Hmmmm I sincerely feel ur pain brother,if I may suggest Fast for 3days and tell God 2 forgive her and urslf and lead u right for your next action which is run as fast as u can broooo

na was ooo.as my aunty will always tell me *my baby I pray that a bad hubby will Neva be ur portion buh if d bad hubby insists on coming to marry u let d car he will come with spoil on the road to ur house* @op ur wife really needs deliverance cos d devil is def using her to frustrate u. as for we singles I implore everyone of us to do underground questioning of his or her spouse to be to avoid did type of ish even if is ur long time bf/gf still ask cos human beings are deceitful esp wen it comes to marriage. becos though we are in 21st century yet dia are things that are old fashioned that we still need now esp in marriage. @op seek God more now and forget friend this pastor that cos u are the person wearing d shoe and knows where it pinches.

#blessings

EVEN THE BIBLE UPON WHICH THE CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE STANDS IS NOT AS STRICT AS YOU ARE. THE BIBLE ALLOW FOR DIVORCE IN D EVENT OF ADULTERY WHICH YOUR WOMAN IS ALREADY INTO. SECONDLY, IN ALL YOUR WRITE UP, THERE WAS NO TIME YOU MENTIONED THAT THE LADY WAS REMORSEFUL OF HER ACT, IT HAD ALWAYS BEEN THE PASTOR AND PARENTS BEGGING ON HER BEHALF. HOWEVER, I WILL NOT BE THE ONE TO TELL YOU TO LEAVE YOUR LOVELY WIFE BUT I WILL ADVICE YOUR SEARCH THROUGH THE BIBLE AND READ EVERYTHING THAT HAS TO DO WITH MARRIAGE THEREAFTER, YOU CAN ADVICE YOURSELF ON THE NEXT STEP. SUCCESS

Chrisbenogor:
As always we need to hear the other side of the story first. Then we can start balancing and giving our responses, unless you married a woman with mental issues.

Which other side of the story do you want hear from a married runs woman eh....e be like say na this kind of woman you dey like self

Check if she is not into drugs ..Run from Karashika brother..Your life has no duplicate and be VERY prayerful, this kind will kill you without looking back.My prayers are with you

Tallesty1:
You don't value your life bro

don't mind the brother, u better run for ur life, u have just enter one chance.

Oboy.hmmm.i bin wan marry in 3yrs o but e be like na to shift am go 5yrs

Mine hasn't turned to beating yet.but the manner at which he uses bad languages at my person is so heart breaking, op leave her Na!Abi u wan die young ni?

Read everything...OP leaving self won't be the solution ,that thing you call your wife must have done some "insurance" be it black magic or otherwise since she must have anticipated you trying to leave her.If you watch well,you are always caught in a web,a vicious cycle of wanting to leave her and reconsidering every sane decision you're supposed to have made since 2011.

Leave her,sanctify your house cus there is obviously some element of darkness in your abode.Shalom.

Op. If all what you have said is really true,you need no waste time again.
sharply go nullify the marriage the way INEC nullify wike's election.

The only condition for divorce in the bible is
If your spouse is adulterous.
If she is guilty of this, then you can leave her.

But I think you need to intercede for her because the relationship she had with her ex. Boy friend who is a cult leader is tomenting her and causing most of this issue. Couple with other men she is sleeping with.

Please for the sake of your life, stay away from Her for now. I mean separate from her and planning your life with prayers. Intercede for her prayerfully so that God will deliver her and restore

wamenzy:








don't u think ur d fool.... is better u just read and close ur mouth Dan opening ur mouth to say rubbosh

who is this maggot? Go get a life. Imbec!l.

Do you need a soothsayer to tell you that woman is about to finish your life with juju? What kind of advice are you looking for? Get evidence of her infidelity and act quickly. I can see that her juju is working seriously on you.

OP, if your story is true, your wife has serious mental issues and is a wicked woman....you better dust your slippers and leave that marriage with your daughter before she will train your children to become like she is.

If she wants to change, she can change but not with you living in her house. Her mission is obviously to destroy you and make you a nobody, she has begun... Since you married her, its been negatives. She most likely has cast a badluck spell and hypnosis spell on you...is it until you die and leave your child for her that you will be a good Christian? Be wise, even Jesus Christ has given you a good reason to divorce, unfaithfulness. So what are you still waiting for? Your death certificate? You deserve better abeg.

There is no reference anywhere in the bible that an unfairly treated man should remain in an insultive and violent marriage, it is your life.
According to you, your wife is:

1. Devilish and diabolic
2. Given to anger and provocation
3. Flirty and prostitutive
4. Spendthrift and nagging
5. Unrepentant and polluting
6. Difficult to decipher and violent
7. Seclutionist; she is isolating and do not reveal her mind

Your wife is a ticking time bomb waiting to blast. Find yourself another woman and divorce her properly. Begin life afresh. Lucky you, this is Nigeria, where the child you had by her is a girl, you may even cite the above factors and get custody of your daughter as she is from the above, not a capable mother.

Stop reporting her to people.

She may be sleeping with your pastor with the other woman, why they do not see eye to eye and why she is always covered by him. Be a man and learn.

Do not blame your marital failure on your inability at workplace to look for a woman yourself. The signs are clear; your attitude and personality prove you as trading your male and life for marriage, this is unbiblical. If you die in the marriage unhappy and dejected, you will not make heaven. Staying forever in an abusive and life threatening marriage is no guarantee for salvation.

Good luck to you!

Your story is touching brother as i try to give it a benefit of doubt, i'm also married so i put the whole of my self in your shoes, your life is in danger in the marriage and even you decide to file for divorce, with all her terrible harbit she still dont want to face the shame of divorce this i said you may still be in danger, i will surgest you file for seperation for now, along the line she might learn the hard way, sometime in life we learn only the hard way, so this could help you to think straight without much fear, the legal process will tell how both of you could be seing your baby. your story will also help me in my marriage. Cheers.

You are lucky to be alive bro. What nonsense are you talking of making heaven by living in hell here on earth! Get out of that marriage fast! You foolishness and that of your family is legendary. Do not be overtly foolish, do you want to die before your time?

I am planning to marry in 2016 but OP is now scaring me.


OP, you are a great man if what you wrote is the truth. I don't want to tell you to divorce your wife. I can imagine the trauma and drama involve.

DO WHAT YOU CAN HANDLE, AND CONSIDER YOUR LIFE, CHILDREN's LIVES AND THAT OF YOUR WIFE.

GET A JOB FIRST, WE ALL KNOW WHAT HAPPEN WHEN EVE FIRST PROVIDED FOR ADAM. GOD WAS ANGRY!

samocholi:

Greetings to u all,please I need a candid advise because am fed up and confused at same time.It all started in 2011 when I met my wife through my collegue in the bank. I used to work in operations and hardly have time to truly search for a wife that is what I thought back then.so I had this collegue of mind who appears responsible and is also a church worker in a responsible church,not all these money making churchs.so I confided in him , so one day he came to me that he has this lady where he normally goes to worship atimes that he will take me to meet her ,that she is God fearing ,a church worker and her father is a pastor in one of the northern states,which he did and introduced us and gradually we started dating,


I even took her to see my parent.to their amazement she woke up around 4am and swept and cleaned the house before we could even wake up for morning prayers.when my Dad saw this he was really please and was like this truly is wife material.but my Mum was like don’t conclude oh as per girls of nowadays that we should keep praying.at first I wanted us to do our traditional marriage in April 2012 and after that white wedding but she started indirectly pressuring me that we should do trad in August and white in November,2011.i thot about it,and with my naïve mind said to myself that since she seems nice and am ready to marry.


I agreed and we got married in 2011.we did both court and church marriage.immediatly we came back from honey moon my life has been one hell of a life or another.it began when my former collegue in the bank sent her sister to bring her cv to me incase we are recruiting so that I can submit for her.so the lady called later to thank me for the assistance and my wife was with me in the sitting room.it was around 7-8pm.after the call my wife started quarreling,that who is that lady calling me that am cheating on her,she went inside the room and brought out our wedding cert.that she will tear it and that we should go our separate ways.i became shocked ,I then told her that she can take the lady’s number or I can call the lady in her presence.that I don’t even know the lady. I did not even have the lady number in my phone,the lady collected my number to follow up and that is all.



I left her with my phones and entered the room.this was happening barely a month and a half after our wedding.as the days go by she started bringing different quarrels and problem.after like a year two month into the marriage,one faithful Friday night after I came back from work and I was fast asleep she woke me up around 11pm that we should talk.and I told her that if we can leave it till morning knowing fully well that the next day was satuday unless if the matter is btw life and death then I can wait.she said it is not btw life and death and was insisting that we talk before I knew it she brought out a knife and wanted to stab me so I manage to collect the knife and threw it into the wordrobe.


By then the sleep in my eyes cleared immediately and I was like what is the matter what is wrong or what wrong have I done to her,my people up till tofday she has not given me an answer.so she stood there speechless so I assume all is well then as I was going tom bed she took one of her high heel and struck me behind my head I fell down and went blank.after a while I woke up and saw her looking at me.so I got up and entered my car with blood all over me to her uncle’s house and showed them and told them what happened.before I continue we live in Abj,so the uncle called her parent and her mum came to Abj the next day.before then I had written and taken my divorce letter to the pastor that am not doing again.


After that the pastor and her people intervened and talked to her. I went to that my colleague that introduced her to me that what does he know about her that I may not know so he said she told him in confidence that she was in cult in the university and that her boyfriend then was the capon.she also told him that the boy friend was shot in school then and died in her arms.when I confronted her she down played everything and wanted to pick a quarrel,so that one died down.


Before I continue,am a banker ,and my wife has a boutique that she sells men wears in Abj. She hardly laughs but b4 we got married she was always laughing.i havs severally asked her what the matter is but she will say it is nothing. Before now I did not know that my wife is a runs girl,after our baby’s birth in Dec 2012 my wife went and did family planning without my consent,it was in the evening when the stuf started disturbing her that I got to know. In August last year that is 2014,I was watching news when she came back by 9:30pm,she started making it a habit of coming late in 2014 and that has caused serious quarrel btw us. So when she came in she droped her phone on the center table and went inside to take her shower.as I was watching the television I now said let me go through her gallery because she likes taking pictures.after that I now checked her messages.i was shocked what I saw.

She sent a text to a married man,saying that she cursed him with the sperm he pured inside her and the man said it was mutual that she is the one came to his house to collect money for the shoes and shirts he bought,he also said he will curse her with his children’s life that she is not the only one that has a child and insisted that it was mutual.at that point my hands started shaking and before I know I she jumped out of the bathroom with soap on her body to take her phone.immediatly she came to the sitting room and saw me with her phone she frozed for like 15seconds not knowing what to say after that I asked her who is the man and she said that I was one of her friends from owerri that used her phone to chat the man.

when I checked the chat history it was not just one day chat it spans four days becos the chat was very lengthy. So I was pissed off, I reported the issue to the pastor where we got married and he down play it that she cannot do such a thing..
My wife has quarreled with all my neighbours in my compound of 8 flat,she has also quarreled with our security guards at the gate to the extent that they have refused to wash her car.On 25 of dec 2014 after returning from the church my wife spreed her cloth under the sun and my neighbour’s puppy came and played with the cloth and tore part of it.the next day she went to tell then but she did not grt a good response so she went behind and boiled hot water and pured on the puppy. My neighbor’s wife went and call police for her the next day being Sunday.but their aim is to keep her in cell till Monday to teach her a lesson.unknown to them my uncle is a top police officer so I called him and we were able to bail her putting Monday date.since then small thing my wife will start saying things that she is suspecting me , that am having am affair.i now told her how,she now said a man that does not drink alcohol and does not smoke will surely womanise.i then asure her that I have done nothing of such.and truly since I married her four years ago I have never looked at any woman aside her.

To cut a long stry short,February this year as usual during valentine I to her to a shop and asked her to pick whatever she wants.then she picked cloths and shoes worth 70k and I paid. After that February ending I usually give her 50k for upkeep so tha day I had keep the 50k but there was a plumbing problem that I had to take 5k out of it to solve so I gave her 45k promising to bring the balance home or I credit her,and that faithful morning we were having a meeting in which a top official is coming from head office and my head of operations was nor around so I was sitting in for her.

so I asked my wife to help me take our daughter to sch that day as I have to rush to the office b4 time. After giving my wife the 45k she threw it on the floor that it is not enough and started insulting me that what kind of useless job is that ,unknown to me she had gone and locked the entrance door and taken the key,as I was about to go out I discovered that the door was lock,so I called her aunte to talk to her,as she was on the phone with the aunt I went through the back door. As I was about to drive out I saw my wife rushing to close the gate with only pant and singlet,I mean pant and singlet not bump hort or rapper.i was surprise,but before she could close the gate I had already passed she now took a big stone and stared running after the car.
she threw the stone at my suv ,it sounded like a bomb very loud.at first I did not know what happened untill I saw her running towards the car so I stoped,she now came held my side mirrow and started breaking it so I had to drive off. I was devasted and could not make it to work,so I called someone in the office that I won’st be able to make it to the office that am having some issues at home.


She went back to the house and called my Dad that if I come back she will kill me.so my Dad called me and I explained to him immediately what happened. so he said I should not go back home that day, I went and slept in a hotel In town .so the next day her mum came and I went home.Now it is not that am afraid of her but because I respect women and will not want to beat ofr fight her,I am far biger and taller than her if I decide to cough she will vanish so is not that am afraid of her am only respecting the marriage institution. When I got home the second day to resume work the third day I discovered that she had tore all my cloths,my shirt both office and casuals,all my suit including my wedding suit,.so I had nothing to wear the next day.so I missed work wednesdy,Thursday and Friday,during all these happening I have been in touch with my office and told them am having some family issues and could not make it to work.



I resumed the next Monday to work and everything seem to be going well, then on Tuesday I got a sack letter from human resources of the bank.unkonwn to me. the new manager that was posted to my branch got a querry for myself and the head of operations not being around for the initial meeting. so he was angry and he wrote to the bank’s human resources and when they checked that I was not logged on for the three days I was sacked,all because of my wife.most times she sends abusive texts messages to me while in the office.For instance if am attending to customers and she is calling and I did not pick on time she will now send a nasty text that I delibertly don”t want to pick her calls.i have even told her to come and see how we work in my office.so since march am yet to get any serious thing to do.
I January I had 2.5m I paid our rent 1m and part pay for a land 1m and the remaining 500k lasted us from march till june.as usual with banks I was not paid anything.so when my savings finished in june the major financial burden fell on her,with little coming from me now.Since then my wife has made my life a living hell with all sorts of insult. For example in November,there was nothing in the house so she went to southern fries and bought rice and chicken for herself,then bought a watery oha soup with out meat that I should make garri and eat with it.it was when I wanted to microwave it that I discovered that it was watery and has no meat.i did not say anything.


Most times I stay back at home unless I have an appointment or an interview just not to spend unnecessary .so I was checking one of the cupboard in our room and I saw somethings she got from a native doctor,they include a bottle of concosion with the label witches and wizards destroying oil,the second one was two of her bathing soap with burnt candle on it when I looked at the soap closely I saw small cross buried inside,the third thing I saw was the complimentary card of the native doctor.All these things I just mentioned are real and I have their pictures that I snapped.i picked them and went to her uncle’S place to show him and he was mad,he immediately called her parent to come to Abj immediately and I called my parent to come becos I told them I don’t want the marriage again. Both parties came and the meeting lasted from 5pm to 12 mid nite and continued again the next day.

she could not defend her sellf and I said am not doing again and everyone started beging that I should give her one more chance.and it seems the issues was resolved.i started my investigation and discovered that unknown to me my wife is a runs girl even b4 I married her and after marriage she continued .that is why she went and did family planning without my knowledge so that she can be sleeping with me with out condom.and this days she dresses sugestivly.i have reported to the pastor ,her parent about her dressing but she has not changed.presently she is fighting with a lady in her former church the lady is a leader in the church.she said the lady has been attacking her in the dream and anytime they lady sees her the lady calls her prostitute.She told me that the lady is sleeping with her pastor.My wife has bad mouth and insult at every provocation,she hadly laughs always moody but when some kind of men call her she will be laughing as if tomorrow no dey.

Today being Christmas as we were preparing to go to church,she was noW feeding our daughter who just turned 3 last week.becos the baby was being slow to eat she started shouting that if the baby does not eat quikly that she will injure her.when I heard that I came and told her that such statement to a baby is not good,I have cautioned her severally not to be telling the baby that she will injure her.because there was a day I was playing with our baby and the baby was telling me that she will injure me.so becos of that I cautioned her.that was all,instead of her to take corrections she started insulting me.that am useless,that the whole burden is on her that she regrets marrying me.that she will surprise me one of these days.


My dear brothers and sisters in the house especially the married ones I frankly need ur candid advise as I am tired of her ,her bad and unrepentant character and her evil ways but am only looking at the term Christian marriage in terms of divorce as I ultimately want to make heaven just as every one.

Thank u for taking ur time to go through my ordeal.

Brother, I have not finished reading your stories but you didn't do proper check-up before you married.

I will be very sincere with you, Pentecostalism has done a lot of wreck to some people when it comes to marriage. Though not in all Pentecostal churches. In those days, if anyone wants to marry, he or she could have like three suitors and wants to pick one, they will go and pray about it and usually God will tell the man of God who is right. Though, as we used to say, Marriage is not all bed of roses, their may be challenges but a battle had been won at the beginning. Now you have entered an unknown battle. You friends knows about her involvement with occultism he did not tell you. A proper spiritual check-up would have revealed such hidden secrete to you before you entered the trap and you can't come out because I don't support Divorce.

You have to go and pray o.

I will still write to you when I am able to read all your write ups.

Sorry, but there is nothing God cannot do.

Person you go give better beating..

ajuwarhodes:
Mine hasn't turned to beating yet.but the manner at which he uses bad languages at my person is so heart breaking, op leave her Na!Abi u wan die young ni?

You sef gi am back na shuu!!

My brother You have a serious issue, but not an impossible case. First I sense you are a religious guy but not a believer, So you felt marrying a church girl will do. Well I guess you know better. Before I continue, I want to advice all the unmarried men, if you want to marry, go to the maker of women and ask him to help you find one when u do, your hearts will click. Everyone who wants original goes to the manufacturer.
Back to you, first you have to admit you have made a mistake and go to God in prayers, I will suggest you pray and tell God that you can't help yourself that he should help you and turn ur mistake to miracles, cry if you have to.
Secoundly, leave the house and find a place where you can have the peace of mind to pray, I suggest your pastors house, this will help keep you from temptation, and avoid any suspicion. It will also give her the opportunity to think and make a decision that is from within.
Now surrender your life to Jesus and pray, after you feel the peace only Jesus can give, you have to face your wife, talk to her and pray with and for her. ( from your write up I noticed you have not talked to her, you are just always trying to pease her). ge your pastor to pray with you on the matter.
Finally wait, with your new nature love will flow feom.you naturaly and I've will break all barriers. Remember your daughter will want to have a complete home. God will guide you and I see you coming out strong. Remember what ever decision you make, be sure you have done all you can. Goodluck

kstadaura:
Somebody summarize this thing for me pls

The OP is playing with fire. God has tried His best to passover him the lurking evil but the guy is unrelenting. Maybe, just maybe he would one day be finally freed with only one eye missing. That's the best optimism I can surmon for him given his determination to kill or permanently injure himself in the name of marriage. Only the idiats seek advice on clear cut issues like this. That's the summary o.

ideology:
Op, it seems you don't value your life …

You even allowed it to get to this extent … after several attempts on your life



Better live and take care of your daughter, if you die in that house, i won't weep for you this is my last cry for you …

HE IS NOT A MAN... God knows I would have reached my breaking point within a few weeks of seeing her madness... I go let her know say, madness pass madness. That lady would have left my house long ago... that is guaranteed.

You missed out doing the investigation at the courtship stage, the fellow who introduced her to you is also wicked by withholding vital info of her past from you. You are way too permissive, and at the least temporary separation if not divorce is the way forward. The day she took out knife to stab you, you should have either locked her up in a room for that night to be thrown out early in the morning.

ERONX:
I will advice you like a brother... The bible clearly states it that one can divorce his/her partner if they engage in Adultery, the situation which you find yourself is very delicate. Your so called wife may end up poisoning you and I will like to advice you not to try fighting her, because I have seen several cases where innocent men out of frustration beat their wife and they up committing murder...
My final suggestion is for you to leave the house and file for a divorce I can tell u boldly that with this type of woman as a wife you will find it difficult to achieve success...

To add to this, pls go for test as well as divorce you have all the Biblical support to divorce her.
pls make sure u dont live with her next year. her diabolic means will only work if u are around her.
I'm a Rev. Priest but i ask u to divorce
i'll be praying for u

its page four but i have to say this.....u and the pastor are the only mad people in this post...sorry to say.....how can a man like u be advicing you to stay calm with a runz girl,armed robber,cultist?and he is even saying she cant do such things?i swear shes fvcking the pastor....



and ur a very big fuul.. i dont pity u o....i hope she kills u....what rubbish,she tore ur clothes?fvcked married men and ur still her claimimng love....even after seeing the juju its still working on you....omase ooo......eternal efo riro





when u die finish make she sha invite me for akara....before she continue to dey fvck around......



kaii.......i just pity u cos ur a nice person.....to a fault!

This is serious....

Well.... I have seen so many of these but this your own is a very strong case... Lose a wonderful job because of your already troublesome wife...

I pray that all is well with you and you pull thru this tough time...

Op pls hope yuh wife is not on naira land or this forum cos......hmm if she find what u just post here is another problem before I comment

You v to let go n let God have His way......

@op...your last sentence.... you are still in the marriage because you want to make heaven and you can't if you divorce. Have you ever read anywhere in the Bible where divorce is not an option? The Bible supports divorce.... and it specifies your situation....adultery. Since you are so desperate to make heaven... didn't the Bible tell you not to be unequally yoked?.....now here you are yoked with a woman of evil. Didn't the Bible warn you about wolves in sheep's clothing?...and here you are with a woman who you know is evil and be going to church like she be more holy than holy. You should've been long out of the marriage. My advice... gather your balls together and act like a man for once....get that your ranking police relative to lock her up for threatening you...hitting you...for something... two weeks in the hole where she can't carry out her juju rituals and I guarantee you she be leaving there a mad woman. You just need to be a man period