Yesterday during the interview, a discussion came up by tosynetoomuch and another guy(forgotten his moniker) and I was amazed even the guys noticed this problem.


My question goes thus;




Why is it that when a girl is totally dependent on a guy, guys tag her a cheap slut, gold digger and all sort of names. And when a girl is Kindda focused and is independent. Working and taking good care of herself guys still come up with names for her saying all sort of things. It gets even worse if she's married. The insecure husband Kindda forces, threatens or blackmails her to quit her job





All these got me wondering. people keep saying its hard to please a woman but for a man its near impossible.





What do you guys really want from a lady?






primeministerr





Andycruiz






Naijaboiy







Wristbangle







STFUareyouGod







Obiorathesubtle









Goodheart02







DarlingtonIIV


(please come and give us light)

Hmm

Inferiority complex is worrying any guy/husband that is not comfortable with the wife wealth. And poverty is worrying any guy that would tag a gal who depend on him as goal digger bla bla bla




Because some rich dude even went as far as telling their ladies not to stress themselves working that they are capable of taking care of them
Anyway, individual differences sha but ladies should learn to be independent

Depending on d lady

pet4ril:
Inferiority complex is worrying any guy/husband that is not comfortable with the wife wealth. And poverty is worrying any guy that would tag a gal who depend on him as goal digger bla bla bla




Because some rich dude even went as far as telling their ladies not to stress themselves working that they are capable of taking care of them
Anyway, individual differences sha but ladies should learn to be independent

Ronaldo.... keep dribbling

You av said it all.


It's simply inferiority complex nd insecurities.




Jux knw dat man is insatiable

tonie123:


Ronaldo.... keep dribbling

hahhahahhahahahhah lolzzz

sinaj:
You av said it all.

It's simply inferiority complex nd insecurities.



Jux knw dat man is insatiable

and women are satiable abi? Make i just dey look u......

I really don't know

Of course, men dislike women who are too dependent on them. Ladies who would only take from you but would have nothing else to offer, asides their bodies. Ladies who see you as a living, breathing and walking wallet to deep their thirsty fingers in any time they want, just to satisfy their foolish greed.

We hate ladies who lack the drive and desire to work hard for their own financial success, so that when you get into a relationship with them, it won't be a replica of a parasitic relationship where one partner gains at the expense of other.

But the idea that guys do all those things you mentioned to independent women, or view them in such a way, is very wrong, and is a case of hasty generalization.

A man who is wise and confident and who knows his worth, would never feel threatened by a woman who is financially independent. He would never be afraid to go into a relationship with her.

It's only a man who is insecure that would feel threatened by a woman who is financially independent.
A real man would cherish such woman. He would appreciate her and value her worth.

And to answer your question about what men want: Men want a woman who understands her role as a friend, wife and mother. A woman who acts as a help to her man, both financially and otherwise. A woman who is open to new ideas, and willing to try out new stuff for the betterment of the relationship. A woman who has a vast wealth of knowledge and who can engage intelligently in various kinds of discussions, not just some asinine, empty headed bimbo.

A woman who is smart enough to be able to render advise and proffer solutions to issues especially at times when her man is short of ideas. A woman who possesses good character, both in the home and outside the home. A woman who values her family/relationship and would never sacrifice it's unity and peace for anything.

@op, this discussion will continue to surface until we come to realise dat it is nt a man vs woman but an individual matter. People are shaped by dere believe system, choices, experiences and environment.

younghartz:
Depending on d lady

How does it depend on the lady?

what all guys want ....Sex ..

This is not peculiar to a set of gender alone.


if a guy gives a lady all she wants he is termed a maga , if he doesn't then her is called selfish, irresponsible and so on.


Human being by nature loves criticising, No matter what you do or how you do it there will be comments. So why trouble yourself considering people's say in your decision.


Op I think you should focus on what your guy wants from you. Because if you continue to generalize your question, trust me you won't get anywhere.

Greekgoddess:
I really don't know

Abi ooh.



And such comments are rampant here on NL

shegxi:
@op, this discussion will continue to surface until we come to realise dat it is nt a man vs woman but an individual matter. People are shaped by dere believe system, choices, experiences and environment.

Buh u agree there are guys that insult young single independent ladies right?

dachaste:
Yesterday during the interview, a discussion came up by tosynetoomuch and another guy(forgotten his moniker) and I was amazed even the guys noticed this problem.


My question goes thus;




Why is it that when a girl is totally dependent on a guy, guys tag her a cheap slut, gold digger and all sort of names. And when a girl is Kindda focused and is independent. Working and taking good care of herself guys still come up with names for her saying all sort of things. It gets even worse if she's married. The insecure husband Kindda forces, threatens or blackmails her to quit her job





All these got me wondering. people keep saying its hard to please a woman but for a man its near impossible.





What do you guys really want from a lady?






primeministerr





Andycruiz






Naijaboiy







Wristbangle







STFUareyouGod







Obiorathesubtle









Goodheart02







DarlingtonIIV


(please come and give us light)

My dear it depends on the angle u r looking at it. First n foremost a lady shouldn't depend on her boy friend,u girls are fond of that. Its like one day, i asked a girl to buy mi a bottle of coke,her response was irritating and a graduate for that matter.Hear her "Why will I buy u a coke,am a woman u r d one that is meant to buy for me" shooooo! I just wash her dt day n d rest was history. Now on the issue of marriage, it solely depends on the husband. Like me my wife cannot work in a bank period. If u hv such husband n he stops u doesn't mk him insecure or blackmail dear. For wat men wants frm women,i think its mutual. Every man wants a woman just as every woman needs a man in her life. We want u ppl for happiness n woman wants us for Protection.

Decker:
Of course, men dislike women who are too dependent on them. Ladies who would only take from you but would have nothing else to offer, asides their bodies. Ladies who see you as a living, breathing and walking wallet to deep their thirsty fingers in any time they want, just to satisfy their foolish greed.

We hate ladies who lack the drive and desire to work hard for their own financial success, so that when you get into a relationship with them, it won't be a replica of a parasitic relationship where one partner gains at the expense of other.

But the idea that guys do all those things you mentioned to independent women, or view them in such a way, is very wrong, and is a case of hasty generalization.

A man who is wise and confident and who knows his worth, would never feel threatened by a woman who is financially independent. He would never be afraid to go into a relationship with her.

It's only a man who is insecure that would feel threatened by a woman who is financially independent.
A real man would cherish such woman. He would appreciate her and value her worth.

And to answer your question about what men want: Men want a woman who understands her role as a friend, wife and mother. A woman who acts as a help to her man, both financially and otherwise. A woman who is open to new ideas, and willing to try out new stuff for the betterment of the relationship. A woman who has a vast wealth of knowledge and who can engage intelligently in various kinds of discussions, not just some asinine, empty headed bimbo.

A woman who is smart enough to be able to render advise and proffer solutions to issues especially at times when her man is short of ideas. A woman who possesses good character, both in the home and outside the home. A woman who values her family and would never sacrifice it's unity and peace for anything.

This is woooow. I wish every guy will think like this

dachaste:
Yesterday during the interview, a discussion came up by tosynetoomuch and another guy(forgotten his moniker) and I was amazed even the guys noticed this problem.


My question goes thus;




Why is it that when a girl is totally dependent on a guy, guys tag her a cheap slut, gold digger and all sort of names. And when a girl is Kindda focused and is independent. Working and taking good care of herself guys still come up with names for her saying all sort of things. It gets even worse if she's married. The insecure husband Kindda forces, threatens or blackmails her to quit her job





All these got me wondering. people keep saying its hard to please a woman but for a man its near impossible.





What do you guys really want from a lady?






primeministerr





Andycruiz






Naijaboiy







Wristbangle







STFUareyouGod







Obiorathesubtle









Goodheart02







DarlingtonIIV


(please come and give us light)

Lol. It's not all guys babe. I totally like girls that are independent, down to earth and really focused. These kind of girls turn me on personally. And i hardly call girls names. I guess i'm really easy to please.

As a guy, i just want a lady to be real with herself..

Make me sef follow d observe

dachaste:
Yesterday during the interview, a discussion came up by tosynetoomuch and another guy(forgotten his moniker) and I was amazed even the guys noticed this problem.


My question goes thus;




Why is it that when a girl is totally dependent on a guy, guys tag her a cheap slut, gold digger and all sort of names. And when a girl is Kindda focused and is independent. Working and taking good care of herself guys still come up with names for her saying all sort of things. It gets even worse if she's married. The insecure husband Kindda forces, threatens or blackmails her to quit her job





All these got me wondering. people keep saying its hard to please a woman but for a man its near impossible.





What do you guys really want from a lady?




(please come and give us light)

It depends on what a particular guy wants. Only confused, immature and chronic rational guys actually crave for 100 percent perfect lady

dachaste:




Buh u agree there are guys that insult young single independent ladies right?

i do agree. There are guys who dn't know what they want, same way dere are ladies dat are confused too. Hence, d need to find a partner dat u guys share same believe system. I love independent and intelligent ladies so i know wat i want

Low self esteem and insecurity. They are just confused set of species.
If she's rich nd taking care of herself with no assistance from any man, she be Feminist.
If she's collecting from man, she's a gold digger.
Don't u get it?
They are confused

Decker:
Of course, men dislike women who are too dependent on them. Ladies who would only take from you but would have nothing else to offer, asides their bodies. Ladies who see you as a living, breathing and walking wallet to deep their thirsty fingers in any time they want, just to satisfy their foolish greed.

We hate ladies who lack the drive and desire to work hard for their own financial success, so that when you get into a relationship with them, it won't be a replica of a parasitic relationship where one partner gains at the expense of other.

But the idea that guys do all those things you mentioned to independent women, or view them in such a way, is very wrong, and is a case of hasty generalization.

A man who is wise and confident and who knows his worth, would never feel threatened by a woman who is financially independent. He would never be afraid to go into a relationship with her.

It's only a man who is insecure that would feel threatened by a woman who is financially independent.
A real man would cherish such woman. He would appreciate her and value her worth.

And to answer your question about what men want: Men want a woman who understands her role as a friend, wife and mother. A woman who acts as a help to her man, both financially and otherwise. A woman who is open to new ideas, and willing to try out new stuff for the betterment of the relationship. A woman who has a vast wealth of knowledge and who can engage intelligently in various kinds of discussions, not just some asinine, empty headed bimbo.

A woman who is smart enough to be able to render advise and proffer solutions to issues especially at times when her man is short of ideas. A woman who possesses good character, both in the home and outside the home. A woman who values her family/relationship and would never sacrifice it's unity and peace for anything.

''Das all''

lol ...we want the same thing you people want from guys..
If u people want caring, God fearing, romantic, rich, decisive, supportive, matured, unselfish men etc, we want same

For a girl who ask money from me frequently,it's jst for sex...yh sex!!! I wonder y some girl take guys as their atm machine.

dachaste:




Abi ooh.




And such comments are rampant here on NL

Nd later dey will say women r confused, we don't know what we want

While dey r ones dat don't know what dey want

D day a man will be able to state wat he wants in a relationship will be d day relationships will start taking a new turn for the better

Greekgoddess:
Nd later dey will say women r confused, we don't know what we want

While dey r ones dat don't know what dey want

D day a man will be able to state wat he wants in a relationship will be d day relationships will start taking a new turn for the better

oh lawd...so if someone tells you a man doesn't know what he want you will believe ...
.lol..so guys that have bn asking you out never told you what they want?


oh lawd

Odunharry:

oh lawd...so if someone tells you a man doesn't know what he want you will believe ...
.lol..so guys that have bn asking you out never told you what they want?


oh lawd

Wat has lawd got to do with dis


Wen dey r asked wat dey want, dey state it

Nd wen d woman starts doing wat is expected of her, he becomes irritated nd term he desperate

Nd wen she is doing none of d things he wants he will say she is not caring

Great topic Op

shegxi:
@op, this discussion will continue to surface until we come to realise dat it is nt a man vs woman but an individual matter. People are shaped by dere believe system, choices, experiences and environment.

This is true