme and wicked, now that's why the ladies tends to cut all ties with their single friends, and as for the men, they don't really cut ties like that all of a sudden, its always a gradual process for them coz with time they naturally won't be on the same page with their single counterparts coz as a married man U've got family to take care of and all the wahala that comes along with family and while he's running around with business and family, he might not have that plenty time with his single friends.......... I hope dis answers ur question. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by 190theclown: 12:04am On Dec 23, 2015 |
U nigerians are so gulliable Fix your economy una nor sabi na to carry marriage for head like Government work una sabi my mates this my mates that smh 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by tommy589(m): 12:11am On Dec 23, 2015 |
You can not be married and still expect to continue experiencing the unlimited freedom you shared when single.I can relate to when I and my friends used to wear each other shoes and watches when single.that sort of access is bound not to be easily available when married and could affect friendship built over the years if not properly handled |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by Cityguy: 12:15am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Level don change na ![]() |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by Bollinger(m): 12:16am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Pidggin: OOOooooh. You de find trouble. Temptations abound everywhere. You job is to limit it. Of course married men who hang around other married men cheat. But that is a different topic altogether. First you have to minimize your interactions with single folks. Then also, if you find out that the married individual you are hanging around also has tendencies to lead you astray you avoid them as well. Too easy. |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by blakky97(m): 12:17am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Specialbaby:oya oya oya oya! make una stop! come dey go house. |
Re: Why Do People Abandon Their Single Friends After Marriage? by Ndipe(m): 1:37am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Quite common among women folk, guess it has to do with insecurity or 'level don change' |
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