seriously facing the same issue. pls advice

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JudgementHammer:
He must be mel-phleg and perhaps u too. Well I'm not married but one thing I've noticed is that many people don't knw abt themselves and I've notiiced that introverts knw abt themselves more than the extros, perhaps bcus they have a more developed brain.

My advice is if u can't see a psychologist, then read more abt personality temperament of d opposite sex and advice him to read abt it later too especially after u've read and understood him so well. I won't say u shd see a pastor cuz no matter how u pray it doesn't change his person except ure d extreme xtain, then d holy sprt can refine ur personality-not change it

U also need to consider d weakness of extros wch u say u like, they may not be able to give u dat very close n intimate attention u desire cus of their loud nature and they're every ladies' men. As for ur guy, u shd knw he must have had some brutality in his growing stage for him to have such a nature so do what will boost his battered psychy/ego, don't compare urself with other ladies. Funny enough, respect from a woman for him maybe best defined by kneeling b4 him but he might nt be able to tell u cus u would think afterall many women don't do that in this modern age.

More developed brain? Are you kidding me?

aly123:
we are much more than these when we are together, I luv 'us' but d problem is the way we are to other people. I mean being shy

I know what it's like.

I once dated an introvert and I'm an introvert.
The relationship what pretty sh*tty.

It was during my under G days and I couldn't understand that opposite attracts.

Oliviaarims:
Two introverts dating...

Woman: Life has become meaningless. Nothing seems to be working. No money, no friends, no family. What's the point in living?

Man: Yea, life is meaningless. Let's die.

Woman: Nice idea, I think we should just die.

4 your mind now, you don make sense.....smh

U know both of u are introverts, do u want to kill him? U are asking too much from him, some people know me as a talkactive while some know me as a quiet guy, the truth is i love surprising people, if u think am this, i will be that, my case is complicated try to think whether is the same with him

introvert + introvert = extrovert

Of course you can and you should.

It's a relationship and not a debating team.

Does he love you?
Does he respect you?

Do you feel the same way towards him?

If yes, go for it.


More importantly, should be HIV/genotype test

I am also introvert. People will call your marriage boring, but i tell you, youre gonna enjoy evry bit of it. Trust me, there wont be case of infidelity in your marriage, youre gonna raise kids that would grow up in a peaceful home(introverts most likely will not nag and cases of noise and fight will not be glaring). Most importantly r u sexuqlly compatible? Cos introverts are shy to express their sexual feeling.
All the best dear

I'm an introvert, I don't think I can marry an extrovert lady. My heart isn't made out of iron.

missdebs:
seriously facing the same issue. pls advice

the op CAME before u.

Hmmmmm.....

daretodiffer:

More developed brain? Are you kidding me?

Yeah. Dats what birth their creativity and sensitive nature. They are always thinking analytically and cuz they do more of thinking than others, they tend to quietly be on their own and talk less

Oliviaarims:
Two introverts dating...

Woman: Life has become meaningless. Nothing seems to be working. No money, no friends, no family. What's the point in living?

Man: Yea, life is meaningless. Let's die.

Woman: Nice idea, I think we should just die.

Oh lawdy lawdy. This is so funny

aly123:
we are much more than these when we are together, I luv 'us' but d problem is the way we are to other people. I mean being shy

Why do you care what other people think?

Am seriously wondering at this point how old you are.

The fastest way to lose out a good relationship is to listen to what other people say except the guy is a violent person or the girl is a flirt.

Any other conditions, fcuck what people think.
Don't make the mistakes so many have done.

introvert go receive many mentions notification tonight

Inter marital communication is key. Once both of you flow well, forget about us (the rest of the world)

IamDejman:
You can marry but expect a boring marriage

you are wrong, they can be shy among other people but extrovert when alone.

I am an introvert, and I will definitely like to marry an introvert. Introverts are actually best friends to one another, because we understand each other. If you want to know whether you are compatible due to introversion, try to be in a long term(about 1 year or more) and engaging relationship with him. About being shy and not being able to face audience, that's physiological, most likely it will get suppressed a bit after marriage, like I say, people evolve based on necessity. But I would suggest, he should visit a psychologist. I also have the same difficulty of addressing public (fear of public speech), but I tend to overcome to it when situation presents.

PushMusic:
Being an introvert is one.
Being outspoken and courageous is another.

I am an introvert but also voice out my opinion when the need arises without fear or favour.

God Bless U jawe!

I think as introverts you guys would make a great couple, because you would understand yourselves better, spend more time with each other than going to parties, be able to raise good children and who says you two cant have fun together.

It is great been an introvert check this out. http://introvertspring.com/love-between-two-introverts/

missdebs:
seriously facing the same issue. pls advice

am really glad someone understands exactly how I feel

Both of you need to build yourself confidence I'm an also introvert. before now, I wasn't the outspoken type, all you guys need to do is to build up your self confidence, it won't be that easy but you just have to try

Mafking:

4 your mind now, you don make sense.....smh

I wonder.......i don't know y some people won't just prefer to kip their mouth shut instead of spewing trash.

aly123:
we are much more than these when we are together, I luv 'us' but d problem is the way we are to other people. I mean being shy

Learn not to give half, not to talk of a f**k about how "people" perceive you or your relationship, by that you would have solved a lot of problems, even the issue of being shy. "People" ain't just worth it.

aly123:
Hello Nlanders,i need your advice as am in a confused state of mind. I have a guy who loves me so much that I wonder if I could ever get such love from anybody else again and I also love him as well but the issue I have with this guy is that I am an introvert and he is also one. Prior to meeting him,i had always wanted a guy that is outspoken, bold nd courageous but on the contrary, my guy is a very shy person (more than I am), not bold, cant face a crowd which I also can't do which makes me wonder what happens if either of us is to do something of such in future amongst other things. Please I would like to know if introvert/introvert relationships work. Please matured minds or married ones here who has been in this situation should let me know how they dealt with it.
Cc : lalasticlala

All that you described do not really mean introversion. Introverts talk only when it is necessary, introverts are bold and courageous. About facing a crowd, introverts can face a crowd but only to discuss topics they are really interested in, although it may be awkward at the beginning. Visit quietrev.com for enlightment. Goodluck to you.

Oliviaarims:
Two introverts dating...

Woman: Life has become meaningless. Nothing seems to be working. No money, no friends, no family. What's the point in living?

Man: Yea, life is meaningless. Let's die.

Woman: Nice idea, I think we should just die.

That's trash, introverts are not boring people, we actually humorous, nice, loyal to a fault, the best couple that can ever be. So stop kidding yourself.

ritababe:


you are wrong, they can be shy among other people but extrovert when alone.

Are you trying to pacify them?

I doubt it a lot.

It doesn't pay at all

JudgementHammer:
He must be mel-phleg and perhaps u too. Well I'm not married but one thing I've noticed is that many people don't knw abt themselves and I've notiiced that introverts knw abt themselves more than the extros, perhaps bcus they have a more developed brain.

My advice is if u can't see a psychologist, then read more abt personality temperament of d opposite sex and advice him to read abt it later too especially after u've read and understood him so well. I won't say u shd see a pastor cuz no matter how u pray it doesn't change his person except ure d extreme xtain, then d holy sprt can refine ur personality-not change it

U also need to consider d weakness of extros wch u say u like, they may not be able to give u dat very close n intimate attention u desire cus of their loud nature and they're every ladies' men. As for ur guy, u shd knw he must have had some brutality in his growing stage for him to have such a nature so do what will boost his battered psychy/ego, don't compare urself with other ladies. Funny enough, respect from a woman for him maybe best defined by kneeling b4 him but he might nt be able to tell u cus u would think afterall many women don't do that in this modern age.

more developed brains?:?..

Introvertness has solution simply face ur fear or anything that make u shy, although u might fail but thatz the foundation to overcome shy and her siblins

The basic difference between an introvert and an extrovert is that while the latter gains energy whenever he is partying or among his friends, the former loses energy or balance.
An extroverted lecturer/teacher likes it when his students hover round him in his office while an introverted one doesn't feel comfortable with it but a matured and well bred introvert will react accordingly but a nominal introvert cos of shyness will play along though it will work against him either at the long run or short run.
Any other aspect like confidence issues, speech issues etc are character based issue. Haven't you seen an extrovert that developed goose bumps upon facing audience. From the Christian point of view, shyness, talkactvines are ill nature.

Babe I can promise you that nobody is 10/10. What if you find a next guy that is an extrovert and then he turns out to be a woman beater?

Work it out with him.