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Re: Upside Down Marriage by InvertedHammer: 1:09am On Dec 26, 2015 |
/ One of those rare moments that I am speechless.... / 2 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Opoki(m): 1:10am On Dec 26, 2015 |
@samocholi. That woman will kill you one of these days. I swear! 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Fadiga15: 1:12am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Spanner4: Nowadays ?? Guy, you be learner 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by tellwisdom: 1:16am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Mumu man...I think say u go don headbutt her comot for your house after all the things wey u don go through; not until i see another story for today being Christmas 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by danwa25(m): 1:18am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Bros u beta walk out of the marriage before it is too late for u because frm all indication u lost ur job because of her. So it is beta to walk before u lost ur life. Anyway today is my birthday, kindly like show some love by liking my comment. 4 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by gabinogem(m): 1:22am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Man know thyself... religion of yesterday was created for men to properly acknowledge & know who they really are in order to serve God in truth & in spirit, today it's just glorified confraternity. The fear of divorce is now greater than ur life?! Marriage is an institution which u also have a choice to walk out of it if it does not soothe ur life. Always remember that u can't change anyone who's not willing to change... Don't die sad. |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by ThundrCork(m): 1:22am On Dec 26, 2015 |
No right thinking man will allow this to happen without acting fast. OP i take it that your story is one sided. We need to hear from your wife first |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by bezimo(m): 1:22am On Dec 26, 2015 |
You married a very wrong woman and thats is why you are experiencing hell on earth. I have heard your kind of story from different men's experience. Guys beware, double check and double check that lady, Karashikas everywhere masquerading as wife materials. Proverbs said "A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenesss in his bones" "It is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a contentious(wahala) woman" proverbs 21:19 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by astute07(f): 1:23am On Dec 26, 2015 |
She's diabolical & psycho-trauma.just be very prayerful get a handwork that fetch an income. Then rent an apartment take ur little baby & vanish; from both ur wife & d families; even yours if possible.they r all tied down 2 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by leaderWills(m): 1:23am On Dec 26, 2015 |
You can divorce her on the ground of adultery and please pray, she is Still in cult. 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by CHIMSKY(m): 1:24am On Dec 26, 2015 |
samocholi:All this long story and you are still there? You are even in the same house happily eating her food and asking us what to do? My advice? Try and love her more. You havnt loved her enough. After al, marriage is for life. Mtschewwwwwwww You do not value your life. 3 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Reference(m): 1:30am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Read through your long epistle. Usually donot comment on non Christian unions because the institution of marraige is a God centred one. That is founded and operated by God. You made fleeting references to your relationship with God but by your actions you don't appear to relate with God at all. Your wife just as much. Remember. God created man complete and perfect before 'discovering the need' for a woman. You on the other hand were not completely ready for a wife so I cannot see why you expect any other outcome. To start with, your delegating of your responsibilities of 'finding' a wife is insulting to God (not surprised your idol of a job was uprooted) as it sets the agenda for the rest of your life in Christ. Even as a tata one of the first things I got to understand about God is that He personally takes charge of ALL THE IMPORTANT DECISIONS OF OUR LIVES particularly those which relate or can affect others so I inquire of God not about whether to wear black or grey socks but who, when, how to marry because man is not capable of making choices beyond what they see. |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Rhea(f): 1:31am On Dec 26, 2015 |
[size=18pt]@Samocholi: Mumu get levels for this life. It seems like you have a tender heart. Time will harden it. Many have given you very good advice on this forum. Warri man say Ë don reash". My brother, e don reash to take water wash that juju comot ya eye, wake up from your slumber and call this contraption you call marriage quits. If not, you will soon be on the cover of SUN newspaper as a murder victim. Be a man and send the bloody witch in your house packing. Use your fuc.king brains next time you wish to find a wife. Be careful with all those pastors and pastoresses around you. They are all gold diggers. Every single one of them.[/size] 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Nobody: 1:32am On Dec 26, 2015 |
This is why i dont trust many of these girls wey dey carry church matter for head.many of them are worse than jezebel and hitler combined. 5 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by igbonla(m): 1:35am On Dec 26, 2015 |
@ OP, The short answer to all the confusion in your house is that your wife is psychotic, it will get worse except she gets treatment. The two issues below, extracted from your narrative, made this conclusion possible: - "so I was checking one of the cupboard in our room and I saw somethings she got from a native doctor,they include a bottle of concosion with the label witches and wizards destroying oil,the second one was two of her bathing soap with burnt candle on it when I looked at the soap closely I saw small cross buried inside,the third thing I saw was the complimentary card of the native doctor". - "presently she is fighting with a lady in her former church the lady is a leader in the church.she said the lady has been attacking her in the dream and anytime they lady sees her the lady calls her prostitute". She is seeing and fighting imaginary enemies, this won't stop until she finds a solution. Her accusing you of certain acts also supports this and she may get to a point of fatally attacking you. She has mental health problem and needs help. Your biggest challenge will be in helping her since she won't agree that she is mentally ill (she is not mentally ill if she easily agree to see a doctor). What you do if she disagree will be the major decision for you. Some plan of action you can consider: -Talk to a doctor or psychologist about your observations - Talk to her parents sharing input from the doctor/psychologist, if there is an inference of psychosis by the doctor. - With or without her parents, you may have to drag her to the hospital for necessary treatment In the interim, minimize confrontation. Let her have the impression of being in control. Secure your life (sleep in another room, locked when you are sleeping). Be extremely vigilant. PRAY for wisdom! Wish you best of luck. 5 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by ebosed: 1:36am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Hmm. From Experience l would like to read your wife's comment or statement before I can comment or advise you. You both need proper counseling, (not from your pastor, or parents or relatives) but from certified marriage therapist like me. After that, we can then ascertain, what the next line of action should be. I can be contacted through prudentpentium@yahoo.com |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by LyfeJennings(m): 1:37am On Dec 26, 2015 |
I gotta curse U a bit man U ARE MAD UR PASTOR IS MADDENING YOUR PARENTS, I'm speechless All that happened to U and U still married. O ti ya were 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by RedCapChief(m): 1:38am On Dec 26, 2015 |
ajuwarhodes:Yes that is the wise thing to do. Get both family members involved and lay your complaints in a respectful way. All the best. |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Ariemuogaga: 1:40am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Touching!while reading the story a sort of coldness went through my spin! You are indeed a man and a true husband, you've traveled miles in courage and perseverance, if your story is nothing but truism. Here, seek the face of God first, then divorce can come afterward. From the kind of woman typified and exposed in your narrative, it will only take the intervention of God through the Holy Spirit to change are story and history. Finally, there's nothing impossible with God, But if ye believe, the question is, does she? if no, divorce her peaceful and with love. |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by compujyde: 1:41am On Dec 26, 2015 |
... 2 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by ebukav(m): 1:41am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Op hmmmm wat are u stil doing dere, na die u dey so Well u nid to change church cause Is like dat her pastor no like u and u can travel 4 a while stay like 3 to 4 months away 4rm d house I bet u her brain go correct sharp sharp, Women women women if u survive dem den, u will live long I tell u. Op since u are in abj I can refer u to my church deir 4 house deliverance, cause u and ur family nids it cause she don give u chop and clean mouth by nw. Inbox me if interested |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by jakmankind(m): 1:45am On Dec 26, 2015 |
leaderWills:to emphasized on op marriage is an institution between a man and woman come together to become one and that is why 1+1=1.let me explained it better you is d first 1.God is d plus in between yuh wife which is another 1.that is why both of u are 1 but d moment + which is out of marriage is out then u become 2 which against the law of marriage and that is why Jesus Christ say it that u can divorce yuh wife because of adultery cos all manner of sin man commit outside the body except adultery within yuh body and remembered our body are d temple of d living God so my brother u have all right to divorce her with this yuh story but pray first and seek God face by yuhself before u take any decision but always remembered bad marriage can easily make some1 lose heaven too |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by nfour4(m): 1:45am On Dec 26, 2015 |
The best option for you now is to man up, and send her back to her parents house and make sure you keep the baby with you. if u can't take good care of the baby take her to your mother. After you are done with that, prayer and fasting that God should restore your home and fulfill his promises in your life CHIMSKY:The best option for you now is to man up, and send her back to her parents house and make sure you keep the baby with you. if u can't take good care of the baby take her to your mother. After you are done with that, prayer and fasting that God should restore your home and fulfill his promises in your life |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by mcdonald247(m): 1:48am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Brother you are a real man,if all this are real,if her mother is a house wife invite her to come and stay with your famiy for four months so that she will monitor your wive with her activities,is only mummy that can call her to other,with prayers too. |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by FolabiCash: 1:54am On Dec 26, 2015 |
You see, this is why I hate pastors atimes. I'm ver sure the pastor telling you to stay put in this kind of demonic marriage wont do such. USE YOUR HEAD AND QUIT THE WHOLE SHII. 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by vivavik(f): 1:55am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Tallesty1:naim be say u read all. Lol. It's sad coming from a woman who should love with all her strength. Kai! |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by amazingspiderma: 1:57am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Bros you are the problem of the marriage not your wife.You don't have principles or wisdom.Just look at how you allowed a woman destroy your life and that of those who depend on you. Read about Vashti in the bible and how she fell therefore making room for Esther. A woman that will not honour her husband is only planning his down fall. Every wise woman builds her house,but the foolish one plugs it down with her hands. It not enough to claim she attends church. Some people are not worth giving the risk.Imagine if you continue this way untill your daughter grows up.Love yourself and most importantly I recommend you study the whole book of proverbs with understanding.It will help your life. Take this moment to rebuild your life and stop meeting that pastor of yours,he does not have your best interest.You have trusted the judgement of others so far and look at where it has landed you.it is time to build yourself and pray for wisdom like Solomon did.Wisdom is the principal thing,without it,you stand no chance to survive challenges of life. Please I dare you to study the book if proverbs,if your don't receive insight within two days write to me. I am believing God that He will show you a way out and restore you. This is not just a prophetic word,it is an unshakable fact. |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by bellville: 1:57am On Dec 26, 2015 |
Run as far as your legs can carry you. If your legs fail, take a bike. My uncle had this kind of wife- very diabolic and wicked. I can relate with the scenario you described. She made him lose his job and dignity. My uncle left with his three kids. Thanks to family members who took custody of the kids till he was able to find his feet. 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by cabosnoopy(m): 2:03am On Dec 26, 2015 |
My brother...I beg u with God..u gas get closer to God and triple ur prayers...however bro its better u leave dat house... I mean run,fly even vanish if possible...heaven na one way journey ooo no return ticket for sale...may God guide and strengthen u...u will definitely c 2016 and more years to come..btw heaven help those who help demselves enough of family intervention be a man I do d right tin(forfeit d house, d jezebel of a wife(pardon me) ur selfcentered inlaws(pardon me again) and ignore d pastor. take ur daughter to ur mum..and get ursef a job life goes on.. Merry christmas |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by AVRecruit: 2:03am On Dec 26, 2015 |
i presume she is a 'fine' girl. physical beauty is meaningless. dont follow a girl just because she is 'fine' 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by captain4444: 2:03am On Dec 26, 2015 |
BROS I READ UR STORY SO TOUCHING BECAUSE I AM A MARRIED MAN TOO. PLEASE DIVORCE THAT LADY COS LIGHT AND DARKNESS CAN NEVER MEET TALKING SHARING THE SAME BED. GOD FORBID |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by toksbisola: 2:04am On Dec 26, 2015 |
@Op; sorry about your predicament. From what you have narrated, one can align this to Bipolar WHICH IS A Mental Health Disorder and Mental Health Disorders’ are at 4 levels; namely; Level 1 is when the situation have reached the stage where you need to be sectioned Level 2 is when you need constant medication to help you function and to reduce the pressure that the condition puts on you Level 3 is when you’re about to be prescribed medication to help with mood swings Level 4 is when you’ve just been diagnosed Your wife’s case looks to me as an advanced stage where its getting close to her being sectioned. As you mentioned that she threatened you with a knife; that is very serious as she could kill you and she won't even know she's done that until later after she has carried out the deed. She really NEEDS MEDICAL HELP FAST and probably she also needs to be on medication constantly to HELP WITH HER DIAGNOSIS and avert her mood swings to be more proactive and function in a stable condition. The question is CAN YOU KEEP COPING WITH THIS SORT OF BEHAVIOR AND COPE WITH HER MENTAL DISORDER? It’s a crucial question as you’ll always have to know how to handle the situation(s) that’ll arise and best believe, THE SITUATION(S) ARE FULLY ARISING AS YOU YOURSELF HAVE NARRATED HERE. It’s obvious you didn’t pick up on her waking up at 4am to sweep the house as EYE SERVICE and as you’re not a woman, you wouldn’t have been in a position to know if she was playing the eye service game just to make you her own and bang; you were hooked and now that she's married to you, she started showing you her true color. There was no need for you to have rushed into marrying her especially since you didn’t carry out enough due diligence in knowing her fully during your courtship era; hence this nightmare circumstances you’re currently experiencing would have been averted. I'll always say it, that what you know you can’t tolerate during your courtship stage, should be curbed; as it’ll only get worst after marriage. What I am not sure of is if she herself is aware that she has a problem possible of a mental health nature. Did she at anytime mention this to your friend who introduced you to her at the beginning who subsequently never informed you? Note that a MENTAL HEALTH CONDITION can be hereditary i.e it can be passed on to the child(ren) you have. Although it is not 100%, THAT IS SOMETHING YOU’LL HAVE TO BEAR IN MIND as you move forward. Aside that, she’ll have mood swings as you have attested to; and it’s not because she wants to be unreasonable but SADLY, it’s just that she can’t help it. As you perceive your life to be in danger, due to the things you have discovered, now is the time for you to think and act fast as to what you intend to do and because a mental health disorder (which is how I currently class the case of your wife from your write-up) HAS NO KNOWN CURE and that’s why she probably needs medical help to curtail her condition in order to help her function and have a stable life whether you decide to stay with her or not. Going forward, be prayerful; but also note that there are 2 options viz; 1) Stay with her (you can get killed) and endure the treatment she’s currently giving you but see if there is anyway you can both get help together through counseling. 2) Seek for a divorce (bear in mind that you have a child to think of) as she has committed adultery which is a ground for divorce and in that process save your life. I hope you yourself are squeaky clean I.e. you haven’t committed adultery yourself. The choice is yours and yours alone to make. Also don’t forget that she played an active role in making you loose your employment and as if that’s not enough, she’s also currently becoming an ACTIVE TROUBLE MAKER with no intention of calming down as you have stated above. Having said all the above, we haven’t heard your wife’s side of the story to know if there are things you yourself are involved in that is making her behave like this. THERE ARE ALWAYS 3 SIDES TO A STORY; YOUR SIDE, THEIR SIDE AND THE TRUTH. Lastly, I hope other men/women would learn a thing or 2 from your experience. One more thing, I know you might think it’s odd; but I’ll strongly advise you to go and carry out a DNA test on your daughter to be absolutely sure that she’s yours 99.99%. As you’ve mentioned that your wife has a philandering nature. I rest my case. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
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