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Re: Upside Down Marriage by TV01(m): 8:12pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
bukatyne: https://www.nairaland.com/2707664/divorce-lawyers-d-house-pls/9#39654978 TV 4 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Moana(f): 8:17pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
Samocholi you should never judge a person based on what you have heard about them, you need firsthand experience. Your marriage is made by the 2 of you and no one else. Marriage is something that shouldn't be taken lightly before you enter into such a commitment you need to get to know the person well. Get to know about important things that may have happened in the past that may affect the future. In your case this doesn't sound like a wife but rather an evil spirit. I would advice you leave the house or send her back to her parents house so you guys can think things clearly to see what your really want out of life. Its best you guys stay away from each other for sometime because being in the same place is becoming toxic. If you decide to divorce for the sake of your wellbeing so be it. |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Nobody: 8:20pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
TV01: bukatyne: Let us quote the context too. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by bukatyne(f): 8:32pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
TV01:OK I used the word shitty in context of a specific thread And the message of that post is that women should leave shitty marriages? I knew you wouldn't disappoint. 2 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by bukatyne(f): 8:35pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
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Re: Upside Down Marriage by cococandy(f): 8:52pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
I can't even read all this. Why did I even bother in the first place ![]() Just read the beginning and the end. Maybe I'll do the rest later. So bukatyne's words are mine right? Issorait. Edited. Dropped what? ![]() TV01: 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by TV01(m): 8:58pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
Mindfulness:And how was the context not quoted? I posted the whole link for people to read, not an excerpt. bukatyne:Well Kimoni called you a serpent. And you were soooo hoping I would disappoint in a sense - 2 seconds ![]() Your implication is patently clear; 1. People - especially women - should not be made to stay in shitty marriages. 2. You did not actually define "shitty", hence it becomes subjective and self-defined 3. You were accusing me of doing just that - advising women stay in shitty marriages; so by implication, your meaning is clear. 4. You could not find, nor present any evidence of my doing so when challenged. Or would you or your co-campaigners like to advise what you meant - in context ![]() TV 4 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by TV01(m): 9:02pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
cococandy:You are co-campaingers for divorce, along with several others. Between you, you have inter-alia campainged to 1. have the stigma removed from divorce, 2. diminish the sanctity of marriage and, 3. even normalise divorce as a good thing. I thought you had a bun in your oven ![]() TV 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by cococandy(f): 9:12pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
TV01:You're one weird fellow. So protecting the sanctity of marriage includes advocating those who find themselves in awful marriages die in it just to keep appearances? I don't know about you but to me, that is actually what diminishes the sanctity of the whole institution and what it truly stands for. A union. Not a bondage. No I've not delivered my baby. Not yet time. ![]() Thanks for asking. 3 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by TV01(m): 9:20pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
cococandy:An awful (or shitty) marriage does not mean death ensues, or that divorce is the best option. If championing strong, healthy marriages is weird, no problem. Godspeed. TV 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by bukatyne(f): 9:26pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
TV01: I just had to smile at this post. You should be the one to tackle your comprehension issues. It is pointless going back and forth you. I wish you happiness in 2016; you need it. 3 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by bukatyne(f): 9:28pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
cococandy: If it was my actual words sef, it wouldn't be so bad. |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by TV01(m): 9:33pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
bukatyne:Comprehension can be worked on - but your single digit IQ will always present problems; you are as thick as two short planks ![]() bukatyne:If the message is not that women should leave shitty marriages, what were you taking me to task for ![]() TV 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by cococandy(f): 9:37pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
TV01:Maybe you intend to but You're actually not. It's funny you see it that way and see those who feel DV has no place in anything that calls itself marriage as the opposite. You're championing enduring avoidable suffering and pain in the name of staying married. I'm for strong healthy marriages. (Which is one where there's no abuse) Not ones bursting at the seams with horror stories but patched up and managed to avoid the word divorce. 3 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Nobody: 9:47pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
TV01: Let me quote it again because it beautifully shows how you love to take statements out of context. ![]() bukatyne: So where exactly did she say HERE that "she considers a shitty marriage as grounds for divorce"? ![]() ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by siwo1: 9:51pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
Jesus said, i present to u life and death but, choose life that ye may live. Bro i present to u peace and calamity but , choose peace that ye may have rest of mind. Gbam!!!!! |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by TV01(m): 10:38pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
cococandy:Where have I ever stated that people should endure suffering and pain ![]() ![]() On the contrary, you and your cohort prescribe divorce for anything self-defined as "shitty or awful". And not only that, but you 1. Never correctly contextualise domestic relationships vis-a-viz marriage 2. Give any heed to types and degrees of abuse 3. Or the fact that it cuts both ways 4. And possibly worse of all, never give any pause for thought, or consideration to the importance of the foundations of marriage. cococandy:As above, you are not. Not least because, abuse to a degree - even if only for a period - characterises many marriages, but that does not mean that it is serious or horrendous, or that divorce is the panacea. And even a zero-tolerance approach to abuse is not best served by a blanket divorce policy. You are a divorce proponent, and have been challenged repeatedly for raising it even when the situation does not warrant it. And your blinkered and un-nuanced focus on violence and death in order to valorise divorce is very damaging to healthy families. TV 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by TV01(m): 10:49pm On Dec 27, 2015 |
Mindfulness:You are both as thick as each other. I asked this already; TV01:So, ask you friend to answer that, as well as this; "Should women stay in shitty marriages?" ![]() TV 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by bukatyne(f): 1:03am On Dec 28, 2015 |
TV01: Thank you for telling us you have comprehension problems, single digit IQ and very thick. It would help in future interactions. Oya calm your nerves, get used to the fact your opinion doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things and prepare for 2016. Compliments of the season. 6 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by cococandy(f): 1:59am On Dec 28, 2015 |
I just can't deal. Of course I've been challenged by folks like you who like to read A and pretend that you saw B. If you have tangible evidence that I prescribed divorce as a solution except in any case that involves abuse (precisely physical abuse), then kindly tender evidence or go back to mischievously misinterpreting what I say just to score cheap points. TV01: 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Joel3(m): 8:54am On Dec 28, 2015 |
[quote author=expozey post=41367151][/quote]thanks. |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by ohanile: 12:09pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Bros. Mail me. friokwuyo@gmail.com Let's talk. I am in abuja. Cannot advice u here o. Lets see one on one |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by TV01(m): 1:25pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
bukatyne:As usual, trying to hide behind snarky behaviour ![]() ![]() Answer the questions. Call your cohort to help. Afterall Mindfulness likes to ride to the rescue like a marine - but usually ends up looking like a kwashiorkwor ridden child soldier ![]() ![]() 1. If the message is not that women should leave shitty marriages, what were you taking me to task for? 2. Should women stay in shitty marriages? 3. And finally, if you didn't mean what I claim you meant, what exactly where you saying? Before 2016 please lest you miss your blessing ![]() TV 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by TV01(m): 2:16pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
cococandy:How can you deal ![]() Moreover, and as much as I've repeated this a number of times, incidences of physical abuse do not in all cases warrant divorce. Divorce will not necessarily be the best or preferred outcome - even for the parties involved. Your blanket policy is wrong-headed and damaging to couples, families and wider society. Further, trying to sell your efforts to normalise divorce as you championing strong marriages, is a disingenuous as it gets. Anyway, here’s one you requested; read your own posts on this thread ; https://www.nairaland.com/2088202/he-changed-almost-completely And my gently pointing it out to you, as had 5minsmadness & others – repeatedly; https://www.nairaland.com/2088202/he-changed-almost-completely/6#29755931 Now, please show me evidence of my ever doing what you accuse me of below; cococandy: TV 6 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Nobody: 3:05pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
TV01: I am a lover not a fighter. ![]() |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by TV01(m): 5:52pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Mindfulness:Shift jor, empty barrel. Go and muster your cohort and come and answer the questions. But of course, you can't, non of you can. If na love 0, weda na fight, you lose - as always ![]() TV 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Nobody: 5:55pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
TV01: You won, you alway win. Do you feel better now? ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by TV01(m): 6:00pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Mindfulness:Be quiet. When you think you are on the ascendency, you form fighter. When you get your behind handed to you - gift wrapped for Christmas ![]() Where is the she-beast Bukatyne, let her come and answer the questions, or clearly state what she meant. Oshi koshi gbo-gbo - stuffed like turkeys ![]() TV 4 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Chrisbenogor(m): 6:12pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Nna OP where are you? I hope the stone did not miss the car "mirrooww" and nack ya head? 3 Likes |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by Nobody: 6:16pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
TV01: TV01 at his best! ![]() He will swiftly sacrifice and betray his coherent belief system - a religion that has unconditional love, even for one's enemies, at its core in order to give vent to his massive resentment because of some strangers - he only met online - who don't even care whether he is dead or alive. Dear TV01, I don't mind, not even all the name-calling, as long as it gives you some sense of relief. I want everyone to feel happy. ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by TV01(m): 7:03pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Mindfulness:Au contraire - my best is simply not required to deal with you and your cohort. If you saw my best, your blasphemy would become idolatory. My worst sef is too good ![]() Mindfulness:The resentment is all yours - for lacking anything that can be rightly labelled a faith, religion or belief system. Only feelings - "butterfly religion", the gospel of "catch a feeling" ![]() And unconditional love - not that you have a clue what true love actually is - does not mean agreeing with, or celebrating everything anyone choses to do or say. Catch up and quit dulling the convo with your scanty knowledge of Christianity and the Bible ![]() Mindfulness:Believe me, I derive great joy - at little cost - from "mindlessly" bashing you and your cohort - and although it's tantamount to criminal abuse, I can't get charged with DV when I do it, as it's consensual ![]() TV 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Upside Down Marriage by mhuyil: 4:44pm On Dec 29, 2015 |
She has taken everything from him already ![]() |
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