I have being thinking about this for sometime now. We see mother take's time to give birth to a son,take care of him to be come somebody in life;When he get's married the mother now take's the back sit in the man's life.......The question now is who should Truly came first in the life of a man?? The wife OR The Mother! I will pls like your comments to lean from.

Why compare apples to oranges? The two women have a unique role to play in a man's life. Nobody comes first, nobody comes last. There is no competition.

igbinigiejeff:
I have being thinking about this for sometime now. We see mother take's time to give birth to a son,take care of him to be come somebody in life;When he get's married the mother now take's the back sit in the man's life.......The question now is who should Truly came first in the life of a man?? The wife OR The Mother! I will pls like your comments to lean from.

Both can come first in the life of the Man. How? It's by having this notion

Man to his mum: Mum, I love you so much but the love I have for you is very different from the love I have for my wife

Man to his wife: Sweetheart, I love you so much but the love I have for you is very different from the love I have for my mum.

It might sound confusing but telling both that statement will create a feeling in the mothers heart that 'my son loves me so much and I come first in his life' and also in the wife's heart that 'my husband loves me so much and I come first in his life'

My opinion though

Mindfulness:
Why compare apples to oranges? The two women have a unique role to play in a man's life. Nobody comes first, nobody comes last. There is no competition.

Thank you jare, dunno why people compare both. They each have their place in a man's life. But if you are a christian then you must have seen in your Bible where it says "a man shall leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife....." Which means your wife becomes your first priority. That doesn't mean your mother ceases to exists though.

The two women have important roles to play in a man's life.None is superior, every role is unique .
The keyword is respect and understanding. No body stole any one, no need for comparison and competition.Both need to be friends in order to get the best from the man

The two have different roles to play and they should never be compared, nobody comes 1st and nobody comes last

Godmother:


Thank you jare, dunno why people compare both. They each have their place in a man's life. But if you are a christian then you must have seen in your Bible where it says "a man shall leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife....." Which means your wife becomes your first priority. That doesn't mean your mother ceases to exists though.

A loving and wise mother will know how to respect her son's marriage.

olayinkajnr:


Both can come first in the life of the Man. How? It's by having this notion

Man to his mum: Mum, I love you so much but the love I have for you is very different from the love I have for my wife

Man to his wife: Sweetheart, I love you so much but the love I have for you is very different from the love I have for my mum.

It might sound confusing but telling both that statement will create a feeling in the mothers heart that 'my son loves me so much and I come first in his life' and also in the wife's heart that 'my husband loves me so much and I come first in his life'

My opinion though

In my opinion,there is no need for position. Everyone in a man's life is equally important. Starting from his parents, to his wife, down to his children. They are all unique,irreplaceable and important.
Give each their dues while they reciprocate.
Mutual respect,love and understanding is all that matters
Of course the love he has for them is deep and different

I will go with d bible on dis. but if u marry a good woman this question will never come up,as she will ensure your mum is well taken care of.

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I tink mother shld b given d deserved love,care nd attentn pendin d tym she's still on diz planet earth. Nothing could be compared wit mother's love. "Good woman no dey easy to find" s/o to my mother

From the biblical point of view, the wife is his no 1 priority. They both play different role and shouldn't resort to competition , the man's immediate family is his wife and kids. It will be easier for the man if these too women in his life can relate well. It will make sense if mothers too understand where their roles ends .

Who should come first in the life of your father, his wife(your mother) or his mother(your grand mother).


This is not a competition. Hian!!!!!!!

jmoore:
Who should come first in the life of your father, his wife(your mother) or his mother(your grand mother).


This is not a competition. Hian!!!!!!!

Lols

Abi na

I wonder why no one ever asks:
'the father or the husband, who should come first in a woman's life?'

Na only una get parents. Mtchew.

A wife will enventually be a mother someday. So treat a mother just as u want to be treated. A mother was once a wife and still is, there are good things u can learn from them. Once a man is married, there is a boundary which even his mum must respect. He is no longer that ur baby boy. Shove aside that "I carried him 9months threat" at every little thing. The wife was same 9month. Both personalities are important and if they stay within their confines and live responsibly without frictions and rancour.