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Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Bobnotrouble: 11:12pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
It's amazing how no matter what the level of education some people attained, they still refused to be civilized. What a pity! |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by schumastic(m): 11:14pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
ps2: mark 12:17 also says give to ceasar what belongs to ceasar and to God what belongs to God and his reply completely amazed them... point is if she is going to go ahead with it then she has to be really in christ so as to prevail any repercussions that comes after. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by schumastic(m): 11:16pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
DrDauda:same thing I thought of |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by emorse(m): 11:24pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
DrDauda: People much older than you abolished slave trade, killing of twins etc when they saw reasons. You can hold your ancestors' ways of life very close to your heart. Enjoy! |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by adefizzy(m): 11:33pm On Dec 22, 2015 |
Spirit1: why impregnate this girl? As if u were there wen dey were making love...stop passing judgement. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Chizyann: 12:18am On Dec 23, 2015 |
I realy want say something,had similar case last year december,met him arund october 2014,in PH on my way to work,he gave me a lift,we got talking,frm d same village,Mbaise to b precise,took him home arund 31st dec for introduction,was so much in love wit him,bt my family said no to him,because of dis same issue called OSU,it has nt ben easy on both of us!we r still single searching,den on january I met ken frm rivers!we got along,went for introduction again arund august,on a sunday,on monday my younga sista calld told me about a terrible dream she had concerning my ken,d same week my mum n our third sista calld,narrating of dia own dream,fear griped me n I av to put a break n went to church wit his name n I was told dia were forces behind their family,I told about d dreams n he said my people will nt come to his n stay more dan a week,I got pregnant bt lost d baby three weeks afta arund september n I stayd away frm him,yestaday monday 21st of december 2015,ken was no more,he was hit by a flying bullet arund agip here inm PH,wat a life,wat saved me frm becoming a widow was my family! 2 Likes |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Chizyann: 12:30am On Dec 23, 2015 |
I think @ times we av to listen to our parents,this Osu of a thing,d guy I took home arund dec have sisters that r of age,if nt for this same issue they would av ben married by now!had a neighbour in Owerri about 4 of them,pretty,educated,still in their fathers house cos of this called OSU,still in voke in igbo land,think about the future of ur children,n u will hear of it only wen u want to get married,the choice is urs n nt ur family,if u want it go for it bt think about tomorrow! |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by NifemiOlu(m): 12:37am On Dec 23, 2015 |
donTbone: Consent means approval. I hope you know, and if you know, it's really funny that you need approval from your pastor, siblings and friends. Really funny.
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Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by suzzy16(f): 1:56am On Dec 23, 2015 |
funkyibodude:hmmm,nawa for dis kind tradition o,I'm just forced to comment |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by suzzy16(f): 2:04am On Dec 23, 2015 |
schumastic:hmmm,nawa for all dis igbo tradition o |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Panudemaster: 3:26am On Dec 23, 2015 |
An Yoruba adage's sayz, " Nkan ti agba ri, lo je ki oju gba jin". "Omode o le lasho, ko la kisa bi agba". All d adage interm mean Experience n we all say experience is d best teacher. No matter hw love is strong, in nigeria our traditional has edge ova it, the OSU of a thing, she listen to her parent in order 2 beta her life cuz no parent go wan make dier pikin suffer. Wat am abt 2 say is a true story of d life datz currently happening 2 ma mum, b4 she n ma dad got wedin, in her background they have dis traditional stuff, in which they do, buh due to whaj we all say dat Love is stronger, they went ahead n marry, after some years, it was her turn 2 do d traditional rites, she refused to do it n dis is a most. Few later the repercusion came on and till now she is suffering it, it been 17 year ma mum has being living un normal. Its painful didnt enjoy motherhood. She should listen 2 her parent n pray n fast to get d best answer from God, so dat she can live a life of a mother unlike my mum. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by ATERI(m): 5:09am On Dec 23, 2015 |
donTbone: Really? You must be joking, right? |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by ATERI(m): 5:18am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Panudemaster: What you are saying is understandable, but I believe true love defies everything. The personal experiece you narrated does not mean that parents are right at all times, are they? So you mean a backward Igbo calling somebody Osu is enough to invalidate a loving romance? Come on guys!! |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by ATERI(m): 5:33am On Dec 23, 2015 |
funkyibodude: As long as Osu is the only issue in this wonderful romance, your friend should not think twice before going ahead with the marriage |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 5:43am On Dec 23, 2015 |
what an old man sees sitting down a boy can't see even on a mountain top. she needs her parent's concent and blessing else she might regret her decision later in life |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by zudozz: 6:02am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Simple. It wont be easy sha. But she should follow her heart. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 6:20am On Dec 23, 2015 |
At this time where men are marrying men and female are doing same? Who gives a shot about our? Let her go ahead so far she loves him and he loves her. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by hustler86(m): 6:28am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Monalisa185:What part of the txt u dnt get ryt. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by wesleychidi(m): 6:36am On Dec 23, 2015 |
This has nothing to do with civilization. I think its only d igbo tribe that practice this osu caste system. To me the real question should be: 1) have we really sat down to ask d real history/reason for this segregation? 2)why is it that our igbo parents no matter how religious or holy they are,always fight against d marriage of their kids to someone from an Osu background? 3)do we realize dat in d bible Osu exist too? check 2 king 5:20-27? Are u surprised?yes it does. Elisha placed a curse on his servant, Gehazi with leprosy down to his entire generation. Imagine wat would become of a lady dat marries someone from Gehazi lineage. The point i am making is that although we are in the 21st century,in a jet age etc we should not for one moment think that historical /cultural issues like Osu isnt relevant.Instead,we should ask questions and investigate how they came about been one.Listen to ur parents......Goodluck!!! 3 Likes |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by banchuz: 6:46am On Dec 23, 2015 |
sickstars:. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by addictiv(m): 7:13am On Dec 23, 2015 |
DrDauda:Joke of the century.. perhaps you fail to realise that your opinion of me just remains an irrelevant opinion as it is. However my heart goes out to lots of innocent young men n women whose lives have been thorn apart by a backward n barbaric cultural practice. personally i would love to have my folks n friends blessings to my marriage but anyone who tries to discredit my bride by calling her OSU is in for a real shock as I will personally cut of ties with that person. Such people ll be treated as lepers. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by emeritusali(m): 7:17am On Dec 23, 2015 |
This is a critical issue that requires a REAL thinking. To commentators,it is an EASY thing to give advice. OP, please advise your friend to reason with her parents because if a dog doesn't see something it will never bark. NB:IN THIS WORLD THERE ARE TWO THINGS THAT CAN NEVER BLIND ME; RELIGION AND LOVE. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by donTbone(m): 7:31am On Dec 23, 2015 |
nnamdiosu:U not gonna be the first to diss... Like.... ion bloody care Now, i tell you.. clarifying my post. Is there a fight, stress or misunderstanding free marriage? Me putting down the list doesn't meant u must have a yes from them b4 the marriage... are you guys this DUMB! What am trying to pass across is, there are things they see that the lover wont notice. If they try and tell you to slow down a bit or giving the marriage a rethink...then the person should.... As for those pointing at my four list... Here is more clarity 1. if u don't believe in your pastor knowing about your marriage, then you shouldnt tell me God matters! 2. If you tell me your parent doesn't matter in the choice, then same awaits you from your children too. Mind you, ion know who you will run to for advice when the trouble starts. 3. You wanna neglect your siblings right? go ahead. I dont know if they will be there when you need someone around you or not 4. Friends too aren't neccessary... No probs, just go ahead and marry without seeking for advice and wisdom from elders! I have said mine.... #soft |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by donTbone(m): 7:32am On Dec 23, 2015 |
NifemiOlu:Am sure you not dumb... right? I dont think thats funny! |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Geraraheremehn: 7:35am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Monalisa185: Ok |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 7:57am On Dec 23, 2015 |
STFUareyouGod:as much as i despise the osu bullshii and condemn it i wouldnt deny thats it has fked things up for the couples that went against it, its a stupid igbo custom but goddamn its got some evil forces surrounding it. Ive heard about it a lot and the shii is so potent that it affected a couple that resides in U.s. God should pls abolish that crap, who would try to inviteall the troubles and after effects of going against our custom? Non igbos will never understand and for those that can do it by all means do r thing joor and fk the forces behind that trash. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by oputaemma: 8:20am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Pls she should go ahead with her partner |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 8:27am On Dec 23, 2015 |
......And more so she's few weeks pregnant for him... This is what will screw her. And am Not sorry for her... serves her right. DO NOT engage in pre marital sex, una no dey hear |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by poik(m): 9:09am On Dec 23, 2015 |
funkyibodude: I am currently in a similar matter. My parents are raising hell cos I decided to part ways with the Catholic church, for nearly 8 years and counting. It is true that family is important, but there are certain decisions which one has to make ON HIS OR HER OWN. The highest is disowning or dissociation, but there are also people without families. My take: let there be a GodIfactor in all, and go right ahead. There will be repercussions o, but with God u will sail through. |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by firstking01(m): 9:19am On Dec 23, 2015 |
Igbo people traditional protocols, smh |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 9:36am On Dec 23, 2015 |
What if they didn't grow up in Nigeria? What if they met and married outside Nigeria? icedbeatz: |
Re: How Can She Break This News To Her Fiance?!! by Nobody: 10:29am On Dec 23, 2015 |
STFUareyouGod:Ndi Igbo si na nku mba na enyere mba nri which means that a community's firewood is used to prepare their meal and it gets their meal done. an uncle of mine and his wife gave birth to their 2nd son and baby came into d world wt crazy stuff all over his skin, docs did all the could, dermatologist and whatnot even the best skin specialist in LA did with all their df drug and cream they prescribed nothing worked untill thay visited home durin xmas years ago and this baby was about 3 then the oldest man in our family then at 119 saw him and called him by one archaic name( name of a late fam) and this kid ran to him and hugged him. He then told my uncle that the skin reaction was a result of the boy wanting to be born at home and not a foreign country that he should bathe him with our village stream water and four days after he was bathed everything cleared meanwhike some docs approached my uncle with lot of zeros of dollars asking to buy off the baby for an experiment in order to find cure in case of tomorrow or if ppl strt suffering such and he smacked the the one that had the guts to say such trash and luckily no legal action ensued. So our customs and similar things like that knows no boundaries at all bros. We r nt westerners no matter hw we try or be programmed to think we r Africans and in this case IGBOS. These things happens and i guess other nlers got stories too. These shitt gives no fk about location, wish someone will teach it geography though hahahha. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
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